my linuxmint 16 experience... 48hr downtime...

it started like this...

at first, it's just one of those usual update/upgrade...

but i was playing with .wine stuff and things... and they weren't working... so, i was doing some autoclean...

then, suddenly, all gone,

i could login to the desktop, but there's no launcher bar and so on, ie. i can't launch a thing...,

then, the rightclick didn't give me much choice either...

therefore, it started the 48hr downtime,

i gotta move my nearly 450G data somewhere,

luckily i bought a new 1T HDD, else... (down the drain!)

and of course, it took some time,

cos, i gotta move the files, and also, gotta find out what to move, not to say that, i'm so familiar with linux, right???

so, in between, there're quite a bit of research to be done,

while on my windows PC, i gotta look for new linuxmint, or new ubuntu...

then, I installed linuxmint 16, ooi?? network doesn't work, it wasn't detecting my wifi...

i panicked a little bit... seriously i don't quite like to "solve" problem, especially my brain's trained to be a mother/housewife type of thinking, rather than err... looking a script and troubleshooting...

anyway,

after checking here and there, and with my brother...

and after doing a few installation of either linuxmint 15, 16, 14, and ubuntu 13.10...

all failed...

my brother told me, it's driver's problem, but then, why do i see my wireless detecting other networks except my own one??

however, it IS the wireless card's driver's problem... ie. my broadcom 4313, on my compaq notebook... hm!

i finally found it on the linuxmint forum,

and... mm... cos, i somehow need a connection, so, i used my handphone as the hotspot, download the patch from the linuxmint onboard software centre,

everything solved, everything done...

now, it's still in the midst of restoration, mind you!

Two is Good

First thing first...
if I'm younger... the more the merrier, not just “two is good”, hahaha!
Of course, I'm not sure about other people, and I won't say this, to be applied to other people, everybody's different...
but to me, yes, two is good,
and of course, 1 girl and 1 boy, is good, it's not because of the social background that I have, but generally, it's because, by having a girl and a boy, then, I know how each kid, different sexes, behave differently... ^_^


and what I'll say is, I'm in fact, a little bit regret that, I(or we) were a little bit too strict on our girl... -_-


why?
Let me share with you...
on the no.2,
he's slightly more “brave”, though, for some reason, he hates moving objects that makes sound... irregardless if it's in front of him, or in the TV,
else, he's more brave... cos, he couldn't care less of what we think, or what we may say about him, worse is, he'll just throw things, or throw a tantrum, the way he does it, he'll just stretch himself, if you're trying to put him down, or carry him, or, he'll just throw himself to the ground, and pretend that he's angry... ya, half of the time, he's just putting it into an act, to show you that, he's unhappy...
my girl, as a girl, she'll normally try to force herself to be obedient...
note it, force herself...


my boy,
he's more “origin', cos, overall, we don't really have much time for him, ie. He's more of the free-and-easy kid, cos, papa & mama pay more attention to the sister, and anyway, the sister also demands it...
so, overall, he's pretty free and less watched... therefore, he's more origin,
just for example,
just now, I was playing words with him, ie. I say “eye”, he'll point at his eyes, supposedly,
that time, he's holding a jello, small little one, and what he did was, he use the jello to do the pointing job, yo!!! cute man!!!
so, eye, ears, nose, mouth, all he used the jello to do the pointing job...
THIS, is very origin of him, none of us in the house have really done this before, ie. He's not been shown such act before, maybe a little bit of modification from the sis, but well, kinda original...
then, I said “buttock”, he took a while to think, cos, that's not the part that we normally show to him,
when I showed him, poking his little bum bum, he laughed...
the last one I said, “nen nen”, ie. Breasts...
actually he knows where it is, on himself, I mean... cos, usually I like to tell him, “mama bite nennen”, he'll laugh... I don't really bite, but then, I was tickling him with my mouth on his tummy... and he'll laugh laugh laugh...
so, when I said “nennen”, he paused, and thought for a while,
guess what he did next???
very cute yo~~~~
he used the jello, pointed at mine, hahahahahahaha!!! I thought that's so cute!
^_^


and these two days, I don't know why, he insisted me putting on a pair of socks for him,
again, usually we use socks on him, when we go out, when he's supposed to wear his shoes, cos, he's sweaty feet, so, I thought it's more hygienic for him to put on a pair of socks... but he insisted it not to be taken off... @_@


most of the other things, or acts that he does, were to copy the sis'...
else, he's pretty original...
whereas my dear darling girl,
she's more obedient, ie. Most of the things she does, (unless she's playing) or actions that she puts on, are something that we condone...
I then, try to discourage her...
but then, we started her with being strict, that's why I said, I'm feeling a little bit regretful... -_-


well... I kept telling him then,
as a girl, which I read somewhere,
usually, a girl, she cares for relationship more, rather than her own intention, that's the difference between a girl and a boy,
my boy? Typical boy, as if he cares what we think, or what we want off him...
though, to the older people, they think, this is absolute disobedient, but then, I told him, that, I'll rather my kids to have their own mind, a strong one, doesn't matter, than, being an over-obedient person, ie. Imagine, next time in work, they'll be just they typical “mr. yes-man”!


And yes, therefore, normally for domestic violence, it's most of the time, the girl's who's the victim, or you call it, the woman...
cos, for the relationship between you and me, the “you” can be father, mother, boyfriend, husband, or anybody that you care, and you love, I don't mind letting go of my ambition, my dream, my intention, my own thinking... yes, that's what a girl will do, and that's what I don't want my girl to be...
but then, having said so... we do struggle with disciplining sometimes, cos, we ourselves, do not not, and are not sure of where to draw the line exactly...
and yes, my girl's very strong-willed, and she does insist her way sometimes, and yes, sometimes, we ourselves even call it, a disobedient... anyway, dilemma dilemma all the time, ha~


of course, there're still many things for her to learn, and I do hope, she'll learn, or she'll just learn to get the message sometimes,
again, I think, we watched her too much, till she's kinda dependent on us...
unlike my boy...
though, she's slowly learning how to be on her own...
slowly...


what did want want to say?
Oh yes, having 2, is just nice...
yes, having my no.2, then, I learn that, I gotta let go,
then, I learn that, really, a lot of things, character wise, or behaviour wise, you may not believe it, but a lot of these, are already hardwired in a kid...
yes, you may still disagree with me, and still think that, a kid is trainable, then, it's your luck, or, then, shall I say you're lucky?? well, I'll not, cos, again, a kid that's trainable, I do not know if that's good, or bad...
seriously, I don't know, maybe to some kids/parents, that's good,
but then, I never know how to train a kid,
to get my girl to do a thing, and to do a thing consistently, ie. Every day, at that hour, ask me,
it's damn tough, and I still don't know how...
and till this day, I still struggle with her eating, her sleeping... and luckily, one thing down, ie. Pooping...
eating, sleeping, yes, still struggling...


and yes, all are hardwired,
that, is clearly told, by my boy...
the way he deals with his toys, the way he behaves, is simply, hardwired, inborn in him, cos, we clearly know that, we did not really teach him all that, but he initiated it himself...
and that's why I said, I am a little bit regretful, as we kinda “taught” our girl too much, till I don't know what her true colour is...
or, rather... we taught her too much, till even when she's showing her true colour, we refused to accept it???
^_^ maybe...


that's why I said, 2 is good,
cos, what we learn from our boy, and that, we learn to kinda let go, let go, let go, a little bit on our girl, and believe that, and have faith that, she can take care of herself pretty well...
TWO, is good,
if I'm still younger...
I'll think, the more, the merrier!


Cheers...

Never Wok

The other day, I was feeling the itch to bring out my 42” round bottom wok, to cook... and I thought I'll start to be a wokking wife, using it for every single cooking job... wa haha!!!!!

the first thing I did was, to cook pasta...

and the result?

Crap!! the pasta sauce that I've made, as I couldn't have a grasp of how well the different ingredient can be cooked just nice... I ended up having slightly hard ingredients, well, my pasta sauce is mainly different types of vegetables...

the worse thing is... which I've often forgotten, my sink is too small for such a big wok, therefore washing it, becomes a chore... yes, I actually like cleaning up dishes, just like I like doing my launderette,

washing my vision pots are easy, and what more to say, glassware (maybe some of you will disagree) is so much more easier than washing any other types of cookwares...

so, after my FIRST attempted (again) session with my wok, now, it's back to the cold storage...

and I've finally decided that I'm not a wok person,

it's just too painful to use, and I can't really cook nicely with it...

oh, in fact, I took it out, cos, I thought I want to do a nicely fried egg, and next day, nicely fried fish...

but then, in the end, the supposed nicely fried egg is not that nice (not the perfect sunny side up and whatsoever) and guess what,

the next day, I used back my IKEA 365 flat bottom fry pan to fry my fish...

che...! it turned out just nice... well, as what I did is shallow fry, so, my fish/egg is never really THAT crispy as those fried with more oil...

and after that,

today, I'm back to using my vision pots, vision cookware, to boil soup (the chinese way) or even I used it to cook/simmer pasta sauce or whatever stewed food,

all turned out nice, and just right...

vision, vision, all the way!

Never wok again!

Belly Button

last night, she kept bugging me about her belly button,
asked, “why we have belly button?”
asked, “why there's dirt on the belly button?”
she kept asking, till I suspected something, and I asked her if she and her friends in the school, talked about it,
if anybody asked her to show it to them, or show theirs to her?
She said “nope”,
but then, she said, ya, they talked about it, 3 of them, those who sit at the same table,
so, I asked her, “then, what do you say about the dirt on the belly button?”
she said, she called it, “belly button eye shadows”.... haha, that's funny!


ya... as 2 weeks ago, her school had their concert and graduation day, though she ended up crying, as she waited too long at the backstage, just for 1 performance (while the bigger kids have more than 1 performance)... but then, she obviously enjoyed the day...
it's a tiring day...
and she definitely loved putting make-up... a very girly thing huh???


ya... back to the belly button topic...
so, she kept talking about it still, then, I warned her not to put her finger in there to dig dig dig out the dirt... I told her, I'll clean up for her...
then, I took out the alcohol swap that we've purchased since she was born, ie. 4 years plus ago, haha!!! I took that out and swap for her, well... that's what the hospital did for me when I went to give birth... ghee... ^_^


anyway... I reckon, she's going to ask me more difficult questions soon... you know what I mean? Haha...


however, since many nights ago, I guess, since we started having bedtime prayer... she's started this Q&A session,
she'll ask me how many questions she can ask for that day...
then, she'll ask questions like,
“why we blink?”
“why we can read?”
“why our hand can write?”
bla bla bla...
one of those kiddy questions that she's asked is, “why the fan can rotate and not feel giddy?”, cos, we told her not to spin herself too much, later she'll feel giddy...
such and such...


cheers

and just now at night, she's trying all her best to delay the process of going to bed, EVEN THOUGH she's tired (as usual!), as she's reading in the bed on the floor, ok, HE read for her, then, she lied down there instead of coming to the big bed, so, we're saying to her, why not she just sleep on that floor bed... again, usually, she'll just whine, and say “no no no!”, then, most likely come with a cry, but today, she answered properly, she said “no, afterwards, I want to look for mama, how?”... again, I didn't see that coming... ^_^ well... that shows... she's grown up, a little bit more, again... ^_^

and this girl? She's pretty good in “answering back”, in a kiddish and cute way, ^_^, see, this afternoon, I was complaining, “why's there so many things on the floor?” ya... I guess, all parents experienced the same thing, after you clean, it gets messy again, pretty quickly... then, she suddenly give me this answer, “I'm sorry, mama, you just have to live with it! Cos, you've to kids at home!”, ok... honestly, I didn't see that coming... usually when I was grumbling, or complaining, she'll keep quiet, scared that I'll target her, but today... I laughed, and I actually said “thank you” to her...

oh! must take note of these cute things that gabu did... see... last night he vomited, right? So, I did a temp cleaning of our bedsheet, ie. I didn't change the bedsheet, rather... I just wiped it with some damp cloth, and put some talcum on top of it... ok, it's in the middle of the night, I don't feel like changing bedsheet, that's what a lazy person will do, ^_^;; I didn't know that, he observed this part of the “cleaning process”, it's his vomit, SON! This morning, when he got out of bed, as usual, I lazed in bed for a while, it's really not easy... I mean, not easy for me, ^_^ to have the bed, all for myself, normally I get to have this “luxury” on weekends... so, when I was lying in bed, as usual, madeleine went to on her music player, listen to her favourite barney's songs and so on, and this gabu, he went to take that bottle of talc, brought it to the bed, right in front of me, copied all my action last night, ie. Pretend to sprinkle the talcum on the bed, and use his little hand to spread... that's pretty... cute! ^_^

what I meant was... the moment you've decided to HELP pass around bad/negative comments about somebody, that also means that you've agree to the saying, right? Next time if I see anybody who like “passing around” negative comments about a person from somebody else, I'll sure ask her/him, “so, what do you think about this?” if the person's guilty? They'll sure tell you, they don't know anything, they're just passing words around, “dumb you!” and that'll be my internal OS to you!

the worse type of badmouth, is the type that quote from others, ie. Using another person's words to say bad things about you, about him/her, cos, badmouth is already bad enough, but this person still have a bad heart, thinking that he/she herself is still a GOOD person, but only passing words around!!!

Of #MULTIPLY.COM

suddenly I kinda miss the good old multiply.com days...

things were simpler,

I wrote my blog, automatically share, I wrote my own notes, then, my photo albums, easily organized...

I could see who're the viewers, and who're not... well... it's simpler, straightforward, and serve its purpose,

at present, yes, I use twitter, I use facebook, and I use G+, I even use weibo, for different purposes, and for different information...

I've ditched (kinda) reading my rssfeed, as I don't have much time, though... just today, I've kinda revitalised IT, I used to read rssfeed off google reader, then, google ditched its reader, and now I use feedly, anyway... that's not the point, for a while, I thought moving from rss to facebook (they kinda overlap a bit) is kinda good, everything in there, right? But then, lately, I find my facebook a little bit heavy... it's gone to the stage where it's almost everything, but it's almost... NOTHING!

Yes, facebook serves a lot of “purpose” in this sense, but then, it serves too many purposes till it's not purpose, to a point yes!!!

Lately, I just use it to “bookmark” certain articles, ie. I “share” the article to “only me”...

I kinda use it as news reader rather than social network, social wise? Yes, I use it to SPAM my friends' WALLS, haha! ^_^

for social purpose? Then, I revert to twitter, kinda more interesting...

cos, facebook, to me, it's kinda get to a “boring” point, ie. I kinda know who reads my stuff, and who doesn't, and I know who will “like” my stuff, or who couldn't care less, or... whatever, but for twitter, and weibo, yes, weibo, there're kinda “genuine” reply, I mean, twitter's just followers, that's all, the problem with facebook is kinda... the “like” is “disturbing”, haha... it's like, it's there, therefore, you gotta click, and therefore, whatever you post, you're bothered with the fact, if there're other peole who'll “like” it... see???

trouble!

I've seen... err... “peeped”, kinda... somebody in a cafe, simply staring at facebook, cos, it's an IN thing? He, staring at it, putting his hands on the keyboard, not typing, maybe he wanted to type, but nothing to type, maybe he wants to reply, but didn't dare to reply? I don't know...

well, my brother's “advised” me to just stop using... well, that's in my mind, haha, I mean, just stop using facebook, nah!! you won't die not using it!! (ya, I'm telling myself that!)

see, during the multiply.com days, I was much more organized, my notes, my blogs, and my photos, and whatever things that I've decided to share online,

if I gotta share news? I shared via my google reader (now feedly),

now, I kinda share everything in facebook, but see, not everything that I shared, people want to see... and that, not everything that I've shared, is kinda... sad to say, worth sharing??

anyway,

yes, I was much more organized in that sense, all my photo albums are nicely kept, chronologically... (I do have a bit of problem about time, I mean, I'm pretty particular about this chronology type of thing...)

then, I blogged more, easy to share, easy to blog...

facebook, in a way, it's getting too superficial, and too “opened”, even though I've kept my privacy to its max, but then, it's still kinda “opened”...

anyway, therefore, I've kinda stopped using it, kinda...

ie. I don't really share my “status” there anymore,

and I don't really share my photos there too,

ad-hoc photos, here and there, a bit,

non-privacy photos, like food, place, I can easily do it on twitter...

then, for top-privacy photos, ie. For family, well... I only have that handful of family members... (my 2 brothers, haha!) then, I can simply just do it over G+ (Google PLUS)

in a way, I love G+ interface, it's obviously less, much less loaded...

the only thing is, it's less “users”, and less “pages”, saying that, using facebook is so much more easier, especially for “pages” that I've subscribed to...

but then, lately, I've just tried to revert everything, ie. Back to feedly, (or any news/rss reader)

ie. everything is there in ONE place (as I've organized) for me to read now or later, anytime...

for facebook, well, my pattern of reading through it, is kinda, like... timeline...

on my newsfeed timeline, I kinda like got myself caught into this “catching up” thing...

SAD, right??

so... I gotta “unsadden” myself... haha!

Anyway, if multiply's back into action, will I use it?

I guess, I will... cos, I'm kinda comfortable with it...

the way the information's organized in its site, also, cos, it's not as popular as facebook, therefore, less hackers are interested in it... therefore, it's kinda more “private”... ^_^

night!

ikandou

yep, I manage to find this website, hurray!!!

as I was just exploring, how I should get more ebook for my kindle, well, not really my kindle, but the kindle apps on my android tablet,

and for your information, there's an apps for iOS too, but then, sad to say, it's not available in my region, ie. the country where I stay, I then guess, it's not even possible for me to purchase any ebook from amazon, right?

anyway,

I found this website,

cool!! you know why?

it's sooooooooooo many translated work from japan, particularly those thriller, or "suiri" (推理),

so many of them,

I've found some from those weiphone forum, and another haodoo.net website,

but then, I know there're a lot more I should be able to get,

I even went to install some cite.com.tw online bookstore, but couldn't find anything interesting...

I just want to have lots and lots and lots of "suiri" stories to read... (hehe!)

but there's a trick, if you bother,

first, of course, you've to be able to read some chinese, to create a login ID, (which I think it's quite easy! as, you don't really have to provide much information)

then, of course, you'll have a have an amazon ID too...

the next thing is, you gotta link them up, and yes,

of course, you've to have a kindle, or you've installed the kindle on your device...

from ikandou website,

go to settings,

--> kindle settings (or something like this),

--> you type in your @kindle.com user ID, ie. your amazon ID

then, on amazon's site,

ahem... you've gotta find the right place la,

you type in your ikandou's ID, something like,

--> manage your kindle (from the pulldown list)

--> "Your Kindle Account" --> personal document settings

--> key in that ikandou ID, ie. myid@ikindle.mobi

so, when you're in ikandou website, you can "push" some books over to your kindle (then, sync with your device),

it's free!!!

and reasonable... as, this website limit your "push", to 5 per days, if I've not mistaken, then, you can download too, again, it's limited...

cool, right?

the husband who becomes a son... ~_~

just the other day, I came across this short story, regarding a husband, who becomes a son...

of course, a husband's always somebody's son...

then, the article went on,

to talk about when a husband, in front of his parents, he retreats to becoming a son again, forgetting that, he's now, a husband, a father...

THAT reminds me of how I felt...

and I feedback to him, of course, I didn't correlate everything, and told him this exactly...

then, after many years, as today, I came across that article...

and THAT's why, no wonder, we WIVES, do not quite like it when our... ahem... in-laws are around...

well... put it in another way,

IF, even when his parents are around, and he's still taking charge, to be the MAN,

maybe things will not be that bad...

but most of the time, (ahem... let me clarify first, my husband's fine now... ^_^, he's the man now, or... most of the time, I reminded him, to be THE MAN!)

dear husband suddenly become a son,

forgetting the wife, forgetting the kids...

for eg. happily laze in the sofa, almost whole day,

wife needs help? call his parents,

kids needs companion? grandparents will be around...

whenever he's with his parents, he kinda washes his hands off, AS A FATHER, AS A HUSBAND...

and THAT's WHY...

we wives, do not feel quite comfortable about that...

ok, maybe you're fine with that...

but not me... at least, for some unknown reason...

I just feel awful, I just feel, hey!! why my husband's become so lame...

that's my finding...

so, if you've no choice, but to be with your in-laws...

tell your husband this,

do not become a just a son,

and please remember his other duty, husband, father...

if there's anything that, we (the wife) needs, and the kids need,

HE, needs to step up!

not just conveniently pass it to his parents...

Comfort food...

I know those expertise will give a long list of comfort food,

However, I guess, not all comfort food works for all type of people…

As for me,

At this stage,

Really, there're 3 types of food/dishes, when I eat, I feel good…

Happy, good, "shiawase"…

First, my lately new found super comfort food, ie. oat with honey, using water of room temperature, (as opposed to the conventional way of hot-cooked, or, boiling water used…)

Damn good, damn happy drinking it… my breakfast, my supper, and for my son too…

Second,

Damn! I damn love my own stir-fried  bittergourd with egg… yes, "ichiban"!

Third,

Again, my own cooking, cabbage with anchovies, soupy… I add a little bit of oyster sauce sometimes, but I guess, it's good without the oyster sauce…

I love the cabbage, I don't really finish all the anchovies, but then, I love the soup… comforting…

My comfort food list, at the moment…

record book #1

Ok, it's for her, and for me…

Today, I told her, I'm happy,

Cos, she finished half bottle of her water, (to me, it's good stuff!)

I told her…

Then, this afternoon,

She took her own initiative to sit there and nap on the boang,

I'm happy..

(but it's after a scolding session, scolded her cos, she did something knowingly will be disapproved by me, see, her brother was cranky, cos, he was sleepy, but I needed him to finish his lunch, then put him to sleep, so, to keep him "occupied", I let him play on the tray of his highchair, while I was feeding him; after meal, I was washing up, she took the chance to play the water with the brother, while she did that, she cheekily peeped at me, yes, I know, she always tried to look for my expression/reaction when she's challenging my/her limit! I saw it, and I was not that patient with that, so, I lectured her…

I could see that she was tired, and she actually told me to leave her alone for a while,

After a while, I started talking to her again, and she was upset, cos, I asked her if she knew why I was angry,

She told me, cos, she plays water on the tray,

I told her nope, it's a bigger thing, it's she knowing that I'll be upset, yet, she chose to do it…

Then, she asked me to leave her alone for a while, she wanted to cry, but didn't, she say, "I want to cool down!", then, I could see that she's a bit exhausted, so, I left her alone, and I was also exhausted, dozed off on the chair while nursing, then, I adjourned to the sofa…)

When it's time to leave the house (yep, we need to follow up on this two's cough), I got up,

She was still sleeping on the chair…

Sweet girl, poor girl…

So, I later told him, I thought I was quite super, super in a way, like I'm a fugitive, gotta runaway,

As the little one was still sleeping, yep, he's extremely sleepy,

I slinged him on my back,

And I know it'll be too harsh and cruel to just wake her up, and expect her to rush and go down the lift, and walk to the car,

So, I took the backpack, and took her with me…

Haha, later at night, I told him,

I've averagely 25kg on me…

(no wonder, I feel that my knees are in pain!)

………..

(continued on the 2013-03-10, 0200)

Where was I?

Ooh… after the clinic session, we went to the nearby shopping mall for our early dinner,

I told her that she's been good, ie. she took her own initiative to take the first nap (yes, that's very very precious for me!) and that I gotta reward her…

If she wanted to do some window shoping in the toy shop…

She told me, nope, just dinner, and go home,

So, I offered to buy some macaron for her…

Yep, that's for Wednesday...

My Girl, Oh! My Girl!

Oh! My Girl! Yes, my girl…

See, I've been having difficulty, sort of…

She's not easy,

Anything she won't understand and UNDERSTAND why, and why!

She JUST WON'T DO IT!

Since small, from crawling, to walking…

Therefore she's kinda "slower"…

Cos, we need to get her to understand first…

See, at this age, do you think she can understand our terms and words? If you ask me, quite a bit, but still quite a big chunk of others, she still don't understand…

That's why!!!!!!! It's so difficult to get her to sleep,

She just doesn't understand why she needs to sleep sleep sleep, yes, she knows what I say, "good for your growing up, for your brain and bla bla bla", but then, she doesn't really quite feel it,

That's why, she still refuse nap time,

If she naps, then, she'll refuse bedtime…

Cos, to her, she just wants to play, or just do nothing, but she refuses to close her eyes…

I've been struggling, ever since the brother joined us…

Cos, before brother joined? She followed my schedule, perfectly, ^_^V, ie. we could just spend whole day sleeping…

But then, there're 3 people schedule, and she starts school, so, the schedule, I'll say, is brand new…

So, for 2 weeks, she's been off nap,

She picked this schedule, which, in a way, is good for me, I get more things done, and I spent more time with her, while both are alert, else, I gotta kinda rush everything just to make her nap, then, rush dinner, rush this and that, rush to another bedtime, both of us were just plain upset, cos, the problem was,

I gotta nap with her, ie. with her, and with baby no.2…

But then, after 2 weeks,

Today, I told her this, cos, I believe she can do it,

Cos… I taught her that, once she's tired of watching TV on that day, or she feels her eyes were tired, just go take the remote and off it…

She's in a way, not a TV kid…

She's in a way, also not an ipad kid,

I let her watch TV, on "good" day, yes, she watched for 3 hours,

These few days? The TV was off…

Ipad? Most is half an hour time, she plays,

Well… not that she's that well behaved, it's just that, on her own,

She doesn't really find TV that interesting, or ipad that interesting…

She just find… mm… US, more interesting, or poking the brother, upsetting him, or me, more interesting…

You see…

Then…

Today, I told her,

Since she could "off" the TV on her own will,

I want her to "off" herself, for just 30 min, if she's really tired…

I asked her to try…

Yes, today, I left her aside, slept with the brother on the sofa, cos, I was too tired,

Later, I opened my eyes a little bit, she was asleep on the "boang"… cute!

To reward her for behaving as such, I bought her 2 macarons…

But I really pray hard that, she'll take such type of nap on a more frequent basis, her own will…

I told her,

I do not want her to just go to bed, sleep, nap, and whatever, when mama tell you so…

Another eg.

For her extra curricula,

I told her, there's drama, dance, art, and chinese,

I thought she'd pick dance, but then, surprisingly, she said, she wants to learn chinese…

For some reason, (maybe it's in her blood too!) she kinda likes chinese,

Though, we started off speaking english to her, and we read more english books than chinese books, to her…

Anyway,

That's MY Girl!!

A not so easy one!

But a sweet and lovely girl...

of 3 main health upkeeping...

Ok, I read health articles, not to the extreme, ie. follow strictly, but I do read,

I read those from the west, and I read those from the east…

At the end of the day,

Same as parenting,

I kinda think that, we're still chinese,

We can't really follow the western parenting 100% though we'd like to, but it's just not in our blood,

Though, we don't agree with the parenting style from our ancesters either…

Dilemma, right??

However, follow your base…

If you want to follow the west, be it, and be ready for the outcome, you get what I mean???

Same as parenting,

It goes with health,

Do you think…

You and me, east and west are just the same?

Nope, we're of different built…

The west, everything eaten raw is good, they're kinda extreme,

The east? It's not like everything MUST be cooked, but to the east, the way of being healthy, is WARMTH,

That's why, now I understand, why during confinement and whatsoever, our parents are just soooooooooooooo extremely "careful" in telling us to keep warm,

But then, I've my own set of theory, which I'll put it aside…

Straight to the point now,

3 things I notice,

Blending whatever crap I've read,

It may not work for you, but sure for me, I only need one-liner kind of reminder,

First, yes, we've gotta keep our body warm, ie. exercise, qi-gong, to me, I'll add, drink some alcohol, ^_^,

The optimum body temperature, in fact is slightly above 37C but then, at present days, cos we move less, our body temperature is generally below 37,

So my point is, the goal is to keep warm,

How? Up to you…

Second,

Which I've read lately, and I think it's kinda true…

Eat less… I really love to eat, and I really can wallop a lot, look at my size, you'll know… everything's BIG! ^_^

Anyway, you would tell me all sort of reasons, and bla bla bla bla bla, why need to eat less, and bla bla bla bla bla…

The one liner which works for me is,

The more you eat, the faster you die!

That's it!

Third,

Similar to the above,

In japanese drama, LAST HOPE, (I've not watched, but I saw somebody sharing it in weibo, I'll watch later, ok? It seems to be a good series for this season, fast and flaky, unconventional, therefore, I like it!)

The senior explained to the junior,

Ie. every individual's heartbeat is 15mil time in a lifetime,

The faster you beat, the faster you die, for eg. When you gamble…

And therefore, qi-gong, zen and etc type of lifestyle is what I'm after, and what I'm recommending…

Exercise? Yes, best is qigong, to me, taichi, or yoga…

THAT, you exercise, and you learn the zen way of moving and living…

3 points,

Simplify further?

WARMTH, and ZEN!

Period!

shopping with baby (babies)...

yesterday, she told me that she wanna go "walk walk", after her school, ie. window shopping,

so, after I picked her up, we went to a hypermart nearby,

it happened that, they've some shoe clearance, ie. lots and lots of sandals, shoes, in those items-for-sale big baskets, in the middle of the hall,

being in a hypermart, it means cheap,

being an sales item, it's even cheaper...

and it's either baby's like me, or I'm just like a kid,

I've always enjoyed "digging" into piles of sales item, to look for some suitable goods to buy, for eg. clothes,

and this time, shoes,

they've some CROCS-alike sandals for sales, if CROCS's sold for 3-figure price in my country, then, the CROCS-alike sandals here were calling for 2-figure price only,

just for fun, just for the sake of it, I must get a pair...

I know that's not the best type of shoes to be worn, but I somehow really have something about rubber shoes, ^_^

so, while big mama here was searching for her shoe, slinging my son in front of me somemore...

with baby inside the shopping cart, standing...

she was happily pulling out some toddlers' sandals as well,

trying each pair...

and each time, she tried, she'll say, "hey! I can fit in!"

O.o

haha! of course, I was telling her... why?? most shoes are bigger than her feet,

and I was complaining non-stop, "hey, baby!! why your feet are still so small????"

of all the kids shoes displayed, none of them was her size.. all just too big, and still too big...

though, I really wanted to buy a pair of mary-jane shoes for her, I thought they look lovely on her tiny feet..., especially that translucent green pair,

and she somehow took one side of a sandal, with a bit of "height", and put it on, and she was shouting excitedly, "ha!!!",

I saw, and wow!! lovely...

the problem is, it's only 1 side, what about the other side??

finally we found it, but then, I asked her to put on again,

she twisted a bit,

so, I told her, it's dangerous, till she can handle the "height", then, I'll consider...

yep, she's still not that good at wearing slip-on type of slippers man!

anyway,

at the end of the day,

I told her, what I feel, and what I think,

ie. it's really great to have a daughter, who can do shopping like this with you,

ie. silly, crazy type of window shopping... and got excited about nearly everything...

I can foresee that, in the future, we'll be each other's shopping buddies greatly...

^_^

it's really very blessed, to have a daughter...

going to school...

ya... she loves the bedtime chitchat, just like me...

when I was still studying, if I sleepover in my friend's place, what I love most is, chitchat till somehow, don't-know-why-we-fall-asleep kinda thing... ^_^

anyway,

just the 2 nights ago,

she was saying... (she's pretty good at "testing water")

"if I don't like to go to school, I still have to go to school, right?"

I heard,

and I asked, "why do you not like to go to school?" (feeling a little bit guilty... don't we all hate going to school, at some stage? haha! ok, maybe I really liked going to my kindy, then, primary school, but then, I really didn't quite like my secondary school, and college, cos, that's the part where the stress continuously build-up, but then, I love my uni "era")

she then told me, "cos I like mama, I miss mama!"

I smiled, and told her, "if that's the reason, then it's fine..."

...............

of course our conversation didn't stop here,

then, I went on to lengthy explanation that, one day, she's to grow out of it, ie. the stage where she's so attached to me, ie. separation anxiety, ie. becoming independent, ie. papa mama will grow old, I skip the part which, papa mama will grow old and die one day, well, it's late at night, I didn't want to make her cry...

yes, she somehow understands the meaning of death, somehow, not exactly, cos, whenever I talk about that,

it equals to "no more"...

anyway...

very soon, that conversation gets into the "feel" that, she found it a bit stressful, or unpleasant,

so, she told me, "I want to sleep already..."

then, ok, good night, and sweet dream!