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Half full or Half empty? ......
Life with half full or half empty"Hi, how are you?" “How is life?”
The most common courtesy we normally greet people we just meet or those we have not met for quite some time.
Life – from whichever angle you see … always brings a lot of stories. Some interesting, mundane, sad, hilarious … with the entire unknown …
Does “Life” mean only by the minutes, the hours – days we spend, with all the surprises, the interesting stories, conversation, interactions we develop with others?
How would we look at somebody’s “Life”? How would you call a “good life”? Would that be based on people’s achievement in their career, wealth, contribution to the society, religious life … - is it a process of how somebody lives his / her years, how they influence others, what they leave behind when they reach their final destination? What matter the most in one’s life?
In a way – I am thankful for all the stormy moments that have visited my life up until now. All the sweats, tears, fights – which in the end give me the courage to stand up and brought me to where I am now. Think about it ..when we were younger, in our school days, uni days, no matter how tough things were, in school or at home, they were always within reach. We could plan on it, work on it, gave them a bit more determination, and they were more possible than ever …
Then, we moved on with life. Started our real working life, met more people, and faced different challenges. Success no longer depends on how hard we work, or how determine we are – but there’re just too many factors contributed to it. The wheel of life starts to rotate based on reality, our plans, many times, do not get along very well with the results. We may get frustrated, or amazed with what we get, life is going up and down interchangeably.
Today - I feel very little or no regret with all I have, with where I am and what I am doing. Looking back, I am quite happy with how I passed my bumpy roads – I can put my smile remembering my past tears. Feel thankful and blessed for all the special people who have crafted deep and sweet moments – even those who were there for very brief minutes – hours or days. There are a lot of encouraging moments, or enlightening times when I can say nothing …else than … “Gee, things could not be better …” – “I love my life”
BUT – even without my regrets – there were (and are) still moments, when I feel so low – sometimes, even for no reason, and I feel so lost. Waking up empty, do not know what I am doing – walking aimless, do not know where I should go. Those are moments when I would say – “God, what happen … what I have done to deserve this?” Why, why me? …
The famous quote from Forrest Gump’s mom says that “Life is like a box of chocolate ….” - That means – “expect the unexpected” – we never know what is ahead of us, we may plan, but we need to put some reservation for the worst thing that may happen to us. We do have our lowest moments for many reasons, we may be in our super sensitive mood for a reason that we can’t control – or, we may really face many unfortunate situations that hit us one after the other – without giving us any chance to breathe at all. People may block our way, things may end up not as we plan, we may even do silly things with or without we realize. We may say or do something that we regret in the end, out of our emotion, our anger, that in a very brief moment trigger our very evil thought to hurt others – unintentionally perhaps. We may humiliate ourselves – subconsciously perhaps. People may just treat us unfair, or do something that breaks our heart. “Kindness” I found … is getting more and more scarce recently … some people do not even know what that “kindness” means … sadly, but true …
Often when we are thinking about so many things that we discontent about – our conscious mind tends to lead us thinking of another way or looking for options – and we may create an expected or unexpected intersection in our life. We do not know what decision to make. We may, na?vely make one decision – expecting some good results. But, when things do not go as we like, we are dreaming about the other way that would never ever happen, dreaming how well it could have been …
Long ago, I read somewhere, a good reminder that our past success does not determine our future achievement …. It’s not that, all sweet life, all sweet achievement in the past – guarantee our future success! Also vice versa … I believe, every moment in life, is an independent time, that need to be worked on – and unfortunately, in most stage of our life, time does not really care whether we are in a good mood, whether we are ready to face them well … We just need to face everything, we just need to be ready. End up, we may feel happy when things are aligned with what we like, or we are slashed into pieces and full of tears – when we are facing many disappointment. Like it or not, we just need to be ready for either miracle or disaster … Life can change in a second … or even a fraction of second ….
In essence – What is in our life? How can we live the life to the fullness? Do we love our life, or, do we hate it? Let’s do some exercise, answering these questions:
§ Can you easily name some regrets in your life?
§ Can you proudly list a series of success stories that happen in the past …?
§ Name your – happiest moments, most memorable moments …
§ Name the moment(s) that become the turning point(s) in your life ….
§ List down, people who influence your life in a positive & negative way – and life could have been different without them visiting your life …
§ Name things that you would like to do, but you either do not have the courage or time for it
§ Are you still being “haunted” by some past horrible experiences? Or,
§ Are you –most of the time- worry about what will happen in the future?
Well – there are a lot of aspects in this topic that we can dig further and further – as people’s Life is full of stories, happiness –Love it!, and sadness –Hate it! But for now, after writing for so long … for the interest of your time J there are just a few humble personal opinions I would like to share here …
- For me, - people – friends, family (not the dysfunctional ones, of course) – are those we should treasure, they are the strength of our life that give us water to drink, share our tears and laugh with
- Even so, there are very few points in our life (or almost never ever ….) when we would be able to depend our life, our luck to others … mostly, at the end of the day, we are still the source of the strength, who will experience the tough time and find a way to get out of it, or just being buried dead or alive
- In any situation, I found that, “courage” is everything – courage to make mistakes, to try & fail, and keep trying, courage to make a decision … to admit our mistakes, to say sorry, to say thank you, to show our passion, to show our affection, to step out, to grow and learn – it is just almost everything …
- We all (or at least …me!) do stupid mistakes all the time; speak stupid things a lot, but none of them should stop us from moving on. The important thing, we should be able to forgive ourselves, to give us some moment to stop & breath, and most importantly, LEARN from it … look forward, and being in the PRESENT …
- Work, achievements – I don't know … I guess, for me now, they are not everything – what we do for people around us – how we share and us our life and make differences to people’s life – is all that matters …But wherever we are in any stage of our life, it will be much easier if we know where we want to go … (that’s my friend, is what we call “define our objectives”!)
Lastly – this is may only be applicable for me – the Footprint story … I love this story … the story about looking back to see my footsteps on the sand and flash back the moments in my life. There are always 2 pairs of footprints on the sand, one of mine and another one belongs to our God. To my surprise, I notice that, during my difficult times there are only one pair of footprint! In my despair, I cry to God, and ask Him why he leaves me when I need Him the most? His comforting answer is … “those are the moments when He carry me” – When we believe, miracle does exist … but for whatever reasons, Miracle should not be our last resource in which we are hanging our life on …
Well friends, keep in mind …
§ “Everything that does not kill us makes us stronger ….” = Friedrich Nietzsche =
§ "It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are." = E. E. Cummings =
§ "Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content." = Helen Keller =
§ Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. = Marcel Proust =
§ See this too ….
For everything there is a season,
And a time for every matter under heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die;
A time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
A time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
A time to embrace, And a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to seek, and a time to lose;
A time to keep, and a time to throw away;
A time to tear, and a time to sew;
A time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate,
A time for war, and a time for peace.Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
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