i'm currently busy doing my photo scanning with my canon 4400F scanner,
as i was flipping through the thick photo albums, browsing those photos that i've had for years.. fading...
i've to say..
gosh, i really love the advancement of technology..
imagine!
now we've digital camera, snap pictures like nobody business, the limit is the memory card in there
and immediately, we see the result, no good, delete...
imagine!
my friends and i used to send each other via MAIL, i mean, real mail! those that you need to put stamp on the envelop and bring it to the postbox and post!!
and wait for a few days.. sometimes, mail got missing...
only then, it'll reach our friends, and vice versa..
that's how we exchanged our photos
but nowadays...
we just use emails
or, upload it to online photo albums...
gosh, how convenient it is!!!
we don't have to tell our friends to help print out what and what photos anymore
and we don't have to manage and keep those bulky photo albums...
better still.. the best best best technology improvement to me is
the mobile with camera functions
mobile with other functions, doesn't mean so much to me, but with camera... goodness!!!
that's one real big leap in the technology man!
technology, technology...
it makes my day..
it makes my life (ok, part of it!)
ps: and that's why my friend asked me before, what are the things that i'm really willing to spend..
i told her, GAGDETS!
2009-08-28
2009-08-17
If you love him/her, give him/her a baby!!
ok, I thought of this before baby came into our world…
I thought of this… based on my personal experience…
after what we (me, my 2 younger brothers) have been through last year…
I know how lucky I am that, I’ve my brothers with me… (and I hope the they feel the same way too!)
as parents, we’ve to realize the naked truth… that, we won’t be with our baby long…
imagine, if during that time, I was alone… I’d probably will just follow my mother to leave this world…
only with siblings, we know we still have family, to show our weakness when we really want to cry,
only with siblings, we know we have to be even stronger during bad time, cos, we all depends on each other to survive…
friends, relatives, they’ve their own worries, most of the time, what we’ll get is the sympathy… and reasonable help…
unless… unless we’re grown up as the only child in our family and we simply enjoy it, else,
if you love your kid (only one) now, give him/her a brother/sister…
I suppose, having siblings, our kids will have the opportunity to learn ‘rivalry’, ‘compromise’, ‘loving’, ‘caring’, ‘sharing’ since they’re small…
they may love us as we’re their parents, that’s somehow, or maybe, a love in return…
but with siblings, as small as toddlers, or maybe baby… they’ll have the opportunity to learn to love and care, simply because of the blood-tie… unconditional…
I know of many family thinking of having just 1 child, so that the parents can give THE BEST to the 1 child..
but growing up in a family with my 2 younger brothers, I really do not know how an ONLY child will feel in this sense,
and as a parent today, I really to think that, “THE BEST” for our only child, is to give them brother/sister…
to grow up together…
and especially if there’ll be tough time, for eg. the parents are gone (ie. WE will not be by their side anymore)
they will be able to support each other, and live…
I thought of this… based on my personal experience…
after what we (me, my 2 younger brothers) have been through last year…
I know how lucky I am that, I’ve my brothers with me… (and I hope the they feel the same way too!)
as parents, we’ve to realize the naked truth… that, we won’t be with our baby long…
imagine, if during that time, I was alone… I’d probably will just follow my mother to leave this world…
only with siblings, we know we still have family, to show our weakness when we really want to cry,
only with siblings, we know we have to be even stronger during bad time, cos, we all depends on each other to survive…
friends, relatives, they’ve their own worries, most of the time, what we’ll get is the sympathy… and reasonable help…
unless… unless we’re grown up as the only child in our family and we simply enjoy it, else,
if you love your kid (only one) now, give him/her a brother/sister…
I suppose, having siblings, our kids will have the opportunity to learn ‘rivalry’, ‘compromise’, ‘loving’, ‘caring’, ‘sharing’ since they’re small…
they may love us as we’re their parents, that’s somehow, or maybe, a love in return…
but with siblings, as small as toddlers, or maybe baby… they’ll have the opportunity to learn to love and care, simply because of the blood-tie… unconditional…
I know of many family thinking of having just 1 child, so that the parents can give THE BEST to the 1 child..
but growing up in a family with my 2 younger brothers, I really do not know how an ONLY child will feel in this sense,
and as a parent today, I really to think that, “THE BEST” for our only child, is to give them brother/sister…
to grow up together…
and especially if there’ll be tough time, for eg. the parents are gone (ie. WE will not be by their side anymore)
they will be able to support each other, and live…
2009-08-15
"Your children will become what you are; So be what you want them to be"
the other day, I quoted the above saying, saw it online somewhere… (that’s what I do daily in the cyberspace… looking for inspiration ^_^)
and now.. I remember one scene I watched off the Japanese drama, “jikou keisatsu” (時效警察)
the guy – kiriyama
the girl – shizuka (meaning – quiet)
both of them are police, one in the department that’s handling those “cold case” files… in japan, they actually give a timeline to cold cases, 15 years, vs. to US and elsewhere (I’ve not done much research yet, so, this is not absolute!) cold case is still a case, if the murderer is arrested, he still can be convicted, irregardless how many years have passed by…
anyway, that episode, suddenly kiriyama and shizuka were discussing about names, people’s names, and the meaning behind the names…
kiriyama told shizuka, normally, we’re opposite of the meaning of our name,
shizuka asked why, kiriyama further explain by taking her name as an example, he told her that, she’s very talkative, and noisy (she keeps talking most of the time, a very active and lively girl indeed) but yet, her name means “quiet”… see!
then, he further explain,
our name’s given by our parents,
and usually parents will hope that, our children (I said, “usually” only) will be somebody different from us, maybe we think that, we’re too loud, too noisy, so, when we’ve a girl, we hope she’s quiet, and ladylike… and therefore, we give them a name, as what we’ve hoped… in this case, “shizuka” - quiet
but then, kids follow their parents, in the end, the ‘hope’ doesn’t come true, and the girl grows up exactly just like the parents…
ie. shizuka is not shizuka.. but exactly like the parents (of course, I won’t know what the parents’ names are)
in conjunction with this phrase that I’ve quoted, haha, I thought it’s somehow true… ^_^
and now.. I remember one scene I watched off the Japanese drama, “jikou keisatsu” (時效警察)
the guy – kiriyama
the girl – shizuka (meaning – quiet)
both of them are police, one in the department that’s handling those “cold case” files… in japan, they actually give a timeline to cold cases, 15 years, vs. to US and elsewhere (I’ve not done much research yet, so, this is not absolute!) cold case is still a case, if the murderer is arrested, he still can be convicted, irregardless how many years have passed by…
anyway, that episode, suddenly kiriyama and shizuka were discussing about names, people’s names, and the meaning behind the names…
kiriyama told shizuka, normally, we’re opposite of the meaning of our name,
shizuka asked why, kiriyama further explain by taking her name as an example, he told her that, she’s very talkative, and noisy (she keeps talking most of the time, a very active and lively girl indeed) but yet, her name means “quiet”… see!
then, he further explain,
our name’s given by our parents,
and usually parents will hope that, our children (I said, “usually” only) will be somebody different from us, maybe we think that, we’re too loud, too noisy, so, when we’ve a girl, we hope she’s quiet, and ladylike… and therefore, we give them a name, as what we’ve hoped… in this case, “shizuka” - quiet
but then, kids follow their parents, in the end, the ‘hope’ doesn’t come true, and the girl grows up exactly just like the parents…
ie. shizuka is not shizuka.. but exactly like the parents (of course, I won’t know what the parents’ names are)
in conjunction with this phrase that I’ve quoted, haha, I thought it’s somehow true… ^_^
The ENgorgement STRIKE BACK (~~~tHe jOURney of ThE BREASTS~~~ (Part V)
nearly…
nearly I’m going to get the scary mastitis again!!!
this morning, after feeding, found it (the same problematic one) still engorged…
to the extent, you know what?? I can see the little bumps… yikes!
immediately, cold sweat!!! the last time, I didn’t know, so, I got it, nevermind…
now, I know how the thing is exactly like, I don’t want to get it again…
I was worried… I do not want to be rushed to the hospital, probably got jabbed, and be fed with anti-biotic…
yikes!
so, I tried to express… arrgh… dripping… I’m not patient enough to keep expressing…
so, I took out the cabbage leave… people said it works.. but somehow, I don’t see tremendous result…
and I’ve got blister out-front already (cry!) (painful, you know!!)
then, baby got up..
I quickly latch her on, endure the pain… beg her to continue suckling…
that’s this afternoon…
she refused to in the beginning, and sorry baby, mama has to force you (sigh..)
luckily.. with her help, it subside a little bit…
AND.. as I’m writing now (after midnight)
it’s gone… manage to ‘recover’ during the previous feeding, before she went to sleep…
I guess… the bonding when people talk about breastfeeding, is not just the baby being ‘bonded’ to you,
without realizing it… the mother’s already been bonded to the baby too…
I guess…
nearly I’m going to get the scary mastitis again!!!
this morning, after feeding, found it (the same problematic one) still engorged…
to the extent, you know what?? I can see the little bumps… yikes!
immediately, cold sweat!!! the last time, I didn’t know, so, I got it, nevermind…
now, I know how the thing is exactly like, I don’t want to get it again…
I was worried… I do not want to be rushed to the hospital, probably got jabbed, and be fed with anti-biotic…
yikes!
so, I tried to express… arrgh… dripping… I’m not patient enough to keep expressing…
so, I took out the cabbage leave… people said it works.. but somehow, I don’t see tremendous result…
and I’ve got blister out-front already (cry!) (painful, you know!!)
then, baby got up..
I quickly latch her on, endure the pain… beg her to continue suckling…
that’s this afternoon…
she refused to in the beginning, and sorry baby, mama has to force you (sigh..)
luckily.. with her help, it subside a little bit…
AND.. as I’m writing now (after midnight)
it’s gone… manage to ‘recover’ during the previous feeding, before she went to sleep…
I guess… the bonding when people talk about breastfeeding, is not just the baby being ‘bonded’ to you,
without realizing it… the mother’s already been bonded to the baby too…
I guess…
2009-08-14
Asian Value - a Good Husband
I watch mediacorp drama “Love Blossom” (it’s showing on AEC, Part I and Part II, now, showing part II)
and I came across the blog entry by Betty Wu 吳淡如 (she’s a famous TV host and writer in Taiwan, but just to clarify not my favourite of the favourite, my favourite is 張曼娟)
her blog titled: 夾心餅乾是無能的
(url: http://blog.1-apple.com.tw/bettywu/index.cfm?Fuseaction=PersonArticle&ArtID=100462)
全文如下：
大同跟玫瑰交往超過3年，在大同心目中，玫瑰最大的優點就是善解人意。當女朋友時，玫瑰對他的家人一向很好，還會陪大同的爸媽聊電視劇情節與噓寒問暖，讓老人家認定玫瑰是個好媳婦。
可是結婚後，所有的美好想像全部翻盤，玫瑰變得不大願意陪他回老家，也常常批評他父母或家人。例如：希望他妹妹不要這麼晚才來家裡串門子；大同的母親只要多管一些閒事，玫瑰表面上不會頂嘴，回家卻會跟大同抱怨……這些小牢騷讓大同不勝其擾。
有一天，大同下班回家一打開門，就看到玫瑰在生悶氣。原來她剛接到大同母親的電話，婆婆又頒布了些指導原則，要玫瑰照她的方法照顧大同和孫子。在大同眼裡，憤怒中的玫瑰看起來青面獠牙。大同失去了耐心，迅速的以咆哮打斷了玫瑰的控訴：「妳不要讓我當夾心餅乾好不好！」
硬起來別當傳聲筒
很多男人跟大同一樣，真的不了解原本應該賢淑寬容的妻子怎麼會變了樣，讓自己在原生 家庭和新家庭之間，裡外不是人。這些夾心餅乾常覺得自己很可憐，搞不懂妻子為什麼要把關係搞得這麼僵，事實上夾心餅乾都是無能的，無能處理人際關係、無能 化解家庭衝突、沒有意識到自己的角色應該有變化。他們的角色還停留在「兒子、少爺」，而不是「丈夫、父親」。
當男人不能有效阻擋原生家庭來的壓力、扮演有效防火牆的角色時，妻子的壓力就會越來越大，情緒反彈也會越來越激烈，男人才會變成夾心餅乾。夾心餅乾如果可以振作起來別當兩個家庭的傳聲筒，而扮演堵絕雙方壓力的絕緣體，就能夠解決問題。
anyway…
and since I’ve been following “Love Blossom II” every weekdays, neh! the part about “kai wang” (開旺) and “zhi jing” (紫荊)
it struck me as,
hm… our teaching…
I remember, as a girl, my mother taught me on “how to be a good wife” (well, not exactly, but you know what I mean, by learning to do all the housechores, cooking, behave in front of the elderly, who is who, bla bla bla…)
but I’m not sure, and I’M REALLY VERY NOT SURE
if mother/father actually teach their son on “how to be a good husband”
nah… I doubt it… believe me…
ask my brothers, ^_^;;
MEN…!!!
from the blog (well, betty wu’s sharing her friend’s experience as her writing material)
from the movies…
it does seems like, that’s how asian men are brought up, or SPECIFICALLY, Chinese men!
in “love blossom”, when Kai Wang failed to give her wife Zi Jing this “secured” feeling (mostly financially, and also, the future)
his mother told her, “he’s always been like that”
ya… what most wives get is “he’s always been like that” (if any of you get it otherwise, do share!)
and what compliments this, is Betty Wu’s writeup,
she wrote (in the second paragraph) most men, stay as what/who they are, as “son”, as “shao yeh” (cantonese, “siu yeh”)
but not “husband”, “father”, after they got married…
ya, most men are still papa/mama’s boy even after they got married, the thing is, they do not want to admit it…^_^
and that’s why all the “complication” cannot be handled properly…
cos, the man, failed to become the FIREWALL, but only become the “sandwiched” man!
you see the difference??
my opinion:
men, only learn to be a good husband by himself…
so, what’s his parents doing?
(sorry, hope I don’t offend anybody)
for eg. my ex-boss, once mentioned about her son…
she said, her son so ‘pai tee’ with her now, next time got girlfriend, don’t know how…
hai… sad to hear that right??
yep… I supposed, asian (mainly Chinese, maybe) parents,
“producing” a good wife material type of daughter is something that’s proud…
and because of the long traditional thinking (Chinese ma!! son is “bigger” than daughter, ie. 重男輕女)
I don’t think it’s even come into their mind that, “producing” a good husband material type of son, is also something right for them to do??
then, aren’t we lucky that we’re married to a man who’s graduated from his own self-learning-to-be-good-husband/father??
are you?
are we?
am i?
and, are you teaching your son to be a good husband??
(grin!)
and I came across the blog entry by Betty Wu 吳淡如 (she’s a famous TV host and writer in Taiwan, but just to clarify not my favourite of the favourite, my favourite is 張曼娟)
her blog titled: 夾心餅乾是無能的
(url: http://blog.1-apple.com.tw/bettywu/index.cfm?Fuseaction=PersonArticle&ArtID=100462)
全文如下：
大同跟玫瑰交往超過3年，在大同心目中，玫瑰最大的優點就是善解人意。當女朋友時，玫瑰對他的家人一向很好，還會陪大同的爸媽聊電視劇情節與噓寒問暖，讓老人家認定玫瑰是個好媳婦。
可是結婚後，所有的美好想像全部翻盤，玫瑰變得不大願意陪他回老家，也常常批評他父母或家人。例如：希望他妹妹不要這麼晚才來家裡串門子；大同的母親只要多管一些閒事，玫瑰表面上不會頂嘴，回家卻會跟大同抱怨……這些小牢騷讓大同不勝其擾。
有一天，大同下班回家一打開門，就看到玫瑰在生悶氣。原來她剛接到大同母親的電話，婆婆又頒布了些指導原則，要玫瑰照她的方法照顧大同和孫子。在大同眼裡，憤怒中的玫瑰看起來青面獠牙。大同失去了耐心，迅速的以咆哮打斷了玫瑰的控訴：「妳不要讓我當夾心餅乾好不好！」
硬起來別當傳聲筒
很多男人跟大同一樣，真的不了解原本應該賢淑寬容的妻子怎麼會變了樣，讓自己在原生 家庭和新家庭之間，裡外不是人。這些夾心餅乾常覺得自己很可憐，搞不懂妻子為什麼要把關係搞得這麼僵，事實上夾心餅乾都是無能的，無能處理人際關係、無能 化解家庭衝突、沒有意識到自己的角色應該有變化。他們的角色還停留在「兒子、少爺」，而不是「丈夫、父親」。
當男人不能有效阻擋原生家庭來的壓力、扮演有效防火牆的角色時，妻子的壓力就會越來越大，情緒反彈也會越來越激烈，男人才會變成夾心餅乾。夾心餅乾如果可以振作起來別當兩個家庭的傳聲筒，而扮演堵絕雙方壓力的絕緣體，就能夠解決問題。
anyway…
and since I’ve been following “Love Blossom II” every weekdays, neh! the part about “kai wang” (開旺) and “zhi jing” (紫荊)
it struck me as,
hm… our teaching…
I remember, as a girl, my mother taught me on “how to be a good wife” (well, not exactly, but you know what I mean, by learning to do all the housechores, cooking, behave in front of the elderly, who is who, bla bla bla…)
but I’m not sure, and I’M REALLY VERY NOT SURE
if mother/father actually teach their son on “how to be a good husband”
nah… I doubt it… believe me…
ask my brothers, ^_^;;
MEN…!!!
from the blog (well, betty wu’s sharing her friend’s experience as her writing material)
from the movies…
it does seems like, that’s how asian men are brought up, or SPECIFICALLY, Chinese men!
in “love blossom”, when Kai Wang failed to give her wife Zi Jing this “secured” feeling (mostly financially, and also, the future)
his mother told her, “he’s always been like that”
ya… what most wives get is “he’s always been like that” (if any of you get it otherwise, do share!)
and what compliments this, is Betty Wu’s writeup,
she wrote (in the second paragraph) most men, stay as what/who they are, as “son”, as “shao yeh” (cantonese, “siu yeh”)
but not “husband”, “father”, after they got married…
ya, most men are still papa/mama’s boy even after they got married, the thing is, they do not want to admit it…^_^
and that’s why all the “complication” cannot be handled properly…
cos, the man, failed to become the FIREWALL, but only become the “sandwiched” man!
you see the difference??
my opinion:
men, only learn to be a good husband by himself…
so, what’s his parents doing?
(sorry, hope I don’t offend anybody)
for eg. my ex-boss, once mentioned about her son…
she said, her son so ‘pai tee’ with her now, next time got girlfriend, don’t know how…
hai… sad to hear that right??
yep… I supposed, asian (mainly Chinese, maybe) parents,
“producing” a good wife material type of daughter is something that’s proud…
and because of the long traditional thinking (Chinese ma!! son is “bigger” than daughter, ie. 重男輕女)
I don’t think it’s even come into their mind that, “producing” a good husband material type of son, is also something right for them to do??
then, aren’t we lucky that we’re married to a man who’s graduated from his own self-learning-to-be-good-husband/father??
are you?
are we?
am i?
and, are you teaching your son to be a good husband??
(grin!)
2009-07-30
Say It
the other day I met up with my childhood friend,
she told me, her boss mentioned that, she’s been too ‘direct’,
my response, “since when you’re not direct?”
followed by, “all my friends are very direct”
well, maybe my friends are direct when dealing with me, or
maybe I only make friend with those who’re direct, or, who’s the wisdom and guts to BE DIRECT!
frankly, as I’ve blogged many time, I really do not like dealing with people who’re not direct, or, who simply do not say what they mean, or mean what they say,
it’s just wasting my precious time doing guess work with these people, and to me, they’re insulting the beauty of words, and beauty of language!
ya, manipulator like to do it, and they’re the biggest liar!
haha, who’re not, almost all world leaders are, or, leaders of some sort, huh?
remember the movie “babel”??
remember the origin of “the tower of babel”??
it’s all about words, words that come out from our mouth…
I’m thinking, if words have spirit (yes, they do, and I’d like to believe, they do)
they’ll sure haunt these people at night, in their dream, for abusing them, for mis-using them…
I once watch this Japanese drama, TRICK (part I, II, III, all good) and one of the stories is the mother of the heroin telling all her students, words have spirit, and thus words have power!!
therefore, do not misuse words, and do not abuse words…
say what you mean, and mean what you say…
but of course, in my dream right??
well… I’ve to say, I’m quite lucky that, most (I’ll say, almost all) of my friends are direct, and they say what they mean… AND mean what they say…
I do not have to act nice in front of them, and vice versa,
also, less misunderstanding and… after going back, I can sleep, without chewing what they say,
without guessing what they actually mean, or without guessing if their feeling will be hurt with our response…
isn’t it nice?
ps: just my little blabbering in the middle of the night.. but, of course, I mean it, cos, I mean what I say, and I say what I mean ^.^
she told me, her boss mentioned that, she’s been too ‘direct’,
my response, “since when you’re not direct?”
followed by, “all my friends are very direct”
well, maybe my friends are direct when dealing with me, or
maybe I only make friend with those who’re direct, or, who’s the wisdom and guts to BE DIRECT!
frankly, as I’ve blogged many time, I really do not like dealing with people who’re not direct, or, who simply do not say what they mean, or mean what they say,
it’s just wasting my precious time doing guess work with these people, and to me, they’re insulting the beauty of words, and beauty of language!
ya, manipulator like to do it, and they’re the biggest liar!
haha, who’re not, almost all world leaders are, or, leaders of some sort, huh?
remember the movie “babel”??
remember the origin of “the tower of babel”??
it’s all about words, words that come out from our mouth…
I’m thinking, if words have spirit (yes, they do, and I’d like to believe, they do)
they’ll sure haunt these people at night, in their dream, for abusing them, for mis-using them…
I once watch this Japanese drama, TRICK (part I, II, III, all good) and one of the stories is the mother of the heroin telling all her students, words have spirit, and thus words have power!!
therefore, do not misuse words, and do not abuse words…
say what you mean, and mean what you say…
but of course, in my dream right??
well… I’ve to say, I’m quite lucky that, most (I’ll say, almost all) of my friends are direct, and they say what they mean… AND mean what they say…
I do not have to act nice in front of them, and vice versa,
also, less misunderstanding and… after going back, I can sleep, without chewing what they say,
without guessing what they actually mean, or without guessing if their feeling will be hurt with our response…
isn’t it nice?
ps: just my little blabbering in the middle of the night.. but, of course, I mean it, cos, I mean what I say, and I say what I mean ^.^
2009-07-27
Mr. Frog still...
on Friday, I placed her in the bouncing net as usual, before starting my housework…
it happened that, with the bouncing net where the playgym’s frame’s (where her ‘buddies’ were hang, 1. starry mirror, 2. mr. frog, 3. ship, 4. ball) on top of it, I had the mr. frog being hung the farthest from her…, ie. unreachable with her hands
however, after I kinda had a break from my housework, I noticed that, the frog’s already landed on the bouncing net again (usually she’ll just hit it and it’ll drop next to her)… next to her thigh…
I was kinda amused by the possibility of it ended up there,
I asked her, how it ended up there, of course, no answer…
and I forgot about it… only briefly mentioned to him later at night during dinner…
then.. today… after we finished our grocery shopping…
I placed her on the bouncing net again, so that, we both can finish up with those chores…
I saw her trying to lift both of her legs, to kick the ship that’s hung the furthest from her this time, worse still…
she’s trying to lift her head and chest, ie. to sit up…
ooh!!! O.o
that’s HOW she get the frog down huh!!!
now I know…
kekekekekeke ＜（￣︶￣）＞
it happened that, with the bouncing net where the playgym’s frame’s (where her ‘buddies’ were hang, 1. starry mirror, 2. mr. frog, 3. ship, 4. ball) on top of it, I had the mr. frog being hung the farthest from her…, ie. unreachable with her hands
however, after I kinda had a break from my housework, I noticed that, the frog’s already landed on the bouncing net again (usually she’ll just hit it and it’ll drop next to her)… next to her thigh…
I was kinda amused by the possibility of it ended up there,
I asked her, how it ended up there, of course, no answer…
and I forgot about it… only briefly mentioned to him later at night during dinner…
then.. today… after we finished our grocery shopping…
I placed her on the bouncing net again, so that, we both can finish up with those chores…
I saw her trying to lift both of her legs, to kick the ship that’s hung the furthest from her this time, worse still…
she’s trying to lift her head and chest, ie. to sit up…
ooh!!! O.o
that’s HOW she get the frog down huh!!!
now I know…
kekekekekeke ＜（￣︶￣）＞
2009-07-24
Dr Spock
I picked this book one day…
not due to recommendation, simply, I picked it..
well… it’s quite easy to read and easy to understand…
it’s about parenting, about taking care of baby..
I’ve already have a few books as such, but I just want to see more of other suggestions/opinions…
the book’s pretty thick, as it covers a lot of topics…
but in conclusion,
what Dr Spock said, is,
trust your instinct – oh, which I like ^_^
I prefer freestyle way of teaching, keke!!
he mentioned, it’s better to ‘parent’ happily and relaxingly with some mistakes, than to try to be perfect, but stressed!
I just met up with my childhood friend the other day..
I’m impressed/surprised to the fact that, being a working mother, she’s also breastfed(with expressed milk) her babies up to 1 year (oh, another benchmark for me then, seems like I can’t wean too early)
It’s nothing too surprisingly, but to her, I didn’t expect that, cos, she’s the smartest student in school and she’s a scholar..
so, she never strikes me as she can be so motherly…
and ya, she’s very motherly… which I’m glad…
and she’s shared with me of her own experience, and I guess…
even though far apart, but being in the same environment during our childhood time, do bring some similarity in us…
ie. family’s very important to us.., as in, very…
and guess what, her experience tells her, then she told me the other day…
exactly as what Dr Spock has said,
“trust your instinct”
and that’s why, we nurse our babies while sleeping,
and that’s why, we kinda carry our babies very often…
cos, we enjoy and we want to do it…
as what our instinct tells us…
well… I guess, her instinct and my instinct are pretty similar in that sense…
which… luckily, his instinct is similar to mine too ^_^
not due to recommendation, simply, I picked it..
well… it’s quite easy to read and easy to understand…
it’s about parenting, about taking care of baby..
I’ve already have a few books as such, but I just want to see more of other suggestions/opinions…
the book’s pretty thick, as it covers a lot of topics…
but in conclusion,
what Dr Spock said, is,
trust your instinct – oh, which I like ^_^
I prefer freestyle way of teaching, keke!!
he mentioned, it’s better to ‘parent’ happily and relaxingly with some mistakes, than to try to be perfect, but stressed!
I just met up with my childhood friend the other day..
I’m impressed/surprised to the fact that, being a working mother, she’s also breastfed(with expressed milk) her babies up to 1 year (oh, another benchmark for me then, seems like I can’t wean too early)
It’s nothing too surprisingly, but to her, I didn’t expect that, cos, she’s the smartest student in school and she’s a scholar..
so, she never strikes me as she can be so motherly…
and ya, she’s very motherly… which I’m glad…
and she’s shared with me of her own experience, and I guess…
even though far apart, but being in the same environment during our childhood time, do bring some similarity in us…
ie. family’s very important to us.., as in, very…
and guess what, her experience tells her, then she told me the other day…
exactly as what Dr Spock has said,
“trust your instinct”
and that’s why, we nurse our babies while sleeping,
and that’s why, we kinda carry our babies very often…
cos, we enjoy and we want to do it…
as what our instinct tells us…
well… I guess, her instinct and my instinct are pretty similar in that sense…
which… luckily, his instinct is similar to mine too ^_^
the accidental curse
just now I was mentioning about certain ‘concern’, when people warn me, or ask me not to do certain things…
what I meant was…
due to human dark nature…
sometimes… or, most of the time, we want to prove ourselves RIGHT?? right?? (haha!)
in order for us to tell the other person,
“SEE! I TOLD YOU SO!!”
for eg. we tell our kids, don’t run too fast, or don’t cycle too fast, else will fall down,
how do we tell them? “don’t cycle like that, else, will fall down!!”
ah… we’ve already anticipated that, they’ll fall down…
and they still don’t listen, and that, they keep cycling in a mad manner,
and that, they fall down, and we go pick them up… showing all our concern and heartache as we can…
but we say, “I told you so, next time dare not to listen to me??”
actually… this has been mentioned by one of the writer, Liu Yong （劉墉）long time ago, I’m just repeating here…
sometimes, our dark nature is “hoping” that, the bad thing may happen to whoever we’re warned, so that we’ll be RIGHT!!
so that, they’re wrong, by not listening to us…
(and therefore, I’ve always told others, please prove me wrong – especially when it comes to certain ‘prediction’ about certain people potential ill-doings, I don’t want to be right, cos, if I’m wrong, things will be easier, I’ll rather I’m wrong… if those who’re close to me are safe n sound n happy)
my younger brother had long taught me about this, before Liu Yong actually pointed it out in his book…
when I was younger, at home, one day, my brother was cooking instant noodle,
I told him, “don’t burn yourself”
he angrily responded, “you said, “don’t burn yourself”, meaning that I’ll burn myself, can’t you just said, “be careful”??”
once, enough…
for eg. when you see somebody climbing the ladder…
most of the time, you tend to scream, “eh!! careful, don’t fall down!” right??
again, my mother taught me, not to scream like this, if you’re so concern, just go near the person, hold the ladder, or keep an eye…
…
so, what shall I do??
I can’t warn others like this like that… how??
the only thing I resolve to, is prayer…
pray hard..
and also, because of that, I tend to be displeased if people ‘warn’ me by telling me all the negative consequences first…
thus, there’re some people who tend to be too ‘detailed’ and nosy… may give me this type of cliché!
another eg. I don’t like to go to fortune teller (I’ve never been to one anyway)
even in some shopping area (for eg. The Curve) they’ve one small lane that’s a few fortune teller stalls during the weekend, I’ll avoid that area
cos, the last thing I want to hear, is, “hey, your aura doesn’t seem too, be careful… “ bla bla bla…
cos, I’ve another theory, I believe in “final destination”, if what he said is ACCURATE, it can’t be changed, if it can be changed, then, how much should you trust this person??
anyway, I believe, life’s in our own hand, not in somebody who’s setting up a stall at the road side…
and what more to say, if you put these many professions together, to ‘fortune-tell’ about a person, the results may come in different variation…
I believe, only God can change the ‘final destination’, and that’s why, the only thing I can do, is to pray…
even if I’m so concerned, or worried about people I loved.. I resolve not do ‘warn’ them…
I can only pray…
why??
cos, sometimes, warning can be posted as cursing…
for eg. “hey, they said, this year’s not good for people with the birthdate bla and bla”…
argh… If I’m the person with such birthdate, I’ll be extremely stressed and alert and easily agitated… and that’s when things go wrong…
that’s the thing about warning, and curse… the way it’s presented may affect the receiver…
sometimes, the curse may not be real, or the warning may not come true, but since it’s been planted into our mind, and our mind kinda make it true… via the energy surround us, or some sort…
therefore, be careful, don’t ‘curse’ unknowingly…
what I meant was…
due to human dark nature…
sometimes… or, most of the time, we want to prove ourselves RIGHT?? right?? (haha!)
in order for us to tell the other person,
“SEE! I TOLD YOU SO!!”
for eg. we tell our kids, don’t run too fast, or don’t cycle too fast, else will fall down,
how do we tell them? “don’t cycle like that, else, will fall down!!”
ah… we’ve already anticipated that, they’ll fall down…
and they still don’t listen, and that, they keep cycling in a mad manner,
and that, they fall down, and we go pick them up… showing all our concern and heartache as we can…
but we say, “I told you so, next time dare not to listen to me??”
actually… this has been mentioned by one of the writer, Liu Yong （劉墉）long time ago, I’m just repeating here…
sometimes, our dark nature is “hoping” that, the bad thing may happen to whoever we’re warned, so that we’ll be RIGHT!!
so that, they’re wrong, by not listening to us…
(and therefore, I’ve always told others, please prove me wrong – especially when it comes to certain ‘prediction’ about certain people potential ill-doings, I don’t want to be right, cos, if I’m wrong, things will be easier, I’ll rather I’m wrong… if those who’re close to me are safe n sound n happy)
my younger brother had long taught me about this, before Liu Yong actually pointed it out in his book…
when I was younger, at home, one day, my brother was cooking instant noodle,
I told him, “don’t burn yourself”
he angrily responded, “you said, “don’t burn yourself”, meaning that I’ll burn myself, can’t you just said, “be careful”??”
once, enough…
for eg. when you see somebody climbing the ladder…
most of the time, you tend to scream, “eh!! careful, don’t fall down!” right??
again, my mother taught me, not to scream like this, if you’re so concern, just go near the person, hold the ladder, or keep an eye…
…
so, what shall I do??
I can’t warn others like this like that… how??
the only thing I resolve to, is prayer…
pray hard..
and also, because of that, I tend to be displeased if people ‘warn’ me by telling me all the negative consequences first…
thus, there’re some people who tend to be too ‘detailed’ and nosy… may give me this type of cliché!
another eg. I don’t like to go to fortune teller (I’ve never been to one anyway)
even in some shopping area (for eg. The Curve) they’ve one small lane that’s a few fortune teller stalls during the weekend, I’ll avoid that area
cos, the last thing I want to hear, is, “hey, your aura doesn’t seem too, be careful… “ bla bla bla…
cos, I’ve another theory, I believe in “final destination”, if what he said is ACCURATE, it can’t be changed, if it can be changed, then, how much should you trust this person??
anyway, I believe, life’s in our own hand, not in somebody who’s setting up a stall at the road side…
and what more to say, if you put these many professions together, to ‘fortune-tell’ about a person, the results may come in different variation…
I believe, only God can change the ‘final destination’, and that’s why, the only thing I can do, is to pray…
even if I’m so concerned, or worried about people I loved.. I resolve not do ‘warn’ them…
I can only pray…
why??
cos, sometimes, warning can be posted as cursing…
for eg. “hey, they said, this year’s not good for people with the birthdate bla and bla”…
argh… If I’m the person with such birthdate, I’ll be extremely stressed and alert and easily agitated… and that’s when things go wrong…
that’s the thing about warning, and curse… the way it’s presented may affect the receiver…
sometimes, the curse may not be real, or the warning may not come true, but since it’s been planted into our mind, and our mind kinda make it true… via the energy surround us, or some sort…
therefore, be careful, don’t ‘curse’ unknowingly…
when respect is worthless
all of us know that, we work hard, do good, to earn respect from others,
to earn respect as who we are from what we do,
to earn respect from others that they’re aware of your feeling, your thought, etc….
so, when do we stop?
and when will our ‘desired’ respect become worthless one day??
and just when the ‘respect’ given to us doesn’t carry any weight, or doesn’t have any meaning in there??
i guess, it’s when we don’t work for it…
such work has to be continuous,
till we get old, till we die…
however, sometimes we’re lacking of such awareness
and we tend to get lazy…
that’s when we, as human being, ie. most of the time, ‘corrupted’ human beings…
when we get some titles, or when we’re somebody…
therefore, we expect RESPECT from others, just by not doing anything…
how will my kids respect me as their mother, if I sit there, do nothing… not even a simple task for them??
and how will my siblings respect me, if I do not behave like one of them??
or, how will a supervisor gain respect from their subordinate when what they know is only yelling and pushing responsility??
or, even as a kid, how will you earn respect if you’re not doing what a kid’s supposed to do?? (ie. studying, learning, and maturing..)
but… I guess, sometimes, most of us fall trap to this type of situation,
we simply expect others to give us DAMN BLOODY RESPECT
just by being somebody
while our behaviour, words, and thoughts are full of selfishness, full of hurtful/negative elements to others??
or even better, sometimes, without words, our body language shows out every single evil and corrupted facts in us…
we take it for granted – just because we’re somebody, we say hurtful words, or bad things about others, and that, we’ll be DAMN BLOODY EXCUSED!!??? (huh??)
or, we take it for granted – just because we’re somebody, we simply will ‘earn’ the DAMN BLOODY RESPECT!!
i guess, we just don’t, and we shouldn’t…
however, one day… one fine day… we may just forget
and simply expecting RESPECT from others, by not doing anything…
or worse still, we do bad things, say bad words, and expect the RESPECT.. simply just because we thought we’re somebody, or somebody’s somebody.. right??
SO, JUST TELL ME, WHY SHOULD I RESPECT YOU??
to earn respect as who we are from what we do,
to earn respect from others that they’re aware of your feeling, your thought, etc….
so, when do we stop?
and when will our ‘desired’ respect become worthless one day??
and just when the ‘respect’ given to us doesn’t carry any weight, or doesn’t have any meaning in there??
i guess, it’s when we don’t work for it…
such work has to be continuous,
till we get old, till we die…
however, sometimes we’re lacking of such awareness
and we tend to get lazy…
that’s when we, as human being, ie. most of the time, ‘corrupted’ human beings…
when we get some titles, or when we’re somebody…
therefore, we expect RESPECT from others, just by not doing anything…
how will my kids respect me as their mother, if I sit there, do nothing… not even a simple task for them??
and how will my siblings respect me, if I do not behave like one of them??
or, how will a supervisor gain respect from their subordinate when what they know is only yelling and pushing responsility??
or, even as a kid, how will you earn respect if you’re not doing what a kid’s supposed to do?? (ie. studying, learning, and maturing..)
but… I guess, sometimes, most of us fall trap to this type of situation,
we simply expect others to give us DAMN BLOODY RESPECT
just by being somebody
while our behaviour, words, and thoughts are full of selfishness, full of hurtful/negative elements to others??
or even better, sometimes, without words, our body language shows out every single evil and corrupted facts in us…
we take it for granted – just because we’re somebody, we say hurtful words, or bad things about others, and that, we’ll be DAMN BLOODY EXCUSED!!??? (huh??)
or, we take it for granted – just because we’re somebody, we simply will ‘earn’ the DAMN BLOODY RESPECT!!
i guess, we just don’t, and we shouldn’t…
however, one day… one fine day… we may just forget
and simply expecting RESPECT from others, by not doing anything…
or worse still, we do bad things, say bad words, and expect the RESPECT.. simply just because we thought we’re somebody, or somebody’s somebody.. right??
SO, JUST TELL ME, WHY SHOULD I RESPECT YOU??
tHE Law of CONFINEMENT
ok, some of my friends know that I ‘suffered’ during my confinement month…
suffered, not physically, but I really damn felt confined, k??
even though, I know the ‘western’ culture also kinda mentions about the fourth trimester (ie. to rest and get back in shape, or at least, in terms of health)
but I guess, it’s just not as ridiculous, and extreme as ours (the eastern – or, rather the Chinese)
ok…
first thing first…
NEVER BATHE WITH TAP WATER
I just couldn’t take it any longer, and therefore, I went to ‘lengthy’ research – to see if it’s really ok, if I were to just SHOWER!!!
(cos, I find it too troublesome, and ‘suffering’ to bathe in those herbal & ginger hot water, and I’ve to bent down to scoop the water to bathe, DAMN!)
apparently, all the so-called Chinese “Law” of confinement, of course, all originated from the oldtime china..
NEVER WASH YOUR HAIR
goodness gracious, I’ll say!
what more to say, I’m breastfeeding…
not bathing, not washing hair, is just intolerable for me as it’s super duper damn unhygienic for my baby!!!
and why not washing your hair??
it’s all because of LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG TIME AGO,
in china, especially china progressed damn slow compared to the west,
their toilet / bathroom was outside the house,
and during winter, especially the poor people, they don’t have hot running water to bathe…
Argh!… I don’t want to mention any further,
nowadays, we’ve this thing called,
HAIR DRYER &
WATER HEATER!!
come on!!
and eating food with ginger and only ginger, give me damn a lot of pimples everywhere all over my body
NOT DRINKING WATER
you must be kidding, how am I going to have enough fluid to produce my breastmilk??
Some of these ‘law’ thing, are simply ridiculous, and beyond my acceptance…
BUT… out of A CONCERN, about human’s ‘dark side’, I do not disobey openly… (I’ll tell you why in my next blog)
as there’re just too many people come and tell me to FOLLOW FOLLOW AND FOLLOW!
after my confinement month, I met my ex ex boss,
she told me horror stories about NOT FOLLOWING the law (see!!! people talk about it, a bit of schadenfreude!!)
she said, her don’t know who who who, shower, then, fainted in the bathroom, nearly die!!!
Ya, I heard.. but I actually kinda think of it the other way,
Is it because she showered in a totally ‘sealed’ environment?? (people said, cannot ‘kena’ wind ma!! So, all windows/doors are closed tight)
Is it because the water too hot??
COME ON! A normal person, locked tight in the sauna room, will faint also, right??
Basically my point is,
There’re some, that make sense, yep… do it
There’re some… just simply nonsense…
One small story that my brother told me long time ago,
There’s this lady, who always chops off the tail of the fish before she fry the fish,
And this ‘practice’ has been passed down to her descendants… that it’s become a ‘law’ in their family…
Fry fish, tail must be chopped off, else will xxxxxxxxx………… (whatever bad stuff you go add yourself)
BUT apparently, it’s because looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong time ago, when lady’s grandmother, or great grandmother (again, old time china), cooked fish that time, the frying pan’s not big enough, and that, she chopped off the tail of the fish, so that, the fish can fit into the pan…
AS SIMPLE AS THAT!!
suffered, not physically, but I really damn felt confined, k??
even though, I know the ‘western’ culture also kinda mentions about the fourth trimester (ie. to rest and get back in shape, or at least, in terms of health)
but I guess, it’s just not as ridiculous, and extreme as ours (the eastern – or, rather the Chinese)
ok…
first thing first…
NEVER BATHE WITH TAP WATER
I just couldn’t take it any longer, and therefore, I went to ‘lengthy’ research – to see if it’s really ok, if I were to just SHOWER!!!
(cos, I find it too troublesome, and ‘suffering’ to bathe in those herbal & ginger hot water, and I’ve to bent down to scoop the water to bathe, DAMN!)
apparently, all the so-called Chinese “Law” of confinement, of course, all originated from the oldtime china..
NEVER WASH YOUR HAIR
goodness gracious, I’ll say!
what more to say, I’m breastfeeding…
not bathing, not washing hair, is just intolerable for me as it’s super duper damn unhygienic for my baby!!!
and why not washing your hair??
it’s all because of LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG TIME AGO,
in china, especially china progressed damn slow compared to the west,
their toilet / bathroom was outside the house,
and during winter, especially the poor people, they don’t have hot running water to bathe…
Argh!… I don’t want to mention any further,
nowadays, we’ve this thing called,
HAIR DRYER &
WATER HEATER!!
come on!!
and eating food with ginger and only ginger, give me damn a lot of pimples everywhere all over my body
NOT DRINKING WATER
you must be kidding, how am I going to have enough fluid to produce my breastmilk??
Some of these ‘law’ thing, are simply ridiculous, and beyond my acceptance…
BUT… out of A CONCERN, about human’s ‘dark side’, I do not disobey openly… (I’ll tell you why in my next blog)
as there’re just too many people come and tell me to FOLLOW FOLLOW AND FOLLOW!
after my confinement month, I met my ex ex boss,
she told me horror stories about NOT FOLLOWING the law (see!!! people talk about it, a bit of schadenfreude!!)
she said, her don’t know who who who, shower, then, fainted in the bathroom, nearly die!!!
Ya, I heard.. but I actually kinda think of it the other way,
Is it because she showered in a totally ‘sealed’ environment?? (people said, cannot ‘kena’ wind ma!! So, all windows/doors are closed tight)
Is it because the water too hot??
COME ON! A normal person, locked tight in the sauna room, will faint also, right??
Basically my point is,
There’re some, that make sense, yep… do it
There’re some… just simply nonsense…
One small story that my brother told me long time ago,
There’s this lady, who always chops off the tail of the fish before she fry the fish,
And this ‘practice’ has been passed down to her descendants… that it’s become a ‘law’ in their family…
Fry fish, tail must be chopped off, else will xxxxxxxxx………… (whatever bad stuff you go add yourself)
BUT apparently, it’s because looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong time ago, when lady’s grandmother, or great grandmother (again, old time china), cooked fish that time, the frying pan’s not big enough, and that, she chopped off the tail of the fish, so that, the fish can fit into the pan…
AS SIMPLE AS THAT!!
2009-07-23
Multiply doesn't like Opera
Or, opera doesn’t like multiply?
See.. I’m having different type of browsers on my desktop, no complicated reason,
Simply for the sake of my mood, I feel like using which on what day, then I use that,
But overall, I only use opera and firefox…
However, I notice that, opera doesn’t seem to like multiply.com,
There’re some link just won’t be ‘click-opened’, it’s to be opened as another tab…
Though, opera seems to like gmail a lot,
Some of my gmail accounts (account with the ‘s’) seem to be unable to load to standard html style, or they take forever to load,
However, when it’s with opera… zoom! Fast!!
Argh… that’s the problem with modern technology (love it, and hate it)
Why can’t they just standardize and put all the ‘good’ things in one??
See.. I’m having different type of browsers on my desktop, no complicated reason,
Simply for the sake of my mood, I feel like using which on what day, then I use that,
But overall, I only use opera and firefox…
However, I notice that, opera doesn’t seem to like multiply.com,
There’re some link just won’t be ‘click-opened’, it’s to be opened as another tab…
Though, opera seems to like gmail a lot,
Some of my gmail accounts (account with the ‘s’) seem to be unable to load to standard html style, or they take forever to load,
However, when it’s with opera… zoom! Fast!!
Argh… that’s the problem with modern technology (love it, and hate it)
Why can’t they just standardize and put all the ‘good’ things in one??
Modern women or not?
Ok, help me to understand,
Many time, I saw on movies/tv series of such cases,
Woman with daughter, re-married to another man
Man molests the daughter,
Woman knows, but keep quiet,
Or, woman doesn’t know, daughter tells, woman doesn’t believe, thinking daughter’s lying, and choose to believe the man,
Worse still, man said, it’s the daughter who’s trying to seduce him, and woman believe…
Maybe I’m never the ‘woman’, that’s why, I never understand…
And I keep seeing this type of storyline in movies/series,
Why? Is that a common ‘problem’? and if that’s a common ‘problem’ why?
Some cases, it’s because woman’s not independent, ie. keep quiet,
But most of the cases, the woman’s a job, and most of the cases, woman chooses not to believe the daughter, but the so-called husband (the re-married one)
Why?
Even if woman doesn’t have a job, shouldn’t she be protecting the daughter? Her baby? (of course, baby’s grown up to be a pretty lady)
Last week’s “criminal minds” presented a similar case, except the remarry part,
Woman knew husband’s molesting his niece,
She chose not to expose the husband, BUT she’s trying to hurt the kid,
Why are there actually some women think that, by ‘protecting’ the husband like this, the husband will forever be with her?
I thought, there’re many women calling and yelling for equal right, to show that, they’re great, they’re good, and they can be better than man
Ironically, there’re still some women, so emotionally dependent to their so-called men!
Or, there’re some other reasons that I really really do not understand??
Many time, I saw on movies/tv series of such cases,
Woman with daughter, re-married to another man
Man molests the daughter,
Woman knows, but keep quiet,
Or, woman doesn’t know, daughter tells, woman doesn’t believe, thinking daughter’s lying, and choose to believe the man,
Worse still, man said, it’s the daughter who’s trying to seduce him, and woman believe…
Maybe I’m never the ‘woman’, that’s why, I never understand…
And I keep seeing this type of storyline in movies/series,
Why? Is that a common ‘problem’? and if that’s a common ‘problem’ why?
Some cases, it’s because woman’s not independent, ie. keep quiet,
But most of the cases, the woman’s a job, and most of the cases, woman chooses not to believe the daughter, but the so-called husband (the re-married one)
Why?
Even if woman doesn’t have a job, shouldn’t she be protecting the daughter? Her baby? (of course, baby’s grown up to be a pretty lady)
Last week’s “criminal minds” presented a similar case, except the remarry part,
Woman knew husband’s molesting his niece,
She chose not to expose the husband, BUT she’s trying to hurt the kid,
Why are there actually some women think that, by ‘protecting’ the husband like this, the husband will forever be with her?
I thought, there’re many women calling and yelling for equal right, to show that, they’re great, they’re good, and they can be better than man
Ironically, there’re still some women, so emotionally dependent to their so-called men!
Or, there’re some other reasons that I really really do not understand??
2009-07-19
What Shall I do, Who Shall I be!
I was telling him today… (also, I’ve been thinking too..)
I’m good at organizing,
I’m good at researching,
I’m very into entertainment biz (mainly “batgwa” stuff)
I’m very into food,
I can sit in front of my PC whole day (just that, with baby now, a little bit difficult, but baby will grow up to be more independent right?)
I like to write,
I like to talk,
I like to meet new people,
So… just what’s good for me? And suitable for me to do?
I’ve been dreaming to have my own business, or something that keep me occupied, and also keep most of the people happy…
Then what??
Just what shall I do? And who shall I be?
I’m good at organizing,
I’m good at researching,
I’m very into entertainment biz (mainly “batgwa” stuff)
I’m very into food,
I can sit in front of my PC whole day (just that, with baby now, a little bit difficult, but baby will grow up to be more independent right?)
I like to write,
I like to talk,
I like to meet new people,
So… just what’s good for me? And suitable for me to do?
I’ve been dreaming to have my own business, or something that keep me occupied, and also keep most of the people happy…
Then what??
Just what shall I do? And who shall I be?
God has given you one face, and you make yourself another. ~William Shakespeare
I’ve mentioned about my 2-face ex-colleague (ya, now become “ex”) a couple of time before this…
This is not going to be about her anymore (it’s enough, and also, until today, as I’m writing, she’s still very 2-face as what I’ve heard and her new team members have also fallen prey to her 2-face/to-be-senior-manager tactic)
…………………………
All of us… may have been hypocrite once in a while…
For eg. When we condemn the others for some wrong-doing…
Or, we call people ‘racist’! (haha!! Think about it… ^_~)
Again, I’m not going to blabber about the deep meaning of hypocrisy…
It’s only… about dealing with them…
Don’t you find that, it’s irritating if you find out somebody to be such a hypocrite??
Chinese saying – “you’d rather deal with a real baddy, than to deal with a hypocrite”
However… I thought, if you know a person to be a hypocrite… sometimes (I won’t say 100%) it’s easier to deal with them… why?
As they’re hypocrites, they need to show you /or others the GOOD face, ie. sometimes, they’ve to eat their own words!
Even though you know very well, hypocrite as being hypocrite, they’re better in saying, than really practicing the righteous stuffs…
Rule of thumb – use their own words for them, repeat what they’ve mentioned in other occasion, apply it back to them…
They’ll just shut up…!!
In a way, I really hate these people, as dealing with them, it’s tiring… cos words don’t have any meaning to them, you know they say one thing, but they mean other thing
They tell you they do not mind bla bla bla , but they may tell others in another time that how bad the experience was… and all sorts of BS!
They like to act like “good people” in front of those beneficial to them… AND guess what… those not so beneficial to them… oh!! They’re not hypocrites anymore!! They finally release their true inner self, and become the real baddies!
They can yell, and scold you at the door~
They can act unreasonable and treat you like trash~ (come on! Cos you’re not beneficial to their “future” at all!!)
THEN, suddenly one fine day, they MAY treat you nice, polite, etc. WHY?? Cos, the beneficial party is around them…
Therefore, another face came out…
Oh~~~ I tell you, I can’t wait for the day, the stupid hypocrite face can be torn down and that the other face been shown…
But well… drama is drama…
True life is true life… I guess, I’ll never live up to that day…
And what next??
Back to the beginning:
I REALLY HATE DEALING WITH HYPOCRITES!
This is not going to be about her anymore (it’s enough, and also, until today, as I’m writing, she’s still very 2-face as what I’ve heard and her new team members have also fallen prey to her 2-face/to-be-senior-manager tactic)
…………………………
All of us… may have been hypocrite once in a while…
For eg. When we condemn the others for some wrong-doing…
Or, we call people ‘racist’! (haha!! Think about it… ^_~)
Again, I’m not going to blabber about the deep meaning of hypocrisy…
It’s only… about dealing with them…
Don’t you find that, it’s irritating if you find out somebody to be such a hypocrite??
Chinese saying – “you’d rather deal with a real baddy, than to deal with a hypocrite”
However… I thought, if you know a person to be a hypocrite… sometimes (I won’t say 100%) it’s easier to deal with them… why?
As they’re hypocrites, they need to show you /or others the GOOD face, ie. sometimes, they’ve to eat their own words!
Even though you know very well, hypocrite as being hypocrite, they’re better in saying, than really practicing the righteous stuffs…
Rule of thumb – use their own words for them, repeat what they’ve mentioned in other occasion, apply it back to them…
They’ll just shut up…!!
In a way, I really hate these people, as dealing with them, it’s tiring… cos words don’t have any meaning to them, you know they say one thing, but they mean other thing
They tell you they do not mind bla bla bla , but they may tell others in another time that how bad the experience was… and all sorts of BS!
They like to act like “good people” in front of those beneficial to them… AND guess what… those not so beneficial to them… oh!! They’re not hypocrites anymore!! They finally release their true inner self, and become the real baddies!
They can yell, and scold you at the door~
They can act unreasonable and treat you like trash~ (come on! Cos you’re not beneficial to their “future” at all!!)
THEN, suddenly one fine day, they MAY treat you nice, polite, etc. WHY?? Cos, the beneficial party is around them…
Therefore, another face came out…
Oh~~~ I tell you, I can’t wait for the day, the stupid hypocrite face can be torn down and that the other face been shown…
But well… drama is drama…
True life is true life… I guess, I’ll never live up to that day…
And what next??
Back to the beginning:
I REALLY HATE DEALING WITH HYPOCRITES!
"A Life of Hope" (活下去)
As I mentioned earlier, that I’ve been watching mediacorp drama series on TV – Astro AEC, ntv7, 8TV
I’ve been following this series “a life of hope” on ntv7 at 6PM every weekday (“little nyonya” on AEC at 7PM, and “love blossoms” on AEC at 8PM)
Too bad that there’s no official website about the drama “a life of hope”
But… I’ve to mention it as I thought this is a very good show…
Good show about our health generally…
It’s about people with kidney problem – they’ve to go for dialysis every other day…
It’s about people who’ve just recovered from car accident, coma for 7 years – personality changed, full of hatred (the guy won the best actor of that year because of the role… and I thought he really did well… especially mimicking the way injured-then-recovered/stroke people talk, walk and move)
It’s about well-being and continuous keeping ourselves healthy…
Chinese saying, Health = Wealth…
And I’ll say, Health > Wealth…
Once we’re unhealthy… irregardless how much $$ it’ll be burnt and given to the hospitals, to the pharmaceutical firms… bla bla bla…
I thought this drama series is a good one with good meaning to the public…
That’s why I thought I should mention it a bit here…
Since I’m a housewife!! And I don’t go out and borak with people at anytime anywhere anymore
So, I borak here ^_^, hehe!
I’ve been following this series “a life of hope” on ntv7 at 6PM every weekday (“little nyonya” on AEC at 7PM, and “love blossoms” on AEC at 8PM)
Too bad that there’s no official website about the drama “a life of hope”
But… I’ve to mention it as I thought this is a very good show…
Good show about our health generally…
It’s about people with kidney problem – they’ve to go for dialysis every other day…
It’s about people who’ve just recovered from car accident, coma for 7 years – personality changed, full of hatred (the guy won the best actor of that year because of the role… and I thought he really did well… especially mimicking the way injured-then-recovered/stroke people talk, walk and move)
It’s about well-being and continuous keeping ourselves healthy…
Chinese saying, Health = Wealth…
And I’ll say, Health > Wealth…
Once we’re unhealthy… irregardless how much $$ it’ll be burnt and given to the hospitals, to the pharmaceutical firms… bla bla bla…
I thought this drama series is a good one with good meaning to the public…
That’s why I thought I should mention it a bit here…
Since I’m a housewife!! And I don’t go out and borak with people at anytime anywhere anymore
So, I borak here ^_^, hehe!
Desperate Housewife watching Desperate Housewives
The other day I was watching “Desperate Housewives” on StarWorld…
And he asked me why I was watching such series (as I’m never a fan of DH)
After he’s asked twice, I told him that he should never ask me why I watch whatever shows…
As, I’m a housewife, and half of the time, I’m nursing baby in front of the TV, and thus… I’ll watch whatever’s in front of me…
I told him, IF… one day, there’s nothing else to watch on TV except football matches, I’ll even sit there and watch the football match!!
Haha!!!
I basically watch whatever that’s ‘interesting’ comparatively with other channels, during that particular time frame…
For eg. I’ve been watching almost all mediacorp shows available from 5PM to 9PM at night
Then, move on to either hallmark for “Without a Trace”, or StarWorld for whatever’s available…
As StarWorld schedule and repeat not that good, so, sometimes, I’ll forfeit ‘conflicting’ timing of my mediacorp shows, to watch StarWorld’s “Ghost Whisperer”, “BONES” and etc.
Anyway… what I’m trying to say, I watch almost all dramas that’s under my radar…
Even in the afternoon, when most of the shows are the repeat of the previous night, I picked up “Leverage”, “The Beast” and etc.
Again, some channels, the repeat airtime’s not that perfect for my timing, then, I’ll just forget about it…
So, ask me about mediacorps series lately and the actors actresses… I can update you most of their updates… ^_^
(as I’ve been very good at ‘entertainment’ news since I was very young, keke…)
Anyway… since the title bears the drama DH, maybe I shall talk about it a little bit…
First, I really hate Teri Hatcher’s role, damn pathetic
Second, I also hate Bree (aiya, don’t bother about her real name) one real-time bitch and psycho!
Remaining…
Eva Longoria’s role and Felicity Huffman’s role…
Of all, I think, the ugliest Felicity Huffman’s role’s least XXXXXX (whatever negative description) to me… so, ok lo!
And Eva Longoria… gosh! Since I’ve never been a fans, I was asking
Since when she’s already got 2 kids? – and they’re fat
Since when her husband’s become blind?
And since when she look so ‘maid-like’… I thought in real life, post-natal, she looked great??
And I thought the least problematic family in DH will be Felicity Huffman’s role’s…
Maybe that’s why I kinda don’t mind her in this show!!
Anyway… it’s just another drama for me in my weekday’s life ^_^
And he asked me why I was watching such series (as I’m never a fan of DH)
After he’s asked twice, I told him that he should never ask me why I watch whatever shows…
As, I’m a housewife, and half of the time, I’m nursing baby in front of the TV, and thus… I’ll watch whatever’s in front of me…
I told him, IF… one day, there’s nothing else to watch on TV except football matches, I’ll even sit there and watch the football match!!
Haha!!!
I basically watch whatever that’s ‘interesting’ comparatively with other channels, during that particular time frame…
For eg. I’ve been watching almost all mediacorp shows available from 5PM to 9PM at night
Then, move on to either hallmark for “Without a Trace”, or StarWorld for whatever’s available…
As StarWorld schedule and repeat not that good, so, sometimes, I’ll forfeit ‘conflicting’ timing of my mediacorp shows, to watch StarWorld’s “Ghost Whisperer”, “BONES” and etc.
Anyway… what I’m trying to say, I watch almost all dramas that’s under my radar…
Even in the afternoon, when most of the shows are the repeat of the previous night, I picked up “Leverage”, “The Beast” and etc.
Again, some channels, the repeat airtime’s not that perfect for my timing, then, I’ll just forget about it…
So, ask me about mediacorps series lately and the actors actresses… I can update you most of their updates… ^_^
(as I’ve been very good at ‘entertainment’ news since I was very young, keke…)
Anyway… since the title bears the drama DH, maybe I shall talk about it a little bit…
First, I really hate Teri Hatcher’s role, damn pathetic
Second, I also hate Bree (aiya, don’t bother about her real name) one real-time bitch and psycho!
Remaining…
Eva Longoria’s role and Felicity Huffman’s role…
Of all, I think, the ugliest Felicity Huffman’s role’s least XXXXXX (whatever negative description) to me… so, ok lo!
And Eva Longoria… gosh! Since I’ve never been a fans, I was asking
Since when she’s already got 2 kids? – and they’re fat
Since when her husband’s become blind?
And since when she look so ‘maid-like’… I thought in real life, post-natal, she looked great??
And I thought the least problematic family in DH will be Felicity Huffman’s role’s…
Maybe that’s why I kinda don’t mind her in this show!!
Anyway… it’s just another drama for me in my weekday’s life ^_^
2009-06-30
Sharing: 5 Things to Say--and 5 NOT to Say--to your Friend with Cancer
http://healthbeat.yourtotalhealth.com/2009/06/5-things-to-say-and-not-say.html
What NOT to say to your friend with cancer
What TO say to your friend with cancer
What NOT to say to your friend with cancer
- "You poor thing, I feel so sorry for you." People with cancer need compassion, not pity. Pity implies hierarchy, while compassion puts you on the same level.
- "What's your prognosis?" Prognosis is a medical term and it makes most people with cancer think about how long they might survive. Even if they're positive thinkers, they may not want to think about how long doctors indicate they're going to live.
- "Let me know if there's anything I can do to help." This might seem like a helpful statement. But according to my research, that statement is one of the least helpful. When people have cancer they may feel so overwhelmed that they can't focus on what they need. Offer something specific -- run an errand, give a foot rub, weed their garden.
- "My aunt [or anyone] died of breast cancer." Tell positive stories, never scary stories, about other people who have had cancer. More than anything, people with cancer need hope, and horror stories dash hope.
- "At least they caught it early [or "at least" anything]." Your friend needs to know you're acknowledging his pain and taking it seriously. If you say, "At least you don't have to go through chemo..." or something similar, you minimize what he's going through. He may discover what's good about his situation himself, but doesn't want to hear it from you.
What TO say to your friend with cancer
- "I'm so sorry this is happening. It could happen to any of us. Life is so unfair sometimes." This takes away any possible blame or shame, and puts you on the same level.
- "I don't know what to say, and I'm sorry if I say something wrong. Just know how much I care about you." This defuses tension for both of you, and enables you to communicate what really matters: that you care. Whatever you do, don't stay away from your friend because you're uncomfortable.
- "I am here for you, anytime, anywhere." More than anything, people with cancer need to know you're there for them. But beware: don't say this unless you can honor the commitment! People with cancer may be more vulnerable, and what used to irritate like a scratch may sting intensely.
- "I'm here to listen but if you don't feel like talking, I understand." This statement gives control to your friend, shows your concern, and keeps the door of communication open.
- Nothing. Nada. Zip. As the Dalai Lama says, "Sometimes silence is the best answer." What's most important is that you listen well, without judging or offering advice.
my dessert is your poison (vice versa)
funny… the other day one of my ex-colleague who’s also a mother… asked me why I don’t express my milk…
asked me if I find it inconvenient to go out since I opt to ‘direct’ breastfeed, my response that time was “I just need to go to mall with nursing room”
she said, “isn’t that inconvenient?”
well.. frankly, this word never comes into my mind, ‘inconvenient’
ya… to most people maybe it’s ‘inconvenient’, however, I find packing up bottles, flask, and all the breast pumps and so on, when going out, is even more inconvenient…
if there’s no nursing room??
Ha… ask my friends, I’ve nursed with the poncho, as simple as that, I’ve nursed in coffee bean, I’ve nursed in tai thong restaurant while having dimsum…
Other people may see me with “colourful spectacles”, however… do I have to care??
(same as my “comparison to construct” piece, I normally do not care less what others think… and to those people, I’ll just have to say “MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS PLEASE!”)
She then advised me that, later when baby teething (sure bite) and baby gets bigger, I’ll sure regret…
Well… I told her, and myself too… then, I’ll see… I can’t be worrying much now…
I know she advised me in good means… however… I really have not found any of these “challenges” that I’ve to go through a problem…
Her poision, my dessert…
Vice versa, her dessert, my poison (arrgh… I find expressing milk too troublesome, you’ve to sterilize the bottles, you’ve to manage the bottles, and what more to say, when you’re outside… say the frozen milk ran out, you still have to go to private place to express the milk… and I do find it funny if I were to express my milk underneath a poncho in the restaurant while having dimsum)
Funnier still… on the same day, another ex-colleague came by my place (ya, that day itself, I’ve 2 visitors, yippie!)
When I describe to her, she also think that, direct breastfeed is ‘convenient’…
Of course, I supposed there’s no right or wrong only if the person who’s doing what is truly enjoying it…
And I do truly enjoy my breastfeeding experience… hehe…
Also, like what I’ve mentioned to my ex-boss…, adults, will bear the consequences of their own choice
I’m sure, later, I’ll cry when baby starts to bite due to the teething process… and I guess, I just have to bear the consequences…
asked me if I find it inconvenient to go out since I opt to ‘direct’ breastfeed, my response that time was “I just need to go to mall with nursing room”
she said, “isn’t that inconvenient?”
well.. frankly, this word never comes into my mind, ‘inconvenient’
ya… to most people maybe it’s ‘inconvenient’, however, I find packing up bottles, flask, and all the breast pumps and so on, when going out, is even more inconvenient…
if there’s no nursing room??
Ha… ask my friends, I’ve nursed with the poncho, as simple as that, I’ve nursed in coffee bean, I’ve nursed in tai thong restaurant while having dimsum…
Other people may see me with “colourful spectacles”, however… do I have to care??
(same as my “comparison to construct” piece, I normally do not care less what others think… and to those people, I’ll just have to say “MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS PLEASE!”)
She then advised me that, later when baby teething (sure bite) and baby gets bigger, I’ll sure regret…
Well… I told her, and myself too… then, I’ll see… I can’t be worrying much now…
I know she advised me in good means… however… I really have not found any of these “challenges” that I’ve to go through a problem…
Her poision, my dessert…
Vice versa, her dessert, my poison (arrgh… I find expressing milk too troublesome, you’ve to sterilize the bottles, you’ve to manage the bottles, and what more to say, when you’re outside… say the frozen milk ran out, you still have to go to private place to express the milk… and I do find it funny if I were to express my milk underneath a poncho in the restaurant while having dimsum)
Funnier still… on the same day, another ex-colleague came by my place (ya, that day itself, I’ve 2 visitors, yippie!)
When I describe to her, she also think that, direct breastfeed is ‘convenient’…
Of course, I supposed there’s no right or wrong only if the person who’s doing what is truly enjoying it…
And I do truly enjoy my breastfeeding experience… hehe…
Also, like what I’ve mentioned to my ex-boss…, adults, will bear the consequences of their own choice
I’m sure, later, I’ll cry when baby starts to bite due to the teething process… and I guess, I just have to bear the consequences…
comparison to construct
I’m sure many of us, while growing up, while working, while whatever, we do compare to others… from time to time…
(well… however, I’ve to say, I rarely do that…)
When we’re small, we compare if our parents love which one of our siblings more than us…
While studying, maybe our teacher prefers which students, etc.
And while working, our boss prefer which colleague of ours…
Anyway… like I’ve mentioned, I rarely compare
Maybe I know the Chinese phrase, 人比人氣死人！
What for I compare??
Ya… I gotta compare…
So that, I can improve, so that, I can be better than I can imagine myself to be…
I did compare…
When I first got my job… my predecessor was so much better…
All my colleagues said, “she could do that, she used to do that”… so on, so forth…
And therefore, I was comparing myself to a figure (as she’s quit)… which was hard…
Anyway… in the end… I believe, if I’ve not become better than my predecessor, but at least, I’m able to deliver what’s expected so far…
To me, this type of comparison is kinda healthy…
Overall… I don’t like to compare myself to others… there’s nothing much to compare, everybody does work in their different manner, as long as there’s result, or good result achieved, I supposed it’s alright…
Like I’ve said, 人比人氣死人！
And 被氣死了，不划算！
Growing up, I rarely compared myself with my siblings… ie. if parents love them more than they love me…
I guess, all three of us feel the same love from our parents… right??
However… there are people who tend to compare themselves with others constantly… (if any of you are, please let me know why)
Sadly, they feel that, they’re not recognized… or they’ve not been rewarded as what they expect themselves to be rewarded… (though they have been rewarded somehow… just not up to the expectation maybe!) and that eventually leads to the state that… everybody owes them something…
Comparison as such… will never fill up the ‘hole’ in one’s heart…
The person will forever be unsatisfied, frustrated, feel unrewarded, and feel unappreciated!!
Forever… isn’t that tormenting??
In the end, the person will always be the complaining party…
No matter where he goes… no place is suitable, and nobody is appreciative…
Why torture ourselves like that??
Compare, if it leads oneself to be better, to improve further, should be encouraged…
However, if it leads oneself to feel the negative about others… I guess… let’s just try to learn how to appreciate instead of being appreciated,
How to contribute, instead of being “contributed”,
How to be even better, instead of others to be better, I guess…
(well… however, I’ve to say, I rarely do that…)
When we’re small, we compare if our parents love which one of our siblings more than us…
While studying, maybe our teacher prefers which students, etc.
And while working, our boss prefer which colleague of ours…
Anyway… like I’ve mentioned, I rarely compare
Maybe I know the Chinese phrase, 人比人氣死人！
What for I compare??
Ya… I gotta compare…
So that, I can improve, so that, I can be better than I can imagine myself to be…
I did compare…
When I first got my job… my predecessor was so much better…
All my colleagues said, “she could do that, she used to do that”… so on, so forth…
And therefore, I was comparing myself to a figure (as she’s quit)… which was hard…
Anyway… in the end… I believe, if I’ve not become better than my predecessor, but at least, I’m able to deliver what’s expected so far…
To me, this type of comparison is kinda healthy…
Overall… I don’t like to compare myself to others… there’s nothing much to compare, everybody does work in their different manner, as long as there’s result, or good result achieved, I supposed it’s alright…
Like I’ve said, 人比人氣死人！
And 被氣死了，不划算！
Growing up, I rarely compared myself with my siblings… ie. if parents love them more than they love me…
I guess, all three of us feel the same love from our parents… right??
However… there are people who tend to compare themselves with others constantly… (if any of you are, please let me know why)
Sadly, they feel that, they’re not recognized… or they’ve not been rewarded as what they expect themselves to be rewarded… (though they have been rewarded somehow… just not up to the expectation maybe!) and that eventually leads to the state that… everybody owes them something…
Comparison as such… will never fill up the ‘hole’ in one’s heart…
The person will forever be unsatisfied, frustrated, feel unrewarded, and feel unappreciated!!
Forever… isn’t that tormenting??
In the end, the person will always be the complaining party…
No matter where he goes… no place is suitable, and nobody is appreciative…
Why torture ourselves like that??
Compare, if it leads oneself to be better, to improve further, should be encouraged…
However, if it leads oneself to feel the negative about others… I guess… let’s just try to learn how to appreciate instead of being appreciated,
How to contribute, instead of being “contributed”,
How to be even better, instead of others to be better, I guess…
2009-06-23
Poo of the Century
Since she comes to 2.5 months… her bowel movement changed…
Changed to poo-ing daily, to ONE BIG ONE in a few days…
So… for last week… she’s not poo’ed for around 4 days…
When it’s 3 days record, I start worry…
I did extensive research on the internet, checking this and that… ok, from reliable source…
Conclusion:
For fully breastfed babies, it’s normal
If baby hasn’t poo’ed for >7 days, bring him/her to see doctor then…
So I monitor very very closely…
Last Sunday, we went to ikano… and I kinda had this feeling (or, rather, everyday I was hoping…) that she’ll poo that day…
To protect the car seat and the stroller, I actually put her nappy as lining…, ok, just in case heh!!
She didn’t, when we’re in ikano…
However… on our way back after lunch… I could see that, she’s having some ‘movement’ down there…
Fully concentrate, and quiet.. but face a bit red…
We’re so eager to see…. I even make a bet with him… that she’s poo’ed or not… and prize is the remaining tub of baskin robin’s icecream in the fridge…
He didn’t accept the bet…
Right after we entered the house… I bring her heading straight to our room, put her on the changing tray…
Wow!!! BIG!!!!! Ya, biggest poo I’ve seen…
Ever since her bowel movement pattern changed, I know the poo would be big, but I didn’t expect it to be THAT big…
We’re both so HAPPY!!! Seeing the poo…
Haha!! Call us gross… (I guess, all parents, to a certain extent can be a bit gross…)
The poo actually go to the front, reaching all the way up to her stomach…
Yorr~~~
Ya… ever since the change, 1 diaper is not enough to contain her poo…
I once said, if I detect her poo-ing fast… I will just bring her to the washroom… hold her on top of the toilet bowl…
Cos, it’s simply too much to catch with anything…
Later in the evening, same day…
She’s a second round…
Also big… this time, it came out of the edges of the diaper… Yorr~~~~ goodness!!!
He and I basically having a great time clearing up her mess man!!
And this time round, the favourite bouncing net was dirtied…
That day… I called her poo, “Poo of the Century”
My first encounter with her newly changed bowel movement was…
One fine afternoon… I was changing her wet diaper like usual…
Then, suddenly… she started having this expression…. (ya, 80% chances I’m able to guess it right, ie. she’s going to poo)
So, I thought… good then… leave the diaper behind to ‘catch’ her poo…
Her poo now is something pasty… yellow pasty… ya, that’s for fully breastfed babies…
I saw the paste slowly coming out… like production line like that…
Coming out coming out…
Since I didn’t want it to become a mess… I actually thought I could wipe away before the second batch came out,
So, I wiped it away…
But then… more and more were coming out before I could really clean them… and the wet tissues were simply piling up on the same diaper…
Imagine~~~
Poo piling up…
Tissue piling up…
When more poo comes out, where will it go???
To the side lo…
In the end… even though I’m trying to minimize the mess on the changing tray… it still become dirty and messy… @_@
I kept telling her…
“Baby, you’re a girl, don’t poo like that leh!!”
Ya… she understand ho??
Changed to poo-ing daily, to ONE BIG ONE in a few days…
So… for last week… she’s not poo’ed for around 4 days…
When it’s 3 days record, I start worry…
I did extensive research on the internet, checking this and that… ok, from reliable source…
Conclusion:
For fully breastfed babies, it’s normal
If baby hasn’t poo’ed for >7 days, bring him/her to see doctor then…
So I monitor very very closely…
Last Sunday, we went to ikano… and I kinda had this feeling (or, rather, everyday I was hoping…) that she’ll poo that day…
To protect the car seat and the stroller, I actually put her nappy as lining…, ok, just in case heh!!
She didn’t, when we’re in ikano…
However… on our way back after lunch… I could see that, she’s having some ‘movement’ down there…
Fully concentrate, and quiet.. but face a bit red…
We’re so eager to see…. I even make a bet with him… that she’s poo’ed or not… and prize is the remaining tub of baskin robin’s icecream in the fridge…
He didn’t accept the bet…
Right after we entered the house… I bring her heading straight to our room, put her on the changing tray…
Wow!!! BIG!!!!! Ya, biggest poo I’ve seen…
Ever since her bowel movement pattern changed, I know the poo would be big, but I didn’t expect it to be THAT big…
We’re both so HAPPY!!! Seeing the poo…
Haha!! Call us gross… (I guess, all parents, to a certain extent can be a bit gross…)
The poo actually go to the front, reaching all the way up to her stomach…
Yorr~~~
Ya… ever since the change, 1 diaper is not enough to contain her poo…
I once said, if I detect her poo-ing fast… I will just bring her to the washroom… hold her on top of the toilet bowl…
Cos, it’s simply too much to catch with anything…
Later in the evening, same day…
She’s a second round…
Also big… this time, it came out of the edges of the diaper… Yorr~~~~ goodness!!!
He and I basically having a great time clearing up her mess man!!
And this time round, the favourite bouncing net was dirtied…
That day… I called her poo, “Poo of the Century”
My first encounter with her newly changed bowel movement was…
One fine afternoon… I was changing her wet diaper like usual…
Then, suddenly… she started having this expression…. (ya, 80% chances I’m able to guess it right, ie. she’s going to poo)
So, I thought… good then… leave the diaper behind to ‘catch’ her poo…
Her poo now is something pasty… yellow pasty… ya, that’s for fully breastfed babies…
I saw the paste slowly coming out… like production line like that…
Coming out coming out…
Since I didn’t want it to become a mess… I actually thought I could wipe away before the second batch came out,
So, I wiped it away…
But then… more and more were coming out before I could really clean them… and the wet tissues were simply piling up on the same diaper…
Imagine~~~
Poo piling up…
Tissue piling up…
When more poo comes out, where will it go???
To the side lo…
In the end… even though I’m trying to minimize the mess on the changing tray… it still become dirty and messy… @_@
I kept telling her…
“Baby, you’re a girl, don’t poo like that leh!!”
Ya… she understand ho??
2009-06-22
BIG MAMA
After talking about roaches…
Ok… technically… after I’ve killed 2 roaches recently…
It reminded me of my mother…
While I was killing the cockroach, baby did came into my mind…
That make my mission a must-succeed mission…
Else the disgusting creature went to disturb her how??
And that reminded me of my mother…
I grew up in a small town, far east (a.k.a. Sibu, Sarawak)
And the place is still (ya, STILL) a place with swaps, woods, and undeveloped areas…
Therefore, as long as I can remember, in our house, every few days, there’ll be flying insects visiting our house…
And…~~~
You guess it…
I HATE & I’M DAMN SCARED OF FLYING INSECTS!!!
all sorts of butterfly
all sorts of moths
those “flying ants” that will come after rain, and they fly to well-lit area…
I remember having to put basin of water with a lit candle in the middle to attract them so that they’ll drop into the water and die…
Cicada (oh, frequent visitor man!)
Cricket (less often)
Cicada and one type of white colour butterfly/moth are the most frequent visitors…
And serious… I’ve to say I HATE IT!!!
Maybe some people, if growing up in such environment, they’ll get used to it…
But I simply hate it and scared of it, as many years as I lived there… (maybe that’s one of the reason that mould me into such a city girl, ya, I love city, especially metropolitan)
Whenever these visitors came to our house (and I’m not sure why, they seemed to like to fly to my room directly, rather than other area… maybe they could sense that I’m scared of them) I’ll scream and run…
If my father’s in the house, he’ll catch them, but I didn’t like it as whenever he caught them, he’d use it to scare me… damn!
If my father’s not in the house, it’ll be my mother’s job…
I remember I asked my mother once, if she’s scared
She said, she’s also scared, but for her children, she’s no choice…
……
That day, when I faced that disgusting roaches in the kitchen…
I remembered exactly what she’s told me, that line…
And now I know how it feels…
In Chinese, you simply have to harden your guts, “the skin of your head” and whatever you can harden to face it… and kill it… for your baby…
硬著頭皮
I guess, if really, baby’s screaming because of a moth, or butterfly, or cicada, and he’s not in the house… I die also have to catch it in the future… (arrghhh!!!)
And… guess what… I just have to硬著頭皮 and do it…
as… sometimes, when I look at our baby… thinking of all those bad saddening social news of what cruel disgusting adults do to younger baby girls, or younger girls… (and ya… if you’ve flesh and blood, how could they?? Right??)
I know very well, if anybody dares hurt my baby, I’ll send them to hell like how I send the roaches to hell…
Ok… technically… after I’ve killed 2 roaches recently…
It reminded me of my mother…
While I was killing the cockroach, baby did came into my mind…
That make my mission a must-succeed mission…
Else the disgusting creature went to disturb her how??
And that reminded me of my mother…
I grew up in a small town, far east (a.k.a. Sibu, Sarawak)
And the place is still (ya, STILL) a place with swaps, woods, and undeveloped areas…
Therefore, as long as I can remember, in our house, every few days, there’ll be flying insects visiting our house…
And…~~~
You guess it…
I HATE & I’M DAMN SCARED OF FLYING INSECTS!!!
all sorts of butterfly
all sorts of moths
those “flying ants” that will come after rain, and they fly to well-lit area…
I remember having to put basin of water with a lit candle in the middle to attract them so that they’ll drop into the water and die…
Cicada (oh, frequent visitor man!)
Cricket (less often)
Cicada and one type of white colour butterfly/moth are the most frequent visitors…
And serious… I’ve to say I HATE IT!!!
Maybe some people, if growing up in such environment, they’ll get used to it…
But I simply hate it and scared of it, as many years as I lived there… (maybe that’s one of the reason that mould me into such a city girl, ya, I love city, especially metropolitan)
Whenever these visitors came to our house (and I’m not sure why, they seemed to like to fly to my room directly, rather than other area… maybe they could sense that I’m scared of them) I’ll scream and run…
If my father’s in the house, he’ll catch them, but I didn’t like it as whenever he caught them, he’d use it to scare me… damn!
If my father’s not in the house, it’ll be my mother’s job…
I remember I asked my mother once, if she’s scared
She said, she’s also scared, but for her children, she’s no choice…
……
That day, when I faced that disgusting roaches in the kitchen…
I remembered exactly what she’s told me, that line…
And now I know how it feels…
In Chinese, you simply have to harden your guts, “the skin of your head” and whatever you can harden to face it… and kill it… for your baby…
硬著頭皮
I guess, if really, baby’s screaming because of a moth, or butterfly, or cicada, and he’s not in the house… I die also have to catch it in the future… (arrghhh!!!)
And… guess what… I just have to硬著頭皮 and do it…
as… sometimes, when I look at our baby… thinking of all those bad saddening social news of what cruel disgusting adults do to younger baby girls, or younger girls… (and ya… if you’ve flesh and blood, how could they?? Right??)
I know very well, if anybody dares hurt my baby, I’ll send them to hell like how I send the roaches to hell…
Roaches Go to Hell
See… lately (or, I’ll say, after I’ve given birth) I’ve killed 2 cockroaches in our house… arggh!!!!~~~~
He’s killed one flying cockroach, which flew into our living room one day…
I seriously hate them, and also seriously damn scared of them
I once described it to my youngest brother…
How I feel about roaches…
See, I’m so scared of them… scared but won’t and can’t runaway… maybe I’m rational in that sense, running away doesn’t solve the “problem”… I won’t jump onto the couch and scream and if he’s around I’ll ask him to try to catch it and kill it, but normally, he’ll have to give it a few shots before hitting the jackpot!!! ~_~
As for me…
I’m really really very scared of it… (I guess nobody really can see/feel how I feel about roaches)
But I also hate them very very very very very much!!!!!! VERY MUCH~~~~~ HEAR ME?????
So… I’ve left with one choice…
As for the 2 killings that I’ve done… it’s after everybody in my household has gone to bed, slept soundly… and I’m left alone…
The moment I saw this monster, my sweat immediately come out… but I hate it so much that, I’ve to kill it…
I’ve to…
No joke!
The best way (after some experience) to get them is to use newspaper… (as newspaper is hard enough to ‘paralyze’ it, but soft enough not to make it ‘splat’ and all the internal gross stuff come out)
2 killings, I hit ONLY ONCE… maybe I hate it just so much that, it gives me the accuracy…
But since I’m so scared of it, so what after paralyzing it…
It’s not fully dead yet, and I can’t leave the dead body lying around on the floor IN MY HOUSEHOLD!
The first time, I use the same newspaper, scooped it (this gross disgusting creature actually moved a bit to do its last struggling) with my sweat dripping and dripping… and bring it to the toilet, flush it down… since it’s light, and to ensure that, it’ll be flushed down the toilet, I throw a little bit of toilet tissue to add the weight onto its disgusting body
The second time, it’s near our storeroom, so I took the broom (which we don’t use anymore, only the confinement lady used when she’s here) and sweep it to the dustpan… again same type of gross creature do the same disgusting struggle… it tried to clamp onto the broom… NEVERMIND!!! I just hit the broom at the rim of the toilet bowl and it dropped into the water…
Again, to ensure it’ll be flushed down… I put some toilet tissue!!!
Oh gosh!!! It’s just so damn disgusting and I’m fully exhausted, as well as disgusted… yuek!
And I could take it no more…
So, I went online to research some ways to ‘repel’ it, and to kill it…
I don’t want to stay out there EVERY NIGHT to catch roaches ok!!!!!
And ya… I know I can wake him up from his sleep to do this dirty job, but see… even during alert time, he’ll have to give it a few shots, what more to say, in the middle of sleep… catching and killing roaches should be a job without mistake… ~_~
Also, maybe he does not hate it THAT MUCH to give him that sort of accuracy…
Oh ya, the first time… the creature was at the edge of the door towards our backyard
The second time, the stupid creature was crawling slowing around the rubbish plastic bag… thinking that, it’ll have its delicious supper is it?? Huh!
The more I researched online, the more disgusted I became…
A few messages I came across repeatedly, from Chinese sites, from English sites…
First, roaches have been on this planet for million years… it’s not like you want to get rid of them you can get rid of them easily… there’s no 100% guaranteed remedy… ooh ah!!! Doom!!
Second, ants are scared of sourness, roaches are scared of nice scent (螞蟻怕酸，蟑螂怕香)
Third, the scariest one… since roaches multiply very fast… if you start to see them even during day time (their activity time’s at night) then your household is basically doomed!!!
Oh, goodness gracious… the more I think about it, the more I couldn’t sleep…
THAT WEEKEND,
We went to the supermarket… I bought a lot of stuff… scenty stuff…
To repel, to kill, to bait…
I put them everywhere…
See how it goes… and God please bless me…
He’s killed one flying cockroach, which flew into our living room one day…
I seriously hate them, and also seriously damn scared of them
I once described it to my youngest brother…
How I feel about roaches…
See, I’m so scared of them… scared but won’t and can’t runaway… maybe I’m rational in that sense, running away doesn’t solve the “problem”… I won’t jump onto the couch and scream and if he’s around I’ll ask him to try to catch it and kill it, but normally, he’ll have to give it a few shots before hitting the jackpot!!! ~_~
As for me…
I’m really really very scared of it… (I guess nobody really can see/feel how I feel about roaches)
But I also hate them very very very very very much!!!!!! VERY MUCH~~~~~ HEAR ME?????
So… I’ve left with one choice…
As for the 2 killings that I’ve done… it’s after everybody in my household has gone to bed, slept soundly… and I’m left alone…
The moment I saw this monster, my sweat immediately come out… but I hate it so much that, I’ve to kill it…
I’ve to…
No joke!
The best way (after some experience) to get them is to use newspaper… (as newspaper is hard enough to ‘paralyze’ it, but soft enough not to make it ‘splat’ and all the internal gross stuff come out)
2 killings, I hit ONLY ONCE… maybe I hate it just so much that, it gives me the accuracy…
But since I’m so scared of it, so what after paralyzing it…
It’s not fully dead yet, and I can’t leave the dead body lying around on the floor IN MY HOUSEHOLD!
The first time, I use the same newspaper, scooped it (this gross disgusting creature actually moved a bit to do its last struggling) with my sweat dripping and dripping… and bring it to the toilet, flush it down… since it’s light, and to ensure that, it’ll be flushed down the toilet, I throw a little bit of toilet tissue to add the weight onto its disgusting body
The second time, it’s near our storeroom, so I took the broom (which we don’t use anymore, only the confinement lady used when she’s here) and sweep it to the dustpan… again same type of gross creature do the same disgusting struggle… it tried to clamp onto the broom… NEVERMIND!!! I just hit the broom at the rim of the toilet bowl and it dropped into the water…
Again, to ensure it’ll be flushed down… I put some toilet tissue!!!
Oh gosh!!! It’s just so damn disgusting and I’m fully exhausted, as well as disgusted… yuek!
And I could take it no more…
So, I went online to research some ways to ‘repel’ it, and to kill it…
I don’t want to stay out there EVERY NIGHT to catch roaches ok!!!!!
And ya… I know I can wake him up from his sleep to do this dirty job, but see… even during alert time, he’ll have to give it a few shots, what more to say, in the middle of sleep… catching and killing roaches should be a job without mistake… ~_~
Also, maybe he does not hate it THAT MUCH to give him that sort of accuracy…
Oh ya, the first time… the creature was at the edge of the door towards our backyard
The second time, the stupid creature was crawling slowing around the rubbish plastic bag… thinking that, it’ll have its delicious supper is it?? Huh!
The more I researched online, the more disgusted I became…
A few messages I came across repeatedly, from Chinese sites, from English sites…
First, roaches have been on this planet for million years… it’s not like you want to get rid of them you can get rid of them easily… there’s no 100% guaranteed remedy… ooh ah!!! Doom!!
Second, ants are scared of sourness, roaches are scared of nice scent (螞蟻怕酸，蟑螂怕香)
Third, the scariest one… since roaches multiply very fast… if you start to see them even during day time (their activity time’s at night) then your household is basically doomed!!!
Oh, goodness gracious… the more I think about it, the more I couldn’t sleep…
THAT WEEKEND,
We went to the supermarket… I bought a lot of stuff… scenty stuff…
To repel, to kill, to bait…
I put them everywhere…
See how it goes… and God please bless me…
enjoybreastfeed.com
Haha… “shun bien” help them to advertise a bit…
Anyway… I’ve to say… I’m lucky to have a period of blessed pregnancy…
I enjoyed my pregnancy…
Though I still throw my anger, but I simply enjoy throwing my anger…
My colleagues/friends advised me not to do that… else, “baby comes out, sure very bad temper”…
I’ve my own theory…
If you’re angry about certain things, or at certain people and you hold it… keep it to yourself… baby really may comes out, very bad temper…
UNLESS you’re able to really control your emotion, your way of thinking and become not angry… everything also ‘let go’… then, it’ll be fine…
I just answered them, “nah… I need to teach the baby what’s right and what’s wrong…” (ya… 胎教嘛！), ya, that’s in work… there’s RIGHT and WRONG… very straightforward…
For eg. Things like our “favourite” colleague 2face’s doing, it’s just WRONG, you cannot just close 1 eye and pretend that it doesn’t happen… and live with it…
(by the way, actually there’s new “season” about 2face, after the last finale… I shall blog about it some other time…)
Or, for eg. One of our business partner, or rather, vendor… this girl, she liked to comment things like this to me, about our company, about my colleagues, and liked to poke into my work…
Arrgh… as usual, I deviated from my own thinking most of the time…
Back to breastfeeding…
I’m grateful and thankful that, I’ve a good pregnancy (no morning sickness, no midnight leg cramps, no special food craving, or whatever)
And I’m grateful that, I’m actually enjoying my breastfeeding sessions… (despite all the complications that happened to my assets)
And… at this stage (at this stage only), I’ve to say my motherhood is so far so good…
Not sure about parenthood later… cos, parenting is slightly different…
Baby’s still small… things are simple… I do not really lack of sleep problem (probably also due to my nature, that I normally do sleep at odd hour) and I know… most likely all mothers out there don’t do this… but…
I actually catch up with my loss sleep when I’m nursing…
She eats, I sleep… and she falls asleep, and we both sleep… so, in fact, 1/3 of the day, she’s sleeping on my lap, or, technically, in my arms…
Then, she’s hungry, wakes up, I switch side, nurse again, I sleep… she falls asleep again… for about 1/3 to 1/2 of the day… in between, she sometimes wakes up and stays awake for around 45 min to 1 hour, which is the time, she’s most happy and alert of the day (usually it’s in the morning, like 8-9 o’clock) and that I’ll play with her and communicate with her… ya, I know that’s very important for her, and I’ve to stay awake… anyway, after a while, she’ll get hungry/sleepy… and both of us will go back to the same cycle…
That’s why I got “enough” sleep, and that’s why I still have my own precious private time, ie. sitting in front of my computer…
Or… when we’re both supposed to be “wake up” time… we’ll go to the living room, I’ll nurse when she’s hungry, she eats, I watch TV/DVD/my downloaded movies… etc.
In between…
I’ll do my daily housechores a little bit here and there, for eg. Preparing the water for her bath, launderette, dinner… etc.
I’ve to say, thank God, so far so good…
Anyway… I’ve to say… I’m lucky to have a period of blessed pregnancy…
I enjoyed my pregnancy…
Though I still throw my anger, but I simply enjoy throwing my anger…
My colleagues/friends advised me not to do that… else, “baby comes out, sure very bad temper”…
I’ve my own theory…
If you’re angry about certain things, or at certain people and you hold it… keep it to yourself… baby really may comes out, very bad temper…
UNLESS you’re able to really control your emotion, your way of thinking and become not angry… everything also ‘let go’… then, it’ll be fine…
I just answered them, “nah… I need to teach the baby what’s right and what’s wrong…” (ya… 胎教嘛！), ya, that’s in work… there’s RIGHT and WRONG… very straightforward…
For eg. Things like our “favourite” colleague 2face’s doing, it’s just WRONG, you cannot just close 1 eye and pretend that it doesn’t happen… and live with it…
(by the way, actually there’s new “season” about 2face, after the last finale… I shall blog about it some other time…)
Or, for eg. One of our business partner, or rather, vendor… this girl, she liked to comment things like this to me, about our company, about my colleagues, and liked to poke into my work…
- She said, our sales people need to be “educated”,
- One day, I was pissed, as she came to give me some festive gift, but at the same time (maybe she thought she’s given me some gift, she can then have the “pass” to go through my stuff) she was flipping through the documents on my table… asking if there’s anything for her company… I regretted not telling her off there and then, as my reaction came slow… only after she left, I realized what she did was not right… and therefore, I lost my temper a bit
Arrgh… as usual, I deviated from my own thinking most of the time…
Back to breastfeeding…
I’m grateful and thankful that, I’ve a good pregnancy (no morning sickness, no midnight leg cramps, no special food craving, or whatever)
And I’m grateful that, I’m actually enjoying my breastfeeding sessions… (despite all the complications that happened to my assets)
And… at this stage (at this stage only), I’ve to say my motherhood is so far so good…
Not sure about parenthood later… cos, parenting is slightly different…
Baby’s still small… things are simple… I do not really lack of sleep problem (probably also due to my nature, that I normally do sleep at odd hour) and I know… most likely all mothers out there don’t do this… but…
I actually catch up with my loss sleep when I’m nursing…
She eats, I sleep… and she falls asleep, and we both sleep… so, in fact, 1/3 of the day, she’s sleeping on my lap, or, technically, in my arms…
Then, she’s hungry, wakes up, I switch side, nurse again, I sleep… she falls asleep again… for about 1/3 to 1/2 of the day… in between, she sometimes wakes up and stays awake for around 45 min to 1 hour, which is the time, she’s most happy and alert of the day (usually it’s in the morning, like 8-9 o’clock) and that I’ll play with her and communicate with her… ya, I know that’s very important for her, and I’ve to stay awake… anyway, after a while, she’ll get hungry/sleepy… and both of us will go back to the same cycle…
That’s why I got “enough” sleep, and that’s why I still have my own precious private time, ie. sitting in front of my computer…
Or… when we’re both supposed to be “wake up” time… we’ll go to the living room, I’ll nurse when she’s hungry, she eats, I watch TV/DVD/my downloaded movies… etc.
In between…
I’ll do my daily housechores a little bit here and there, for eg. Preparing the water for her bath, launderette, dinner… etc.
I’ve to say, thank God, so far so good…
My Crime Series
I started watching CSIs with the CSI Miami… and I used to prefer CSI Miami more than the others… simply because the Cuban guy Eric is pretty cute and I’ve to say, I actually like Calleigh’s voice ^_^
Then, I started to watch CSI NY…
Followed by the original CSI : Crime Scene Investigation..
I used to dislike this original CSI (call it CSI LV)… as I don’t like the leader… not handsome enough, and there weren’t anybody that’s handsome in the show, and Sara’s simply too “not cute”… and Catherine is just too old…
Anyway… as of today…
The “chart” has been reshuffled…
CSI LV, then, Miami, then, NY
Why???
Like I told him… after watching some CSI LV… I found that, the LV one is slightly more real… cos at the same time, I sometimes catch some documentaries on the CI (Crime and Investigation) channel on Astro…
LV feels more real… as the cases presented are very similar to those mentioned in CI, and it’s really more scary… those cases, are more real and you know it may happen to you…
Whole CSI Miami is simply very entertaining… and bright… and loads of bikini… my liking towards CSI Miami is still the same… I hate to say, I kinda like Horatio as the leader… he’s more emotional compared to the rest of the CSI’s leaders… cos, he sometimes would do “funny” things to protect his team and his lab… BUT ya, now I remember, one thing that puts me off a little bit off this franchise is that stupid woman Natalia… goodness… I simply don’t like the view of her in the show… she’s new, but yet, whenever she approaches the crime scene, her style is just intolerable, cos, she did it as if she’s the best crime scene analyst and she could do it easily and relaxingly, unlike the serious others… hey! Even Calleigh is more senior than her, she’s at least SERIOUS about her job… and this bitch has slept with both the guys in the show… goodness!
Grissom, I just refer him as “fei lou” (fatty in Cantonese) is very smart and hands-on, but arrghh… not handsome leh~~ not handsome nevermind, not even adorable…
(oh now, he’s ‘retired’ from the role and they put a new role, by Lawrence Fishburne, I actually like this new role… I thought it’s a good move for CSI LV)
And for CSI NY, what shall I say…
I just describe to him as, “very canggih crime”…
The crime and the way of dying of the victims in this franchise is just too “canggih”, and too high-tech…
It only happened in shows…
Ya, it shows that the team is kinda like very intelligent and is capable in solving all the “high-tech” crime… however, it feels a bit unreal…
The only few episodes that caught my full attention are those about the cabby killer…
HOWEVER!!!
After saying all these… my fav is in fact “Criminal Minds”…
Again, one of the reason is I like Thomas Gibson’s role…
And I like Mandy Patinkin as the ex-leader…
I also like David Rossi as the new leader though…
These characters more “exotic” compares to the other crime series..
And again… the cases presented in these series CAN happen in the real world… that’s why I find them interesting…
But of course, if Astro also shows
“Close to home”
“The Closer”
I will watch also…
These shows are usually shown on StarWorld, with CSIs on AXN (now you know my fav channels huh!)
But something on Hallmark I’ll also watch, if I manage to catch them,
Ie. “Law and Order” (Criminal Intent and SVU), Without A Trace
Kekekekeke…
Then, I started to watch CSI NY…
Followed by the original CSI : Crime Scene Investigation..
I used to dislike this original CSI (call it CSI LV)… as I don’t like the leader… not handsome enough, and there weren’t anybody that’s handsome in the show, and Sara’s simply too “not cute”… and Catherine is just too old…
Anyway… as of today…
The “chart” has been reshuffled…
CSI LV, then, Miami, then, NY
Why???
Like I told him… after watching some CSI LV… I found that, the LV one is slightly more real… cos at the same time, I sometimes catch some documentaries on the CI (Crime and Investigation) channel on Astro…
LV feels more real… as the cases presented are very similar to those mentioned in CI, and it’s really more scary… those cases, are more real and you know it may happen to you…
Whole CSI Miami is simply very entertaining… and bright… and loads of bikini… my liking towards CSI Miami is still the same… I hate to say, I kinda like Horatio as the leader… he’s more emotional compared to the rest of the CSI’s leaders… cos, he sometimes would do “funny” things to protect his team and his lab… BUT ya, now I remember, one thing that puts me off a little bit off this franchise is that stupid woman Natalia… goodness… I simply don’t like the view of her in the show… she’s new, but yet, whenever she approaches the crime scene, her style is just intolerable, cos, she did it as if she’s the best crime scene analyst and she could do it easily and relaxingly, unlike the serious others… hey! Even Calleigh is more senior than her, she’s at least SERIOUS about her job… and this bitch has slept with both the guys in the show… goodness!
Grissom, I just refer him as “fei lou” (fatty in Cantonese) is very smart and hands-on, but arrghh… not handsome leh~~ not handsome nevermind, not even adorable…
(oh now, he’s ‘retired’ from the role and they put a new role, by Lawrence Fishburne, I actually like this new role… I thought it’s a good move for CSI LV)
And for CSI NY, what shall I say…
I just describe to him as, “very canggih crime”…
The crime and the way of dying of the victims in this franchise is just too “canggih”, and too high-tech…
It only happened in shows…
Ya, it shows that the team is kinda like very intelligent and is capable in solving all the “high-tech” crime… however, it feels a bit unreal…
The only few episodes that caught my full attention are those about the cabby killer…
HOWEVER!!!
After saying all these… my fav is in fact “Criminal Minds”…
Again, one of the reason is I like Thomas Gibson’s role…
And I like Mandy Patinkin as the ex-leader…
I also like David Rossi as the new leader though…
These characters more “exotic” compares to the other crime series..
And again… the cases presented in these series CAN happen in the real world… that’s why I find them interesting…
But of course, if Astro also shows
“Close to home”
“The Closer”
I will watch also…
These shows are usually shown on StarWorld, with CSIs on AXN (now you know my fav channels huh!)
But something on Hallmark I’ll also watch, if I manage to catch them,
Ie. “Law and Order” (Criminal Intent and SVU), Without A Trace
Kekekekeke…
Low-E Buffoon
I do not like to deal with people who likes to quote others…
I really do not like…
In work, I’ve always advised my colleague, who’ll be taking over my job that, to gain the trust from our business partners, don’t quote them… then… they’ll tell you all information that you’ll need… cos, they know that you’ll not betray them…
I really hate people who quote others…
It’s like… these people do not have a mind of their own
They’ll tell you, “boss says cannot bla bla bla… boss says you must bla bla bla…” and so on…
That’s in work…
In other aspect of daily live…
Sometimes we hear one family member says, “your uncle said you should not bla bla bla… “ (or your father, your brother, your auntie, your grandpa, your grandma, your whoever”…
Damn!!! Isn’t it??? Can I kick your ass??
So, what say you???
I thought these people basically has no confidence in themselves…
And I just use the very simple way to deal with them…
I live myself this simple way
If Mr. A says I cannot bla bla bla…
Then, Mr. A shall come upon and tell me himself…
You don’t have to quote others…
You really just don’t have to quote others…
If you don’t even have the guts to tell me what’s actually in your mind, then, please, just keep your mouth shut!
Will you?
Another obvious trait of this sort of people is,
They very often, or, rather, ALWAYS tell you that, they’re OK WITH ANYTHING
In English, “I’m ok with anything”, “anything’s fine”
In Chinese, “我很隨便的！” （哼！放你的大屁！）
In Cantonese, “ngo mat yeh dou dat”, “ngo hou choi bien ge” (bluek!)
Can I double-kick your ass then!!
Oh ya, why I said “Low-E Buffoon”???
Low-E, ie. low EQ… I posted this Signs of High and Low EQ
Oh… just refer to the Signs of Low EQ portion can liao!
And “buffoon”… haha, that’s just additional “items”, cos, I was watching this boston legal episode, which I’ve watched before, and it’s about that buffoon guy, which I remember blogging about it…
And I thought, ya… Low-E people… oh, are worse than being a buffoon!!
I really do not like…
In work, I’ve always advised my colleague, who’ll be taking over my job that, to gain the trust from our business partners, don’t quote them… then… they’ll tell you all information that you’ll need… cos, they know that you’ll not betray them…
I really hate people who quote others…
It’s like… these people do not have a mind of their own
They’ll tell you, “boss says cannot bla bla bla… boss says you must bla bla bla…” and so on…
That’s in work…
In other aspect of daily live…
Sometimes we hear one family member says, “your uncle said you should not bla bla bla… “ (or your father, your brother, your auntie, your grandpa, your grandma, your whoever”…
Damn!!! Isn’t it??? Can I kick your ass??
So, what say you???
I thought these people basically has no confidence in themselves…
And I just use the very simple way to deal with them…
I live myself this simple way
If Mr. A says I cannot bla bla bla…
Then, Mr. A shall come upon and tell me himself…
You don’t have to quote others…
You really just don’t have to quote others…
If you don’t even have the guts to tell me what’s actually in your mind, then, please, just keep your mouth shut!
Will you?
Another obvious trait of this sort of people is,
They very often, or, rather, ALWAYS tell you that, they’re OK WITH ANYTHING
In English, “I’m ok with anything”, “anything’s fine”
In Chinese, “我很隨便的！” （哼！放你的大屁！）
In Cantonese, “ngo mat yeh dou dat”, “ngo hou choi bien ge” (bluek!)
Can I double-kick your ass then!!
Oh ya, why I said “Low-E Buffoon”???
Low-E, ie. low EQ… I posted this Signs of High and Low EQ
Oh… just refer to the Signs of Low EQ portion can liao!
And “buffoon”… haha, that’s just additional “items”, cos, I was watching this boston legal episode, which I’ve watched before, and it’s about that buffoon guy, which I remember blogging about it…
And I thought, ya… Low-E people… oh, are worse than being a buffoon!!
2009-06-21
sweetest voice
Don’t get it wrong… she hasn’t started calling us “papa”, or “mama” yet…
Not so soon…
But it’s already good enough…
That morning, after nursing her… I put her back to her playpen, expecting her to sleep…
That’s 7 something in the morning, if I’ve not remembered wrongly…
And I was preparing to catch my own sleep too…
Then, I hear her “ao…”, “ah…”, “ou…”
Not her cry…
Just very sweet little voice coming out from her…
SO SWEET and cute!!!
I got up and look at her…
She’s talking to the 3 little bears hanging above her head in the playpen…
Yor~~~~~~
So ‘ke ai’ man!!!
Ah… I couldn’t sleep anymore…
When she’s ready/prepared to talk…
It’s golden time for me to bring her to the front of me and start communicating with her…
Goodness… her voice’s simply too cute and sweet…
Ya… I can’t forget that morning
The sweetest voice I’ve heard…
From little baby…
Baby, mama love you love you
Not so soon…
But it’s already good enough…
That morning, after nursing her… I put her back to her playpen, expecting her to sleep…
That’s 7 something in the morning, if I’ve not remembered wrongly…
And I was preparing to catch my own sleep too…
Then, I hear her “ao…”, “ah…”, “ou…”
Not her cry…
Just very sweet little voice coming out from her…
SO SWEET and cute!!!
I got up and look at her…
She’s talking to the 3 little bears hanging above her head in the playpen…
Yor~~~~~~
So ‘ke ai’ man!!!
Ah… I couldn’t sleep anymore…
When she’s ready/prepared to talk…
It’s golden time for me to bring her to the front of me and start communicating with her…
Goodness… her voice’s simply too cute and sweet…
Ya… I can’t forget that morning
The sweetest voice I’ve heard…
From little baby…
Baby, mama love you love you
diary vs. blog
ya… one by one…
since I was organising my files on my PC, ya, not just on my PC, but also, between PC and my external hdd…
(oh, just for your information, due to my great management skill, now, I’ve spare 3 ‘biji’ of external hdd, which equals to 280GB of free space, yatta~~~)
Ok ok…
Since I was organising my files… and merging all my older files that’s been scattered across different media… different type of folders and bla bla bla…
I came to realize that things have changed…
Did I mention I started writing diary since I was around 12???
Ya that time… don’t know why, I felt a bit of guilt by keeping a diary, and I’d to keep it in my drawer, hidden at the bottom of my drawer, but luckily, I never had nosy parents who like to dig into my stuff, and my parents also did not help “tidy” up my belongings on the regular basis… that’s good…
Kids just need to learn how to tidy up their own belongings right??
So, after so many years, I’ve written a lot of things… from 1 book to 1 book of diaries during the secondary school to uni days…
Then, after I started work, after my brother taught me how to use the Chinese fonts on Windows… I started doing it on the computer…
When I first had my twinhead in 2004…
I guess, from after uni, ie. 1997 to around 2004, there’s a void, that I don’t write anything…
I guess… cos, I really will not be able to find any trails…
Diary, I can find them… as in real hard copy diaries…
Digital forms… I still keep them… that’s why I was busy reorganizing last night…
Anyway…
I came to realize… before I started blogging, I wrote quite a lot of diaries… especially when I traveled with him… one of the main thing that I jot down most were about my dreams… ya, during those free days, when I could afford to sleep damn a lot, I had a lot of dreams, dreams that when I got up, I still can remember, and therefore I jot them down… it’s kinda interesting when you read back… and of course, if you ask me, it’s worth the effort to jot down…
That’s before my blogging days…
And when I started the multiply blog…
What I realize is…
I write for people to see more than I write in the mean of talking to myself…
I guess… I shall start doing that again…
It’s good to talk to yourself…
Maybe it works for type of people like me (but what’s the “type”, nah, don’t know)
I’d recorded a lot prior to my blogging day… it’s about everything, ya, dreams that I had, events that happened, unhappiness… darkness… and so on… every single things.. but nowadays, I don’t write in such manner anymore
Cos, I write in the mean for people to see… so, it’s kind of like… it’s developed a pattern for me to write, and I couldn’t get out of the pattern…
Aren’t we all the same, most of the time?
When we’re in new place, we can be the real person or a totally ‘different’ person as who we normally are, in our daily life…
However… that won’t last long… once we gotta know people, we started this pattern…
Cos, we know that, there’re people who know us… and we’ve to “live up to expectation”, and then… and then…
We become a person who we want and at the same time, others expect us to be…
And then, we sometimes find it tiring… cos, that’s not the real person we want to be… we just want to be ourselves, right??
I’m not sure about others… but as for me, it’s not easy… it’s just a vicious circle… I simply can’t get out of it… I’ll only say… throughout each change, it makes me a ‘better’ person… ie. a person that’s closer to the real person that I want to be… that’s why, I like changes of environment…
And that’s why I like making new friends…
AND that’s why I appreciate my friends a lot… cos, in a way, they’re one of the factors of “making” the ME today…
Anyway… where am I now??
I should be staying on the topic of diary vs. blog??
Ya… diary, I used to call it 心情錄，I use it as a tool of talking to myself… so, it really can be very very very personal
But blog… eh… everybody knows what it is ^_^
since I was organising my files on my PC, ya, not just on my PC, but also, between PC and my external hdd…
(oh, just for your information, due to my great management skill, now, I’ve spare 3 ‘biji’ of external hdd, which equals to 280GB of free space, yatta~~~)
Ok ok…
Since I was organising my files… and merging all my older files that’s been scattered across different media… different type of folders and bla bla bla…
I came to realize that things have changed…
Did I mention I started writing diary since I was around 12???
Ya that time… don’t know why, I felt a bit of guilt by keeping a diary, and I’d to keep it in my drawer, hidden at the bottom of my drawer, but luckily, I never had nosy parents who like to dig into my stuff, and my parents also did not help “tidy” up my belongings on the regular basis… that’s good…
Kids just need to learn how to tidy up their own belongings right??
So, after so many years, I’ve written a lot of things… from 1 book to 1 book of diaries during the secondary school to uni days…
Then, after I started work, after my brother taught me how to use the Chinese fonts on Windows… I started doing it on the computer…
When I first had my twinhead in 2004…
I guess, from after uni, ie. 1997 to around 2004, there’s a void, that I don’t write anything…
I guess… cos, I really will not be able to find any trails…
Diary, I can find them… as in real hard copy diaries…
Digital forms… I still keep them… that’s why I was busy reorganizing last night…
Anyway…
I came to realize… before I started blogging, I wrote quite a lot of diaries… especially when I traveled with him… one of the main thing that I jot down most were about my dreams… ya, during those free days, when I could afford to sleep damn a lot, I had a lot of dreams, dreams that when I got up, I still can remember, and therefore I jot them down… it’s kinda interesting when you read back… and of course, if you ask me, it’s worth the effort to jot down…
That’s before my blogging days…
And when I started the multiply blog…
What I realize is…
I write for people to see more than I write in the mean of talking to myself…
I guess… I shall start doing that again…
It’s good to talk to yourself…
Maybe it works for type of people like me (but what’s the “type”, nah, don’t know)
I’d recorded a lot prior to my blogging day… it’s about everything, ya, dreams that I had, events that happened, unhappiness… darkness… and so on… every single things.. but nowadays, I don’t write in such manner anymore
Cos, I write in the mean for people to see… so, it’s kind of like… it’s developed a pattern for me to write, and I couldn’t get out of the pattern…
Aren’t we all the same, most of the time?
When we’re in new place, we can be the real person or a totally ‘different’ person as who we normally are, in our daily life…
However… that won’t last long… once we gotta know people, we started this pattern…
Cos, we know that, there’re people who know us… and we’ve to “live up to expectation”, and then… and then…
We become a person who we want and at the same time, others expect us to be…
And then, we sometimes find it tiring… cos, that’s not the real person we want to be… we just want to be ourselves, right??
I’m not sure about others… but as for me, it’s not easy… it’s just a vicious circle… I simply can’t get out of it… I’ll only say… throughout each change, it makes me a ‘better’ person… ie. a person that’s closer to the real person that I want to be… that’s why, I like changes of environment…
And that’s why I like making new friends…
AND that’s why I appreciate my friends a lot… cos, in a way, they’re one of the factors of “making” the ME today…
Anyway… where am I now??
I should be staying on the topic of diary vs. blog??
Ya… diary, I used to call it 心情錄，I use it as a tool of talking to myself… so, it really can be very very very personal
But blog… eh… everybody knows what it is ^_^
Data Management
On Thursday, we got our new desktop PC from dell… ya I ordered online, I thought it’s quite a good deal though… well, at least, I think it’s worth the money, RM2589 (ask me the specs separately, k?)
And because of this “event”…
I was having some ‘headache’… before it arrives, and after it’s arrived…
Before…
I keep “rehearsing” in my head, how I should organize the wiring at workstation… call it a workstation, but it’s just this mini cute little “workstation” from IKEA, which cost around RM300 if I’ve not remembered wrongly…
Basically there’re 3 things in my mind, that I’ve to resolved, before, and after the PC arrives
1. The wiring
2. My data (well… some of you may knows, I’ve tones of digital junks, which 80% is my downloaded movies, jdorama, and series) which.. also means… how I should utilize my hard-disk, ya, external ones, some need power, some portable, again, ask me separately if you want to know how many of them, ^_^)
3. After setting up everything, last things… my files… my outlook .pst files… and so on… how I should reorganize them… cos, I’ll be using this desktop extensively (for so many years, I’ve been using the twinhead notebook, and for the past 2 years, the notebook provided by my company)
That’s it… that’s the list, but because of that, I was having slight ‘headache’… ya, I’m the type of person, once I’ve these things (unsettled things) in mind, I can’t really sleep, I just have to carry it out and complete it… anxiety… (one of my friends once asked me to watch “Monk”, after she came to know that, I’ve such type of “anxiety”… haha!)
So… as I’m blogging now… everything’s settled.. and the price?? I’ve a slight flu…
AND since I’m breastfeeding my little baby, can I still continue… I once doubted… but then, I came about this article from one of those baby website… it says, I should continue… cos, the antibody that I’m developing now, will be passed to her… wow!! Great then… ^_^ (03:59)
And because of this “event”…
I was having some ‘headache’… before it arrives, and after it’s arrived…
Before…
I keep “rehearsing” in my head, how I should organize the wiring at workstation… call it a workstation, but it’s just this mini cute little “workstation” from IKEA, which cost around RM300 if I’ve not remembered wrongly…
Basically there’re 3 things in my mind, that I’ve to resolved, before, and after the PC arrives
1. The wiring
2. My data (well… some of you may knows, I’ve tones of digital junks, which 80% is my downloaded movies, jdorama, and series) which.. also means… how I should utilize my hard-disk, ya, external ones, some need power, some portable, again, ask me separately if you want to know how many of them, ^_^)
3. After setting up everything, last things… my files… my outlook .pst files… and so on… how I should reorganize them… cos, I’ll be using this desktop extensively (for so many years, I’ve been using the twinhead notebook, and for the past 2 years, the notebook provided by my company)
That’s it… that’s the list, but because of that, I was having slight ‘headache’… ya, I’m the type of person, once I’ve these things (unsettled things) in mind, I can’t really sleep, I just have to carry it out and complete it… anxiety… (one of my friends once asked me to watch “Monk”, after she came to know that, I’ve such type of “anxiety”… haha!)
So… as I’m blogging now… everything’s settled.. and the price?? I’ve a slight flu…
AND since I’m breastfeeding my little baby, can I still continue… I once doubted… but then, I came about this article from one of those baby website… it says, I should continue… cos, the antibody that I’m developing now, will be passed to her… wow!! Great then… ^_^ (03:59)
~~~tHe jOURney of ThE BREASTS~~~ (Part IV)
So what now?
What happens now is… big mama here has oversupply/overabundant milk problem…
Sabishii~~~~~~ T_T
It started around 2 weekends ago,
Little baby started crying during nursing, in the afternoon..
Later I found out, it’s because of this “forceful let-down” (I’m not going into details on all these terms, as it can be google’ed)
For around 2 weeks, every evening, both of us are as frustrated as each other…
She cries, but she’s hungry, I tried all positions… most of the time… she cries…
She’s giving all these colic-like symptoms (oh ya… after today’s check, it’s only colic-like, not colic… phew…)
The problem with oversupply and thus forceful letdown is…
Well… at first, I was still trying my luck, by maybe ‘forcing’ her to latch on… by pressing on her little head (aiyo!!! Poor little thing)
But then… I realised, forceful letdown… it’s just like
1. When you watch movies… the bad people force something down your throat when they capture you, and tie you up… arggh… nobody likes it
2. Or, when somebody takes a pipe and spray on you with jet of water… arrghh… I don’t like it either…
So… it’s like baby has to deal with this type of “situation” almost every evening…
Poor little thing…
That’s why, some mothers wish they’ve more milk.. but fulltime nursing mother like me… probably hopes that, I’ve slightly less milk…
And guess what again??
As of this evening, we found that, she’s a drop of greenish stool in her diaper…
After some ‘research’… hai… it’s foremilk-hindmilk imbalance…
However… luckily, I managed to find some ‘resolution’ on the internet…
And I shall try the remedies…
http://breastfeeding.hypermart.net/toomuchmilk.html
What happens now is… big mama here has oversupply/overabundant milk problem…
Sabishii~~~~~~ T_T
It started around 2 weekends ago,
Little baby started crying during nursing, in the afternoon..
Later I found out, it’s because of this “forceful let-down” (I’m not going into details on all these terms, as it can be google’ed)
For around 2 weeks, every evening, both of us are as frustrated as each other…
She cries, but she’s hungry, I tried all positions… most of the time… she cries…
She’s giving all these colic-like symptoms (oh ya… after today’s check, it’s only colic-like, not colic… phew…)
The problem with oversupply and thus forceful letdown is…
Well… at first, I was still trying my luck, by maybe ‘forcing’ her to latch on… by pressing on her little head (aiyo!!! Poor little thing)
But then… I realised, forceful letdown… it’s just like
1. When you watch movies… the bad people force something down your throat when they capture you, and tie you up… arggh… nobody likes it
2. Or, when somebody takes a pipe and spray on you with jet of water… arrghh… I don’t like it either…
So… it’s like baby has to deal with this type of “situation” almost every evening…
Poor little thing…
That’s why, some mothers wish they’ve more milk.. but fulltime nursing mother like me… probably hopes that, I’ve slightly less milk…
And guess what again??
As of this evening, we found that, she’s a drop of greenish stool in her diaper…
After some ‘research’… hai… it’s foremilk-hindmilk imbalance…
However… luckily, I managed to find some ‘resolution’ on the internet…
And I shall try the remedies…
http://breastfeeding.hypermart.net/toomuchmilk.html
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