the accidental curse

just now I was mentioning about certain ‘concern’, when people warn me, or ask me not to do certain things…
what I meant was…
due to human dark nature…
sometimes… or, most of the time, we want to prove ourselves RIGHT?? right?? (haha!)
in order for us to tell the other person,
“SEE! I TOLD YOU SO!!”

for eg. we tell our kids, don’t run too fast, or don’t cycle too fast, else will fall down,
how do we tell them? “don’t cycle like that, else, will fall down!!”
ah… we’ve already anticipated that, they’ll fall down…
and they still don’t listen, and that, they keep cycling in a mad manner,
and that, they fall down, and we go pick them up… showing all our concern and heartache as we can…
but we say, “I told you so, next time dare not to listen to me??”

actually… this has been mentioned by one of the writer, Liu Yong （劉墉）long time ago, I’m just repeating here…
sometimes, our dark nature is “hoping” that, the bad thing may happen to whoever we’re warned, so that we’ll be RIGHT!!
so that, they’re wrong, by not listening to us…
(and therefore, I’ve always told others, please prove me wrong – especially when it comes to certain ‘prediction’ about certain people potential ill-doings, I don’t want to be right, cos, if I’m wrong, things will be easier, I’ll rather I’m wrong… if those who’re close to me are safe n sound n happy)

my younger brother had long taught me about this, before Liu Yong actually pointed it out in his book…
when I was younger, at home, one day, my brother was cooking instant noodle,
I told him, “don’t burn yourself”
he angrily responded, “you said, “don’t burn yourself”, meaning that I’ll burn myself, can’t you just said, “be careful”??”
once, enough…
for eg. when you see somebody climbing the ladder…
most of the time, you tend to scream, “eh!! careful, don’t fall down!” right??
again, my mother taught me, not to scream like this, if you’re so concern, just go near the person, hold the ladder, or keep an eye…
…

so, what shall I do??
I can’t warn others like this like that… how??
the only thing I resolve to, is prayer…
pray hard..
and also, because of that, I tend to be displeased if people ‘warn’ me by telling me all the negative consequences first…
thus, there’re some people who tend to be too ‘detailed’ and nosy… may give me this type of cliché!

another eg. I don’t like to go to fortune teller (I’ve never been to one anyway)
even in some shopping area (for eg. The Curve) they’ve one small lane that’s a few fortune teller stalls during the weekend, I’ll avoid that area
cos, the last thing I want to hear, is, “hey, your aura doesn’t seem too, be careful… “ bla bla bla…
cos, I’ve another theory, I believe in “final destination”, if what he said is ACCURATE, it can’t be changed, if it can be changed, then, how much should you trust this person??
anyway, I believe, life’s in our own hand, not in somebody who’s setting up a stall at the road side…
and what more to say, if you put these many professions together, to ‘fortune-tell’ about a person, the results may come in different variation…

I believe, only God can change the ‘final destination’, and that’s why, the only thing I can do, is to pray…
even if I’m so concerned, or worried about people I loved.. I resolve not do ‘warn’ them…
I can only pray…
why??
cos, sometimes, warning can be posted as cursing…
for eg. “hey, they said, this year’s not good for people with the birthdate bla and bla”…
argh… If I’m the person with such birthdate, I’ll be extremely stressed and alert and easily agitated… and that’s when things go wrong…
that’s the thing about warning, and curse… the way it’s presented may affect the receiver…
sometimes, the curse may not be real, or the warning may not come true, but since it’s been planted into our mind, and our mind kinda make it true… via the energy surround us, or some sort…

therefore, be careful, don’t ‘curse’ unknowingly…