STALKED!!

I guess, this is the problem with girls... only girls.. (well... if this happen to a guys... then, please pass my message to them... tell them, "YOU FAGOTS!!")
Anyway...
when we were still in school... ie. teenage, while we're still cute small little school girls... ie. hadn't really grown up...
we girls liked to stick to each other all days... shared everything, ate the same food... probably admired the same guy, etc...
girls... tend to get intimate with each others...

... time passed... we grew up... our relationship/friendship... luckily, had evolved to a more mature type...
we still remember each other, even though we maybe separated aparted, in different countries, different corners of the world... different time zone... we still give each other a ring, once in a while...
with this "once-in-a-while" type of contact... I guess, it doesn't mean that, our relationship is harmed, or jeapordized...

At the same time, we made other new friends... each separation, each year we grew up, we give our friends, each other, more space to grow and learn to be more mature, more independent, and knowing more new friends... learning more new stuff in life... and so on...

HOWEVER...
sometimes... we still hear, or come across those articles, posted by 'victimized' female, to the local magazines, about them, being stalked by their very own friends...

Friendship... especially between girls... tend to get funny sometimes...
I once read an article... about poisonous friendship... it mentioned about some of our friends, who only care about themselves, want more attention... or, rather, want your full attention and always act like a cry-baby... etc... simply, because they call you their friends, this type of relationship/friendship, has been crowned to be 'poisonous'... (details, I can't really remember!!.. but I bet, you can find tonnes of these type of real-life stories on the internet)

Recently, I also heard another story... which I personally have experienced the similar situation before...
we (the person in the story, and I) both have a friend, who expects you to babysit them, include them in whatever you're doing, wherever you're going... whoever you're meeting...
ya, you're just like a twin to them... maybe because of simple reason, either, they're too lonely, or, they haven't really grown up to learn to develope a more mature relationship with others, or they simply think that, they're part of your life...
by saying this, I'm not denying our friendship, or the fact that, I am part of your life (being a friend)
however... I guess... everybody should have a space for himself/herself... and everybody elses should try to grow up... and be independent, or at least, to act like an adult so others are not expected to babysit them!!

The difference between me and the person in the story... is that... well.. I managed to pull myself out of this relationship... even though, I do wish I don't have to...
however, until the day, we both agree on the same terms about 'friends', I may as well... enjoy, my lonely but full of freedom, do things based on my own freewill days...
The difference???
this other person, is somehow being STALKED by that friend...
the friend, will call on different phones, to make sure he/she will get the person...
house phones, office phones, handphones, friends' phones, and etc......
when I knew about the story, I thought, gosh!!! "You're obviously being stalked!!"

Sometimes, we may end up stalking some people we love and care about... sometimes... without knowing it...
cos, we're just too obsessed with the idea that, we need to get involved in the other person's life, we need to be seen, we need to be heard... that, we start to stalk...
friends, siblings, spouse, parents, colleagues, bosses!!!!!!!
from level 1 on the scale, to level 10... who knows??
The simplest thing to do, is pick up the phone, keep asking the person, "where are you?", "what are you doing now??"
The toughest?? I don't know... cos, I'm not a stalker... I wouldn't be able to share with you all the tactics, on how to stalk others...
Wife simply calls the husband thousand time a day...
or your admirer simply sms you thousand time a day...
or your over-protecting, or overly-micromanaging parents simply call you thousand time a day...
or your boss, simply call you, sometimes in the middle of the night, to stalk on your work, million time a day...
gosh!!!!!!!!
when enough is enough, when we feel awful, or uncomfortable, it's stalking...
we feel like we're being watched, we feel like A CELEBRITY (oh!! isn't that good?? ya, maybe that's one consolation that you can give to yourself!!)

The worst thing that I can think of... is somebody who stalks others... call the person and ask where he/she is... to wait to catch if he/she lies about whereabout he/she is... cos, this stalker is just right in front of the person, or somewhere behind the person, the next thing the stalker will tell you is, "look in front!!", or "look behind!!" then, the stalker will give you this successful evil look and smile!!! gosh!!!!! cliche!!!!
May I ask... "What do you get in the end??", it's either, thrill of catching you lie, right in front of you... or the thrill of proving that you don't dare to lie to them!!!

PLEASE!! SOMEBODY, GIVE ME A KITKAT!!
Please!!! give the person we care, or we love, a break... don't stalk!!!