Them? Or them??

I've posted a few entries regarding parenting right?

Attachment parenting,

Idle parenting, whatever you name it…

Afterall… I, of course, am not pro-, or anti- any of the parenting style, as I'm still learning…

And since I'm learning, and therefore, I'm never that perfect…

But irregardless what parenting, or what dr. spock has said…

… against most chinese practices…

Parenting, shouldn't be about control, shouldn't be about YOU!!!

But I do notice, there're certain parents/care-takers,

Bringing up a child's all about them!! (the parents, the care-takers)

And sadly, it's never about them!! (the kids!!)

How sad, isn't it??

It's never about,

"how are you feeling today?"

"I'll just leave you alone to play for a while"

"let me take a close look at you"

Or just by simply talking and treating the child, as a human being…

It's continuous entertainment,

And continuous whatever they think is best for the kids,

But by doing that, there're expectation,

"I carry you, you shouldn't cry!!", (bluek!)

Ya, most of the time, the kid shouldn't cry,

Cry means "no good", (bluek! Again!)

It's very easy to translate,

Cry ~ means,

Kid doesn't like me,

Kid's no good,

Kid's not disciplined enough,

Kid wants to play more,

Kid wants to go out to have fun…

Ya, kid may cries for various reason, especially baby…

But, it's about them, (ie. the kid)

And never about them… (you get it??)

If I've a say,

I'll want my kid to be respected as an individual,

And I definitely do not want my kid's life to be defined by their emotion, happy or unhappy, contented or angry…

She should have her own space, and her own private time…

Though she should go out and interact with a lot of other people too…

And I definitely do not want my kid's mind to be "confined within a closed door"… (only wise people will understand what I mean!!)

Last of all,

The worst type of adults are the type that hold the kid as "ransom", or "trump card"… bluek again!

Like I said, it's only about them, but not about them… sabishii ne~~