2010-02-13

it takes TWO!!


See... sometimes conflicts happen...
and most of the time when conflicts between 2 adults, or even more adults (ie. That's when gang's formed) happens, it's when 1 + 1 adults start to get sensitive!!

How??
for eg. When first person (adult) said something... which may not really have any double meaning, ie. Bad, but just a comment, and simple and straightforward comment, the person who hears it take it “sensitively”, maybe feel offended, feel sad... and retaliates...
ok... if the person who says it, has higher EQ, then, things will just stop here, and things will be fine, and that, these 2 can still be friends..
BUT, if the first person, also takes the later retaliation “sensitively”, there comes WAR!
Usually... that's how “conflict” between the 2 starts... cos, all of us, interpret things and words differently... and that's also the reason, why, on a bigger scale, conflicts between families, and countries..., sometimes, it's simply because of very simple, no-mean-meaning statement made by 1 party... That party, may not mean bad while making such statement, but then, the “hearer” (not listener, in this context, if you know what I mean) thinks of it otherwise... and a more evil thing is, a “bystander” who “overhead” it, makes and contributes his/her comments, to make an already bad situation worse...!!!

From time to time, I've to constantly remind myself, not to be THAT sensitive... either, the as the “hearer”, or the as the “sayer” who later hears the “retaliation”, or “defense”, just to keep world around me, quieter, if not more peaceful...
but of course, if another person is THAT sensitive, all the time, irregardless what I mention, that's THE END of our story!!!

Lastly, to make the situation even worse, they're not just being SENSITIVE, they're not straightforward either, ya, maybe anyhow it's the same, ie. People with sensitive heart are anyhow not the type of people who're willing to speak straight out from their mind... they like to hide, and they like you to guess, and they try to be “nice”, but that also make them EXTREMELY SENSITIVE!

But afterall... that's what makes this world, SIMPLY FASCINATING!

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