Today, I can't help, but to think, when an enjoyable acts, slowly evolved to becoming a courtesy... it's simply not that enjoyable anymore...
That's why, when I was younger, I used to hear my mother saying, if that's your interest, better don't make it your job...
You see... sometimes, we start something, for fun, for enjoyment purpose, but eventually, it evolves to becoming a chore, a courtesy, to me, that's not fun anymore, cos, you HAVE to do it, as it's the usual practice... not because you want to do it...
and I bet you, CHINESE really have a lot of courtesy and practices, especially noticeable during festive season... therefore, sometimes, I'm not very keen on “starting” another new enjoyment session, cos, when you start it, others will expect it to be a 'courtesy' in the future years to come... and that's not fun!!! cos, a lot of people, simply cannot “think out of the box”, the tradition is not meant to be changed, or, to be altered... why?? simply because you don't know it can be changed?? or it can be modified? Or, simply, as I kinda mentioned one day, you don't even know why was it there in the first place!!!
Yep... most of us, (I'll be a bit “conservative” in the sense by not putting the words, “all of us”) do not dare to challenge things which we don't even know anything about it... right??? like the chinese saying, “you know the oponent well, you know yourself well, and therefore you'll win”, but then, to our God, to our traditional belief, it's just sooooooooooo traditional to the extent that, we do not know why was it there in the first place, and if you think properly you don't even know why are you doing this today...
I was brought up in a way, where the festive will be filled up with visiting, day 1, we stay at home, waiting for people to come and visit, day 2, we go out, visiting the others... since I was young, I do wonder, on and off, why we do it day 1 in, day 2 out?? and what about the others?? those on the “receiving” side, why are they sort of day 1 in, day 2 out?? isn't that funny?? have you thought about it?? and who sets this rule?? and when will this rule be changed??
sometimes, it's “shocking” to me that, these type of practice is not even questionable, it's just there, no alternative, till you die... (oops, can I mention this word during this festive season?? ahh... who cares, if I mention it over text, then, shoot me via text)
and I thought... if following the “unknown” tradition, on the second day, we must go back to the wife's hometown?? oh!! that sucks too, imagine, we'll have to rush to the airport with baby, change at least 1 flight, to reach my hometown???
that's why, practice is practice, tradition is tradition, these are all hard and “dead” rules (oops, there I mention the forbidden word again!!) but we, human is alive... 書是死的，人是活的，傳統是死的，我們是活着的。
However... I've seen many people, like what I've shared with one of my friends, thing that convenients and favours them, is “usual practice”, and when it doesn't earn them any benefit, well... that's “silence”... nothing to talk about!!! sad huh?? that's human being, anyway... of course, if I put myself in the situation, why should I mention about rules/laws/tradition/practices that's not in my favorite?? Just Why Should I?? right?
At the end of the day, (consultant's talk) I'm having a slight headache now (which I normally do not have any headache, besides my normal “cycle”) and because of that, it's hard for me to fall asleep, cos, the 'ache' just kinda keep bugging me... baby's cold's not recovered yet, due to lack of rest and also the bad weather and bad air-conditioning (the air-conditioner, sigh... shut-off, too hot, switch-on, too dry!!... that's our festive “mood” in this superb festive season!!! ^_^
One good thing... baby seems to have “grown up” a lot, in this superb festive season!!
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