counting phrases…

Haha… when I mentioned to him about what Geek & Poke said about consultant likes to use "at the end of the day"…

Oh, rephrase… to sound like a consultant, you've to say, "at the end of the day", 10 times in an hour!! ^_^

And that kinda give him some entertainment, which sometimes, he'll start counting, how many time, certain people say certain meaningless phrase like this…

Most of the time, people use it, as a connecting phrase, and most most most of the time, people use phrases, cos, they simply do not know what else to say…

And there you go,

"somehow rather" - shared by him, but I rarely hear from my side of the world, when I was working..

"to be honest" - again, not in my world, but then, I shared with him an article that I've come across before…, by saying that, does it mean, most of the time you're not honest?? And I personally often use,

"frankly speaking",

"actually…",

"… really!!",

Then, I reached a conclusion the other day…

I'm not sure about your mat-salleh/ang-mor friends, (later I'll share with you another phrase I hear them use often, or, maybe australian uses it, frequently) but my guess is, all these, "actually", "really", "to be honest", "frankly speaking"/"honestly speaking", comes from asian, or chinese mostly…

It's the way we're brought up,

Best example, "my cooking nice or not?", "nice!!" - well, you're not really allowed to comment about your mother/MIL's cooking, or your sis's cooking, or your wife's cooking…

"my hairstyle nice or not?", yep, you can't really comment your husband, or your best male friend's hairstyle, cos, I'm not sure why, I think, guy's something about their hair!! ^O^!!

So… sometimes, when we really wanna speak out, and share our opinion, our thought, we say, "frankly", ie. I'm telling you the truth on what I'm thinking and you'd better listen, and take it seriously!!

Sometimes, these phrase are overly used, to the extent that it hurts, while in a meeting… rarely in a casual conversation with friends, cos, like I said, when people do not have things to say, they use it, and when people need to bother to use such phrases, most of the time, it's not a casual conversation, it can be either a presentation, or a meeting…, or a discussion among co-workers…

If friends? Who cares? And who'll be so bothered about "connecting" your words?? Just pause LA!

My personal experience,

Twice, ya, it "hurts",

One matsalleh, keep saying, "you know"!! #$%#$^&% that's during a training, and he's trying to be like a smart-ass… by posting question and answering the question himself… sharing so-called experience, and ending each sentence with "you know!!", ya, I feel like chipping in and saying "no, I don't!"…

Another occasion, while I was still in the workforce, late 2008,

A meeting with a potential service vendor,

That so-called consultant, kept using this phrase, "let's put it in a simple way…!!"

#@%#$%^$#^$!$W#^$&@^@$%%(*%#*%&%$^$%#$%#W$

Ya, we're all so stupid to be in this meeting with you!!!

So difficult to communicate with us, don't come LA!!! Don’t' bother about getting partnership business with us LA!!! Bugger a$$hole!

AT THE END OF THE DAY,

In fact,

The rest is eliminate-able in my conversation, but, I still like to use,

"AT THE END OF THE DAY"… so that, I sound like a consultant, hahaha!!!