I do not know if any of us, or any of you who're reading this, has come to a point, where we live for somebody...
ya, somebody we love, somebody's who's dear to us...
we live, because of the person...
we whatever... because of the person...
else... why do we live...
(in Catholic terms.. we live, to praise God, to worship God... well... can I put that aside??)
yep.... we used to live just for ourselves... when we haven't found our destiny... haven't found somebody who's worth spending time with, spending life with... or... the somebody's there... exist? and we don't realize??
on the 9th of December 2008, my brother told me, our grandfather (my mother's father) have finally found out that, my mother has long left all of us... on the 23rd March this year... in the car accident...
he started calling people to confirm this bad news... (after we've kept from him for so long.. finally...)
and that after that... according to my brother, which according to my uncle who takes care of him... he refused to eat, refused to take medicine, and finally... on the eve of 16th Decembe 2008... he did not survive his 5th round of stroke... and passed away... at the age of 80++
my grandfather may have chosen not to live, since my mother is already not around... as, usually... my mother is the one who took care of him, while he's in the hospital... who called him up while he's bored.. and who advised him on how to deal with the others (since he's such a difficult character in a way)... now, the person, who he found, worth living for... is not around anymore...
maybe... maybe he chose to leave too... on that night...
I personally do not agree that, we should live for somebody... as we live for ourselves...
however... I also, do personally gather that.. up to a certain point in one's life... we do need somebody for us, to live for...
maybe because we're aging... maybe because of the bond we've slowly developed with others... and maybe.. for all sorts of other reasons that I can't think of...
十二月十六日，下午，我的外公與世長辭了。。。
大約兩個星期前。。。他老人家得知媽媽去世的事。。。套一句老話，茶飯不思，十五日，第五度中風入院。。。
小弟打電話來這麼說，“姐，公公，就是這樣了”。。。
說來蠻輕鬆的。。。我楞了一楞。。。問小弟，怎麼你說得這麼輕鬆，小弟說，“不然咧？”
可能是因為經歷了我們的媽媽那一趟。。。沒有什麽能夠讓我們能夠再次的斷腸般傷心。。。
不是說無情。。。外公也八十多歲了。。。有媽媽在的日子，他過得還有意思一點。。。現在，意思沒有了。。。可能，他老人家。。。， 再套一句老話，“不想活了”
其實。。。在媽媽過世之前。。。我最擔心，也最害怕聽到的是，外公去了。。。等呀等，等不到的惡訊，終於來了的瞬間，已經沒有了什麽感覺。。。
因為自己有了身孕的關係。。。（上兩個星期乘搭飛機的時候，差一點都不能上飛機了。。。後來，被我矇騙過去）這次去不到古晉為外公送行。。。
在這裡。。。我只想對他說，“外公，好走！”
有時候。。。我也在想。。。我們活著。。。是不是，都爲了誰。。。
2008-12-22
2008-12-04
Journey to Work
I know I know, whenever you think about getting up in the morning to work, the first thing that gets into most people's mind is the traffic jam in the morning...
ya... this idea sucks... how I wish I can stay and work in a city there's no traffic jam, plus cool weather ^_^
anyway, as my work place (subang jaya) and the place that I stay (puchong jaya) is not really far apart... I've got 2 choice / 2 options to go to work... the jam-like-hell until so famous LDP or the kesas...
ever since some time last year... when one of our lotus developer girls told me that she's been using kesas, I started using... till now... yes, it makes one's journey to work... more pleasant...
whenever I enter kesas highway from LDP... it's bright and wide blue sky in front of me, I'm always very tempted to snap a picture of that... different day, different view, different time, same sky, different sky...
I can't help but to smile... yes, it's pleasant...
maybe the picture I've taken using my Sony Ericsson W880i may not be as good as to deliver the real beauty of a bright blue pleasant day... however... here you go...
Hopefully, after this you'll enjoy your trip more... when you go to work ^_^
ya... this idea sucks... how I wish I can stay and work in a city there's no traffic jam, plus cool weather ^_^
anyway, as my work place (subang jaya) and the place that I stay (puchong jaya) is not really far apart... I've got 2 choice / 2 options to go to work... the jam-like-hell until so famous LDP or the kesas...
ever since some time last year... when one of our lotus developer girls told me that she's been using kesas, I started using... till now... yes, it makes one's journey to work... more pleasant...
whenever I enter kesas highway from LDP... it's bright and wide blue sky in front of me, I'm always very tempted to snap a picture of that... different day, different view, different time, same sky, different sky...
I can't help but to smile... yes, it's pleasant...
maybe the picture I've taken using my Sony Ericsson W880i may not be as good as to deliver the real beauty of a bright blue pleasant day... however... here you go...
Hopefully, after this you'll enjoy your trip more... when you go to work ^_^
2008-12-01
6-million-dollar Friends!! ^_^
Haha, I've always wanted to write something about it, it's not about 6 million dollars, but it's about friends - during tough time..
Well.. just wanna write something about it..
One of my friend told me this... while I was in the hospital with my father... (somebody who I met in this job)
I know he posted to me on Multiply as a Personal Message, however, it's a very valuable piece of message that he's delivered to me... and while I was reading it... it made me cry... but in a way.. I did feel warm, and a little bit of relief plus enlightenment... thanks, Anderson
While one of my other colleague,
specially send me an sms... to inform me that, we've won a project, which we were branded as most expensive in price but best solution... ya, we thought we nearly lost the project... but eventually it came in.. and because of the hard work and effort she's put in all her work.. she went to Budapest... (during that time, we did not know that we'll be winning the project)
she told me the good news, just to cheer me up... thanks... thanks, Kas
At the same time, there's another one of the other colleague,
who constantly tell me non-relevant stuff... i mean, junks.. maybe just to ease a bit of my pain...
While most importantly it'll definitely be my darling... who's been supporting me during all those 3 months... remotely and closely...
and to be together with my 2 other brothers... make me realized that, most importantly.. is the whole family stay together...
The other day... I asked one of my other friend (a business partner who's more than a business partner though)
if she still cries (ya, after I came back to work in the month of July) whenever she thinks of her deceased father... who also, lost his life, while trying to rush back home to bring his kids to Genting...
ramp into a bus... this friend of mine, was only a teenager during that time, her elder brother had no choice but to quit the job and support the family...
the answer from her is : YES..
well... I guess... that's something that will not disappear in our memory..
Another one too... many years ago... I can't remember why we started the conversation - it started as a casual conversation, he told me that, one of his hands is shorter than the other one, and shorter than normal length, I asked him why... he said, car accident and the driver passed away... I thought it's one of his friends.... then, I asked, who's the driver... he lifted up his head and laugh... "my father"!!
However it is.. whatever that we've gone through... unspeakable...
I'm glad that, these friends of mine, are all doing fine and looking bright... with God's blessings...
Well.. just wanna write something about it..
One of my friend told me this... while I was in the hospital with my father... (somebody who I met in this job)
"Decided to visit your blog and after reading through, i guess that as a friend, there's nothing much that i can offer in the aftermath of the tragedy that you have been through.
Life goes on and the only thing left is to keep the perfect memory of your mom.
Moments gone, people always said.
All i can say is be strong and look forward to helping your dad to recover as soon as possible.
Life is funny. You have seen people carrying gunny sacks on their shoulders, right?
Some people are born to be the gunny sacks and some people are born to helm the heavy task of shouldering it.
God works in a miraculous ways and I'm sure that He has his own reasons.
He won't choose you if you are not strong.
Let's pray for speedy recovery of your father and I'm sure everyone hope to see the old cheerful Choong soon.
Take care."
Life goes on and the only thing left is to keep the perfect memory of your mom.
Moments gone, people always said.
All i can say is be strong and look forward to helping your dad to recover as soon as possible.
Life is funny. You have seen people carrying gunny sacks on their shoulders, right?
Some people are born to be the gunny sacks and some people are born to helm the heavy task of shouldering it.
God works in a miraculous ways and I'm sure that He has his own reasons.
He won't choose you if you are not strong.
Let's pray for speedy recovery of your father and I'm sure everyone hope to see the old cheerful Choong soon.
Take care."
I know he posted to me on Multiply as a Personal Message, however, it's a very valuable piece of message that he's delivered to me... and while I was reading it... it made me cry... but in a way.. I did feel warm, and a little bit of relief plus enlightenment... thanks, Anderson
While one of my other colleague,
specially send me an sms... to inform me that, we've won a project, which we were branded as most expensive in price but best solution... ya, we thought we nearly lost the project... but eventually it came in.. and because of the hard work and effort she's put in all her work.. she went to Budapest... (during that time, we did not know that we'll be winning the project)
she told me the good news, just to cheer me up... thanks... thanks, Kas
At the same time, there's another one of the other colleague,
who constantly tell me non-relevant stuff... i mean, junks.. maybe just to ease a bit of my pain...
While most importantly it'll definitely be my darling... who's been supporting me during all those 3 months... remotely and closely...
and to be together with my 2 other brothers... make me realized that, most importantly.. is the whole family stay together...
The other day... I asked one of my other friend (a business partner who's more than a business partner though)
if she still cries (ya, after I came back to work in the month of July) whenever she thinks of her deceased father... who also, lost his life, while trying to rush back home to bring his kids to Genting...
ramp into a bus... this friend of mine, was only a teenager during that time, her elder brother had no choice but to quit the job and support the family...
the answer from her is : YES..
well... I guess... that's something that will not disappear in our memory..
Another one too... many years ago... I can't remember why we started the conversation - it started as a casual conversation, he told me that, one of his hands is shorter than the other one, and shorter than normal length, I asked him why... he said, car accident and the driver passed away... I thought it's one of his friends.... then, I asked, who's the driver... he lifted up his head and laugh... "my father"!!
However it is.. whatever that we've gone through... unspeakable...
I'm glad that, these friends of mine, are all doing fine and looking bright... with God's blessings...
2008-09-17
Two-Face, The Season Finale
I know, some of you may have already known the “ending”… however, I know, not many of you know how it came about…
Well… it’s all destinies… again, I’ll say, it’s all nicely scheduled and laid out by God…
My poor colleague has voiced out many time… fruitless…
And I thought… it really sucks now… I mean… working in the same office, with same 2face type of colleague, really sucks now… what more to say, 2face is still 2face…
And… for a small reason, I could not allow myself to tolerate anymore, to face such a person everyday… it’s unhealthy…
Therefore, one fine Friday afternoon, on the 1st of August 2008
I wrote to my boss the below email… I considered it a “soft” resignation… (As both of us realized, even with the bullied colleague leaving, 2 of us voiced out, my boss couldn’t do much about the 2face creature, and expect us to compromise and adapt to working with her… for some unknown reasons, though unknown, I’m not interested to find out, as I’ve always thought of this… if I were to understand WHY my boss will like a 2face person so much, knowing that she created so much trouble, bullied new colleague, I may become one of them, which I’d rather die… frankly)
Prior to that, I’ve already asked around for any job offer in the market, and most of my friends are helpful…
It doesn’t mean that, I’ll land on a job immediately but it’s consoling when you know, you’ve so many other concerning friends, who’re willing to give and lend you a hand during bad time…
Most of the people out there (except 2face herself) know the bad&foul behaviour of 2face… (ya, don’t be deceived by her when she told you, she can easily get a job anywhere, as everybody knows her… And she even claimed that, she can “sit in the room” if she gets a job anywhere else…)
So, I wrote…
Hi Boss,
Thanks for listening to me over the 2 sessions of talk lately since last Friday.
However, I believe, anything that has to be communicated has been done, and I do not expect you to understand how I feel, or to believe anything I've said, but there's one thing that's undeniable for you or me, is the feeling that I am having now - I despise mess like this, and I despise the creator of mess.
It may not be tiring for you to find long list of reason to defend a person to that extent, however, it's tiring for me to listen, and exhausting plus damaging for me to be even in the same space with a person of such negative aura.
Boss, the end result will be the same, I do have intention to leave, and the intention is getting more vivid daily.
My point is,
We all spend > 10 hours a day in work, 5 days a week, so, I cannot even persuade myself, even 1 reason, to put up with a peer, whose character is beyond words and tolerance.
Boss, if you truly cherish me as a worker, please give me your support for me to be transferred to another department, if I am needed in any of them.
That will be soft and tender separation.
However, I'll understand if it's beyond your control, then, I'll write you a formal letter next week.
I am sorry that I may most probably make you feel sorry, but I truly believe, we're all adults who will be responsible for our own choice.
Cheers
Choong
The only “good” thing about the existence of 2face is… you’ll constantly remind yourself not be like one of them… live not, to be a 2face…
And yes… another underlying reason is that… during that time, I “suspected” I may have somebody in me to protect… and therefore, I’ve to make sure I will be away from evil “Qi”…
Chronologically…
On Monday… my boss wrote me a short email, saying that, “I heard what you say”...
And I’ve given up in talking… as it doesn’t really get to the point, as people sometimes and most of the time are not good listeners…
Therefore, I wrote again…
Hi Boss,
I know it's not easy for you, but please do not get me wrong and I know it's not easy for you to make any decision, that's why I have my own decision, "Control your destiny or somebody else will." - Jack Welsh. (that's my favourite quote)
it's really getting more unhealthy for me to stay in the same unit with a colleague who wishes you all the worst in the heart.
寧爲玉碎不為瓦全, Boss, 玉, is my personal growth, as a human, in a whole.
And I have not made my decision irrationally, in fact, if possible, I do want to move to solution sales, something related to SW, then, I can help to be in the workforce to grow our company numbers. That's the reason; I'll need your support, as you're always a good mentor to me.
thanks
regards
Choong
I do not know how others can survive if they’ve close co-workers that they really really cannot stand working with… but for sure, I know myself well… I will not tolerate…
There’re difficult people… and demanding people… but most of this type of people that I’ve encountered, after working with them with your truly sincere heart… they’ll accept you and be good to you… however… characters like 2face… like what I’ve said, “it’s beyond words and tolerance”… FULLSTOP
On Monday afternoon… as my boss has handover this “case” to her boss… we’re all called in individually… to meet the boss’ boss…
I thought it’ll be an offering to put me in another department…
That’s why… I mentioned, God’s arranging all of these nicely for my poor colleague and me…
In the room, boss’ boss said, his resolution is to move 2face out of the team… he doesn’t want to know in details why and how… and I, as I’ve said I’ve given up on talking to them as well…
I was pretty shocked with the new arrangement, and his resolution, I actually asked him, how long did he take to think of this resolution, he said, just a few minutes, and he said, my boss took a long time and yet couldn’t resolve it’s because she’s a woman!!! ^_^ ya, I know, sounded sexist huh… however… I guess, most men in managerial posts will do the same thing as he did… another reason is also… which most of us know deep down in my heart is that, my boss’ “shoes” have been “polished” shiningly by 2face.. which she just couldn’t make any logical decision anymore… (lately… I heard from other colleague who also mentioned about how their relationship was during my 2.5 months absence… she said, nobody with the right mind, will suck up to that extent…!!)
Anyway… now, my colleague and I have opportunity to work in a much much much much more peaceful and calm environment, and we’ve moved away from 2face…
Apparently 2face is still the same, even to the new team member…
Still as boastful, still as bossy, still as rude, and still eavesdrop…
Ya… there ARE people, who just don’t learn and don’t get the message…
Why “season finale” and not grand finale?? ^_^
As we all know that… serious…
2face will never leave the company, as… from some “intel” that I gather out there… most of the people, not even our competitor will not want to employ her… (as, some time last year, we have minor evidence, for eg. A printed certificate left on the printer, “oh!! How careless are you!!” and we suspected that she was looking for job, and she was taking some days off, then… no news…)
But one thing we’re sure is… both my colleague and I will leave the job one day… and 2face will definitely continue with her one and only polish skill… to get what she wants… however, one thing for sure, we will not stay back and watch…
Well… it’s all destinies… again, I’ll say, it’s all nicely scheduled and laid out by God…
My poor colleague has voiced out many time… fruitless…
And I thought… it really sucks now… I mean… working in the same office, with same 2face type of colleague, really sucks now… what more to say, 2face is still 2face…
And… for a small reason, I could not allow myself to tolerate anymore, to face such a person everyday… it’s unhealthy…
Therefore, one fine Friday afternoon, on the 1st of August 2008
I wrote to my boss the below email… I considered it a “soft” resignation… (As both of us realized, even with the bullied colleague leaving, 2 of us voiced out, my boss couldn’t do much about the 2face creature, and expect us to compromise and adapt to working with her… for some unknown reasons, though unknown, I’m not interested to find out, as I’ve always thought of this… if I were to understand WHY my boss will like a 2face person so much, knowing that she created so much trouble, bullied new colleague, I may become one of them, which I’d rather die… frankly)
Prior to that, I’ve already asked around for any job offer in the market, and most of my friends are helpful…
It doesn’t mean that, I’ll land on a job immediately but it’s consoling when you know, you’ve so many other concerning friends, who’re willing to give and lend you a hand during bad time…
Most of the people out there (except 2face herself) know the bad&foul behaviour of 2face… (ya, don’t be deceived by her when she told you, she can easily get a job anywhere, as everybody knows her… And she even claimed that, she can “sit in the room” if she gets a job anywhere else…)
So, I wrote…
Hi Boss,
Thanks for listening to me over the 2 sessions of talk lately since last Friday.
However, I believe, anything that has to be communicated has been done, and I do not expect you to understand how I feel, or to believe anything I've said, but there's one thing that's undeniable for you or me, is the feeling that I am having now - I despise mess like this, and I despise the creator of mess.
It may not be tiring for you to find long list of reason to defend a person to that extent, however, it's tiring for me to listen, and exhausting plus damaging for me to be even in the same space with a person of such negative aura.
Boss, the end result will be the same, I do have intention to leave, and the intention is getting more vivid daily.
My point is,
We all spend > 10 hours a day in work, 5 days a week, so, I cannot even persuade myself, even 1 reason, to put up with a peer, whose character is beyond words and tolerance.
Boss, if you truly cherish me as a worker, please give me your support for me to be transferred to another department, if I am needed in any of them.
That will be soft and tender separation.
However, I'll understand if it's beyond your control, then, I'll write you a formal letter next week.
I am sorry that I may most probably make you feel sorry, but I truly believe, we're all adults who will be responsible for our own choice.
Cheers
Choong
The only “good” thing about the existence of 2face is… you’ll constantly remind yourself not be like one of them… live not, to be a 2face…
And yes… another underlying reason is that… during that time, I “suspected” I may have somebody in me to protect… and therefore, I’ve to make sure I will be away from evil “Qi”…
Chronologically…
On Monday… my boss wrote me a short email, saying that, “I heard what you say”...
And I’ve given up in talking… as it doesn’t really get to the point, as people sometimes and most of the time are not good listeners…
Therefore, I wrote again…
Hi Boss,
I know it's not easy for you, but please do not get me wrong and I know it's not easy for you to make any decision, that's why I have my own decision, "Control your destiny or somebody else will." - Jack Welsh. (that's my favourite quote)
it's really getting more unhealthy for me to stay in the same unit with a colleague who wishes you all the worst in the heart.
寧爲玉碎不為瓦全, Boss, 玉, is my personal growth, as a human, in a whole.
And I have not made my decision irrationally, in fact, if possible, I do want to move to solution sales, something related to SW, then, I can help to be in the workforce to grow our company numbers. That's the reason; I'll need your support, as you're always a good mentor to me.
thanks
regards
Choong
I do not know how others can survive if they’ve close co-workers that they really really cannot stand working with… but for sure, I know myself well… I will not tolerate…
There’re difficult people… and demanding people… but most of this type of people that I’ve encountered, after working with them with your truly sincere heart… they’ll accept you and be good to you… however… characters like 2face… like what I’ve said, “it’s beyond words and tolerance”… FULLSTOP
On Monday afternoon… as my boss has handover this “case” to her boss… we’re all called in individually… to meet the boss’ boss…
I thought it’ll be an offering to put me in another department…
That’s why… I mentioned, God’s arranging all of these nicely for my poor colleague and me…
In the room, boss’ boss said, his resolution is to move 2face out of the team… he doesn’t want to know in details why and how… and I, as I’ve said I’ve given up on talking to them as well…
I was pretty shocked with the new arrangement, and his resolution, I actually asked him, how long did he take to think of this resolution, he said, just a few minutes, and he said, my boss took a long time and yet couldn’t resolve it’s because she’s a woman!!! ^_^ ya, I know, sounded sexist huh… however… I guess, most men in managerial posts will do the same thing as he did… another reason is also… which most of us know deep down in my heart is that, my boss’ “shoes” have been “polished” shiningly by 2face.. which she just couldn’t make any logical decision anymore… (lately… I heard from other colleague who also mentioned about how their relationship was during my 2.5 months absence… she said, nobody with the right mind, will suck up to that extent…!!)
Anyway… now, my colleague and I have opportunity to work in a much much much much more peaceful and calm environment, and we’ve moved away from 2face…
Apparently 2face is still the same, even to the new team member…
Still as boastful, still as bossy, still as rude, and still eavesdrop…
Ya… there ARE people, who just don’t learn and don’t get the message…
Why “season finale” and not grand finale?? ^_^
As we all know that… serious…
2face will never leave the company, as… from some “intel” that I gather out there… most of the people, not even our competitor will not want to employ her… (as, some time last year, we have minor evidence, for eg. A printed certificate left on the printer, “oh!! How careless are you!!” and we suspected that she was looking for job, and she was taking some days off, then… no news…)
But one thing we’re sure is… both my colleague and I will leave the job one day… and 2face will definitely continue with her one and only polish skill… to get what she wants… however, one thing for sure, we will not stay back and watch…
I will never Forget
My Dear,
I’ll never forget the moment I saw you, you’re so tiny and “minute”… Dr. told me, “see, that’s the heartbeat”, it took me a while to figure out the blinking spot on the black & white screen…
When I know that you’ve come into my life… I was relieved… (ya… after so long…)
But I cried, very hard… I know I should not be feeling it that way, but I really do feel, very sad…
Because… the dearest person in my life, who deserves this news most (besides him) has departed from this world… and never even really said a good “Good Bye” to all of us, me, my brothers, and my father… that was a rainy Easter Sunday afternoon… March 23rd…
I can imagine the joy in her eyes and her sincere expression on here face if I tell her this good news, but… I never had the chance to tell the dearest person my life, this good news anymore… not anymore…. And therefore, I cried… this is her long awaiting news, and she’s been eagerly looking forward to hear it… but this is a news that’s never come true before the fine Easter Sunday…
My Dear,
Of course I’m very glad and grateful that you’ve finally come into my world, just like my beloved mother has always told me this, “you’ll have children, don’t worry, it’s just that, maybe it’s a bit late”… (I’ve always believed, there’s always a reason, in whatever stage you’re in life…)
I guess… I finally figured out why you come into my life, our life… at this late stage…
It’s because, I, as a daughter, had a job and duty to do…
During those stormy and sad days, I left my job and stayed back in hospital together with my brothers, to look after my father… who’s half-staying-half-leaving in this reality world…
I was worried about my job and couldn’t let go in the beginning, however… after a few round of ‘tests’, I finally realized, what’s the priority in life…
Yes, there’s always and ONLY ONE priority in life… and that’s life… my dear…
And right after I finished my task, as a daughter, and as the big sister… yes, you came into my life, with blessing of my mother, who’s in heaven with God… yes, Glad, and I can’t help to feel sad, whenever I think of my mother…
My Dear…
I’ll never forget the first moment I saw you… you’re so tiny and relax… quietly and calmly resting at the bottom of my womb, I guess… (well, not that I know exactly which orientation and position that view is)
And… the first thing that I’ll tell you when you come to this world… is…
Your grandmother is a very great and kind lady, and a very dedicated Catholic… very helpful, very simple, and adorable and a very selfless lady…
You may be wondering, if you do, why you don’t get so see such great lady anymore… but I’ll do my best to tell you her story as long as I can remember, and I will remember, as she’s my beloved mother… and she’ll give you her blessing, which I know she always does, even before you’ve come into my life…
And even when she’s not in this reality world, I know, and you’ll know that, we all will have her blessing, and God’s blessing…
God’s taken her away for a reason… and one day… we’ll know the reason and the meaning…
I’ll never forget the moment I saw you, you’re so tiny and “minute”… Dr. told me, “see, that’s the heartbeat”, it took me a while to figure out the blinking spot on the black & white screen…
When I know that you’ve come into my life… I was relieved… (ya… after so long…)
But I cried, very hard… I know I should not be feeling it that way, but I really do feel, very sad…
Because… the dearest person in my life, who deserves this news most (besides him) has departed from this world… and never even really said a good “Good Bye” to all of us, me, my brothers, and my father… that was a rainy Easter Sunday afternoon… March 23rd…
I can imagine the joy in her eyes and her sincere expression on here face if I tell her this good news, but… I never had the chance to tell the dearest person my life, this good news anymore… not anymore…. And therefore, I cried… this is her long awaiting news, and she’s been eagerly looking forward to hear it… but this is a news that’s never come true before the fine Easter Sunday…
My Dear,
Of course I’m very glad and grateful that you’ve finally come into my world, just like my beloved mother has always told me this, “you’ll have children, don’t worry, it’s just that, maybe it’s a bit late”… (I’ve always believed, there’s always a reason, in whatever stage you’re in life…)
I guess… I finally figured out why you come into my life, our life… at this late stage…
It’s because, I, as a daughter, had a job and duty to do…
During those stormy and sad days, I left my job and stayed back in hospital together with my brothers, to look after my father… who’s half-staying-half-leaving in this reality world…
I was worried about my job and couldn’t let go in the beginning, however… after a few round of ‘tests’, I finally realized, what’s the priority in life…
Yes, there’s always and ONLY ONE priority in life… and that’s life… my dear…
And right after I finished my task, as a daughter, and as the big sister… yes, you came into my life, with blessing of my mother, who’s in heaven with God… yes, Glad, and I can’t help to feel sad, whenever I think of my mother…
My Dear…
I’ll never forget the first moment I saw you… you’re so tiny and relax… quietly and calmly resting at the bottom of my womb, I guess… (well, not that I know exactly which orientation and position that view is)
And… the first thing that I’ll tell you when you come to this world… is…
Your grandmother is a very great and kind lady, and a very dedicated Catholic… very helpful, very simple, and adorable and a very selfless lady…
You may be wondering, if you do, why you don’t get so see such great lady anymore… but I’ll do my best to tell you her story as long as I can remember, and I will remember, as she’s my beloved mother… and she’ll give you her blessing, which I know she always does, even before you’ve come into my life…
And even when she’s not in this reality world, I know, and you’ll know that, we all will have her blessing, and God’s blessing…
God’s taken her away for a reason… and one day… we’ll know the reason and the meaning…
2008-08-25
Tanjung Tanjung Sepat!!!
Last Saturday, we decided to go somewhere… sometimes, both of us do have this type of urge, just to drive to somewhere, far far away…
So, I suggested Tanjung Sepat… I read about this place, from MAS “Going Places”, this July’s issue, while I went to Bali… well… since I’ve always thought that we’re all very ignorant of places for a short leisure in our own country... we decided to give it a go...
After searching for some information on the internet, we headed for our "excursion" on Saturday...
After nearly 2 hours of driving... Klang --> Banting --> Morib --> Kundang --> Tanjung Sepat...
Upon reaching near Tangjung Sepat area, there's a sign board that says "lover bridge"... nah!! I don't know where it gets its name from... however, it helps to give us some direction...
There're 2 main restaurant there, a smaller one on the outer side, and further inside, there's this "love bridge restaurant"... at first, we actually stepped foot into the "lover bridge restaurant", however, it feels a little bit empty for such a bit restaurant... so, we came out to go to the slightly more "rundown" restaurant next to it... oops... I can't remember the restaurant name...
Ehem... now... what to order?
we called upon the restaurant owner, ask him what to eat... below is the conversation...
it took place with the language medium called "mandarin"... (but I translate it to english)
"boss, what's your recommendation??", said we
"it's up to you, people come here for seafood, anything with seafood," answered him
(as I saw some of the other guests ordered some clams... nice big fat clams)
"can we have the clams in soup??" - done!! that's 1 order
next...
"what type of fish do you have today??", asked my husband...
the boss mentioned some names... and we picked something that we're familiar with, ie. promphret!!
"how do you cook it??", said we...
"normal-steamed, teochew-steamed, thai-steamed...", said the boss...
"what about thai-steamed??", I asked...
"nobody actually go for thai-steamed, usually people opt for the normal-steamed"... said the boss..
"ok, give me teochew-steamed then"... said I, so, the boss took down the 2nd order... @_@
"any vegetable you have??", asked I...
"xxx, yyy, zzz, nnn, mmm, ppp", said the boss...
(at the same time I was planning to pick one not-so-normal vege to be cooked with the not-so-normal style, which I always do, for eg. bean curd sauce with pokchoy!! ^_^V... so, I was thinking... and I missed what he's said)
"sorry, can you please say again??", I asked, and I looked towards my husband... oops... not so good...
so, I picked the conventional vege... ~_~, ya, he looked slightly relieved...
that was the 3rd order...
Then... we're thinking what to order for the 4th dish...
my husband asked me how to say crayfish in mandarin... ya, I can't recall... it's just CRAY-FISH!!!
luckily, the boss who's taking the order manage to figure what we're trying to "try to order"... he said it in hokkien... that rang a bell to my husband... ("hay ko bak", ha!!)
"how do you cook it?", asked I (not again!!!!! hahaha!!)
"gong-bou style!", said the boss...
but then...
"do you do it in sweet and sour?", asked I... *_* (ghee!!)
"nobody does that in this manner", said the boss...
"just give me in sweet and sour style!!", said I...
that's our 4th order...
when the boss left our table..
he looked at me, said, "he warned you!!"...
ya ya ya....
I asked him if HE'll normally order what people suggest to him... nah!!
ok.. then, I'll just have to bear with my OWN choice...
ps: In fact, I never really take the chance to find out what the "lover bridge" is called "lover bridge"... however, sigh... we're just not good at packaging and promoting stories!! ^_^ since the bridge is called the "lover bridge", if I'm the restaurant owner, I'll put some railings at the end of the bridge, and start to tell story like, if couples, or lovers go there, write their name on a padlock, lock the padlock on the railing, their love will be stronger, and well... diplomatically saying, "forever" ^_^... hahaha, the more expensive the padlock is, the more solid your wish will become, isn't it?? ah ha!!! then I can start selling padlock around the corner... come on!! it's good business opportunity ok!!
there you go...
When we returned from Tanjung Sepat... we went to Bkt. Tinggi, Klang... to catch for the second time "The Dark Knight"!! ^_^ Yay!!
and we'd a nice cup of afternoon coffee.. in DOME... ^_~
So, I suggested Tanjung Sepat… I read about this place, from MAS “Going Places”, this July’s issue, while I went to Bali… well… since I’ve always thought that we’re all very ignorant of places for a short leisure in our own country... we decided to give it a go...
After searching for some information on the internet, we headed for our "excursion" on Saturday...
After nearly 2 hours of driving... Klang --> Banting --> Morib --> Kundang --> Tanjung Sepat...
Upon reaching near Tangjung Sepat area, there's a sign board that says "lover bridge"... nah!! I don't know where it gets its name from... however, it helps to give us some direction...
There're 2 main restaurant there, a smaller one on the outer side, and further inside, there's this "love bridge restaurant"... at first, we actually stepped foot into the "lover bridge restaurant", however, it feels a little bit empty for such a bit restaurant... so, we came out to go to the slightly more "rundown" restaurant next to it... oops... I can't remember the restaurant name...
Ehem... now... what to order?
we called upon the restaurant owner, ask him what to eat... below is the conversation...
it took place with the language medium called "mandarin"... (but I translate it to english)
"boss, what's your recommendation??", said we
"it's up to you, people come here for seafood, anything with seafood," answered him
(as I saw some of the other guests ordered some clams... nice big fat clams)
"can we have the clams in soup??" - done!! that's 1 order
next...
"what type of fish do you have today??", asked my husband...
the boss mentioned some names... and we picked something that we're familiar with, ie. promphret!!
"how do you cook it??", said we...
"normal-steamed, teochew-steamed, thai-steamed...", said the boss...
"what about thai-steamed??", I asked...
"nobody actually go for thai-steamed, usually people opt for the normal-steamed"... said the boss..
"ok, give me teochew-steamed then"... said I, so, the boss took down the 2nd order... @_@
"any vegetable you have??", asked I...
"xxx, yyy, zzz, nnn, mmm, ppp", said the boss...
(at the same time I was planning to pick one not-so-normal vege to be cooked with the not-so-normal style, which I always do, for eg. bean curd sauce with pokchoy!! ^_^V... so, I was thinking... and I missed what he's said)
"sorry, can you please say again??", I asked, and I looked towards my husband... oops... not so good...
so, I picked the conventional vege... ~_~, ya, he looked slightly relieved...
that was the 3rd order...
Then... we're thinking what to order for the 4th dish...
my husband asked me how to say crayfish in mandarin... ya, I can't recall... it's just CRAY-FISH!!!
luckily, the boss who's taking the order manage to figure what we're trying to "try to order"... he said it in hokkien... that rang a bell to my husband... ("hay ko bak", ha!!)
"how do you cook it?", asked I (not again!!!!! hahaha!!)
"gong-bou style!", said the boss...
but then...
"do you do it in sweet and sour?", asked I... *_* (ghee!!)
"nobody does that in this manner", said the boss...
"just give me in sweet and sour style!!", said I...
that's our 4th order...
when the boss left our table..
he looked at me, said, "he warned you!!"...
ya ya ya....
I asked him if HE'll normally order what people suggest to him... nah!!
ok.. then, I'll just have to bear with my OWN choice...
ps: In fact, I never really take the chance to find out what the "lover bridge" is called "lover bridge"... however, sigh... we're just not good at packaging and promoting stories!! ^_^ since the bridge is called the "lover bridge", if I'm the restaurant owner, I'll put some railings at the end of the bridge, and start to tell story like, if couples, or lovers go there, write their name on a padlock, lock the padlock on the railing, their love will be stronger, and well... diplomatically saying, "forever" ^_^... hahaha, the more expensive the padlock is, the more solid your wish will become, isn't it?? ah ha!!! then I can start selling padlock around the corner... come on!! it's good business opportunity ok!!
there you go...
When we returned from Tanjung Sepat... we went to Bkt. Tinggi, Klang... to catch for the second time "The Dark Knight"!! ^_^ Yay!!
and we'd a nice cup of afternoon coffee.. in DOME... ^_~
Where're my rubber Shoes??
Last Wednesday, I went to a Crocs shop... looking for my new pair of shoes... well... something in my shopping pipeline anyway... it's this Suede series from Crocs... look like ballerina's shoes... ^_^
So, I went in... caught the shop assistant's attention... and ask if she can help me to get the right size for me...I wanted coffee colour, or black... so that sometimes, I can't "sneak" them in, by wearing them to work... ghee... ya... coz, it kinda feel good, to break rules sometimes... hehe...
Anyway... while there's no right size for me for the colours that I wanted... there's only RED colour left... so, I asked the shop assistant, if they'll replenish the stocks... her answer is "no"... apparently once the goods are cleared, they'll bring in more new design... ya, I gathered that... same thing happened to the other outlet that I've been checking out... they've never replenished any... so, I decided to cut it short and look no further... I just take whatever that's left for me, so that, I can proceed with the next item in my shopping pipeline... ^_~
Then my eyes started wandering around in the other parts of this Crocs shop, and I pointed to one of those new range of the shoes -- Lexi...The shop assistant told me, "it's new arrival", and I didn't catch correctly what she's just said, as she said it while squatting down meddling shoes, looking for the size that I requested... so, what I heard is..."what? new rubber??!!! yang ini rubber tak sama dengan yang itu rubber ke?" I asked, with full curiosity!!!(I asked if the rubber is different from this new range of design, compared to those older design)She burst into non-stop laugther, looked at me, saying that, "bukan!!! yang ini, new ARRIVAL, bukan new "rubber", semua rubber sama!!"(she said, all the rubber material used is the same)When I heard that, I couldn't stop laughing either... the girl was still laughing while she's clearing up all the different sizes and colours on the floor, and to stop myself from laughing, I asked her to stop... and told her, for a while I really thought, the rubber used can be different from last time, till now... with the new design... as the new design does look slightly better...
Anyway... that evening, I got my new pair of red rubber shoes... ^_^
So, I went in... caught the shop assistant's attention... and ask if she can help me to get the right size for me...I wanted coffee colour, or black... so that sometimes, I can't "sneak" them in, by wearing them to work... ghee... ya... coz, it kinda feel good, to break rules sometimes... hehe...
Anyway... while there's no right size for me for the colours that I wanted... there's only RED colour left... so, I asked the shop assistant, if they'll replenish the stocks... her answer is "no"... apparently once the goods are cleared, they'll bring in more new design... ya, I gathered that... same thing happened to the other outlet that I've been checking out... they've never replenished any... so, I decided to cut it short and look no further... I just take whatever that's left for me, so that, I can proceed with the next item in my shopping pipeline... ^_~
Then my eyes started wandering around in the other parts of this Crocs shop, and I pointed to one of those new range of the shoes -- Lexi...The shop assistant told me, "it's new arrival", and I didn't catch correctly what she's just said, as she said it while squatting down meddling shoes, looking for the size that I requested... so, what I heard is..."what? new rubber??!!! yang ini rubber tak sama dengan yang itu rubber ke?" I asked, with full curiosity!!!(I asked if the rubber is different from this new range of design, compared to those older design)She burst into non-stop laugther, looked at me, saying that, "bukan!!! yang ini, new ARRIVAL, bukan new "rubber", semua rubber sama!!"(she said, all the rubber material used is the same)When I heard that, I couldn't stop laughing either... the girl was still laughing while she's clearing up all the different sizes and colours on the floor, and to stop myself from laughing, I asked her to stop... and told her, for a while I really thought, the rubber used can be different from last time, till now... with the new design... as the new design does look slightly better...
Anyway... that evening, I got my new pair of red rubber shoes... ^_^
2008-08-01
Mean Mean Meaning... II (Yeah~ it's a SMALL SMALL WORLD)
One fine day, a new family moved into a very quiet and peaceful neighbourhood... where, the community members will take turn to organize gathering, or some group sport events, to get everybody together, to know each other better... well.. it's the same as most of the neighbourhood... peaceful, simple, and more-or-less happy...
and... just like any of the other neighbourhood, in this country... a country where its government does not bother about the safety and security of its fellow citizen... the neighbourhood will have its own community, which has some volunteerily and helpful soul, to help run the daily errands... for the neighbourhood... AND as you know.. it costs some money... where willing households will pay their shares, when they see the value...
for the security, for the functions that they may organise, and etc....
peaceful and quiet neighbourhood...
until this one fine day, the family moved in...
first highlight of this family... ie, the owner... Mr. X,
Oh! his name card's full of TITLES...!!! ah... you'll be surprised to know that there're people who're obsessed with TITLES!!!
TITLES!! TITLES!!! TITLES!!!
("what do you mean by 'full of titles? and you do not know what they're for?", "it's those name cards with lines and lines of different titles, for eg. XXX consultant, YYY manager, ZZZ director, not that you don't know what the titles are for, just that, you don't know why they co-exist in the same name card")
second highlight~~~
upon moving in to this neighbourhood... according to the usual courtesy, the community members approach this new family... share with them of the community rules and regulation, and the membership fees... for all the miscellaneous charges and of course, the security guards and the streets maintenance... etc.
the next thing that the community members got IS~~~~~
LENGTHY LONG NASTY email from Mr. X, pointing out to them line by line, of the T&L, which is not correct, which is irrelevant, which one is SO incorrect that he, Mr. X can sue them - the community committee, bla bla bla...
and Mr. X send this long nasty email to everybody in the community... and there it started the chain effect, where emails flying around among the neighbourhood... seeing this Star-Shine Mr. X, screwing people around the neighbourhood, as if he's the ONLY SMART and knowledgeable person left on this planet...
The first target, was the poor secretary... (for all you know, since it's volunteerity job, she may be just a normal and simple housewife~~~)
.....
slowly there're many emails flying around... disturbing the peace of this neighbourhood...
AHA~~!!! now we (my poor colleague and me) finally understand... why is all these similar thing, happening in our work place...
I like what K said about the whole thing, when she heard our sad and frustrating story, and while she's checking out on them... she said this "huh!! she doesn't know who she's messing with!!", well... she said it in a very cute and innocent way... ^_^V
How K wrapped up her "news" to us is...
she's lots of kids from the neighbourhood, who'll always come to her and update her of the happenings of the day, in the neighbourhood... ^_^
then... she'll update us, if there's more interesting things happen...
AND... for me to wrap up my story... which I'm already tired of telling... is...
(mm... this morning, I'd another chat with my boss, and tomorrow, I'll want to have a final chat with her)
I've made my decision...
based on a few simple reason... cos, "i'm a simple person - denny crane"
1. Life's short, and you work >10 hours a day, 5 days a week, in the office, Life's precious, why sacrifice the essense of life, to put up with crap??
2. Crap is crap, putting up with it, or ignoring it.. yes, save us the trouble to face the reality, and the ugliness of truth, or to get into more trouble... BUT, crap is still crap, isn't it?? the longer we put up with it, the more we condone such behaviour...
^_^
you see... the point is... I don't need much point to decide...
but my boss has given too many points (and still many to go) to defend such a person...
if she's not tired, I am...
and... just like any of the other neighbourhood, in this country... a country where its government does not bother about the safety and security of its fellow citizen... the neighbourhood will have its own community, which has some volunteerily and helpful soul, to help run the daily errands... for the neighbourhood... AND as you know.. it costs some money... where willing households will pay their shares, when they see the value...
for the security, for the functions that they may organise, and etc....
peaceful and quiet neighbourhood...
until this one fine day, the family moved in...
first highlight of this family... ie, the owner... Mr. X,
Oh! his name card's full of TITLES...!!! ah... you'll be surprised to know that there're people who're obsessed with TITLES!!!
TITLES!! TITLES!!! TITLES!!!
("what do you mean by 'full of titles? and you do not know what they're for?", "it's those name cards with lines and lines of different titles, for eg. XXX consultant, YYY manager, ZZZ director, not that you don't know what the titles are for, just that, you don't know why they co-exist in the same name card")
second highlight~~~
upon moving in to this neighbourhood... according to the usual courtesy, the community members approach this new family... share with them of the community rules and regulation, and the membership fees... for all the miscellaneous charges and of course, the security guards and the streets maintenance... etc.
the next thing that the community members got IS~~~~~
LENGTHY LONG NASTY email from Mr. X, pointing out to them line by line, of the T&L, which is not correct, which is irrelevant, which one is SO incorrect that he, Mr. X can sue them - the community committee, bla bla bla...
and Mr. X send this long nasty email to everybody in the community... and there it started the chain effect, where emails flying around among the neighbourhood... seeing this Star-Shine Mr. X, screwing people around the neighbourhood, as if he's the ONLY SMART and knowledgeable person left on this planet...
The first target, was the poor secretary... (for all you know, since it's volunteerity job, she may be just a normal and simple housewife~~~)
.....
slowly there're many emails flying around... disturbing the peace of this neighbourhood...
AHA~~!!! now we (my poor colleague and me) finally understand... why is all these similar thing, happening in our work place...
I like what K said about the whole thing, when she heard our sad and frustrating story, and while she's checking out on them... she said this "huh!! she doesn't know who she's messing with!!", well... she said it in a very cute and innocent way... ^_^V
How K wrapped up her "news" to us is...
she's lots of kids from the neighbourhood, who'll always come to her and update her of the happenings of the day, in the neighbourhood... ^_^
then... she'll update us, if there's more interesting things happen...
AND... for me to wrap up my story... which I'm already tired of telling... is...
(mm... this morning, I'd another chat with my boss, and tomorrow, I'll want to have a final chat with her)
I've made my decision...
based on a few simple reason... cos, "i'm a simple person - denny crane"
1. Life's short, and you work >10 hours a day, 5 days a week, in the office, Life's precious, why sacrifice the essense of life, to put up with crap??
2. Crap is crap, putting up with it, or ignoring it.. yes, save us the trouble to face the reality, and the ugliness of truth, or to get into more trouble... BUT, crap is still crap, isn't it?? the longer we put up with it, the more we condone such behaviour...
^_^
you see... the point is... I don't need much point to decide...
but my boss has given too many points (and still many to go) to defend such a person...
if she's not tired, I am...
Mean Mean Meaning..
OK, I know what I'm going to expose is quite mean... however, I can't stop feeling the irony of the whole thing...and all the events happened just too closely one by one...
all in all, to tell you that... the world is scarily small... VERY SMALL...
else... you really do not know who you're messing with...
OK... there you go... (I'll try to put it in a more chronological order)
Our interesting colleague was shifting house, quite a while ago, while I was not in town...
obviously she tried to lure my other colleague to ask her more, regarding her new house... bla bla bla..
this other colleague... being blur (but not with her job) most of the time, can't remember much of the location of the house... except one word PXXXXXX ^_^
When I got back, and during a chat, she mentioned to me of the location, immediately I said, that's the same place as where my darling K (a very cute charming small-size lady) lives... I went to her house to kinda celebrate the 15th of Chinese New Year, where she cooked 2 HUGE pot of bubur-cacar, which... all turned bad coz nobody wanted to eat... hahahaha!!
OK, back to the story..
I told my colleague, it's the same place, P.H. and in the whole klang valley, there aren't many names with this PXXXXXX!!
One fine afternoon, while we're having our casual chitchat over the lunch.. with my colleague, and my darling K... and another girl... K mentioned that, my very interesting colleague is not the type who can be real friend, she said, you just feel it, cos, from a casual conversation with her, one can feel that, she's always defensive, if not offensive... it struck her, when the very interesting colleague tried to lure everybody to ask her about her new house... but since she's mentioned she's just moved house... so, K asked a very genuine by-default question, "where?"... AND~~~ the very interesting colleague said, "just somewhere~~"
@_@
So, now, we all figured out, K and the interesting colleague are actually in the same neighbourhood now... K said she'll go check it out... cos, K's pretty active in the neighbourhood community... the hint is... her car registration number... ^_^
That evening... while I thought K should be busy clearing up mess and damage that the previous account manager left for her for one account...
K called me around 21:00... excitedly, she told me...
she knows which house the very interesting colleague stays in... she asked me to confirm with the registration number... I really cannot remember, so, I give her another hint... which is, there's another car, of a different model, also sharing ONE same alphabet in its car registration number... I give her the model, the colour... and the KEY ALPHABET... bingo!!!
it's a small small small small world... and it's scary...
K told me, she's interesting story to tell me regarding THIS family...
... to be continued
How to deal with 2-face colleague whose mouth is full of crap!!?
I am really frustrated lately…
So, like some people, who’ll seek for advice from friends, or some from horoscope or from family members…
I tried the Yahoo! Answers…
Well… maybe because I do spend plenty of time online…
(haha, I’m like the “fujoshi”, female version of “otaku”)
I posted the above question online… with the description below:-
I have a colleague who's so 2-face, she's nice and suck up to the management, but she bullies peers, like me, like the others, when you confront her, she'll first denied everything she's said and if it doesn't work, she'll start crying and tell you that, after working for so many years, this is the first time she feel so sad. But, she lies constantly in front of boss, for eg. she likes to eavesdrop, likes to peep into other's work, likes to mind other's business, but if there's another 3rd or 4th party around, she'll deny all these and say, she's very professional and do not mind other's business.
In addition to that, she constantly boast of her own capability, but when problem arise, she keeps quiet and refuse to say anything, as she's scared that she'll be blamed
she puts words into others mouth to scold another person, for eg. she'll tell the public, A said B is stupid and lousy, and in fact, these are her own words, she boss others to do the work so if something wrong, she's safe
The interesting thing is… I actually get quite a good number of “advice”, I mean, a genuine one…
Ah… I know… I’m not alone…
Below are the answers, and the first one is what I “voted” as the best answer…
A1: I do my job and pretend they do not exit. I am careful never to say anything I do not want repeated and in a subtle way, I let them know they are not fooling me with their BS.
Let her cry and do not give in to her or feel sorry for her. That is her method of getting out of trouble. It sound like she is a pathological liar and you can never beat those people at their games because they will lie no matter what.
They act like that to get attention, so ignoring them is the best punishment you can give me. Just pretend you do not care. I would not even bother to bring up something they say. I would act like I did not know anything. I would just speak to them like to say hello and that would be it. They hate to be ignored. They will keep digging the hole deeper trying to get your attention but eventually they are in over their heads.
A2: Avoid this person as much as possible. There are more of them out there than one would like to think...just part of life. These people usually "hang themselves," if you know what I mean. People who lie constantly, for example, eventually spin a web so complicated that even they can't remember what they've said and this ends up getting them in trouble. I wouldn't do anything...just pay attention to YOUR morals and YOUR code of conduct and leave the creep alone.
A3: I know exactly how you feel! This past year, I endured the same type of treatment from a coworker. I don’t need to go into a lengthy description of her behavior –I will just say that she is poison. I tried everything to make her… like me, respect me, and stop treating me badly, …and to stop taking credit for work she did not do (I was livid that others seemed to be fooled by her) until one day it all just ‘clicked.’
The answer was to simply give her no more notice than the …passing clouds in the sky.
The opposite of love is not hate, but rather indifference. I learned to be polite; if she looked in my direction; I would smile (slightly) and go on about my daily responsibilities. I know this sounds like a reaction to her behavior, like one who feigns not caring, but my indifference is sincere, I really, really do not care about her or her life. I no longer worry myself about her ‘show-boating’ attention seeking, and the worst of all, being given credit and respect that I knew she did not deserve. I learned that I could not control these things, and that any other person (who was good of heart) saw her manipulative personality.
So, my advice is for you to carefully think this through –let her live her life as she sees fit and don’t take it personally. Focus on what is important in your life. Begin a new hobby, contact an old friend, plan a trip -anything to make You happy. <<
You really don’t need anyone else’s existence to interfere with your own goals and dreams and life fulfillment. :)
So, like some people, who’ll seek for advice from friends, or some from horoscope or from family members…
I tried the Yahoo! Answers…
Well… maybe because I do spend plenty of time online…
(haha, I’m like the “fujoshi”, female version of “otaku”)
I posted the above question online… with the description below:-
I have a colleague who's so 2-face, she's nice and suck up to the management, but she bullies peers, like me, like the others, when you confront her, she'll first denied everything she's said and if it doesn't work, she'll start crying and tell you that, after working for so many years, this is the first time she feel so sad. But, she lies constantly in front of boss, for eg. she likes to eavesdrop, likes to peep into other's work, likes to mind other's business, but if there's another 3rd or 4th party around, she'll deny all these and say, she's very professional and do not mind other's business.
In addition to that, she constantly boast of her own capability, but when problem arise, she keeps quiet and refuse to say anything, as she's scared that she'll be blamed
she puts words into others mouth to scold another person, for eg. she'll tell the public, A said B is stupid and lousy, and in fact, these are her own words, she boss others to do the work so if something wrong, she's safe
The interesting thing is… I actually get quite a good number of “advice”, I mean, a genuine one…
Ah… I know… I’m not alone…
Below are the answers, and the first one is what I “voted” as the best answer…
A1: I do my job and pretend they do not exit. I am careful never to say anything I do not want repeated and in a subtle way, I let them know they are not fooling me with their BS.
Let her cry and do not give in to her or feel sorry for her. That is her method of getting out of trouble. It sound like she is a pathological liar and you can never beat those people at their games because they will lie no matter what.
They act like that to get attention, so ignoring them is the best punishment you can give me. Just pretend you do not care. I would not even bother to bring up something they say. I would act like I did not know anything. I would just speak to them like to say hello and that would be it. They hate to be ignored. They will keep digging the hole deeper trying to get your attention but eventually they are in over their heads.
A2: Avoid this person as much as possible. There are more of them out there than one would like to think...just part of life. These people usually "hang themselves," if you know what I mean. People who lie constantly, for example, eventually spin a web so complicated that even they can't remember what they've said and this ends up getting them in trouble. I wouldn't do anything...just pay attention to YOUR morals and YOUR code of conduct and leave the creep alone.
A3: I know exactly how you feel! This past year, I endured the same type of treatment from a coworker. I don’t need to go into a lengthy description of her behavior –I will just say that she is poison. I tried everything to make her… like me, respect me, and stop treating me badly, …and to stop taking credit for work she did not do (I was livid that others seemed to be fooled by her) until one day it all just ‘clicked.’
The answer was to simply give her no more notice than the …passing clouds in the sky.
The opposite of love is not hate, but rather indifference. I learned to be polite; if she looked in my direction; I would smile (slightly) and go on about my daily responsibilities. I know this sounds like a reaction to her behavior, like one who feigns not caring, but my indifference is sincere, I really, really do not care about her or her life. I no longer worry myself about her ‘show-boating’ attention seeking, and the worst of all, being given credit and respect that I knew she did not deserve. I learned that I could not control these things, and that any other person (who was good of heart) saw her manipulative personality.
So, my advice is for you to carefully think this through –let her live her life as she sees fit and don’t take it personally. Focus on what is important in your life. Begin a new hobby, contact an old friend, plan a trip -anything to make You happy. <<
You really don’t need anyone else’s existence to interfere with your own goals and dreams and life fulfillment. :)
World without Thieves...
I'm not sure if people still remember this show, starred by Rene Liu, and Andy Lau, with a few others famous Chinese actors/actresses, such as Ge You, and Li Bing Bing...
It's a simple story... though I really don't like Andy Lau, and I think that, he's TRYING VERY HARD to play cool!! (see... there's always a difference between learnt-skill and talence, just like Andy vs. Tony Leung...) and I'm also trying very hard, not to look at him, but only my Rene Liu...
Anyway, it's a simple story... it's basically just about a kid from the village, went to town, sold something, trying to bring the money back, and he's this belief that, there's no thief existing in this world, no thief, no bad people... the world is beautiful...
and he somehow shared this idea with Andy-Rene couple, who're the husband-wife thief couple...
for some reason that I cannot remember anymore, Andy was trying to be nice for once... so, he wanted to "fulfill" the dream of the kid that, This is a world, without thieves...
The story went on with all the tricks between Andy-Rene vs. the famous gang of thieves, one trying to stop the other thieves from stealing, and the gang of thieves, trying to steal the money from the kid...
anyway... why am I talking about "world without thieves" the movie?? ^_^ arrgh... it's a sudden thought... as I was thinking, yes, world will be peaceful and beautiful, if world is without XXX... mm... something...
and sometimes... I do wonder, do you want to live, believing that, world is without thieves? or learning that, world IS with thieves?? which one??
... if the world IS with thieves... I may appreciate the moment of lie... white lie... to keep my "memory" clean... however, when time goes by... though truth hurts, however... that's what makes people grow up...
It's a simple story... though I really don't like Andy Lau, and I think that, he's TRYING VERY HARD to play cool!! (see... there's always a difference between learnt-skill and talence, just like Andy vs. Tony Leung...) and I'm also trying very hard, not to look at him, but only my Rene Liu...
Anyway, it's a simple story... it's basically just about a kid from the village, went to town, sold something, trying to bring the money back, and he's this belief that, there's no thief existing in this world, no thief, no bad people... the world is beautiful...
and he somehow shared this idea with Andy-Rene couple, who're the husband-wife thief couple...
for some reason that I cannot remember anymore, Andy was trying to be nice for once... so, he wanted to "fulfill" the dream of the kid that, This is a world, without thieves...
The story went on with all the tricks between Andy-Rene vs. the famous gang of thieves, one trying to stop the other thieves from stealing, and the gang of thieves, trying to steal the money from the kid...
anyway... why am I talking about "world without thieves" the movie?? ^_^ arrgh... it's a sudden thought... as I was thinking, yes, world will be peaceful and beautiful, if world is without XXX... mm... something...
and sometimes... I do wonder, do you want to live, believing that, world is without thieves? or learning that, world IS with thieves?? which one??
... if the world IS with thieves... I may appreciate the moment of lie... white lie... to keep my "memory" clean... however, when time goes by... though truth hurts, however... that's what makes people grow up...
Paying to stay dumb
I came across this article, which the writer came across another article ^_^ please refer below:-
It's a scary message underlying....
And that's the future of the world....
So, Parents! Oh~ Parents!! Please bring up your kids properly...
Monday, July 21, 2008
Paying to stay dumb
Today I came across an article about students (most IT-related) who "outsource" their work (even complete dissertations) to India and Romania. Students contract their work to the lowest bidder.Question: who are the smartest? The ones who try to pay as little as possible to not getting educated? Or the ones who get payed a little while enhancing their skills?
Question 2: who will eventually rule the world? The ones that build skills or the ones that leave the opportunity to learn?
How stupid can you be!
2008-07-28
When Things are beyond Tolerance
last friday, I could tolerate no more, so, I wrote a complaint letter to my boss... and yes, immediately i was called upon to her room, some time after 21:00, to have a chat...
i told her, i could tolerate no more...
and those business partners are frustrated, as, they've to pick up several calls from different people, to answer the same question, it's wasting time... and it's decreasing productivity, what more to say, the brands that i'm answerable to, number is low...
i made it simple, i said to her, i just want to do my job properly without being made more complicated...
serious, the whole thing sucks, i thought i can tolerate crap and nonsense till one fine day, when i decide to rest at home, nicely timed, when i need to quit, i'll just quit the job peacefully...
however, even when i have already spelt out clear and loud that, i cannot work with a piece of crap like 2-face, 2-face still does not get the point... 2-face still likes to poke into my other colleague's job, as well as my job, whenever she feels like it, like nobody's business...
like i said, it confuses everybody...
so, i bluntly and bravely told my boss, that, ever since she moves to another floor, i feel like i'm reporting to 2 bosses, when 2-face, happily and shamelessly automate herself to be a bossy creature!!
i told my boss, i don't want to bother what 2-face is doing, or IS NOT DOING... what i want is, to do my job without being interferred... and complicated by some evil-minded creature...
i told her, i've put up with piece-of-crap-2-face for the whole of last year, and the moment i know that she's taking joy on my family's misfortune... i tolerate no more... what's evil, has to be exposed!!
however, sometimes, i really do not know what my boss is thinking... when she heard that, she actually asked me, if i think 2-face means it when she said that, (that i must as well quit my job... ya, forever taking care of my father, meaning, she's even hoping that, my father will not recover!!! that's something that i really do not want to put up with... evil is evil, evil needs to be exposed)... without hesitation, i told my boss, "yes, I think she means it!!", CLEAR AND LOUD!!
frankly... i do not want to know what my boss is thinking...
and i do not even want to know what's in 2-face mind, as, i've always believed... if one day, i understand these people's mind, i'll be like one of them, ie. corrupted and full of evil plots!!!
it's only a pitiful thing that, my boss used to be a very lovely lady, however, the more she gets close to evil, the more she'll be infected... ie. getting unreasonable sometimes... cos, she thought 2-face's an angel...
2-face claims that, she can tell if a person's good or bad, truthful or lying, by looking at the person's face
2-face claims that, she's healing hands when she touches a person's body...
many time, i feel like asking 2-face to look into the mirror and tell what she's seen... AN ANGEL??
or, maybe put her own healing hands on her head and heart to heal her evil mind and evil spirit!!!
anyway, i decided to speak out
it's because, it's really beyond my tolerance
and i do not want to force myself, and also, my poor colleague to tolerate further... she's already lost her fighting spirit and her motivation to work... i can see that, everyday, in work, she's unhappy, and upset...
i thought, it's a matter of time, that i'll be leaving my job...
but i know... the time's sped up now...
i told my boss, if not because i'm attached to the technical people that i work with in the company... as the evil-2-face wishes, i've already quit...
my boss said, the more reason, i should not quit... ie. not to surrender to evil-wish
however... i've always thought that life's short, it's either, i leave... or then, i'll fight back...
i'll not want to tolerate with piece of crap anymore...
as, it's not just us, the close peers are suffering with her 2-face tactic... but my dear technical buddies were yelled at by 2-face too...
i know... since the begining, 2-face has always hated those who "does more than he/she should", as... to 2-face, this spoil her "market", and uplift the standard that she does not want to comply to... as people will then, expect her to work more, do more, which she basically is incapable of performing, or does not have the courage to take up the responsibility to carry out the job...
anyway... i voiced out, it's not because i'm looking for solution... come on!! you do not cut deal with terrorists, you do not cut deal with evils...
i voiced out, it's because i want to send the message across,
CLEAR! AND LOUD!
i told her, i could tolerate no more...
and those business partners are frustrated, as, they've to pick up several calls from different people, to answer the same question, it's wasting time... and it's decreasing productivity, what more to say, the brands that i'm answerable to, number is low...
i made it simple, i said to her, i just want to do my job properly without being made more complicated...
serious, the whole thing sucks, i thought i can tolerate crap and nonsense till one fine day, when i decide to rest at home, nicely timed, when i need to quit, i'll just quit the job peacefully...
however, even when i have already spelt out clear and loud that, i cannot work with a piece of crap like 2-face, 2-face still does not get the point... 2-face still likes to poke into my other colleague's job, as well as my job, whenever she feels like it, like nobody's business...
like i said, it confuses everybody...
so, i bluntly and bravely told my boss, that, ever since she moves to another floor, i feel like i'm reporting to 2 bosses, when 2-face, happily and shamelessly automate herself to be a bossy creature!!
i told my boss, i don't want to bother what 2-face is doing, or IS NOT DOING... what i want is, to do my job without being interferred... and complicated by some evil-minded creature...
i told her, i've put up with piece-of-crap-2-face for the whole of last year, and the moment i know that she's taking joy on my family's misfortune... i tolerate no more... what's evil, has to be exposed!!
however, sometimes, i really do not know what my boss is thinking... when she heard that, she actually asked me, if i think 2-face means it when she said that, (that i must as well quit my job... ya, forever taking care of my father, meaning, she's even hoping that, my father will not recover!!! that's something that i really do not want to put up with... evil is evil, evil needs to be exposed)... without hesitation, i told my boss, "yes, I think she means it!!", CLEAR AND LOUD!!
frankly... i do not want to know what my boss is thinking...
and i do not even want to know what's in 2-face mind, as, i've always believed... if one day, i understand these people's mind, i'll be like one of them, ie. corrupted and full of evil plots!!!
it's only a pitiful thing that, my boss used to be a very lovely lady, however, the more she gets close to evil, the more she'll be infected... ie. getting unreasonable sometimes... cos, she thought 2-face's an angel...
2-face claims that, she can tell if a person's good or bad, truthful or lying, by looking at the person's face
2-face claims that, she's healing hands when she touches a person's body...
many time, i feel like asking 2-face to look into the mirror and tell what she's seen... AN ANGEL??
or, maybe put her own healing hands on her head and heart to heal her evil mind and evil spirit!!!
anyway, i decided to speak out
it's because, it's really beyond my tolerance
and i do not want to force myself, and also, my poor colleague to tolerate further... she's already lost her fighting spirit and her motivation to work... i can see that, everyday, in work, she's unhappy, and upset...
i thought, it's a matter of time, that i'll be leaving my job...
but i know... the time's sped up now...
i told my boss, if not because i'm attached to the technical people that i work with in the company... as the evil-2-face wishes, i've already quit...
my boss said, the more reason, i should not quit... ie. not to surrender to evil-wish
however... i've always thought that life's short, it's either, i leave... or then, i'll fight back...
i'll not want to tolerate with piece of crap anymore...
as, it's not just us, the close peers are suffering with her 2-face tactic... but my dear technical buddies were yelled at by 2-face too...
i know... since the begining, 2-face has always hated those who "does more than he/she should", as... to 2-face, this spoil her "market", and uplift the standard that she does not want to comply to... as people will then, expect her to work more, do more, which she basically is incapable of performing, or does not have the courage to take up the responsibility to carry out the job...
anyway... i voiced out, it's not because i'm looking for solution... come on!! you do not cut deal with terrorists, you do not cut deal with evils...
i voiced out, it's because i want to send the message across,
CLEAR! AND LOUD!
2008-07-22
NUMB
sometimes... at the blink of my eyes, I suddenly remember, that she's not around anymore, it hurts
sometimes... when I doze off, and I got up again, I realise, she's not around anymore, it hurts, really...
sometimes... when I go out and see those nice beautiful accessories for hair, little decorative stuff, I know how thrifty she was and that she'd always look at them but never bought them for herself, and that, I'll get some for her AND she'll keep them nicely in the cupboard... it hurts... deeply!!!
sometimes... when I come home late, I thought I've forgotten to sms her, or call her for the day, I realise, she's not around anymore... it's like my soul was lost
sometimes... before I sleep, lying in bed, I also thought I've not called her for the day, or, I have not heard for voice for the whole day... I suddenly realise, she's not around anymore...
sometimes... when I sleep in during the weekend, and when I finally got up at noon, I thought I haven't heard from her for the whole long weekend... I suddenly realise, she's not around anymore... I feel empty...
soemtimes... when I see my little nephew, I hope I can feel her presence, as he's the one she worries most... I realise, my nephew, has already lost a grandmother who'll lovingly carry him, while she was cooking, while she was doing the laundrette... it's sorrowful...
sometimes... at the blink of my eyes, I still see my father's suffering face, while he's fighting for his life in the hospital, especially when he couldn't control his body due to brain damage, and he was having this spasm... it's tormenting...
sometimes... I still recall the night, when the ambulance was taking my father back to the hospital in my home town, we're told, his heart stop beeping for 3 times... while my father was squeezing his way through the tunnel of life, she's already waved goodbye to the world... and us, and the husband she's kept company with, loyally, undoubtedly, the whole of her life...
sometimes... I do think that, my father will live happily ever after... and he has to... cos, she's given him her lifespan... and she's accompanied him, while he was on the way back home, in the ambulance... with God's blessing!!!
sometimes... I know I should be strong, and not linger on her passing away anymore... BUT, at the blink of the eyes... no matter how busy or how "happy" I am during the day, at the blink of the eyes... I remember... she's not around anymore... and... it hurts...
sometimes... when I doze off, and I got up again, I realise, she's not around anymore, it hurts, really...
sometimes... when I go out and see those nice beautiful accessories for hair, little decorative stuff, I know how thrifty she was and that she'd always look at them but never bought them for herself, and that, I'll get some for her AND she'll keep them nicely in the cupboard... it hurts... deeply!!!
sometimes... when I come home late, I thought I've forgotten to sms her, or call her for the day, I realise, she's not around anymore... it's like my soul was lost
sometimes... before I sleep, lying in bed, I also thought I've not called her for the day, or, I have not heard for voice for the whole day... I suddenly realise, she's not around anymore...
sometimes... when I sleep in during the weekend, and when I finally got up at noon, I thought I haven't heard from her for the whole long weekend... I suddenly realise, she's not around anymore... I feel empty...
soemtimes... when I see my little nephew, I hope I can feel her presence, as he's the one she worries most... I realise, my nephew, has already lost a grandmother who'll lovingly carry him, while she was cooking, while she was doing the laundrette... it's sorrowful...
sometimes... at the blink of my eyes, I still see my father's suffering face, while he's fighting for his life in the hospital, especially when he couldn't control his body due to brain damage, and he was having this spasm... it's tormenting...
sometimes... I still recall the night, when the ambulance was taking my father back to the hospital in my home town, we're told, his heart stop beeping for 3 times... while my father was squeezing his way through the tunnel of life, she's already waved goodbye to the world... and us, and the husband she's kept company with, loyally, undoubtedly, the whole of her life...
sometimes... I do think that, my father will live happily ever after... and he has to... cos, she's given him her lifespan... and she's accompanied him, while he was on the way back home, in the ambulance... with God's blessing!!!
sometimes... I know I should be strong, and not linger on her passing away anymore... BUT, at the blink of the eyes... no matter how busy or how "happy" I am during the day, at the blink of the eyes... I remember... she's not around anymore... and... it hurts...
How to welcome your new colleague... ^_^
Ya, this is about how to welcome a new colleague, if you're going to have one!!!
1. you bring her to some place in the office building, for eg. a facility, which you think you should be proud of, but then, nobody actually uses it
2. then you tell her this, "I don't know why boss employed you, since you have no knowledge of the supposed job or whatsoever, you're just going to mess up the processes, coz, you do not know anything!!!"... when there're chances, you'll repeatedly tell her the same thing
3. it happens that one of your colleague is not around (maybe because she's some family issue to settle) you secretly enjoy that fact that she's not around, by saying to the new colleague, "this colleague of mine, I don't know if she's coming back or not, take such a long leave, she must as well just quit, to release the post to other people!!"
4. you don't have to bring the new colleague to be introduced to other co-workers in the other departments..., easy job isn't it??
5. boss ask you to mentor her, so, you just create a seems to be very complicated mind-mapping slide, but most of the 'branches' in the mind-map, is "read this url for xxx information" and etc.
6. then, you try to give your new colleague some job to do, by asking her to call some suppliers... without giving her any contact details, for eg. who's the person to call, what's the number to call..., even though there's a file in the public folder which you can point to the new colleague, HOWEVER, WELL... you don't have to share... she won't find out...
7. so, when your new colleague (who apparently is not that dumb, manage to get through and get hold of the supplier, BY CALLING THE GENERAL LINE OF THE COMPANY AND ENQUIRE FOR WHATEVER INFORMATION THAT SHE REALLY REALLY NEEDS) and when you find out, you pretend that you do not know anything and just have to shamelessly ask, "oh!! how did you find out??"
8. on the other hand, you repeatedly tell your boss, that this new colleague is not ready to do any work, not competitive and so on... mm... let me see... as long as you can tell as much crap as you can, it works, anyway, you can only tell craps right??
9. then, one fine day, there's some technical requirement, which you'll have to work out some bill-of-material, you told your co-worker that, you don't do that type of work (mm... coz, your work is just to sit there to tell others what to do, and tell others, whta's their job, that's your job, you don't have to do anything)... but when you can't argue over who's supposed to work out the bill-of-material, you finally take the job... coz, you can pass it to your new colleague, which, oh ho!! you're very sure that, she won't know what to do... and you won't look stupid!! SHE'LL BE THE ONE, SHE'LL BE THE ONE!!
10. AND it really happens... cool, she send the file to the wrong supplier, so, you try to exaggerate it, by jumping super high!!! and shouted to her that, "you're going to tell boss about this, I'm not going to tell, it's your fault!! I'm not going to face boss for this!!!", cool isn't it?? and you MAKE VERY SURE that she'll be "escorted" to boss' room and she'll tell that to boss herself!!! THAT'S THE WAY to welcome a new colleague!!!
11. all the job your new colleague has done, you continuously condemn it, and every single job, you QC'ed, pretend to be boss, and "cc" to the real boss... mm... to show that how much effort you've put in, to make sure things are right!!! (ironic!! but it sure works)
12. then, this new colleague, after 4-5 days upon joining, was finally intimidated and terrorised, decided to quit the job... you somehow may feel fear..., so, now, you start to lobby the other colleague in your team, to back you up, and you try to be nice to the new colleague... mm... just have to sound sweeter and a little bit polite, that's what you always do, when you need to get things done, cos, you reckon, it's called "professional", however, when it's not a work that you wanna do, or boss doesn't see!!! you play deaf, you play dumb... eh... boss is not going to know if I work or not anyway, as long as I have to do the work, boss have to be made known!!! I just have to continuously trash other's work, whever they do, whatever they say, the first thing I respond, must be "you're wrong, you're not supposed to do that!!" then I just have to take what they've just said and rephrase it, make it sound so complicated, cos, when it sounds so complicated (which is in fact, a simple matter) then, I will be able to step in again, and solve it, so, I'll be GOOD!!... that sounds smart!! AND in order to avoid any complication or backfire on myself, I shall always end my sentence with "just for your information"... so... it's just for your information, it's no big deal, I'm not going to bear any responsibility!!!
13. this new colleague, finally decide to leave... and there's no way return... you just have to quickly come out with a story to cover up with your bully!!!!
14. so, from tomorrow onwards, you can't wait to tell all important partners, co-workers, "she gives up on herself", "she can't take the stress", "she's not competent"!!!!! you must tell!! even if you do not tell, people will ask, and that's the reasoning that you're going to say.... AND before people ask, you should take the first step to tell the whole world first, to stop them from asking!!! cos, you've already fed them with the information!!
15. therefore, you tell your co-workers, you tell your business partners, and you just need some more guts, to even tell her ex-colleagues in the previous company, that "she is incompetent!", "she couldn't take up the stress", you just have to continuously tell that to everybody, then... lie, will become truth!!!
YEAH!! that's how one welcomes one's new colleague!!! and that's the rule of thumb of the new century!!! ^_^ Yeah!!
1. you bring her to some place in the office building, for eg. a facility, which you think you should be proud of, but then, nobody actually uses it
2. then you tell her this, "I don't know why boss employed you, since you have no knowledge of the supposed job or whatsoever, you're just going to mess up the processes, coz, you do not know anything!!!"... when there're chances, you'll repeatedly tell her the same thing
3. it happens that one of your colleague is not around (maybe because she's some family issue to settle) you secretly enjoy that fact that she's not around, by saying to the new colleague, "this colleague of mine, I don't know if she's coming back or not, take such a long leave, she must as well just quit, to release the post to other people!!"
4. you don't have to bring the new colleague to be introduced to other co-workers in the other departments..., easy job isn't it??
5. boss ask you to mentor her, so, you just create a seems to be very complicated mind-mapping slide, but most of the 'branches' in the mind-map, is "read this url for xxx information" and etc.
6. then, you try to give your new colleague some job to do, by asking her to call some suppliers... without giving her any contact details, for eg. who's the person to call, what's the number to call..., even though there's a file in the public folder which you can point to the new colleague, HOWEVER, WELL... you don't have to share... she won't find out...
7. so, when your new colleague (who apparently is not that dumb, manage to get through and get hold of the supplier, BY CALLING THE GENERAL LINE OF THE COMPANY AND ENQUIRE FOR WHATEVER INFORMATION THAT SHE REALLY REALLY NEEDS) and when you find out, you pretend that you do not know anything and just have to shamelessly ask, "oh!! how did you find out??"
8. on the other hand, you repeatedly tell your boss, that this new colleague is not ready to do any work, not competitive and so on... mm... let me see... as long as you can tell as much crap as you can, it works, anyway, you can only tell craps right??
9. then, one fine day, there's some technical requirement, which you'll have to work out some bill-of-material, you told your co-worker that, you don't do that type of work (mm... coz, your work is just to sit there to tell others what to do, and tell others, whta's their job, that's your job, you don't have to do anything)... but when you can't argue over who's supposed to work out the bill-of-material, you finally take the job... coz, you can pass it to your new colleague, which, oh ho!! you're very sure that, she won't know what to do... and you won't look stupid!! SHE'LL BE THE ONE, SHE'LL BE THE ONE!!
10. AND it really happens... cool, she send the file to the wrong supplier, so, you try to exaggerate it, by jumping super high!!! and shouted to her that, "you're going to tell boss about this, I'm not going to tell, it's your fault!! I'm not going to face boss for this!!!", cool isn't it?? and you MAKE VERY SURE that she'll be "escorted" to boss' room and she'll tell that to boss herself!!! THAT'S THE WAY to welcome a new colleague!!!
11. all the job your new colleague has done, you continuously condemn it, and every single job, you QC'ed, pretend to be boss, and "cc" to the real boss... mm... to show that how much effort you've put in, to make sure things are right!!! (ironic!! but it sure works)
12. then, this new colleague, after 4-5 days upon joining, was finally intimidated and terrorised, decided to quit the job... you somehow may feel fear..., so, now, you start to lobby the other colleague in your team, to back you up, and you try to be nice to the new colleague... mm... just have to sound sweeter and a little bit polite, that's what you always do, when you need to get things done, cos, you reckon, it's called "professional", however, when it's not a work that you wanna do, or boss doesn't see!!! you play deaf, you play dumb... eh... boss is not going to know if I work or not anyway, as long as I have to do the work, boss have to be made known!!! I just have to continuously trash other's work, whever they do, whatever they say, the first thing I respond, must be "you're wrong, you're not supposed to do that!!" then I just have to take what they've just said and rephrase it, make it sound so complicated, cos, when it sounds so complicated (which is in fact, a simple matter) then, I will be able to step in again, and solve it, so, I'll be GOOD!!... that sounds smart!! AND in order to avoid any complication or backfire on myself, I shall always end my sentence with "just for your information"... so... it's just for your information, it's no big deal, I'm not going to bear any responsibility!!!
13. this new colleague, finally decide to leave... and there's no way return... you just have to quickly come out with a story to cover up with your bully!!!!
14. so, from tomorrow onwards, you can't wait to tell all important partners, co-workers, "she gives up on herself", "she can't take the stress", "she's not competent"!!!!! you must tell!! even if you do not tell, people will ask, and that's the reasoning that you're going to say.... AND before people ask, you should take the first step to tell the whole world first, to stop them from asking!!! cos, you've already fed them with the information!!
15. therefore, you tell your co-workers, you tell your business partners, and you just need some more guts, to even tell her ex-colleagues in the previous company, that "she is incompetent!", "she couldn't take up the stress", you just have to continuously tell that to everybody, then... lie, will become truth!!!
YEAH!! that's how one welcomes one's new colleague!!! and that's the rule of thumb of the new century!!! ^_^ Yeah!!
2008-07-18
How I still wish, it's a dream...
It’s not easy for all of these to set in me…
I think, it’s mainly because I’ve always been faraway from home, since I was 18…
Sometimes, I’ll wonder, why I have not received any sms from my mother…
Or, why she hasn’t called me at the end of the day, or during the weekend…
It’s not easy… as it’s already becoming a habit between my mother and me… for the past 5-6 years… even while I was away…
Irregardless which country that I was heading to, with him, the first thing that I do, was to get the pre-paid phone card in the destination, so that I’ll be able to sms my mother… from time to time…
My mother would always update me of the little daily activities back at home, or what’s my cute nephews have done…
But now… the sms never comes anymore
Or the phone never rings anymore…
Sometimes, while I was daydreaming, or while I just got up from my long night sleep, or afternoon nap… I tend to forget what’s happened for the past 3 months…
For eg. Last Friday, when I just got back from my work, late night, for a split second, I was wondering, why I have not received any sms from my mother today…
Then… when I realized… the sadness started to set in me again…
I know… I know, it’ll take a long time, probably longer time that it’s supposed to be… as I’ve always been faraway from home…
Therefore, I need more time to learn the fact that… the owner of the handphone, and the person who used to exchange sms with me every single day for the past few years…
Has left us…
I think, it’s mainly because I’ve always been faraway from home, since I was 18…
Sometimes, I’ll wonder, why I have not received any sms from my mother…
Or, why she hasn’t called me at the end of the day, or during the weekend…
It’s not easy… as it’s already becoming a habit between my mother and me… for the past 5-6 years… even while I was away…
Irregardless which country that I was heading to, with him, the first thing that I do, was to get the pre-paid phone card in the destination, so that I’ll be able to sms my mother… from time to time…
My mother would always update me of the little daily activities back at home, or what’s my cute nephews have done…
But now… the sms never comes anymore
Or the phone never rings anymore…
Sometimes, while I was daydreaming, or while I just got up from my long night sleep, or afternoon nap… I tend to forget what’s happened for the past 3 months…
For eg. Last Friday, when I just got back from my work, late night, for a split second, I was wondering, why I have not received any sms from my mother today…
Then… when I realized… the sadness started to set in me again…
I know… I know, it’ll take a long time, probably longer time that it’s supposed to be… as I’ve always been faraway from home…
Therefore, I need more time to learn the fact that… the owner of the handphone, and the person who used to exchange sms with me every single day for the past few years…
Has left us…
I did it... it's for my future
Today… finally I said it…
I said it!! I’m relieved… and pleased with myself… else, my future will be in hell…
This morning, we’d a unit meeting…
When I see my boss’ new structure in our team, the first thing I asked, “is this finalized??”
My boss said, maybe, maybe not, as there’s another person to be hired…
I saw her plan, it’s similar to the beginning (Q1) of last year, when she first planned for our unit…
The following is my word, and my message to her, and to my colleagues… yes, in front of them, I said it… no fear, and I’ve not wronged anybody…
I told my boss, “last year, we’ve the similar structure, and I couldn’t work with her, that’s the reason, I eventually take back everything and worked alone, I’d rather stick to it”…
But my boss is worried about anybody to stand-in, if I’m not around, I told her, that she does not have to worry, as… TO-BE-BOSS always claimed that, she KNOWS EVERYTHING… so, why worry??
I did use the words “she knows everything” (eliminated the “she claimed that herself”)
Followed by that, I said, “I’d rather it to be like the latter structure, ie. I do everything myself, so that I can keep my time and effort focus, rather than spending it, on unforeseeable and uncontrollable circumstances…”
Of course, on the other hand, to-be-boss was saying, “I’m fine with everything in fact!!” (yes, as she said, she’s always fine with everything in front of us, when in front of boss… however, when we turn out back to her, she’ll tell boss that, she doesn’t want to do Microsoft licensing, and she doesn’t want to meet customer… irregardless boss has spent so much time and effort to train her and invested in her… and THAT give me the bullet… if boss allows her “not to” do this and that, then, boss shall not force me to work with somebody I despise that much!!! Of course, I don’t use the word “despise” --- that’s what I called “2-face”)
So, now, my boss officially knows that, I don’t have chemistry with to-be-boss… if you were to trace the time line, since last April, I’ve already stopped working with her, and since last August – September, I’ve already stopped interacting and talking directly to her…
Who wants to talk to 2-face?
Who wants to deal with people who lie?
Who wants to even be with somebody who eavesdrops?
And I feel so sorry for the new joiner who’s decided to leave 1 week after she’s being ‘mentored’ by the to-be-boss, as to-be-boss was very intimidating to her, directly telling her that since she’s no knowledge at all on what she’s going to deal with, why boss wanted to employ her and bla bla bla bla… whatever disgusting sentences and self-praising words that’ll come out from her mouth… and within the 1 week of mentoring, to-be-boss continuously trashed and criticized her work, giving her no guidance on purpose… etc…
Well… I really do not want to spell it out, and that’s the first and foremost reason, I do not want to deal with her, or have anything gotta do with her… cos, I always believe that, if I were to interact with such personality, I’ll one day, deteriorate myself, and downgraded myself to her level (which I already am, by writing this blog, however, I give myself allowance, only in blog-form)
Therefore, I’m pretty pleased with my own ‘performance’ and truthfulness this morning… by speaking out the truth, as I really do feel sad that, while my other colleague and I were pretending to be good with her (or at least, not against her) that, indirectly encouraged this behaviour and that both of us were also quietly condoning her intimidating bully!!! My other colleague was the BIGGEST victim…
Before this meeting, I had a short conversation with my boss… when my boss was asking me, if there’s any ‘politics’, I told her, there is, it’s just that, it doesn’t concern her…
While I seek for consultation from him, he said, he WILL at least make an investigation…
If there’s 1 person, who’s problem with to-be-boss… the 1 person, could be the problem him/herself, if there’s 2 person, maybe the fact is still weak, however, if there’s 4 person, or 5 person, who really cannot work with this to-be-boss, then, something really is very very wrong…
That’s also the reason I’ve decided to speak out…
As while I was so frustrated to hear news about her, and all her sick behaviour in office, including calling my other colleague bad names, which she later denied, while questioned by my boss… and with my frustration, I kind of tell the story to my other friends, every one of them came back to me and tell me that my boss didn’t do a good job…
The thing is, I like her, VERY MUCH, and I think, she’s a very good and different type of boss, sometimes, she’s like my elder sister, and sometimes, she’ll give me good advice, about work… about family, and etc. as she usually have very different insight about problem solving, in a very fresh and kid-like manner however, also with some maturity of thoughts… (which is very different from other possible good bosses who always advised you based on their lengthy experience, where you just think that, they’re just too old) ... in one way, I defended her, while I hear those response, in another way, when you repeated hear the similar comment from different people, you know that, maybe something is wrong, and yes, you’ve gotta do something… so that, it won’t look too bad for a person who I adore (my boss)
At the same time… I know her situation, for eg. When my other colleague told me of her suffering, I couldn’t do a thing, cos, to-be-boss didn’t mess with me, as I have stopped looking at her or hearing her since looooooooooooong time ago…. And since I’m not the first person who suffered under her irritating intimidation, I can only advise my colleague to handle it properly… twice, she brought it up to boss, but both time, it’s been denied… first time, it came with the traditional Chinese way of threatening, ie. 1st, you cry, 2nd, you start to talk and scold nonsense, blame people, 3rd, you wanna hang yourself… (一哭二鬧三上吊)
Who can and who will know how to deal with this type of person????? PLEASE TELL ME THEN!!
On the second occasion, when she called my colleague bad names and poke into her work, told her that, her work was incorrect, without any evidence… when brought to boss, to-be-boss SHAMELESSLY denied it… and case-closed…
Today, after the meeting, I told my colleague, next time, we’ll either ignore, or, we’ll handle it ourselves, there’s no need to bring it up to boss anymore, it’ll soon, be a very petty manner…
We just cannot condone such behaviour anymore…
But at the same time, I also advise her, saying that, we still need her…
2 things, to-be-boss is best at doing and we need it…
1. driver for lunch, not for us (as if we care to sit in her car) but for boss… cos, none of us like to drive, and she’s smart enough to always offer when boss is around, but whenever boss is not around, she gives tones of excuses to make others drive
2. to be the super suckup!!! Yes, only she’ll be the best and number 1 person to say all the suckup words and terms to boss… frequently, directly, shamelessly, and brainlessly too… we can’t…
And this evening, I’m again, pretty pleased… as when I asked one of my other colleague, who knows our unit pretty well, that, if there’s somebody in the unit which I really have problem to work with, who will it be, he guessed it correctly… I asked ‘why’, he said, 1 is so motherly nice… and another one, from the look, you can see that, it’s very cunning, of course, easy guess…!!!!!!
Last but not least, I’m relieved…
I’ll definitely hate myself, if I shut up this morning!!!
I said it!! I’m relieved… and pleased with myself… else, my future will be in hell…
This morning, we’d a unit meeting…
When I see my boss’ new structure in our team, the first thing I asked, “is this finalized??”
My boss said, maybe, maybe not, as there’s another person to be hired…
I saw her plan, it’s similar to the beginning (Q1) of last year, when she first planned for our unit…
The following is my word, and my message to her, and to my colleagues… yes, in front of them, I said it… no fear, and I’ve not wronged anybody…
I told my boss, “last year, we’ve the similar structure, and I couldn’t work with her, that’s the reason, I eventually take back everything and worked alone, I’d rather stick to it”…
But my boss is worried about anybody to stand-in, if I’m not around, I told her, that she does not have to worry, as… TO-BE-BOSS always claimed that, she KNOWS EVERYTHING… so, why worry??
I did use the words “she knows everything” (eliminated the “she claimed that herself”)
Followed by that, I said, “I’d rather it to be like the latter structure, ie. I do everything myself, so that I can keep my time and effort focus, rather than spending it, on unforeseeable and uncontrollable circumstances…”
Of course, on the other hand, to-be-boss was saying, “I’m fine with everything in fact!!” (yes, as she said, she’s always fine with everything in front of us, when in front of boss… however, when we turn out back to her, she’ll tell boss that, she doesn’t want to do Microsoft licensing, and she doesn’t want to meet customer… irregardless boss has spent so much time and effort to train her and invested in her… and THAT give me the bullet… if boss allows her “not to” do this and that, then, boss shall not force me to work with somebody I despise that much!!! Of course, I don’t use the word “despise” --- that’s what I called “2-face”)
So, now, my boss officially knows that, I don’t have chemistry with to-be-boss… if you were to trace the time line, since last April, I’ve already stopped working with her, and since last August – September, I’ve already stopped interacting and talking directly to her…
Who wants to talk to 2-face?
Who wants to deal with people who lie?
Who wants to even be with somebody who eavesdrops?
And I feel so sorry for the new joiner who’s decided to leave 1 week after she’s being ‘mentored’ by the to-be-boss, as to-be-boss was very intimidating to her, directly telling her that since she’s no knowledge at all on what she’s going to deal with, why boss wanted to employ her and bla bla bla bla… whatever disgusting sentences and self-praising words that’ll come out from her mouth… and within the 1 week of mentoring, to-be-boss continuously trashed and criticized her work, giving her no guidance on purpose… etc…
Well… I really do not want to spell it out, and that’s the first and foremost reason, I do not want to deal with her, or have anything gotta do with her… cos, I always believe that, if I were to interact with such personality, I’ll one day, deteriorate myself, and downgraded myself to her level (which I already am, by writing this blog, however, I give myself allowance, only in blog-form)
Therefore, I’m pretty pleased with my own ‘performance’ and truthfulness this morning… by speaking out the truth, as I really do feel sad that, while my other colleague and I were pretending to be good with her (or at least, not against her) that, indirectly encouraged this behaviour and that both of us were also quietly condoning her intimidating bully!!! My other colleague was the BIGGEST victim…
Before this meeting, I had a short conversation with my boss… when my boss was asking me, if there’s any ‘politics’, I told her, there is, it’s just that, it doesn’t concern her…
While I seek for consultation from him, he said, he WILL at least make an investigation…
If there’s 1 person, who’s problem with to-be-boss… the 1 person, could be the problem him/herself, if there’s 2 person, maybe the fact is still weak, however, if there’s 4 person, or 5 person, who really cannot work with this to-be-boss, then, something really is very very wrong…
That’s also the reason I’ve decided to speak out…
As while I was so frustrated to hear news about her, and all her sick behaviour in office, including calling my other colleague bad names, which she later denied, while questioned by my boss… and with my frustration, I kind of tell the story to my other friends, every one of them came back to me and tell me that my boss didn’t do a good job…
The thing is, I like her, VERY MUCH, and I think, she’s a very good and different type of boss, sometimes, she’s like my elder sister, and sometimes, she’ll give me good advice, about work… about family, and etc. as she usually have very different insight about problem solving, in a very fresh and kid-like manner however, also with some maturity of thoughts… (which is very different from other possible good bosses who always advised you based on their lengthy experience, where you just think that, they’re just too old) ... in one way, I defended her, while I hear those response, in another way, when you repeated hear the similar comment from different people, you know that, maybe something is wrong, and yes, you’ve gotta do something… so that, it won’t look too bad for a person who I adore (my boss)
At the same time… I know her situation, for eg. When my other colleague told me of her suffering, I couldn’t do a thing, cos, to-be-boss didn’t mess with me, as I have stopped looking at her or hearing her since looooooooooooong time ago…. And since I’m not the first person who suffered under her irritating intimidation, I can only advise my colleague to handle it properly… twice, she brought it up to boss, but both time, it’s been denied… first time, it came with the traditional Chinese way of threatening, ie. 1st, you cry, 2nd, you start to talk and scold nonsense, blame people, 3rd, you wanna hang yourself… (一哭二鬧三上吊)
Who can and who will know how to deal with this type of person????? PLEASE TELL ME THEN!!
On the second occasion, when she called my colleague bad names and poke into her work, told her that, her work was incorrect, without any evidence… when brought to boss, to-be-boss SHAMELESSLY denied it… and case-closed…
Today, after the meeting, I told my colleague, next time, we’ll either ignore, or, we’ll handle it ourselves, there’s no need to bring it up to boss anymore, it’ll soon, be a very petty manner…
We just cannot condone such behaviour anymore…
But at the same time, I also advise her, saying that, we still need her…
2 things, to-be-boss is best at doing and we need it…
1. driver for lunch, not for us (as if we care to sit in her car) but for boss… cos, none of us like to drive, and she’s smart enough to always offer when boss is around, but whenever boss is not around, she gives tones of excuses to make others drive
2. to be the super suckup!!! Yes, only she’ll be the best and number 1 person to say all the suckup words and terms to boss… frequently, directly, shamelessly, and brainlessly too… we can’t…
And this evening, I’m again, pretty pleased… as when I asked one of my other colleague, who knows our unit pretty well, that, if there’s somebody in the unit which I really have problem to work with, who will it be, he guessed it correctly… I asked ‘why’, he said, 1 is so motherly nice… and another one, from the look, you can see that, it’s very cunning, of course, easy guess…!!!!!!
Last but not least, I’m relieved…
I’ll definitely hate myself, if I shut up this morning!!!
無題… Nothingness…
我喜歡看關於人性黑暗面的故事，或戲。。。
只因為，我一直都很好奇，人，被剝削了黑暗面之後，剩下的還有多少的光明？？
我們都是罪人，只有面對自己的黑暗，才能夠找到光明的那面？然而。。。被剝削了之後，還剩下有多少？？
I have always liked to watch shows that are a little bit dark… that discuss about the darkness of human…
Therefore, I’ve always loved shows like Criminal Minds, Boston Legal, House, movies like Identity, Babel… (Shirley said to Alan when she wanted him to take up one case, where it obviously did not have much winning point… for a simple reason, where Alan’s the capability to explore other’s darkness… when Alan heard it, he didn’t know whether he should take it as a compliment, or an insult… anyway… Boston Legal has elements about human’s darkness… as well as House)
Well… as far as I can remember, there aren’t many movies, that actually explore of the darkness of human being that’ll be shown on screen… maybe that’s because it’s too much for the normal public to absorb, at one seating in the theatre… for eg. Babel, it’s a good show, but maybe not so as a ticket-selling blockbuster… too much!! Too much!!
However... of course, there’re so many good shows as such, where my favourite sweet heart Christian Bale has participated in ^_^V...
Anyway… what I’ve been always wondering is…
If the darkness in a human is slowly peeled off… will there be any brightness left? How much? And how beautiful it’ll be??
We’re all sinners… and we’ve to face our own sin…
Only by facing our own sin, then we’ll be able to see what’s left in us… to move forward to the brightness…
At the same time, I love extremely bright show… for eg. August Rush!! How sweet and how beautiful the show is… (Grin!!) with Freddie Highmore…
只因為，我一直都很好奇，人，被剝削了黑暗面之後，剩下的還有多少的光明？？
我們都是罪人，只有面對自己的黑暗，才能夠找到光明的那面？然而。。。被剝削了之後，還剩下有多少？？
I have always liked to watch shows that are a little bit dark… that discuss about the darkness of human…
Therefore, I’ve always loved shows like Criminal Minds, Boston Legal, House, movies like Identity, Babel… (Shirley said to Alan when she wanted him to take up one case, where it obviously did not have much winning point… for a simple reason, where Alan’s the capability to explore other’s darkness… when Alan heard it, he didn’t know whether he should take it as a compliment, or an insult… anyway… Boston Legal has elements about human’s darkness… as well as House)
Well… as far as I can remember, there aren’t many movies, that actually explore of the darkness of human being that’ll be shown on screen… maybe that’s because it’s too much for the normal public to absorb, at one seating in the theatre… for eg. Babel, it’s a good show, but maybe not so as a ticket-selling blockbuster… too much!! Too much!!
However... of course, there’re so many good shows as such, where my favourite sweet heart Christian Bale has participated in ^_^V...
Anyway… what I’ve been always wondering is…
If the darkness in a human is slowly peeled off… will there be any brightness left? How much? And how beautiful it’ll be??
We’re all sinners… and we’ve to face our own sin…
Only by facing our own sin, then we’ll be able to see what’s left in us… to move forward to the brightness…
At the same time, I love extremely bright show… for eg. August Rush!! How sweet and how beautiful the show is… (Grin!!) with Freddie Highmore…
MUSE
Haha!! I’m not sure if I’ve taken over the thrill to announce this to the whole world, but I’m pretty happy that we’ve finally found out a url “name”, for my friend’s blog.. ^_^
See… he’s started asking me (when I told him I bought a domain for myself) since I was back in my hometown… troubled with a site that he should choose for himself…
Well, the template you can change at anytime you wish (personally, I prefer multiply still, but for “starter”, ^_^, I recommended him to register with blogger, ie. He’ll get a xxx.blogspot.com), and the “title”, you can rename it many time, but the url link, providing nobody takes it up, it’s yours…
He didn’t want a link with his name… (ya, the combination of his name is a bit err… ^,^)
And I didn’t want him to simply choose a url link that may attract the wrong crowd… or that they may simply leave any trashy comments…
So, I started by asking him, if there’s anything memorable during his school time, where the “term” is not so common but not so uncommon too…
Since he’s a petroleum engineer…
And since I was pretty free before I started my work again, I went to those University online oil & gas glossary to pick some terms for him…
The thing is…
Neither he nor me could remember any of those…
Ok… then, it’s today…
The first thing I thought about was “alluvial”…
Ya ya… those common but yet uncommon names…
What he told me was ~_~, then, he’ll attract a lot of geologists onboard, or even archeologists ^_^…
Ok, case rest… so, I was trying to think of another name…
Which… you’ll be surprised, how your mind will switch and wander so far away…
Since he does not have much memorable days, so, I thought about my own time there…
During my second year summer holiday, before, I proceeded to Algarve for my third year fieldtrip… I worked with this Professor Michael Warner for a month…
Which was like… a total charity from him… he asked me to tidy up his research materials and paper and categorize them… that was year 1998
The research that he was doing, was the Mexican meteorite impact site, called Chicxulub…
Haha, so, the next “term” that I recommended to my friend, was “chicxulub”… but well… it was a bit uncommon…
So, I went online and search for more information and link between “chicxulub” and mike warner…
There you go… the project he was in charge, he called it “project muse”…
Cool huh!!! Immediately I fell in love with this word….
From dictionary.com
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muse [myooz] Pronunciation Key verb, mused, mus•ing.
–verb (used without object)
1. to think or meditate in silence, as on some subject.
2. Archaic. to gaze meditatively or wonderingly.
–verb (used with object)
3. to meditate on.
4. to comment thoughtfully or ruminate upon.
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[Origin: 1300–50; ME musen to mutter, gaze meditatively on, be astonished <>
So, I recommended this word to my friend…
But being an internet user for quite a long while… I’ve a feeling that, it’s been taken up… yes, it was… m-_-m
(I even kinda forced him to take it up ^_^ cos, I liked the word personally, I told him if he doesn’t want it, I’d want to “occupy” the link)
So, there gone the muse.blogspot.com, or, even i-muse.blogspot.com
In the end, I can only suggest to him…
muse-i.blogspot.com
there you go…
let’s see what he’s put there!!!!
http://muse-i.blogspot.com
See… he’s started asking me (when I told him I bought a domain for myself) since I was back in my hometown… troubled with a site that he should choose for himself…
Well, the template you can change at anytime you wish (personally, I prefer multiply still, but for “starter”, ^_^, I recommended him to register with blogger, ie. He’ll get a xxx.blogspot.com), and the “title”, you can rename it many time, but the url link, providing nobody takes it up, it’s yours…
He didn’t want a link with his name… (ya, the combination of his name is a bit err… ^,^)
And I didn’t want him to simply choose a url link that may attract the wrong crowd… or that they may simply leave any trashy comments…
So, I started by asking him, if there’s anything memorable during his school time, where the “term” is not so common but not so uncommon too…
Since he’s a petroleum engineer…
And since I was pretty free before I started my work again, I went to those University online oil & gas glossary to pick some terms for him…
The thing is…
Neither he nor me could remember any of those…
Ok… then, it’s today…
The first thing I thought about was “alluvial”…
Ya ya… those common but yet uncommon names…
What he told me was ~_~, then, he’ll attract a lot of geologists onboard, or even archeologists ^_^…
Ok, case rest… so, I was trying to think of another name…
Which… you’ll be surprised, how your mind will switch and wander so far away…
Since he does not have much memorable days, so, I thought about my own time there…
During my second year summer holiday, before, I proceeded to Algarve for my third year fieldtrip… I worked with this Professor Michael Warner for a month…
Which was like… a total charity from him… he asked me to tidy up his research materials and paper and categorize them… that was year 1998
The research that he was doing, was the Mexican meteorite impact site, called Chicxulub…
Haha, so, the next “term” that I recommended to my friend, was “chicxulub”… but well… it was a bit uncommon…
So, I went online and search for more information and link between “chicxulub” and mike warner…
There you go… the project he was in charge, he called it “project muse”…
Cool huh!!! Immediately I fell in love with this word….
From dictionary.com
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muse [myooz] Pronunciation Key verb, mused, mus•ing.
–verb (used without object)
1. to think or meditate in silence, as on some subject.
2. Archaic. to gaze meditatively or wonderingly.
–verb (used with object)
3. to meditate on.
4. to comment thoughtfully or ruminate upon.
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[Origin: 1300–50; ME musen to mutter, gaze meditatively on, be astonished <>
So, I recommended this word to my friend…
But being an internet user for quite a long while… I’ve a feeling that, it’s been taken up… yes, it was… m-_-m
(I even kinda forced him to take it up ^_^ cos, I liked the word personally, I told him if he doesn’t want it, I’d want to “occupy” the link)
So, there gone the muse.blogspot.com, or, even i-muse.blogspot.com
In the end, I can only suggest to him…
muse-i.blogspot.com
there you go…
let’s see what he’s put there!!!!
http://muse-i.blogspot.com
Cool Day turned HOT
You see… it was another nice and pleasant day today…
The weather was not bad, and he sent me to work… nice and relaxing, and most of the urgent stuff in my work, I’ve settled it, plus covering up the loopholes here and there during my absence day…
Maybe most of the people do not know what I’ve to do…
mm… well… the daily routine costing and pricing, was well taken cared off while I was not around in the office… for the past 2 months…
but I’ve to catch up with the funnels, account planning, training, marketing plan and so on…
no no no… I’m not that busy… in fact… ^_^ (well… I’d rather be “damn free” and yet achieve what I’ve to do in my work, compared to “damn busy”, and achieve the same thing… that’s the difference between “gifted”, and “hardworking”… and of course, in actual fact, I’m neither one of these 2… just simply surviving)
anyway, my biggest worry is, the numbers that I can achieve, or the company can achieve for the remaining 6 months in this calendar year…
so, if any of you is reading… please give me your suggestion, what’s the best way to have $$ in short time frame for an SI company ^_^ for the brands that I’ve alliance with…???
If it’s possible, I wish I can force entry to the enduser environment, install the software and hopefully they’ll get addicted to it, and convert this POC to sales… that’s what I intend to do, but we’ve gotta pick customers wisely… ^_^;;
Anyway… why my cool day turned hot??
It’s because I found out an additional ugly “thread” about the 2-face peer… (now, I’m yet to decide to call her to-be-boss, or 2-face..)
Well… yesterday, she passed me this question posted by my other colleague, by forwarding it to me, conveniently, and expect me to respond, since I’ve said I do not want to work with her... ok, I take it, and I answered it, without notifying her anymore… it’s about software license…
However, in order to have some confirmation, after I responded to the email… I further confirm it with our business partner…
Since the person I ask was busy in the meeting, that’s how he answered me, “I’ve explained to her already, ask her!!”
The first feeling was – I felt rejected… by this person I asked… but usually that’s the way he talks, being a technical folk… usually they’re not a very sociable person…
Then… when I rethink the whole situation, I got stirred up a bit... (damn all my coolness gone away!!! THAT’S WHY, I GLAD THAT I SPEAK AND STAND UP FOR MYSELF, as if any of us still have to continue to put up with BULLY as such in the workplace… @%$#%##%%@%)
See… 2-face already knew the answer, but kept quiet,
While she conveniently passed the query to me, she DIDN”T say anything…
Anyway, that’s the standard and usual way she treats her peers… I’ll rest the case… just again, that shows how much her personality is worth…
When I mentioned this to him, he said, “the behaviour is just like a mouse”… well… sorry to the mouse, I don’t intend to insult you guys… (at least, mice in cartoon are quite cute)
And that’s the very our new colleague decided to leave, 1 week after joining the company, cos, she was constantly being treated in this manner…
Afterall… I’ve to maintain my coolness…
Else, that defeats the purpose, why I stood up and spoke for myself… it’s because, I do not want to allow myself to be further contaminated by this type of petty and evil spirit… as… one of my biggest weakness, is basically what I’m facing today, I do not know how to live like a 2-face person… I do not know how to smile and behave like friends to people I despise and dislike… since the day I was born… in my world, all this while, irregardless how difficult or how irritating a person is… they have 1 face only…
Sometimes, I’ve to deal with difficult co-workers, or partners in my work, however, irregardless how difficult they are… I have this believe, usually I give them my full sincerity, in Chinese words, I give them my ‘all my heart’… some extra effort, or do extra work… to let them feel that, you do care… not personal, but work… and it works… well… I believe nothing beats a truthful character, I don’t have to act, I don’t have to pretend, and I don’t have to have more than 1 face… if I do not know, I ask, if I know, I share… simple… (like Denny Crane said, “I’m simple person” ^_^V) cos, I know that I’m not smart enough to have funny plots, to plot against your peers in order to outshine yourself… I don’t do plots…, if I were to spend my energy and time, I’d rather spend on how to win a deal… that’s all, and it’s that simple…
HOWEVER, to this 2-face, it doesn’t work… cos, the fundamental reason is, 2-face does not have heart, or does not believe in working with all your heart… so, basically we’ve disagreed with each other’s style since day 1!!
Adios!!
(however, if any of you who’re reading this, have good suggestion on how to deal with 2-face people, your advice is very much welcomed!! Or, just pray that, you don’t bump into this type of personality in your life… it sucks!!)
The weather was not bad, and he sent me to work… nice and relaxing, and most of the urgent stuff in my work, I’ve settled it, plus covering up the loopholes here and there during my absence day…
Maybe most of the people do not know what I’ve to do…
mm… well… the daily routine costing and pricing, was well taken cared off while I was not around in the office… for the past 2 months…
but I’ve to catch up with the funnels, account planning, training, marketing plan and so on…
no no no… I’m not that busy… in fact… ^_^ (well… I’d rather be “damn free” and yet achieve what I’ve to do in my work, compared to “damn busy”, and achieve the same thing… that’s the difference between “gifted”, and “hardworking”… and of course, in actual fact, I’m neither one of these 2… just simply surviving)
anyway, my biggest worry is, the numbers that I can achieve, or the company can achieve for the remaining 6 months in this calendar year…
so, if any of you is reading… please give me your suggestion, what’s the best way to have $$ in short time frame for an SI company ^_^ for the brands that I’ve alliance with…???
If it’s possible, I wish I can force entry to the enduser environment, install the software and hopefully they’ll get addicted to it, and convert this POC to sales… that’s what I intend to do, but we’ve gotta pick customers wisely… ^_^;;
Anyway… why my cool day turned hot??
It’s because I found out an additional ugly “thread” about the 2-face peer… (now, I’m yet to decide to call her to-be-boss, or 2-face..)
Well… yesterday, she passed me this question posted by my other colleague, by forwarding it to me, conveniently, and expect me to respond, since I’ve said I do not want to work with her... ok, I take it, and I answered it, without notifying her anymore… it’s about software license…
However, in order to have some confirmation, after I responded to the email… I further confirm it with our business partner…
Since the person I ask was busy in the meeting, that’s how he answered me, “I’ve explained to her already, ask her!!”
The first feeling was – I felt rejected… by this person I asked… but usually that’s the way he talks, being a technical folk… usually they’re not a very sociable person…
Then… when I rethink the whole situation, I got stirred up a bit... (damn all my coolness gone away!!! THAT’S WHY, I GLAD THAT I SPEAK AND STAND UP FOR MYSELF, as if any of us still have to continue to put up with BULLY as such in the workplace… @%$#%##%%@%)
See… 2-face already knew the answer, but kept quiet,
While she conveniently passed the query to me, she DIDN”T say anything…
Anyway, that’s the standard and usual way she treats her peers… I’ll rest the case… just again, that shows how much her personality is worth…
When I mentioned this to him, he said, “the behaviour is just like a mouse”… well… sorry to the mouse, I don’t intend to insult you guys… (at least, mice in cartoon are quite cute)
And that’s the very our new colleague decided to leave, 1 week after joining the company, cos, she was constantly being treated in this manner…
Afterall… I’ve to maintain my coolness…
Else, that defeats the purpose, why I stood up and spoke for myself… it’s because, I do not want to allow myself to be further contaminated by this type of petty and evil spirit… as… one of my biggest weakness, is basically what I’m facing today, I do not know how to live like a 2-face person… I do not know how to smile and behave like friends to people I despise and dislike… since the day I was born… in my world, all this while, irregardless how difficult or how irritating a person is… they have 1 face only…
Sometimes, I’ve to deal with difficult co-workers, or partners in my work, however, irregardless how difficult they are… I have this believe, usually I give them my full sincerity, in Chinese words, I give them my ‘all my heart’… some extra effort, or do extra work… to let them feel that, you do care… not personal, but work… and it works… well… I believe nothing beats a truthful character, I don’t have to act, I don’t have to pretend, and I don’t have to have more than 1 face… if I do not know, I ask, if I know, I share… simple… (like Denny Crane said, “I’m simple person” ^_^V) cos, I know that I’m not smart enough to have funny plots, to plot against your peers in order to outshine yourself… I don’t do plots…, if I were to spend my energy and time, I’d rather spend on how to win a deal… that’s all, and it’s that simple…
HOWEVER, to this 2-face, it doesn’t work… cos, the fundamental reason is, 2-face does not have heart, or does not believe in working with all your heart… so, basically we’ve disagreed with each other’s style since day 1!!
Adios!!
(however, if any of you who’re reading this, have good suggestion on how to deal with 2-face people, your advice is very much welcomed!! Or, just pray that, you don’t bump into this type of personality in your life… it sucks!!)
My JDorama, My Life
The beginning of this year, while my boss was doing my appraisal and also setting my new CPE (don’t ask me what it stands for, I don’t know and don’t remember)
She asked me to pick 2 “elements” to improve – after our management have sent most of the managers to attend this “Character First” workshop… (of course it doesn’t mean that my boss gave me the 49 characters ask me to pick 2 of them, it’s another list that she defines, or pulled from somewhere else)
I cannot remember the first one I chose (oops!)
But after browsing through the list, I couldn’t pick more… so, I picked an unfamiliar term “Kaizen”…
Then… my boss asked me if I know the meaning… I told her that I don’t…
She laughed at me and said, it’s funny why I choose something that I don’t know…
I explained to her, that’s the reason I chose it, as I don’t know what it’s about and therefore I need to learn… so, she later explained to me, what the word defines…
From dictionary.com:
Main Entry: kaizen
Part of Speech: n
Definition: Japanese for continuous and incremental improvement, a business philosophy about working practices and efficiency; improvement in productivity or performance
Etymology: Japanese 'change for the better'
In a way, I was happy that, I… “naturally” was drawn to something that’s so close to me… ie. “ha~ japan!!”
Haha!!
And all I want to say is… yes, ever since I started watching Japanese Dorama since 1997-8, it’s deeply rooted in me…
(again, let me emphasize on the fact that, it doesn’t mean, I’d want to live in this country… to go there as tourist and enjoy the lifestyle is different as to live there… as an OL… eh!! “stressful” is the name!!)
Compared to all other types of drama that I’ve watched (excluding the CBS, Fox and etc., but Taiwanese Chinese drama, HK Chinese drama, China mainland drama and KOREAN drama) I really can’t pick up the rest, and there’s ONLY ONE type that I’ll fall for…
Taiwanese drama – sometimes, for the sake of watching somebody that I like, for eg. Barbie Xu, I’ll watch, cos, I like her
HK Chinese drama – well, for pure entertainment and no brainer purpose, sometimes, I’ll watch them too….
China mainland drama – frankly… while I was in shanghai, while the apartment that we stayed was just opened and the satellite was not fixed and all that we can get wer all the CCTV1-n numbers, Jiangsu, Su Zhou, and etc. TV… after watching for nearly 1 month, I thought I got stupider…
Korean drama – I tried to pick it up (since almost all my friends told me how nice they were) but I can’t… personally, I have no patience to follow the pace in the show, maybe I picked a wrong one, but… whatever…
Come to my favourite Japanese Drama…
Putting aside the classic love dorama like “long vacation”, or “love generation”
They used to produced very ‘authentic’ and different type of drama, mainly based on manga…
For eg. “Eiji” (感應少年)…
For eg. “saimin” (催眠)
。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。
The list is too long for me to mention…
But most importantly is…
Why I like them so much…
Cos, they’ve many many varieties in their story
Life’s not just about love – like those in Korean drama
Life’s not just about family feud – like those in HK drama (TVB’s hot selling products, as I just finished watching “溏心風暴“ – The Heart of Greed)
Cos, love don’t happen over a period of time like in the drama
Or family does not always have feud or a lot of wealth for you to fight for…
Life can be simple and normal, or lightly and funny, just like those in Japanese dramas ^_^
Sometimes, the main characters, they don’t just fall in love, for the sake of falling in love… I appreciate that…
And family… not all families have THAT MUCH money for anybody to fight for, but rather…
They talk about human nature, human behaviour, like what I’ve posted here (http://choongc.multiply.com/journal/item/273 )
They talk about how to deal with difficulties in life and how to move forward... and how to appreciate what you have…
Anyway… that’s the beauty of it, cos, they’re simple dramas…
For the last 2 seasons, something I strongly recommend…
“Bara nai no Hanaya” (沒有薔薇的花店)
“Last friend” (最後的朋友)
^_^
Of course for me, the other “perks” of watching these dorama are all the cute Japanese guys… (drool!!)
She asked me to pick 2 “elements” to improve – after our management have sent most of the managers to attend this “Character First” workshop… (of course it doesn’t mean that my boss gave me the 49 characters ask me to pick 2 of them, it’s another list that she defines, or pulled from somewhere else)
I cannot remember the first one I chose (oops!)
But after browsing through the list, I couldn’t pick more… so, I picked an unfamiliar term “Kaizen”…
Then… my boss asked me if I know the meaning… I told her that I don’t…
She laughed at me and said, it’s funny why I choose something that I don’t know…
I explained to her, that’s the reason I chose it, as I don’t know what it’s about and therefore I need to learn… so, she later explained to me, what the word defines…
From dictionary.com:
Main Entry: kaizen
Part of Speech: n
Definition: Japanese for continuous and incremental improvement, a business philosophy about working practices and efficiency; improvement in productivity or performance
Etymology: Japanese 'change for the better'
In a way, I was happy that, I… “naturally” was drawn to something that’s so close to me… ie. “ha~ japan!!”
Haha!!
And all I want to say is… yes, ever since I started watching Japanese Dorama since 1997-8, it’s deeply rooted in me…
(again, let me emphasize on the fact that, it doesn’t mean, I’d want to live in this country… to go there as tourist and enjoy the lifestyle is different as to live there… as an OL… eh!! “stressful” is the name!!)
Compared to all other types of drama that I’ve watched (excluding the CBS, Fox and etc., but Taiwanese Chinese drama, HK Chinese drama, China mainland drama and KOREAN drama) I really can’t pick up the rest, and there’s ONLY ONE type that I’ll fall for…
Taiwanese drama – sometimes, for the sake of watching somebody that I like, for eg. Barbie Xu, I’ll watch, cos, I like her
HK Chinese drama – well, for pure entertainment and no brainer purpose, sometimes, I’ll watch them too….
China mainland drama – frankly… while I was in shanghai, while the apartment that we stayed was just opened and the satellite was not fixed and all that we can get wer all the CCTV1-n numbers, Jiangsu, Su Zhou, and etc. TV… after watching for nearly 1 month, I thought I got stupider…
Korean drama – I tried to pick it up (since almost all my friends told me how nice they were) but I can’t… personally, I have no patience to follow the pace in the show, maybe I picked a wrong one, but… whatever…
Come to my favourite Japanese Drama…
Putting aside the classic love dorama like “long vacation”, or “love generation”
They used to produced very ‘authentic’ and different type of drama, mainly based on manga…
For eg. “Eiji” (感應少年)…
For eg. “saimin” (催眠)
。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。
The list is too long for me to mention…
But most importantly is…
Why I like them so much…
Cos, they’ve many many varieties in their story
Life’s not just about love – like those in Korean drama
Life’s not just about family feud – like those in HK drama (TVB’s hot selling products, as I just finished watching “溏心風暴“ – The Heart of Greed)
Cos, love don’t happen over a period of time like in the drama
Or family does not always have feud or a lot of wealth for you to fight for…
Life can be simple and normal, or lightly and funny, just like those in Japanese dramas ^_^
Sometimes, the main characters, they don’t just fall in love, for the sake of falling in love… I appreciate that…
And family… not all families have THAT MUCH money for anybody to fight for, but rather…
They talk about human nature, human behaviour, like what I’ve posted here (http://choongc.multiply.com/journal/item/273 )
They talk about how to deal with difficulties in life and how to move forward... and how to appreciate what you have…
Anyway… that’s the beauty of it, cos, they’re simple dramas…
For the last 2 seasons, something I strongly recommend…
“Bara nai no Hanaya” (沒有薔薇的花店)
“Last friend” (最後的朋友)
^_^
Of course for me, the other “perks” of watching these dorama are all the cute Japanese guys… (drool!!)
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