I'm wondering, as parents, how many out there,
Follow the "life is beautiful" way, or follow the "money not enough" way…
Of course there's no right or wrong, I guess…
Though I do wonder…
When I watched till the end of "life is beautiful", I cried, that year,
Today, if I watch again, probably I'll cry even harder,
As 2 big events in my life, my mother's leaving us, and baby coming into our life…,
I'll probably feel much much more, when watching this show,
It's good that, in that year (I seriously can't remember which year) this movie won the best movie!!
Well, I've to say, I'm more of the "life is beautiful" type of parents, maybe it's because of my mother,
When we're young, we're not too well off, however, my mother has never failed to buy us (all three of us) a big lovely birthday cake on our birthdays, all the years, until I left home, and came here…
And she's never failed to make sure my piano lesson's continued, or my tuition fees were settled…
Even though we knew that we couldn't ask for big robots, or a few barbie dolls (not that I like barbie dolls) and so on, we're never lack of the bare necessities, or being neglected on our learning,
All because of my mother…
Though, I know there're parents, who'll consistently shared with their children that, money's not enough (money not enough lo~~~~, again, not that I've watched this s'porean show, just can't think of a better title, but after watching so many mediacorp's ie. s'porean series on AEC, I kinda know what the 'trend' is, in s'pore) and consistently expect the children to thrive together with them, on anything…
Of course, I can't say anything more… as there's no right or wrong, and I can't tell when it's time to teach your children to be thrifty, or, when it's time to pamper your children with a cake…
I can't tell,
Some children (like my youngest brother) is sensitive enough and kind enough to know that, money's hard-earned, and that you can't simply waste and spent for no purpose, since young…
Some just don't, even when they turn adult… (for eg. Some "adult" - ie. >21 years old, expect the parents to buy car for them, and not just any car, must be branded, as they don't drive proton ke, or perodua ke… etc.)
That's why I say, there's no right, or wrong, or sure-fire way to teach your kids between thrift, but yet they feel your real love for them…
But I guess… after reading some guidelines…
Cos, when we're attending the ante-natal class, they (expertise) were saying, babies will not be spoilt, only kids will be spoilt… babies won't, cos, babies at this age, they do not know how to manipulate your emotion, though they're learning fast…
Therefore, carry your baby as long and as often as you can, cos, they just need your care and love…
That's what we're told..
And after much research, a kid, is considered as spoilt, is when they know that, in order to get you to do something, or to 'surrender' to them, they'll do something else to make your life like hell, for eg. Show tantrum in a restaurant, to embarrass you, or cry out loud in front of the shelf of toys, so that you'll buy the toy for them,
And if you barge, as parents, to their cry, to their loudness, and tantrum, eventually, they'll be spoilt!!
Well… this is textbook talk, we'll see… (and thus, I shall blog about this many years later, if multiply.com still survives)
To extrapolate this,
I guess, as parents, if one day, I decided to buy more and more stuff for my baby, to fill up her emptiness (cos, I may not be there to play with her, or are too tired to communicate with her, or, can't be bothered to carry her, pat her, put her to sleep, bathe her… etc. if one day…) and to ease this little tint sense of guilt, I buy her big cakes, I buy many presents for her, barbie dolls for her, (gosh, I wish, and I pray pray pray that she won't like barbie doll, cos, I think any of these doll-looking thing is just too… argh, cliché, have you watched those horror show?? Most of the time, the one that's got 'infected' is DOLL!!!) that can end up be pampering…
But when am I going to share with her, to be thrifty?? Maybe the first thing I've to teach MYSELF, is the difference between NEED & WANT!!
