comparison to construct

I’m sure many of us, while growing up, while working, while whatever, we do compare to others… from time to time…
(well… however, I’ve to say, I rarely do that…)
When we’re small, we compare if our parents love which one of our siblings more than us…
While studying, maybe our teacher prefers which students, etc.
And while working, our boss prefer which colleague of ours…

Anyway… like I’ve mentioned, I rarely compare
Maybe I know the Chinese phrase, 人比人氣死人！
What for I compare??
Ya… I gotta compare…
So that, I can improve, so that, I can be better than I can imagine myself to be…
I did compare…
When I first got my job… my predecessor was so much better…
All my colleagues said, “she could do that, she used to do that”… so on, so forth…
And therefore, I was comparing myself to a figure (as she’s quit)… which was hard…
Anyway… in the end… I believe, if I’ve not become better than my predecessor, but at least, I’m able to deliver what’s expected so far…
To me, this type of comparison is kinda healthy…

Overall… I don’t like to compare myself to others… there’s nothing much to compare, everybody does work in their different manner, as long as there’s result, or good result achieved, I supposed it’s alright…
Like I’ve said, 人比人氣死人！
And 被氣死了，不划算！

Growing up, I rarely compared myself with my siblings… ie. if parents love them more than they love me…
I guess, all three of us feel the same love from our parents… right??

However… there are people who tend to compare themselves with others constantly… (if any of you are, please let me know why)
Sadly, they feel that, they’re not recognized… or they’ve not been rewarded as what they expect themselves to be rewarded… (though they have been rewarded somehow… just not up to the expectation maybe!) and that eventually leads to the state that… everybody owes them something…
Comparison as such… will never fill up the ‘hole’ in one’s heart…
The person will forever be unsatisfied, frustrated, feel unrewarded, and feel unappreciated!!
Forever… isn’t that tormenting??

In the end, the person will always be the complaining party…
No matter where he goes… no place is suitable, and nobody is appreciative…
Why torture ourselves like that??

Compare, if it leads oneself to be better, to improve further, should be encouraged…
However, if it leads oneself to feel the negative about others… I guess… let’s just try to learn how to appreciate instead of being appreciated,
How to contribute, instead of being “contributed”,
How to be even better, instead of others to be better, I guess…