Two-Face, The Season Finale

I know, some of you may have already known the “ending”… however, I know, not many of you know how it came about…
Well… it’s all destinies… again, I’ll say, it’s all nicely scheduled and laid out by God…

My poor colleague has voiced out many time… fruitless…
And I thought… it really sucks now… I mean… working in the same office, with same 2face type of colleague, really sucks now… what more to say, 2face is still 2face…
And… for a small reason, I could not allow myself to tolerate anymore, to face such a person everyday… it’s unhealthy…

Therefore, one fine Friday afternoon, on the 1st of August 2008
I wrote to my boss the below email… I considered it a “soft” resignation… (As both of us realized, even with the bullied colleague leaving, 2 of us voiced out, my boss couldn’t do much about the 2face creature, and expect us to compromise and adapt to working with her… for some unknown reasons, though unknown, I’m not interested to find out, as I’ve always thought of this… if I were to understand WHY my boss will like a 2face person so much, knowing that she created so much trouble, bullied new colleague, I may become one of them, which I’d rather die… frankly)
Prior to that, I’ve already asked around for any job offer in the market, and most of my friends are helpful…
It doesn’t mean that, I’ll land on a job immediately but it’s consoling when you know, you’ve so many other concerning friends, who’re willing to give and lend you a hand during bad time…
Most of the people out there (except 2face herself) know the bad&foul behaviour of 2face… (ya, don’t be deceived by her when she told you, she can easily get a job anywhere, as everybody knows her… And she even claimed that, she can “sit in the room” if she gets a job anywhere else…)

So, I wrote…

Hi Boss,

Thanks for listening to me over the 2 sessions of talk lately since last Friday.

However, I believe, anything that has to be communicated has been done, and I do not expect you to understand how I feel, or to believe anything I've said, but there's one thing that's undeniable for you or me, is the feeling that I am having now - I despise mess like this, and I despise the creator of mess.

It may not be tiring for you to find long list of reason to defend a person to that extent, however, it's tiring for me to listen, and exhausting plus damaging for me to be even in the same space with a person of such negative aura.

Boss, the end result will be the same, I do have intention to leave, and the intention is getting more vivid daily.
My point is,
We all spend > 10 hours a day in work, 5 days a week, so, I cannot even persuade myself, even 1 reason, to put up with a peer, whose character is beyond words and tolerance.

Boss, if you truly cherish me as a worker, please give me your support for me to be transferred to another department, if I am needed in any of them.
That will be soft and tender separation.
However, I'll understand if it's beyond your control, then, I'll write you a formal letter next week.
I am sorry that I may most probably make you feel sorry, but I truly believe, we're all adults who will be responsible for our own choice.

Cheers
Choong

The only “good” thing about the existence of 2face is… you’ll constantly remind yourself not be like one of them… live not, to be a 2face…
And yes… another underlying reason is that… during that time, I “suspected” I may have somebody in me to protect… and therefore, I’ve to make sure I will be away from evil “Qi”…

Chronologically…
On Monday… my boss wrote me a short email, saying that, “I heard what you say”...

And I’ve given up in talking… as it doesn’t really get to the point, as people sometimes and most of the time are not good listeners…
Therefore, I wrote again…

Hi Boss,

I know it's not easy for you, but please do not get me wrong and I know it's not easy for you to make any decision, that's why I have my own decision, "Control your destiny or somebody else will." - Jack Welsh. (that's my favourite quote)

it's really getting more unhealthy for me to stay in the same unit with a colleague who wishes you all the worst in the heart.

寧爲玉碎不為瓦全, Boss, 玉, is my personal growth, as a human, in a whole.
And I have not made my decision irrationally, in fact, if possible, I do want to move to solution sales, something related to SW, then, I can help to be in the workforce to grow our company numbers. That's the reason; I'll need your support, as you're always a good mentor to me.

thanks
regards
Choong

I do not know how others can survive if they’ve close co-workers that they really really cannot stand working with… but for sure, I know myself well… I will not tolerate…
There’re difficult people… and demanding people… but most of this type of people that I’ve encountered, after working with them with your truly sincere heart… they’ll accept you and be good to you… however… characters like 2face… like what I’ve said, “it’s beyond words and tolerance”… FULLSTOP

On Monday afternoon… as my boss has handover this “case” to her boss… we’re all called in individually… to meet the boss’ boss…
I thought it’ll be an offering to put me in another department…
That’s why… I mentioned, God’s arranging all of these nicely for my poor colleague and me…
In the room, boss’ boss said, his resolution is to move 2face out of the team… he doesn’t want to know in details why and how… and I, as I’ve said I’ve given up on talking to them as well…
I was pretty shocked with the new arrangement, and his resolution, I actually asked him, how long did he take to think of this resolution, he said, just a few minutes, and he said, my boss took a long time and yet couldn’t resolve it’s because she’s a woman!!! ^_^ ya, I know, sounded sexist huh… however… I guess, most men in managerial posts will do the same thing as he did… another reason is also… which most of us know deep down in my heart is that, my boss’ “shoes” have been “polished” shiningly by 2face.. which she just couldn’t make any logical decision anymore… (lately… I heard from other colleague who also mentioned about how their relationship was during my 2.5 months absence… she said, nobody with the right mind, will suck up to that extent…!!)

Anyway… now, my colleague and I have opportunity to work in a much much much much more peaceful and calm environment, and we’ve moved away from 2face…
Apparently 2face is still the same, even to the new team member…
Still as boastful, still as bossy, still as rude, and still eavesdrop…
Ya… there ARE people, who just don’t learn and don’t get the message…

Why “season finale” and not grand finale?? ^_^
As we all know that… serious…
2face will never leave the company, as… from some “intel” that I gather out there… most of the people, not even our competitor will not want to employ her… (as, some time last year, we have minor evidence, for eg. A printed certificate left on the printer, “oh!! How careless are you!!” and we suspected that she was looking for job, and she was taking some days off, then… no news…)
But one thing we’re sure is… both my colleague and I will leave the job one day… and 2face will definitely continue with her one and only polish skill… to get what she wants… however, one thing for sure, we will not stay back and watch…

I will never Forget

My Dear,

I’ll never forget the moment I saw you, you’re so tiny and “minute”… Dr. told me, “see, that’s the heartbeat”, it took me a while to figure out the blinking spot on the black & white screen…

When I know that you’ve come into my life… I was relieved… (ya… after so long…)
But I cried, very hard… I know I should not be feeling it that way, but I really do feel, very sad…
Because… the dearest person in my life, who deserves this news most (besides him) has departed from this world… and never even really said a good “Good Bye” to all of us, me, my brothers, and my father… that was a rainy Easter Sunday afternoon… March 23rd…
I can imagine the joy in her eyes and her sincere expression on here face if I tell her this good news, but… I never had the chance to tell the dearest person my life, this good news anymore… not anymore…. And therefore, I cried… this is her long awaiting news, and she’s been eagerly looking forward to hear it… but this is a news that’s never come true before the fine Easter Sunday…

My Dear,

Of course I’m very glad and grateful that you’ve finally come into my world, just like my beloved mother has always told me this, “you’ll have children, don’t worry, it’s just that, maybe it’s a bit late”… (I’ve always believed, there’s always a reason, in whatever stage you’re in life…)
I guess… I finally figured out why you come into my life, our life… at this late stage…
It’s because, I, as a daughter, had a job and duty to do…
During those stormy and sad days, I left my job and stayed back in hospital together with my brothers, to look after my father… who’s half-staying-half-leaving in this reality world…
I was worried about my job and couldn’t let go in the beginning, however… after a few round of ‘tests’, I finally realized, what’s the priority in life…
Yes, there’s always and ONLY ONE priority in life… and that’s life… my dear…

And right after I finished my task, as a daughter, and as the big sister… yes, you came into my life, with blessing of my mother, who’s in heaven with God… yes, Glad, and I can’t help to feel sad, whenever I think of my mother…

My Dear…

I’ll never forget the first moment I saw you… you’re so tiny and relax… quietly and calmly resting at the bottom of my womb, I guess… (well, not that I know exactly which orientation and position that view is)
And… the first thing that I’ll tell you when you come to this world… is…
Your grandmother is a very great and kind lady, and a very dedicated Catholic… very helpful, very simple, and adorable and a very selfless lady…
You may be wondering, if you do, why you don’t get so see such great lady anymore… but I’ll do my best to tell you her story as long as I can remember, and I will remember, as she’s my beloved mother… and she’ll give you her blessing, which I know she always does, even before you’ve come into my life…
And even when she’s not in this reality world, I know, and you’ll know that, we all will have her blessing, and God’s blessing…
God’s taken her away for a reason… and one day… we’ll know the reason and the meaning…