Last night I watched another episode of Dr.Hose MD, "The Mistake"
I am not here to see 'the mistake' of Dr.Chase,
but, it's about the end of this episode,
about the dying sister and her younger brother.
It went like that...
err... I did't catch the opening of this episode, therefore, I didn't follow how the sister fall sick,
(I switched to the wrong channel, trying to find out who will be THE patient of this episode, happily and confidently explaining to Mak how the 'formulae' is, of this show. ie. usually at the beginning of an episode, there will be an activity, with lots of people and the camera will focus on one person, however, the real patient will be those 'side dish'... Ah!! there it was, a family garden party, an old man, looked depressed, some ladies at the background, then, OPening, cheh!! it's "Without a Trace")so, the whole show is about how/whether Dr.Chase made that mistake,
ie. he made a wrong diagnosis, causing a female patient dying. (Oh, who was actually supposed to be Dr.Foreman's patient)
then, more diagnoses were done and they decided that she needed a new liver.
Therefore, the younger brother the patient, gave her his liver,
another mistake... cos, like Dr.House always said, "People always lie!!"
apparently, the brother has a bad liver, due to drug abuse.
3 months later,
The lady was admitted to the hospital again, dying, again!!
Liver was not working fine, and she had a Hepatitis C.
Yes, then only they found out about the brother's bad liver.
OK, skip!
The end was,
the sister WAS dying,
the brother felt guilty, (in fact, he was rushing to packup him, and the sister, to go to some third world country, buy a liver from the black market there, and do the transplant over there)
Dr.Chase had finally willing to meet the patient,
came to tell her that, the process will be deadly as well,
no matter what, she WAS going to die and she wouldn't want to die in foreign land, leaving her daughters behind.
She got the message and calmly accepted the fate.
The younger brother, came crying to her, apologizing.
However, she only smiled at him, and said, that in fact she wanted to thank him for giving her another 3 months of life, to be with her daughters and that it was great!!
I am a very 'TV' person. However, I normally do not watch for entertainment, I watch to learn, learn about myself, and learn about human.
I normally don't tend to judge the roles in the show, not because it's just a show,
it's because I spend my time otherwise instead.
I try to capture the message in the story, (or inventing a message, to be received) and try to understand about human.
About how vulnerable human can be,
about how weak-minded human can be,
about how confused human can be,
about how lonely human can be,
but yet, a vulnerable man will be strong,
a weak-minded man can be tough,
a confused man can be confident,
a lonely man can be loud and cheeful...
to me, it's because of one thing,
then we can be optimistic, we can be selfless, because of one thing,
that very one single and simple thing,
yet so afraid to touch, so afraid to loose,
so far to reach, so difficult to achieve, and so tiring to maintain.
2006-04-28
FRIENDS
Boston Legal - Men to Boys
Alan Shore to Denny Craine: Ralph Waldo Emerson said, 'He reckoned a friend to be the masterpiece of nature'.
How many time are we regularly reminded that friends are important, that we'd better treasure them, that we'd better not loose them?
(I mean those real friends, who'll just 'be there', not good friends, or funny friends, or entertaining friends, or best friends, or niceman friends, or humble friends, and definitely not party friends)
Being a third generation in a chinese society outside of mainland China, we're taught more 'important' stuff... and friend, is most of the time, out of the question, cos, you'll neglect your homework, APPARENTLY.
Parents tell you, they are the most important, (ya, thanks for giving me life, cos, I am your investment?)
Siblings tell you, they are important,
Wife/husbands tell you, they're most important NOW (cos, you're married NOW, don't go out with friends anymore!!)
cos, the way we have always heard is,
'Siblings are just like your limbs, whereas spouse is just like your shirts!!' ie. you can throw away anytime...
That is why, there are a lot a lot a lot of things that chinese still hold in belief, (we call it the PRECIOUS TRADITION)IS pathetic.
Pathetic in such a way, it's near to being inhumane,
to people with more money and less money,
to whether you are a gal or a boy,
to whether you are the first born son, or second,
to whether, as a wife, if you can give birth to a son, or a daughter,
to whether, as somebody, if you pretend and act like a gentleman, or be yourself, be honest and be raw!and whatever #$#%$^%&^(%*(&*$&^%^$^%@
Anyway, I am suppose to talk about 'friends' :-D however I am not here to glorify friends,
cos, glorifying something or somebody is only an short-term emotion, it will soon be washed away in the time of memory.
So,
It's a blessing, if our parents have the wisdom to tell us how important friends are in your life,
it's a blessing, if our parents did not tell us,but in our bumpy journey of life, we could figure out how important friends are, in our life.
'Friend' is the only type of close relationship that is no blood-bonded,
Friends, (I mean real friends) are the only type of people who want to be friend with you, as who you are, and not expecting anything in return. (I mean real friends)
They don't ask you to study harder to get NO.1 in class and they'll love you more,
they don't ask you to work harder to earn more dollars, and they'll love you more,
they don't tell you to sweettalk to them, and they'll love you more,
they don't tell you to hold back your emotion and not show your frustration after a weary day of work, and they'll love you more,
they don't tell you not to retaliate, because they do not like it, and they'll love you more,
Friends, don't love you too much, nore do they love you too little.
Friends, are not scared if loosing you as a friend, cos, they are very sure that you are there. (and vice versa)
We are who we are,
we show who we are,
and we accept who they are,
and most importantly we share life, especially growing up together.
As a matter of fact, we cannot 'grow up' together with our parents, (it's a cruel truth)
and sometimes, we cannot 'grow up' together with our brothers and sisters, cos they have their own friends to grow up with, together, if they are blessed with friends in their life.
I remember a friend told me this, when I was in the foreign land long time ago.
She said, "If I am looking for something in return, I wouldn't be trying to make your happy since the beginning!"
(Kiss you, my dear friend!)
The words that Alan Shore told Denny Craine, inspired me.
Yes, we don't really think about 'friend' much,
I mean, where they stand?
So, I like the quotation given by Alan Shore, "Friend IS the masterpiece of nature"
As I said, it's the only type of relationship, that is not blood-bonded, nor expectation expected!!
\(^_^)/
To lighten up,
another quotation from Boston Legal,
Boston Legal - Fat Ass Jungle
Denny: Thank you, Alan, for coming with me [to be tested for Alzheimers].
Alan: I think friends should always encourage friends to get their heads examined.
ps: In fact, it's very easy to 'see' a person, a person with friends (I mean real friends) are cheerful, grateful, thankful, helpful, optimistic, AND they talk about good stuff, beautiful stuff, AND inspire others. While, a person without friends (I mean real friends) are bitter, insecure, ungrateful, selfish, unwilling to lend a helping hand, (cos, everybody is trying to cheat, and take advantage on him/her) AND they talk about negative things, ugly things, etc. (I do not want to elaborate more, otherwise, I will want to jump off the building!!)
Alan Shore to Denny Craine: Ralph Waldo Emerson said, 'He reckoned a friend to be the masterpiece of nature'.
How many time are we regularly reminded that friends are important, that we'd better treasure them, that we'd better not loose them?
(I mean those real friends, who'll just 'be there', not good friends, or funny friends, or entertaining friends, or best friends, or niceman friends, or humble friends, and definitely not party friends)
Being a third generation in a chinese society outside of mainland China, we're taught more 'important' stuff... and friend, is most of the time, out of the question, cos, you'll neglect your homework, APPARENTLY.
Parents tell you, they are the most important, (ya, thanks for giving me life, cos, I am your investment?)
Siblings tell you, they are important,
Wife/husbands tell you, they're most important NOW (cos, you're married NOW, don't go out with friends anymore!!)
cos, the way we have always heard is,
'Siblings are just like your limbs, whereas spouse is just like your shirts!!' ie. you can throw away anytime...
That is why, there are a lot a lot a lot of things that chinese still hold in belief, (we call it the PRECIOUS TRADITION)IS pathetic.
Pathetic in such a way, it's near to being inhumane,
to people with more money and less money,
to whether you are a gal or a boy,
to whether you are the first born son, or second,
to whether, as a wife, if you can give birth to a son, or a daughter,
to whether, as somebody, if you pretend and act like a gentleman, or be yourself, be honest and be raw!and whatever #$#%$^%&^(%*(&*$&^%^$^%@
Anyway, I am suppose to talk about 'friends' :-D however I am not here to glorify friends,
cos, glorifying something or somebody is only an short-term emotion, it will soon be washed away in the time of memory.
So,
It's a blessing, if our parents have the wisdom to tell us how important friends are in your life,
it's a blessing, if our parents did not tell us,but in our bumpy journey of life, we could figure out how important friends are, in our life.
'Friend' is the only type of close relationship that is no blood-bonded,
Friends, (I mean real friends) are the only type of people who want to be friend with you, as who you are, and not expecting anything in return. (I mean real friends)
They don't ask you to study harder to get NO.1 in class and they'll love you more,
they don't ask you to work harder to earn more dollars, and they'll love you more,
they don't tell you to sweettalk to them, and they'll love you more,
they don't tell you to hold back your emotion and not show your frustration after a weary day of work, and they'll love you more,
they don't tell you not to retaliate, because they do not like it, and they'll love you more,
Friends, don't love you too much, nore do they love you too little.
Friends, are not scared if loosing you as a friend, cos, they are very sure that you are there. (and vice versa)
We are who we are,
we show who we are,
and we accept who they are,
and most importantly we share life, especially growing up together.
As a matter of fact, we cannot 'grow up' together with our parents, (it's a cruel truth)
and sometimes, we cannot 'grow up' together with our brothers and sisters, cos they have their own friends to grow up with, together, if they are blessed with friends in their life.
I remember a friend told me this, when I was in the foreign land long time ago.
She said, "If I am looking for something in return, I wouldn't be trying to make your happy since the beginning!"
(Kiss you, my dear friend!)
The words that Alan Shore told Denny Craine, inspired me.
Yes, we don't really think about 'friend' much,
I mean, where they stand?
So, I like the quotation given by Alan Shore, "Friend IS the masterpiece of nature"
As I said, it's the only type of relationship, that is not blood-bonded, nor expectation expected!!
\(^_^)/
To lighten up,
another quotation from Boston Legal,
Boston Legal - Fat Ass Jungle
Denny: Thank you, Alan, for coming with me [to be tested for Alzheimers].
Alan: I think friends should always encourage friends to get their heads examined.
ps: In fact, it's very easy to 'see' a person, a person with friends (I mean real friends) are cheerful, grateful, thankful, helpful, optimistic, AND they talk about good stuff, beautiful stuff, AND inspire others. While, a person without friends (I mean real friends) are bitter, insecure, ungrateful, selfish, unwilling to lend a helping hand, (cos, everybody is trying to cheat, and take advantage on him/her) AND they talk about negative things, ugly things, etc. (I do not want to elaborate more, otherwise, I will want to jump off the building!!)
Something to share, with all women
A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humidday, drinking iced tea and visiting with her Mother.
As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter, "Don't forget your girlfriends," she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass.
"They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you'll have, you are still going to need girlfriends. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them. And remember that girlfriends are not only your friends, but your sisters, our daughters, and other relatives too. You'll need other women. Women always do."
'What a funny piece of advice,' the young woman thought. 'Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake, a grown-up, not a young girl who needs girlfriends! Surely my husband and the family we'll start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!'
But she listened to her Mother; she kept contact with her girlfriends and made more each year.
As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, girlfriends are the mainstays of her life.
After 50 years of living in this world, here is what she learned:
Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Love waxes and wanes.
Heart breaks.
Careers end.
Jobs come and go.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Men don't call when they say they will.
BUT girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach. When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it for yourself, your girlfriends will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end.
Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you. Or come in and carry you out.
The world wouldn't be the same without them.
When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other.
Every day, we need each other still.
As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter, "Don't forget your girlfriends," she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass.
"They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you'll have, you are still going to need girlfriends. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them. And remember that girlfriends are not only your friends, but your sisters, our daughters, and other relatives too. You'll need other women. Women always do."
'What a funny piece of advice,' the young woman thought. 'Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake, a grown-up, not a young girl who needs girlfriends! Surely my husband and the family we'll start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!'
But she listened to her Mother; she kept contact with her girlfriends and made more each year.
As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, girlfriends are the mainstays of her life.
After 50 years of living in this world, here is what she learned:
Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Love waxes and wanes.
Heart breaks.
Careers end.
Jobs come and go.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Men don't call when they say they will.
BUT girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach. When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it for yourself, your girlfriends will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end.
Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you. Or come in and carry you out.
The world wouldn't be the same without them.
When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other.
Every day, we need each other still.
2006-04-27
ANYWAY... by Mother Teresa
I have always liked something simple and nice and 'straight-to-the-point'
If we do not know what real LOVE is...
what simplicity and true heart means... this is a passage that will always guide us
But of course it only touches the hearts which want to be touched,
and gets into ears that want to listen.
When simple words like this seems to be so far away from us,
We are also too far away from where we really want to get to, and what we really want to be.
There is a different between being wise, and being intelligent,
Wise people are generally happier, simpler, and kinder,
Intelligent people... well... the whole world is built by intelligent people, thanks to that.
That is why, the whole world is in such trouble, and more than half of the population is miserable.
Because we make the world as we wanted it, we see the world as we wanted to see,
That is because we are all intelligent miserable individuals.
ANYWAY
~~~~~~~
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you've got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, It is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
If we do not know what real LOVE is...
what simplicity and true heart means... this is a passage that will always guide us
But of course it only touches the hearts which want to be touched,
and gets into ears that want to listen.
When simple words like this seems to be so far away from us,
We are also too far away from where we really want to get to, and what we really want to be.
There is a different between being wise, and being intelligent,
Wise people are generally happier, simpler, and kinder,
Intelligent people... well... the whole world is built by intelligent people, thanks to that.
That is why, the whole world is in such trouble, and more than half of the population is miserable.
Because we make the world as we wanted it, we see the world as we wanted to see,
That is because we are all intelligent miserable individuals.
ANYWAY
~~~~~~~
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you've got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, It is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
2006-04-26
Nobleman, Go to Hell!!
Nobleman!! Nobleman!!!
You think that others are lower class than you are.
You think that whatever you do are the most righteous and whatever others do is always wrong.
You think that you should be treated more differently and specially while you have never done the same to the rest.
You think that you have been doing good deeds to others and would like to claim the credit and get some respect, while you're making the whole world around you upset and making everybody around you miserable!!
I wish to tell you, how selfish and self-centered you are.
You act as if you are such a friendly and easy-going person in front of the people you interact with, AT THAT VERY MOMENT, while you talk bad things about that person when he/she is out of your sight.
You talk to the extent as if, you are the most just person in the world and the rests are just nuisance, rubbish, worthless.
You talk about how much you have sacrificed for people, but you do not see what others have been compromising.
When situation protects your 'importance', you claimed that they your friends, and they should be treated with respect.
When situation arises as you do not want to serve them anymore, ooh~~~ tsk! tsk! tsk!! they are not your friends!!
Even a small tiny bit of favour unto others, you will stinge on it and make a big fuss out of it.
You LOVE judging others!!
"How could she have done that?"
"How could he say such thing?"
"How can he not understand me?" (ie. He's then not my favourite!!)
"Why doesn't she think about us? be considerate for us?"
Oh!!! she is bad, he is bad, you are wrong, they are not good enough, etc.
ie. I am the good one, I am the right one, I am best of all!
(shh... and when nobleman feels that he is incompetent at one moment, he will start the self-pity tactic, to gain consolation from others, because he is worried that he will be condemned, so, oh!! act pitiful first, act sympathetic first!!)
Oh!! I admire Nobleman, cos, he can be SO self-indulge in his own world!
"Why should I be the one who do it?", cos he thinks he is the noble one!
"Why do others not come and serve me?", cos he thinks he is the king!
Nobleman pretends that he is your friend and then say negative things about you to others, so that the others will continue thinking that he is such a nobleman, and you are a pig.
However he will never admit that he does it and he will start putting words into other people's mouths, such as "Mr.X said that you are XXXXX!"
or, he will add another sentence after this, "oh, if I know that you'll be upset, I shouldn't have told you what Mr.X have said about you!!"
(Oh ya!! "I didn't say it, I didn't do it!!", yes, rule of thumb, die also never admit!! rule2 of thumb, start pointing finger!!)
However, nobleman lives a miserable life, cos, he continuously pretend in front of the others,
continuously comparing what he does not have, and others have, or joyous about what he has, while others cannot afford!!
continuously wondering how others think about him,
continuously plotting on gaining favours and $$$ from others,
continuously thinking of bad things about others, so that he can have it in his routine conversations,
continuously judging others with his own short and distorted rulers,
continuously thinking of good things to say about himself, while... oh!! "good things about yourself", and "bad things about others" IS disproportinate,
continuously feeling unhappy and dissatisfied with life that he is living,
continuously feeling ungrateful and insecure about what he is having and what he is given,
continuously living in fear, cos, given the things that he does not know how to treasure, however, due to greed, he is scared of loosing them...
Are we a nobleman?
Are we not?
You think that others are lower class than you are.
You think that whatever you do are the most righteous and whatever others do is always wrong.
You think that you should be treated more differently and specially while you have never done the same to the rest.
You think that you have been doing good deeds to others and would like to claim the credit and get some respect, while you're making the whole world around you upset and making everybody around you miserable!!
I wish to tell you, how selfish and self-centered you are.
You act as if you are such a friendly and easy-going person in front of the people you interact with, AT THAT VERY MOMENT, while you talk bad things about that person when he/she is out of your sight.
You talk to the extent as if, you are the most just person in the world and the rests are just nuisance, rubbish, worthless.
You talk about how much you have sacrificed for people, but you do not see what others have been compromising.
When situation protects your 'importance', you claimed that they your friends, and they should be treated with respect.
When situation arises as you do not want to serve them anymore, ooh~~~ tsk! tsk! tsk!! they are not your friends!!
Even a small tiny bit of favour unto others, you will stinge on it and make a big fuss out of it.
You LOVE judging others!!
"How could she have done that?"
"How could he say such thing?"
"How can he not understand me?" (ie. He's then not my favourite!!)
"Why doesn't she think about us? be considerate for us?"
Oh!!! she is bad, he is bad, you are wrong, they are not good enough, etc.
ie. I am the good one, I am the right one, I am best of all!
(shh... and when nobleman feels that he is incompetent at one moment, he will start the self-pity tactic, to gain consolation from others, because he is worried that he will be condemned, so, oh!! act pitiful first, act sympathetic first!!)
Oh!! I admire Nobleman, cos, he can be SO self-indulge in his own world!
"Why should I be the one who do it?", cos he thinks he is the noble one!
"Why do others not come and serve me?", cos he thinks he is the king!
Nobleman pretends that he is your friend and then say negative things about you to others, so that the others will continue thinking that he is such a nobleman, and you are a pig.
However he will never admit that he does it and he will start putting words into other people's mouths, such as "Mr.X said that you are XXXXX!"
or, he will add another sentence after this, "oh, if I know that you'll be upset, I shouldn't have told you what Mr.X have said about you!!"
(Oh ya!! "I didn't say it, I didn't do it!!", yes, rule of thumb, die also never admit!! rule2 of thumb, start pointing finger!!)
However, nobleman lives a miserable life, cos, he continuously pretend in front of the others,
continuously comparing what he does not have, and others have, or joyous about what he has, while others cannot afford!!
continuously wondering how others think about him,
continuously plotting on gaining favours and $$$ from others,
continuously thinking of bad things about others, so that he can have it in his routine conversations,
continuously judging others with his own short and distorted rulers,
continuously thinking of good things to say about himself, while... oh!! "good things about yourself", and "bad things about others" IS disproportinate,
continuously feeling unhappy and dissatisfied with life that he is living,
continuously feeling ungrateful and insecure about what he is having and what he is given,
continuously living in fear, cos, given the things that he does not know how to treasure, however, due to greed, he is scared of loosing them...
Are we a nobleman?
Are we not?
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