ikandou

yep, I manage to find this website, hurray!!!

as I was just exploring, how I should get more ebook for my kindle, well, not really my kindle, but the kindle apps on my android tablet,

and for your information, there's an apps for iOS too, but then, sad to say, it's not available in my region, ie. the country where I stay, I then guess, it's not even possible for me to purchase any ebook from amazon, right?

anyway,

I found this website,

cool!! you know why?

it's sooooooooooo many translated work from japan, particularly those thriller, or "suiri" (推理),

so many of them,

I've found some from those weiphone forum, and another haodoo.net website,

but then, I know there're a lot more I should be able to get,

I even went to install some cite.com.tw online bookstore, but couldn't find anything interesting...

I just want to have lots and lots and lots of "suiri" stories to read... (hehe!)

but there's a trick, if you bother,

first, of course, you've to be able to read some chinese, to create a login ID, (which I think it's quite easy! as, you don't really have to provide much information)

then, of course, you'll have a have an amazon ID too...

the next thing is, you gotta link them up, and yes,

of course, you've to have a kindle, or you've installed the kindle on your device...

from ikandou website,

go to settings,

--> kindle settings (or something like this),

--> you type in your @kindle.com user ID, ie. your amazon ID

then, on amazon's site,

ahem... you've gotta find the right place la,

you type in your ikandou's ID, something like,

--> manage your kindle (from the pulldown list)

--> "Your Kindle Account" --> personal document settings

--> key in that ikandou ID, ie. myid@ikindle.mobi

so, when you're in ikandou website, you can "push" some books over to your kindle (then, sync with your device),

it's free!!!

and reasonable... as, this website limit your "push", to 5 per days, if I've not mistaken, then, you can download too, again, it's limited...

cool, right?

the husband who becomes a son... ~_~

just the other day, I came across this short story, regarding a husband, who becomes a son...

of course, a husband's always somebody's son...

then, the article went on,

to talk about when a husband, in front of his parents, he retreats to becoming a son again, forgetting that, he's now, a husband, a father...

THAT reminds me of how I felt...

and I feedback to him, of course, I didn't correlate everything, and told him this exactly...

then, after many years, as today, I came across that article...

and THAT's why, no wonder, we WIVES, do not quite like it when our... ahem... in-laws are around...

well... put it in another way,

IF, even when his parents are around, and he's still taking charge, to be the MAN,

maybe things will not be that bad...

but most of the time, (ahem... let me clarify first, my husband's fine now... ^_^, he's the man now, or... most of the time, I reminded him, to be THE MAN!)

dear husband suddenly become a son,

forgetting the wife, forgetting the kids...

for eg. happily laze in the sofa, almost whole day,

wife needs help? call his parents,

kids needs companion? grandparents will be around...

whenever he's with his parents, he kinda washes his hands off, AS A FATHER, AS A HUSBAND...

and THAT's WHY...

we wives, do not feel quite comfortable about that...

ok, maybe you're fine with that...

but not me... at least, for some unknown reason...

I just feel awful, I just feel, hey!! why my husband's become so lame...

that's my finding...

so, if you've no choice, but to be with your in-laws...

tell your husband this,

do not become a just a son,

and please remember his other duty, husband, father...

if there's anything that, we (the wife) needs, and the kids need,

HE, needs to step up!

not just conveniently pass it to his parents...

Comfort food...

I know those expertise will give a long list of comfort food,

However, I guess, not all comfort food works for all type of people…

As for me,

At this stage,

Really, there're 3 types of food/dishes, when I eat, I feel good…

Happy, good, "shiawase"…

First, my lately new found super comfort food, ie. oat with honey, using water of room temperature, (as opposed to the conventional way of hot-cooked, or, boiling water used…)

Damn good, damn happy drinking it… my breakfast, my supper, and for my son too…

Second,

Damn! I damn love my own stir-fried  bittergourd with egg… yes, "ichiban"!

Third,

Again, my own cooking, cabbage with anchovies, soupy… I add a little bit of oyster sauce sometimes, but I guess, it's good without the oyster sauce…

I love the cabbage, I don't really finish all the anchovies, but then, I love the soup… comforting…

My comfort food list, at the moment…

record book #1

Ok, it's for her, and for me…

Today, I told her, I'm happy,

Cos, she finished half bottle of her water, (to me, it's good stuff!)

I told her…

Then, this afternoon,

She took her own initiative to sit there and nap on the boang,

I'm happy..

(but it's after a scolding session, scolded her cos, she did something knowingly will be disapproved by me, see, her brother was cranky, cos, he was sleepy, but I needed him to finish his lunch, then put him to sleep, so, to keep him "occupied", I let him play on the tray of his highchair, while I was feeding him; after meal, I was washing up, she took the chance to play the water with the brother, while she did that, she cheekily peeped at me, yes, I know, she always tried to look for my expression/reaction when she's challenging my/her limit! I saw it, and I was not that patient with that, so, I lectured her…

I could see that she was tired, and she actually told me to leave her alone for a while,

After a while, I started talking to her again, and she was upset, cos, I asked her if she knew why I was angry,

She told me, cos, she plays water on the tray,

I told her nope, it's a bigger thing, it's she knowing that I'll be upset, yet, she chose to do it…

Then, she asked me to leave her alone for a while, she wanted to cry, but didn't, she say, "I want to cool down!", then, I could see that she's a bit exhausted, so, I left her alone, and I was also exhausted, dozed off on the chair while nursing, then, I adjourned to the sofa…)

When it's time to leave the house (yep, we need to follow up on this two's cough), I got up,

She was still sleeping on the chair…

Sweet girl, poor girl…

So, I later told him, I thought I was quite super, super in a way, like I'm a fugitive, gotta runaway,

As the little one was still sleeping, yep, he's extremely sleepy,

I slinged him on my back,

And I know it'll be too harsh and cruel to just wake her up, and expect her to rush and go down the lift, and walk to the car,

So, I took the backpack, and took her with me…

Haha, later at night, I told him,

I've averagely 25kg on me…

(no wonder, I feel that my knees are in pain!)

………..

(continued on the 2013-03-10, 0200)

Where was I?

Ooh… after the clinic session, we went to the nearby shopping mall for our early dinner,

I told her that she's been good, ie. she took her own initiative to take the first nap (yes, that's very very precious for me!) and that I gotta reward her…

If she wanted to do some window shoping in the toy shop…

She told me, nope, just dinner, and go home,

So, I offered to buy some macaron for her…

Yep, that's for Wednesday...

My Girl, Oh! My Girl!

Oh! My Girl! Yes, my girl…

See, I've been having difficulty, sort of…

She's not easy,

Anything she won't understand and UNDERSTAND why, and why!

She JUST WON'T DO IT!

Since small, from crawling, to walking…

Therefore she's kinda "slower"…

Cos, we need to get her to understand first…

See, at this age, do you think she can understand our terms and words? If you ask me, quite a bit, but still quite a big chunk of others, she still don't understand…

That's why!!!!!!! It's so difficult to get her to sleep,

She just doesn't understand why she needs to sleep sleep sleep, yes, she knows what I say, "good for your growing up, for your brain and bla bla bla", but then, she doesn't really quite feel it,

That's why, she still refuse nap time,

If she naps, then, she'll refuse bedtime…

Cos, to her, she just wants to play, or just do nothing, but she refuses to close her eyes…

I've been struggling, ever since the brother joined us…

Cos, before brother joined? She followed my schedule, perfectly, ^_^V, ie. we could just spend whole day sleeping…

But then, there're 3 people schedule, and she starts school, so, the schedule, I'll say, is brand new…

So, for 2 weeks, she's been off nap,

She picked this schedule, which, in a way, is good for me, I get more things done, and I spent more time with her, while both are alert, else, I gotta kinda rush everything just to make her nap, then, rush dinner, rush this and that, rush to another bedtime, both of us were just plain upset, cos, the problem was,

I gotta nap with her, ie. with her, and with baby no.2…

But then, after 2 weeks,

Today, I told her this, cos, I believe she can do it,

Cos… I taught her that, once she's tired of watching TV on that day, or she feels her eyes were tired, just go take the remote and off it…

She's in a way, not a TV kid…

She's in a way, also not an ipad kid,

I let her watch TV, on "good" day, yes, she watched for 3 hours,

These few days? The TV was off…

Ipad? Most is half an hour time, she plays,

Well… not that she's that well behaved, it's just that, on her own,

She doesn't really find TV that interesting, or ipad that interesting…

She just find… mm… US, more interesting, or poking the brother, upsetting him, or me, more interesting…

You see…

Then…

Today, I told her,

Since she could "off" the TV on her own will,

I want her to "off" herself, for just 30 min, if she's really tired…

I asked her to try…

Yes, today, I left her aside, slept with the brother on the sofa, cos, I was too tired,

Later, I opened my eyes a little bit, she was asleep on the "boang"… cute!

To reward her for behaving as such, I bought her 2 macarons…

But I really pray hard that, she'll take such type of nap on a more frequent basis, her own will…

I told her,

I do not want her to just go to bed, sleep, nap, and whatever, when mama tell you so…

Another eg.

For her extra curricula,

I told her, there's drama, dance, art, and chinese,

I thought she'd pick dance, but then, surprisingly, she said, she wants to learn chinese…

For some reason, (maybe it's in her blood too!) she kinda likes chinese,

Though, we started off speaking english to her, and we read more english books than chinese books, to her…

Anyway,

That's MY Girl!!

A not so easy one!

But a sweet and lovely girl...

of 3 main health upkeeping...

Ok, I read health articles, not to the extreme, ie. follow strictly, but I do read,

I read those from the west, and I read those from the east…

At the end of the day,

Same as parenting,

I kinda think that, we're still chinese,

We can't really follow the western parenting 100% though we'd like to, but it's just not in our blood,

Though, we don't agree with the parenting style from our ancesters either…

Dilemma, right??

However, follow your base…

If you want to follow the west, be it, and be ready for the outcome, you get what I mean???

Same as parenting,

It goes with health,

Do you think…

You and me, east and west are just the same?

Nope, we're of different built…

The west, everything eaten raw is good, they're kinda extreme,

The east? It's not like everything MUST be cooked, but to the east, the way of being healthy, is WARMTH,

That's why, now I understand, why during confinement and whatsoever, our parents are just soooooooooooooo extremely "careful" in telling us to keep warm,

But then, I've my own set of theory, which I'll put it aside…

Straight to the point now,

3 things I notice,

Blending whatever crap I've read,

It may not work for you, but sure for me, I only need one-liner kind of reminder,

First, yes, we've gotta keep our body warm, ie. exercise, qi-gong, to me, I'll add, drink some alcohol, ^_^,

The optimum body temperature, in fact is slightly above 37C but then, at present days, cos we move less, our body temperature is generally below 37,

So my point is, the goal is to keep warm,

How? Up to you…

Second,

Which I've read lately, and I think it's kinda true…

Eat less… I really love to eat, and I really can wallop a lot, look at my size, you'll know… everything's BIG! ^_^

Anyway, you would tell me all sort of reasons, and bla bla bla bla bla, why need to eat less, and bla bla bla bla bla…

The one liner which works for me is,

The more you eat, the faster you die!

That's it!

Third,

Similar to the above,

In japanese drama, LAST HOPE, (I've not watched, but I saw somebody sharing it in weibo, I'll watch later, ok? It seems to be a good series for this season, fast and flaky, unconventional, therefore, I like it!)

The senior explained to the junior,

Ie. every individual's heartbeat is 15mil time in a lifetime,

The faster you beat, the faster you die, for eg. When you gamble…

And therefore, qi-gong, zen and etc type of lifestyle is what I'm after, and what I'm recommending…

Exercise? Yes, best is qigong, to me, taichi, or yoga…

THAT, you exercise, and you learn the zen way of moving and living…

3 points,

Simplify further?

WARMTH, and ZEN!

Period!