Shanghai not Shanghai

While we're having our first sichuan food in klang valley @ Jin Shan Cheng @ Sunway Mentari,

We're chitchatting away, waiting for the food to come…

Most people went there for the "ma la" steamboat, ie. sichuan spicy steamboat, but we went there to try out the sichuan style "fish in the big basin", which I've been longing for, ever since we left Shanghai 4 years ago!! (sob sob!!)

And of course our chitchat is nothing more than just plain talk…

That's what we talk most of the time… we do wonder what other couples talk when they're together… (haha!! Busybody right?? But we seriously do wonder, sometimes, we could spot couple, not even married couple, probably just dating couple, they could just sit at the table, while waiting for their food, silence! And if you do talk, normally what's your topic?? Mind to share??)

He asked when will we plan to go to shanghai again, I mentioned that I wanted to, but he's not interested, (and yes, now he asks!!)

Nevermind…

So, he asked, if we're back in shanghai, what do we want to eat,

I immediately listed down all my "dream" food!!! (see!! They've been in my mind ALL THESE WHILE!)

1.   Of course, "Duo Li" (I think, they use an english name, TONY) sichuan spicy fish in the basin!! (no need go to go "Yu Xing", just "Duo Li" will do!!)

2.   Quan Ju De's Peking Duck!!! Damn sure, peking duck peking duck, they cut their duck in a way where there're more meat "attached" to the skin, as compared to most of the peking duck "provider", where normally what ended up in your piece of pancake's just plain duck skin, and I missed the dishes that come after, ie. the dish they cook, (I think it's for free) with the "leftover"…

3.   Somewhere in Pudong, the branch, Hangzhou's Zhang Sheng Ji's "Lao Ya Bao", ie. Old Duck Pot!!

Yummy yummy yummy!!!!

Ya, afterall… none of them is shanghainese food, kekekeke!!!

a Pot of Tea

I've been having a pot of tea, always, sitting in the middle of our dining table…

Rainy day, sunny day, gloomy day, whatever day…

I'm used to having a pot of tea sitting in the middle of our dining table…

It's bad, and it's good,

Good as in, drinking tea is good habit, I drink "ang mor" tea, I drink japanese tea, I drink chinese tea, whatever tea you give me…

(ya, hehe, hint hint, if you run out of idea of giving me present, you can just by me whatever tea, from wherever, tesco also can, haha!)

Bad is in, you're so used to having a pot of tea sitting in the middle of your dining table, that's why, when you travel, out of your house, you'll kinda miss having a pot of tea sitting in the middle of your XXX table, oh, you've a table?? When you travel?? That's the problem, you don't even have a decent "dining" table!!!!!

Ya, cos, I drink tea like water, is that advisable, I don't know, of course, water is water, tea is tea, but I actually do not quite like plain water… though, taking my tea away, I think, plain water's the best!

But I still miss my pot of tea in the middle of our dining table, if you ask me…

Sometimes, if the tea's consumed by the end of the day, I'll actually get up in the middle of the night, enjoy boiling a kettle of water, and make sure that pot of tea's full!!  Back there, sitting in the middle of our dining table!!!

It's bloody sign of aging, if you ask me again!!! :-p

Anyway… back to the pot of tea… I used to struggle with getting the best teapot…

Any decent nice teapot doesn't mean that it'll be a good teapot to me, cos, I need the volume to be sustainable for my (and our) continuous drinking of the tea…

I bought an IKEA teapot before, and using it, is kinda challenging to us, serious!! If you poor too fast, the tea will leak out from the 2 sides of the opening…

And that's when I started to get frustrated, looking for a good replacement, I tried some tall glass pitcher, usually the plastic types have bigger volume, but you won't want to use plastic with boiling water, right?

I've tried 2 or 3 of them, they just don't last me more than 2-3 serving each… (damn!)

So, I switched back to that IKEA teapot…

And I took out the cone strainer, I guess, that's the one that cause the main "leakage" everytime we pour the tea…

It does help a little bit, though it doesn't mean that if we pour the tea fast enough, there'll be no more "leakage", but it does help…

I used the conventional metal tea leaf container…

And therefore…

I always get to have a pot of tea, sitting in the middle of our dining table, day and night, 24/7

^_^

Izakaya Ichiban @ Plaza Damas

Just now, we went to plaza damas (for a change) for japanese dinner….

We're planning to go to rakuzen in fact, but then, we're also prepared to not being able to "secure" a seat… and that's true, there're just too many people waiting, even though it's already at 2030…

So, we made a quick decision, to go to another japanese restaurant along the same road, ie. izakaya ichiban…

Well… japanese restaurants in klang valley offer more or less the same type of food, or similar menu, the difference is only the taste, the price, and the portion, in terms of food…

Of course, ambience is different among each other, everywhere!!!

Anyway… I've gotta mention this place is… because…

THE PORTION IS DAMN SMALL!!!

Irregardless the taste was pretty good, but not that good until the extent that, we can "tolerate" the small portion…

(err… in fact, we did tolerate, cos, we're just way too hungry, though the afternoon itself, we wallop 2 big packs of chicken rice from the "bentong" chicken rice shop @ kelana jaya, yummy!!)

Taste wise, really, was good, but the portion was really a little bit towards the "pathetic" side… as compared to our favourite JyuRaku…

And what more to say, the price is more expensive…

Usually, at exactly the food items that we order, at JyuRaku, the bill will just come out to about RM70, but this place, we just paid RM90!! Sob sob!!!

(no wonder, people would rather queue up and wait at rakuzen)

The items? 1 portion of sake sashimi, 1 terriyaki chicken bento, 1 saba shioyaki bento… and that's all!!!

The sake sashimi was fresh, and the cut was thicker, that's ok…

The terriyaki chicken pieces given to us, was just a handful!!! (imagine that!!)

And the saba shioyaki piece given to us, was just half of what JyuRaku will have to offer… gosh!!!!

Ok, the taste, as I said, WAS GOOD!!! Tasty!!

However… to have to "survive" with such small portion, I feel a bit sympathetic about ourselves!!!

But then again… at the end of our dinner @ 2130 only Rakuzen called back and told us they've seat!!

We told them, we're already full!!

(ya, filled up our stomach with more cold ocha!!)

Night (nursing) bra...

I've been wanting to blog about this…

Ok, since I'm still supplying milk to baby fulltime…

I've been shopping for good nursing bras online… here and there, everywhere!!

Imported brands are pretty pricy… like RM150 per pairs,

And knowing myself well… even though you can suggest that, just buy 1 or 2 damn good pairs, and that's it… I know I won't be able to stop… from buying… (grin!)

And therefore, I've been searching in and out, here and there, everywhere, locally…

Locally! There're 2 brands,

Fabulousmom's AND,

You Have A Baby,

(Both websites bearing the name, you can search for it!!)

Both of them, similarly have a range of night nursing bras, and for your information, that's the bras that I brought to hospital, when I checked in for the delivery…

And for your information again,

Both are NO GOOD!!!

Fabulousmom Sarah Sleep Bra,

And YouHaveABaby Sofia Sleep Bra,

Well… I thought "sarah" was bad, but "sofia" even worse… there my investment go down the drain…

And FOR YOUR GREAT INFORMATION,

It doesn’t mean that, I'm going "bra-less" because of bad bras like this,

To my GREAT finding!!! Cosway's light support bra's good… though it doesn't have that v-cut for easy opening, but then… since all these bras are soft in nature, ie. they're fully stretchable!

(sorry for the crap picture quality, it's not scanned by me!)

But sad to say, cosway (I think) no longer producing it!! (not sure if it's from cosway, but it's cosway's housebrand, Ambrace for sure!)

Since I think this bra's good for night nursing, (cos, the support's definitely better than Sarah, or Sofia)

I thought I want to invest more on a few more pairs…

And since cosway's no longer selling it… I've to start my search again,

Ie. in and out, here and there, everywhere, over the internet, and I even went to those major departmental stores to look for it… it's really not easy to find… cos, they're not so 'lingerie', and not so 'inner sport wear', and also not so 'others'…

After a few attempts, (I really wanted to give up) then,

One day, I stumbled upon (oh ya, another addition to my "dictionary", it's in fact firefox's addons, "stumble upon") Caelygirl's website…

Cos, like I said, I really digg in and out, here and there, scan through my own "memory banks" for all the brands I could recall… (ya, you call it desperate, that's how I "search" for information… ie. to a desperado extent!! My boss used to called it "passionate" in terms of my attitude towards work,  but I know very well, in fact, it's called "obsession"… anyway…)

Finally, I found something, under the bamboo bra section, but too bad, of all products that's available for online purchase, this category is not included, so, I contacted them…

Hehe… they even deliver to me for free… and since I'm an online shopping queen now…

I click click here, click click there, email them, transact…

I go to my "next destination", they also delivered there… and therefore, I received it just before CNY…

My verdict? Even better than the cosway's ambrace's, cos, it's bamboo material of nature… as vs. the cotton…

The PINK Sa-GE

Funny… just now, he suddenly asked, "how come you don't mention anything about the pink SA-GE lately?"

Well… I told him, I in fact did, when I saw their facebook update…

Anyway… lesson learned from the previous "hunt" for their new outlet in solaris dutamas… (#@%$^Y#$^#$)

I do not dare to simply suggest going there, before I can make sure it's OPENED!

(ya, just went in to check, I think they're not OPENED yet!)

But haha… I just find it quite funny that, he actually suddenly think about The Pink Sage…

Anyway… as of this week, I've been just craving for my "tau foo fah" (beancurd dessert), particularly from myhoneymoon, or similar… there's one shop in SS2, a few shops away from The Little Dimsum Place… I've been planning to try out too…

Oh, talking about the "tau foo fah", I like one particular one, not the normal one, as I'm actually not a fan of "tau foo fah", I can't recall the "code name", but it's the "tau foo fah" with either sea coconut or nato on top, cos, the "tau foo fah", I'm not sure, I think there's some either milk, or soya bean milk in there, rather than just sugary syrup… I love it, and baby loves it too!! ^_^

And I've been craving for this, since the 3rd day of CNY… how many days already??

Complements

I'm sure when girls/boys falling in love… you do sometimes wonder, why?? Why this guy, why this girl?

Why? And of course the ultimate question, "is he/she the right one??"

Have I gone through that before?? Maybe my answer is "no"…

Not that, I've never had any doubt, but then… I've faith in God… in taking good care of me, but it doesn't mean that, all those "journeys" were not filled with sweet, sour, and bitter sometimes…

Anyway…

But now… I do wonder… and after having some wondering and pondering in my mind…

I do thank God for taking good care of me, as always…

Most friends who know me, know that, I've BIG temper… like or dislike, I show it pretty well… cos, I still cannot dissociate between hiding your feeling with pretentious, for eg. If I'm annoyed, I'll show that, I'm annoyed, if I dislike certain act, I'll show that, I dislike certain act… and I'll kinda make sure that you know it too… like I said, I do not know how to dissociate this, and being pretentious, yes, I regard that, as being pretentious…

Anyway…

Lately… ya, after being married for so long,

Only I started to wonder… ya… we make good partners, if not couple… but partners in life, not in work… I still kinda stick to the idea that, if we're to do amazing race, I'll sure end up like those whining bitches that I've seen on any of the amazing race show… always complained, and non-stop complaining… ya, if you read me, I hate people who keep complaining… it's either you do it, or you don't, there's no in between such as, do it, dislike, and complain, if you dislike, just stop it, as simple as that… that goes to my second point! (first point is being pretentious, in hiding your feeling!)

Oh ya… what I'm going to say is… I kinda gather, we make good partners in life…

Cos, take the "mushroom" case for eg. I've all the facts, and points, but I just don't have the capability to gather together and come to one conclusion…

And because of that "incident", (I mean the mushroom incident) now, I love "mushroom"… (it's become our "dictionary" now!)

Though… long ago, I'm already crowned as mushroom queen, cos, I could technically… eat mushroom (button mushroom) every single day, for every single meal… I love button mushroom… but well, button mushroom's kinda expensive here, so, we subsidize it with shitake mushroom…

That was the first case…

Was there a second case? I think there was, but out of sudden, I cannot recall… and it's because of the additional case, that makes me think that, this is what God's given to me…

And I say thanks to God…

I regard myself as a person full of flaws… and that's the reason, most of the time, I try to perfectivise , as much as I can…

And there he comes… complements…

Ps: oops, maybe that's why I'm never in a managerial role (not that I could be up to it! And that, of course, I'll tell you, I don't really like such a role!) cos, I'm just pretty good at gathering facts and executing… (ya, no brainer)

Why Cannot?

There're people who don't ask "WHY???...", but "WHY CANNOT?"

They don’t ask "why are you feeling this way?"

They don't ask "why are you saying this?", so and so..

They don't ask "why do you actually think like this?", so and so…

They ask, "why I cannot come along?" - maybe people have their own plan? Maybe people have their own priority? Oh, they ask, "why I'm not the priority??"

They ask, "why I cannot come here anytime I want? I've the key!" - maybe people want some privacy? Oh, they'll say, "what privacy, we're not disturbing you!"

They ask, "why I cannot come here now?" - maybe it's just not the right time? Maybe you'll addon to my headache, when I need to rest? When I need some peace?

"what's peace? What's your headache? I'm not disturbing, WHY CANNOT??"

Ooh… I think, I probably can write a song out of it…

Why cannot?

Why just cannot?

I want this, why cannot?

I want that, why cannot?

I want to go there, I say no disturb, why cannot? (even though you still think you're disturbed)

I want to go here, I say I won't even let you know that I'm here, why cannot?

I want you to show face, why cannot? So that,

I want to show face, why cannot?

I want you to join, why cannot? So that,

I want to join too, why cannot?

I just want it this way, why cannot?

You cannot say cannot, cos, I'll ask why cannot,

You cannot say can, cos, can or cannot doesn't make any difference,

I don’t want to know why you say cannot,

I just want to ask why (I) cannot...

Walk(s) to Remember~~

Not that I've a memorable walk to remember, like the movie "A Walk to Remember",

It's just that, sometimes, or, just the other day, certain walks did flash back into my memory… and that I know how much I miss those places…

I like city in the night…

And I like city in a late autumn night… ie. cold, but no snow… quiet…

My first walk, was when I was in london, year 1996, when most of my apartment mates have gone back to their own home country for the summer holiday, and I've to stay for just a few more days in london, before I headed to portugal, Sagres, for my fieldtrip…

I checked into the m'sian hall, if I've not forgotten totally, I think, it's around 7 quid per person per night…

The place was decent and clean enough…

The rest, I can't remember much anymore… but on and off, maybe in my dream, or, maybe when I was half awake… I could recall myself walking in the london streets, around malaysian hall, london…

Mainly to buy some grocery… I think, there was a safeway nearby… but I seriously can't remember anymore…

I like walking at night, in a city as such… I somehow feel some 'romanticsm' in it… just for some reason that I can't and am unable to tell…

Then… it's the walk we had in tokyo… both tokyo "rides", in 2006, and 2008,

Similarly… walking out of the hostel (2006) and hotel (2008) to buy some drinks, and snacks, (mainly breakie for the next morning)

Both time, I'm already a married woman, and I'm with him…. Still wonderful, still "romantic"… maybe I'm weird, give me bouquet of flowers, or diamond ring, or, propose to me on top of the Empire State Building, I may not find it romantic… but I simply love walking down a city street… at night…

2006, we walked out from the khaosan annex hostel, to buy some japanese fruit beers, as the hostel was damn cold, we need some alcohol to warm up… we crossed the sumida river, to the main asakusa area… I think, that's kidna romantic…

(of course, even if I'm alone, I guess, I'll still find some romanticsm in it!)

2008, tokyo again, we bunked in at sheraton miyako hotel near meguro… immediately we needed some drinking water… and breakfast for the following morning…

After getting off the subway station, as we've missed the shuttle bus already, we walked from the subway station to the hotel, on the way, we got some food and drinks… this time, I think, it's us, and friends… though it's a crowd, I still think it's romantic..

Let me say again, I somehow, think that, walking down any street, especially suburb streets… in a semi-cold night… IS ROMANTIC to my definition…

Later part of the trip, we moved to asakusa again, this time another hostel, what's the hostel name? toukaisou hostel… again, with friend, we walked, late at night on the streets of asakusa, seeing other people rushing…, we bought our food and drinks… I think, it's cosy and romantic, ^_^

OH!! HOW I MISS TOKYO!! (and I do miss london, in a way, but london was too long ago, as long as into the history, that, I don't really miss it as much as I miss tokyo!)

There were of course many other walks, at night that'd occurred in my life… but somehow, they're not memorable… maybe it's because they're neither in london, nor tokyo…

2005 in sydney, yes, I think there're some 'walks' we did at night…

But again, not memorable… the only thing I remember is we walked pass this Harry's Café de Wheels (http://www.harryscafedewheels.com.au/),

We didn't stop at that café, as, the queue was way too long for us to wait… but during that time, we didn't know what they're famous of, just that we saw there're too many people, and I wanted to snap some pictures of them, like what a paparazzi would do…

Ah… ah…

I know it may not sounds wise, but I do feel like going to tokyo again…

This time, I'll get our friend to plan, if he were to go with us, again, with baby too… ^_^

And this time, I'll make it a point to not to go to places that we've been to…

Cos, I simply hate it when I see any photos of tokyo, my reaction's always, "where is this place??" & "why have I not been there?"

TOKYO HERE I COME!!!

WHEN WHEN WHEN???

Why was she taken away…??

http://qiaotarn.blogspot.com/2010/02/2002.html

I stumbled upon the above blog from one of the blogs I subscribed to, as mentioned..

Qiao Tarn has passed away… just 1 year old plus…

Looking at her, I can't help to think about our own baby… both are also so 'ke ai'… ^_^

And I'm sure, when the parents start this blog for Qiao Tarn, they have all the love they can squeeze out of themselves, for her… full of ambition, full of hope, and full of possibilities…

But just 1 year plus down the road…

She's diagnosed with blood cancer…

Gosh!!

Today, my hands itchy, went to click on the "past", gosh… she's so cute!! (remind me of my baby again!)

The parents blogged about her fullmoon, blogged about her first step, blogged about her first solid, blogged about her first falling-sick…

Just like every other parents…

But unlike most other parents…

On the 20th Feb, while most of us were still partying in this festive season…

Eat and sleep like pig all the way, (just me, ok??)

Their hearts were breaking to the tiniest pieces… and their souls, probably, at that moment, were taken away with Qiao Tarn too…

I really don't know what to say about this type of event…

Condolences is just too little…

And nothing can replace their dearest and most precious daughter…

I only pray to God, hoping that, they'll have the courage to continue their lives… as usual…

Sob…

Stepmom

I remember seeing one of the taiwanese celebrities mentioning about his childhood time,

When he's ill-treated by his so-called "stepmom", ie. his father's new girlfriend…

I blogged before, regarding how a mother, will let her girl being tortured/abused by her new lover, (either separated, or husband passed away)

Normally that's the case, I can't remember if I've blogged in english or chinese, anyway…

Usually what happened in the dramas/movies… (which I doubt it'll not happen in real life)

Woman lost her husband, hooked up with a man, who kinda treat her good,

Then, one day, her young daughter come complaint that she's molested by the man, and she refused to believe…

And that continue, to family broken…

Something like this…

I mentioned before, I do not understand, how a mother will do so, rather not believe in her own daughter, and continue to live with that man!! (oh ya, I think, it's related to my "inspiration" regarding mediacorp drama "love blossom")

I understand, most of the time, it can be due to the stress of everyday living… work, money and so on…  but that's your daughter…

Ok… let's switch the roles…

Now, I start to think about father and his children, to make it less complicated, father, son, and stepmom, or girlfriend, whatever…

Man, since they're not domestic-inclined… I'm sure, most of them, if their kids are still young, and after loosing their wife, they'll, very fast, resolve to getting a new "girlfriend", to help up domestically, mostly to help up taking care of their kids…  if not babies…

And most of the time, these women, will ill-treat the kids…

Maybe I've watched too much dramas or what crap… but sometimes it's really hard for me to believe, another woman, will just pick up the loving motherly role and love you "unconditionally", (ironically, even real maternal parents may not love their own kids unconditionally, right? You must have good result, you must behave, you must earn a lot of money when you grow up, bla bla bla, so, what more to say, a "just somebody" from the street, which your father picked up, as girlfriend??)

I remember that guy, I mean, that celebrity… (I think, he's one of the celebrity dancer, those calligrapher)

He, even as adult, still painfully mentioned how he was beaten up by that father's girlfriend, (ya, though she's a nurse, supposedly a person full of loving attitude right?)

… of how he's not given any food,

And how this woman pretend to be a good "mother" to this young boy,

And how his father never even bother to ask, how he is…

Bla bla bla… same old story with stepmom…

I've to admit..

As a mother… I do think of whatever that's even unthinkable…

What if???

And what if…???????

A lot of what if….

I don’t want to say any "touch wood" thing…

My conclusion is…

For baby's sake, I have to live!!

As… man, are really not domestic-inclined…

They normally are blinded with good-acting…

They don't see through people's act… ie. if you act good, I trust you, you're good!! And that's why, most of the time, any evil woman can just easily con a man… even when they ill-treat his family so much!!

So… man, be careful, ok???

Don't just trust what you see, or what you hear, ESPECIALLY SWEET TALK, OR SWEET ACT!

Consoling myself, for my early greying...

Yep… I've been having early greying problem, since I was a teenager… very early!!

I'm not sure of the actual reason, but right now… my hair's just like stephen chow's hair, ^_^…

I know, it's mainly due to stress… and I'm pretty surprised that, my stress is "channeled" out via my early greying…

The early greying problem got "expedited" when I started to travel with him…

I simply hate the idea of having to call cab, waiting for cab to come, go to airport, waiting for boarding, sometimes got delayed, sometimes the "gate" got changed, and bla bla bla… it did add to my stress level throughout the years, I guess…

In addition to that…

As you can see, I "think" a lot, maybe worries, maybe rants, maybe an expression of grief, maybe an expression of anger, maybe an expression of frustration, or maybe simply an expression of boredom…

And that shows that, I do use my "brain power" a lot… a lot… in chinese terms, I simply am a person, who think too much… think of whatever it is that comes into my mind…

I do, but in a way, I don't really bother, or, want to bother too much about my grey hair…

He shows concerns/worries about my early greying, which may indicates some underlying health problem…

But I do, in a way know that, it may really be just due to the stress, which I myself don't even realize, and also that I really do think a lot… my mind can just wander off to anywhere, anytime…

And… as of yesterday, I came to conclusion that I shouldn’t be worried too much about it, instead I shall feel blessed about it…

Cos, come to think of it… throughout my pregnancy, I've to say, I'm a proud expecting mom where my health was on its top notch…

No blood pressure problem, no blood sugar problem, which many other colleagues of mine, who, at the same time were pregnant too, had slight problem with that…

Stress does lead to blood pressure problem, mind you!!

And, I am really glad that, I did not have to encounter that…

Which, maybe, I guess, my stress was all "reflected" in my grey top…

Imagine!! If it doesn't get "channeled out" via my hair… the stress sure will be reflected in my lovely blood pressure right??

When I thought about it yesterday, I was truly grateful that, I was blessed with an enjoyable pregnancy… which, I seriously do not mind going through it again…

But of course, I think, most importantly I was blessed with a very cheerful, and lovely daughter in me!!

Since I'm breastfeeding… therefore, I have good excuse to anybody's concerned,

That, I'm not going to have my hair coloured…

I don't trust colourant…

Cos, I know very well that, if you're pregnant, don't play with the colourant…

Though.. It's really a "fact" if you choose to believe…

Afterall… I'm not very much a hair person, and I don't really like to play with my hair, for eg. Colour it, perm it, cut it with styles and so on…

Cos, I simply like to keep my "maintenance" level as low as possible… not to say that, it's easy to "upkeep" me… ^_^

Just that, I can spend my money elsewhere that I'll truly enjoy and appreciate!! ^_^

it's always the same "formulae"

One thing I've just kinda "concluded" is that…

Every year, during our short CNY gamble @ ASKY's house,

It's always the same result!!

Before this, I was normally in the game… and with my existence,

The game's usually boring, lengthy, cos, I just refused to increase the bet..

But this year, all women were busy with the kids… and left the men in the game…

That's the result..

Sad and "shocking" to see… HAHA!!!

And it probably tells one thing…

See… normally in the game,

Caljes, Mr. Wong, him, and HcYong,

+/- some other "kelefeh"… cos, the above are the permanent casts…

This year, there's one special-appearance by ryap123,

Guess what's the result??

The result is more or less the same every single year, ever since we started our CNY gambling, (not real hardcore gamble)

Caljes will always be the absolute winner, what does that mean? You tell me!

Him?? "no loose no win", I asked, "then why play?" - but nobody knows the truth, cos, he never keeps track on how much he's bet, COS, he uses the supposed angpow money to "puak kiao"!! ^_^ (hokkien - gamble)

Mr. Wong, on and off, this year, he's kicked-out fast!! Cos, without me there, from the beginning, the bet's already BIG!! Ie. you know the result FASTER!

HcYong?? Also same as him, "loose a bit, win a bit", I guess… well, he never tells, so, I don't know…

And the special-appearance.. Since he's not the usual cast in the game, I can't conclude yet…

My opinion?

If every year, the "result" is more or less the same,

It does tell one thing,

Ie. the result of the game's not just by luck anymore…

It really fully relies on the character/personality of the person, ie. that kinda affect the "skill"… (ya, if you call it skill)

Haha!! Interesting finding for me!!

Them? Or them??

I've posted a few entries regarding parenting right?

Attachment parenting,

Idle parenting, whatever you name it…

Afterall… I, of course, am not pro-, or anti- any of the parenting style, as I'm still learning…

And since I'm learning, and therefore, I'm never that perfect…

But irregardless what parenting, or what dr. spock has said…

… against most chinese practices…

Parenting, shouldn't be about control, shouldn't be about YOU!!!

But I do notice, there're certain parents/care-takers,

Bringing up a child's all about them!! (the parents, the care-takers)

And sadly, it's never about them!! (the kids!!)

How sad, isn't it??

It's never about,

"how are you feeling today?"

"I'll just leave you alone to play for a while"

"let me take a close look at you"

Or just by simply talking and treating the child, as a human being…

It's continuous entertainment,

And continuous whatever they think is best for the kids,

But by doing that, there're expectation,

"I carry you, you shouldn't cry!!", (bluek!)

Ya, most of the time, the kid shouldn't cry,

Cry means "no good", (bluek! Again!)

It's very easy to translate,

Cry ~ means,

Kid doesn't like me,

Kid's no good,

Kid's not disciplined enough,

Kid wants to play more,

Kid wants to go out to have fun…

Ya, kid may cries for various reason, especially baby…

But, it's about them, (ie. the kid)

And never about them… (you get it??)

If I've a say,

I'll want my kid to be respected as an individual,

And I definitely do not want my kid's life to be defined by their emotion, happy or unhappy, contented or angry…

She should have her own space, and her own private time…

Though she should go out and interact with a lot of other people too…

And I definitely do not want my kid's mind to be "confined within a closed door"… (only wise people will understand what I mean!!)

Last of all,

The worst type of adults are the type that hold the kid as "ransom", or "trump card"… bluek again!

Like I said, it's only about them, but not about them… sabishii ne~~

Five Little Ducks

Baby's grandpa's been singing this song to her,

The tune's pretty simple, and pretty nice too…

So, I thought I wanna look it up from the internet, to see the whole complete song…

But then… if you ask me now,

I may not sing to baby… cos, it somehow give me a sad feeling…

(cos, today, I think, I've just stumbled upon 2 blogger mothers, where their babies passed away… in this near year festive, that's very heartbreaking, if you ask me…)

When I read that, the mother duck found the baby duck missing… I already felt very sad!!

Five little ducks

Went out one day

Over the hill and far away

Mother duck said

"Quack, quack, quack, quack."

But only four little ducks came back.

Four little ducks

Went out one day

Over the hill and far away

Mother duck said

"Quack, quack, quack, quack."

But only three little ducks came back.

Three little ducks

Went out one day

Over the hill and far away

Mother duck said

"Quack, quack, quack, quack."

But only two little ducks came back.

Two little ducks

Went out one day

Over the hill and far away

Mother duck said

"Quack, quack, quack, quack."

But only one little duck came back.

One little duck

Went out one day

Over the hill and far away

Mother duck said

"Quack, quack, quack, quack."

But none of the five little ducks came back.

Sad mother duck

Went out one day

Over the hill and far away

The sad mother duck said

"Quack, quack, quack."

And all of the five little ducks came back.

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Ps: though she eventually found them back...