Cooking It

this is a programme by channel 4, UK – Cooking It…
sometimes, I watch, sometimes, I don’t as it clashes with some other dramas that I’ve been following in weekday’s afternoon…
however, I actually like this show, it’s just that, for the drama that I’ve been following, it’s better if I follow through (^_^)

http://www.channel4.com/life/microsites/C/cookingit/biog.html
http://www.pearl-restaurant.com/aboutpearl/meetjun/

actually, I first came across this show…
one fine day… (ie. I can’t remember which day, just happened to see it while I switched to “travel & living”)
it kinda caught my attention, as it’s showing how a damn bad cook, finally win a competition against other professional cook…
and when I first saw Jun Tanaka, I was thinking, what stupid Chinese wandering around in this show… (didn’t know actually it’s HIS show, thought he’s just some ‘keh leh feh’ running around in the show)
but then, at the end of the show, when the very-bad-cook (just a commoner) finally won the competition (just a small daily competition, but the judges won’t know he/she actually doesn’t know how to cook at all) I actually smiled…
it’s kinda heart-warming, when you see those ‘idiots’ could actually win the competition…
ya, idiot… cos, they really have this idiotic look… well, I suppose, not because of the physical look, just their expression, as… they’re not confident in themselves.. and that shows up in their face, make them look like an idiot in the kitchen…

and therefore, I finished the show… and saw the crediting, oh!! it’s a Japanese (oops, since I’ve this thing about Japanese guy)
and I was thinking… no wonder… hahahahahaha!!!
since then, whenever I see this show (ok, normally after my drama, I’ve still got a few minutes to watch “Cooking It” – just at the right time, when the “idiot” finish up his/her dishes and judges give verdict)

in fact… come to think of it… this show is quite “Japanese”
as I’ve grown up to read Japanese comic, to Japanese anime, and Japanese drama,
for ‘idiot’ to win at the end of something is a very common style of those stories…
the thing is, I’ve been seeing them on books, and dramas…
and maybe that’s why, when I watch Cooking It, the real life show… I smiled…
I smiled for the success of the idiotic commoners, who actually will win the competition, it doesn’t have to be the first, Jun’s target is, as long as they’re not the last…
and I smiled to finally see these idiots, actually gain some confident in cooking, and that, they start to cook for the loved ones…
it’s kinda sweet and nice if you ask me…
very Japanese.. indeed…
and of course, if you watch any Japanese shows, or read any Japanese stories…
they’ll tell you, cook with your love!!

technology marvellous

i'm currently busy doing my photo scanning with my canon 4400F scanner,
as i was flipping through the thick photo albums, browsing those photos that i've had for years.. fading...
i've to say..
gosh, i really love the advancement of technology..

imagine!
now we've digital camera, snap pictures like nobody business, the limit is the memory card in there
and immediately, we see the result, no good, delete...

imagine!
my friends and i used to send each other via MAIL, i mean, real mail! those that you need to put stamp on the envelop and bring it to the postbox and post!!
and wait for a few days.. sometimes, mail got missing...
only then, it'll reach our friends, and vice versa..
that's how we exchanged our photos

but nowadays...
we just use emails
or, upload it to online photo albums...
gosh, how convenient it is!!!

we don't have to tell our friends to help print out what and what photos anymore
and we don't have to manage and keep those bulky photo albums...

better still.. the best best best technology improvement to me is
the mobile with camera functions
mobile with other functions, doesn't mean so much to me, but with camera... goodness!!!
that's one real big leap in the technology man!

technology, technology...
it makes my day..
it makes my life (ok, part of it!)

ps: and that's why my friend asked me before, what are the things that i'm really willing to spend..
i told her, GAGDETS!

If you love him/her, give him/her a baby!!

ok, I thought of this before baby came into our world…
I thought of this… based on my personal experience…

after what we (me, my 2 younger brothers) have been through last year…
I know how lucky I am that, I’ve my brothers with me… (and I hope the they feel the same way too!)

as parents, we’ve to realize the naked truth… that, we won’t be with our baby long…
imagine, if during that time, I was alone… I’d probably will just follow my mother to leave this world…

only with siblings, we know we still have family, to show our weakness when we really want to cry,
only with siblings, we know we have to be even stronger during bad time, cos, we all depends on each other to survive…
friends, relatives, they’ve their own worries, most of the time, what we’ll get is the sympathy… and reasonable help…

unless… unless we’re grown up as the only child in our family and we simply enjoy it, else,
if you love your kid (only one) now, give him/her a brother/sister…
I suppose, having siblings, our kids will have the opportunity to learn ‘rivalry’, ‘compromise’, ‘loving’, ‘caring’, ‘sharing’ since they’re small…
they may love us as we’re their parents, that’s somehow, or maybe, a love in return…
but with siblings, as small as toddlers, or maybe baby… they’ll have the opportunity to learn to love and care, simply because of the blood-tie… unconditional…

I know of many family thinking of having just 1 child, so that the parents can give THE BEST to the 1 child..
but growing up in a family with my 2 younger brothers, I really do not know how an ONLY child will feel in this sense,
and as a parent today, I really to think that, “THE BEST” for our only child, is to give them brother/sister…
to grow up together…
and especially if there’ll be tough time, for eg. the parents are gone (ie. WE will not be by their side anymore)
they will be able to support each other, and live…

"Your children will become what you are; So be what you want them to be"

the other day, I quoted the above saying, saw it online somewhere… (that’s what I do daily in the cyberspace… looking for inspiration ^_^)
and now.. I remember one scene I watched off the Japanese drama, “jikou keisatsu” (時效警察)

the guy – kiriyama
the girl – shizuka (meaning – quiet)
both of them are police, one in the department that’s handling those “cold case” files… in japan, they actually give a timeline to cold cases, 15 years, vs. to US and elsewhere (I’ve not done much research yet, so, this is not absolute!) cold case is still a case, if the murderer is arrested, he still can be convicted, irregardless how many years have passed by…

anyway, that episode, suddenly kiriyama and shizuka were discussing about names, people’s names, and the meaning behind the names…
kiriyama told shizuka, normally, we’re opposite of the meaning of our name,
shizuka asked why, kiriyama further explain by taking her name as an example, he told her that, she’s very talkative, and noisy (she keeps talking most of the time, a very active and lively girl indeed) but yet, her name means “quiet”… see!
then, he further explain,
our name’s given by our parents,
and usually parents will hope that, our children (I said, “usually” only) will be somebody different from us, maybe we think that, we’re too loud, too noisy, so, when we’ve a girl, we hope she’s quiet, and ladylike… and therefore, we give them a name, as what we’ve hoped… in this case, “shizuka” - quiet
but then, kids follow their parents, in the end, the ‘hope’ doesn’t come true, and the girl grows up exactly just like the parents…
ie. shizuka is not shizuka.. but exactly like the parents (of course, I won’t know what the parents’ names are)

in conjunction with this phrase that I’ve quoted, haha, I thought it’s somehow true… ^_^

The ENgorgement STRIKE BACK (~~~tHe jOURney of ThE BREASTS~~~ (Part V)

nearly…
nearly I’m going to get the scary mastitis again!!!
this morning, after feeding, found it (the same problematic one) still engorged…
to the extent, you know what?? I can see the little bumps… yikes!
immediately, cold sweat!!! the last time, I didn’t know, so, I got it, nevermind…
now, I know how the thing is exactly like, I don’t want to get it again…
I was worried… I do not want to be rushed to the hospital, probably got jabbed, and be fed with anti-biotic…
yikes!

so, I tried to express… arrgh… dripping… I’m not patient enough to keep expressing…
so, I took out the cabbage leave… people said it works.. but somehow, I don’t see tremendous result…
and I’ve got blister out-front already (cry!) (painful, you know!!)
then, baby got up..
I quickly latch her on, endure the pain… beg her to continue suckling…
that’s this afternoon…
she refused to in the beginning, and sorry baby, mama has to force you (sigh..)

luckily.. with her help, it subside a little bit…

AND.. as I’m writing now (after midnight)
it’s gone… manage to ‘recover’ during the previous feeding, before she went to sleep…

I guess… the bonding when people talk about breastfeeding, is not just the baby being ‘bonded’ to you,
without realizing it… the mother’s already been bonded to the baby too…

I guess…

Asian Value - a Good Husband

I watch mediacorp drama “Love Blossom” (it’s showing on AEC, Part I and Part II, now, showing part II)
and I came across the blog entry by Betty Wu 吳淡如 (she’s a famous TV host and writer in Taiwan, but just to clarify not my favourite of the favourite, my favourite is 張曼娟)
her blog titled: 夾心餅乾是無能的
(url: http://blog.1-apple.com.tw/bettywu/index.cfm?Fuseaction=PersonArticle&ArtID=100462)

全文如下：
大同跟玫瑰交往超過3年，在大同心目中，玫瑰最大的優點就是善解人意。當女朋友時，玫瑰對他的家人一向很好，還會陪大同的爸媽聊電視劇情節與噓寒問暖，讓老人家認定玫瑰是個好媳婦。
可是結婚後，所有的美好想像全部翻盤，玫瑰變得不大願意陪他回老家，也常常批評他父母或家人。例如：希望他妹妹不要這麼晚才來家裡串門子；大同的母親只要多管一些閒事，玫瑰表面上不會頂嘴，回家卻會跟大同抱怨……這些小牢騷讓大同不勝其擾。
有一天，大同下班回家一打開門，就看到玫瑰在生悶氣。原來她剛接到大同母親的電話，婆婆又頒布了些指導原則，要玫瑰照她的方法照顧大同和孫子。在大同眼裡，憤怒中的玫瑰看起來青面獠牙。大同失去了耐心，迅速的以咆哮打斷了玫瑰的控訴：「妳不要讓我當夾心餅乾好不好！」
硬起來別當傳聲筒
很多男人跟大同一樣，真的不了解原本應該賢淑寬容的妻子怎麼會變了樣，讓自己在原生 家庭和新家庭之間，裡外不是人。這些夾心餅乾常覺得自己很可憐，搞不懂妻子為什麼要把關係搞得這麼僵，事實上夾心餅乾都是無能的，無能處理人際關係、無能 化解家庭衝突、沒有意識到自己的角色應該有變化。他們的角色還停留在「兒子、少爺」，而不是「丈夫、父親」。
當男人不能有效阻擋原生家庭來的壓力、扮演有效防火牆的角色時，妻子的壓力就會越來越大，情緒反彈也會越來越激烈，男人才會變成夾心餅乾。夾心餅乾如果可以振作起來別當兩個家庭的傳聲筒，而扮演堵絕雙方壓力的絕緣體，就能夠解決問題。

anyway…
and since I’ve been following “Love Blossom II” every weekdays, neh! the part about “kai wang” (開旺) and “zhi jing” (紫荊)
it struck me as,
hm… our teaching…
I remember, as a girl, my mother taught me on “how to be a good wife” (well, not exactly, but you know what I mean, by learning to do all the housechores, cooking, behave in front of the elderly, who is who, bla bla bla…)
but I’m not sure, and I’M REALLY VERY NOT SURE
if mother/father actually teach their son on “how to be a good husband”
nah… I doubt it… believe me…
ask my brothers, ^_^;;

MEN…!!!
from the blog (well, betty wu’s sharing her friend’s experience as her writing material)
from the movies…
it does seems like, that’s how asian men are brought up, or SPECIFICALLY, Chinese men!

in “love blossom”, when Kai Wang failed to give her wife Zi Jing this “secured” feeling (mostly financially, and also, the future)
his mother told her, “he’s always been like that”
ya… what most wives get is “he’s always been like that” (if any of you get it otherwise, do share!)

and what compliments this, is Betty Wu’s writeup,
she wrote (in the second paragraph) most men, stay as what/who they are, as “son”, as “shao yeh” (cantonese, “siu yeh”)
but not “husband”, “father”, after they got married…
ya, most men are still papa/mama’s boy even after they got married, the thing is, they do not want to admit it…^_^
and that’s why all the “complication” cannot be handled properly…
cos, the man, failed to become the FIREWALL, but only become the “sandwiched” man!
you see the difference??

my opinion:
men, only learn to be a good husband by himself…
so, what’s his parents doing?
(sorry, hope I don’t offend anybody)

for eg. my ex-boss, once mentioned about her son…
she said, her son so ‘pai tee’ with her now, next time got girlfriend, don’t know how…
hai… sad to hear that right??
yep… I supposed, asian (mainly Chinese, maybe) parents,
“producing” a good wife material type of daughter is something that’s proud…
and because of the long traditional thinking (Chinese ma!! son is “bigger” than daughter, ie. 重男輕女)
I don’t think it’s even come into their mind that, “producing” a good husband material type of son, is also something right for them to do??

then, aren’t we lucky that we’re married to a man who’s graduated from his own self-learning-to-be-good-husband/father??
are you?
are we?
am i?
and, are you teaching your son to be a good husband??
(grin!)

Say It

the other day I met up with my childhood friend,
she told me, her boss mentioned that, she’s been too ‘direct’,
my response, “since when you’re not direct?”
followed by, “all my friends are very direct”

well, maybe my friends are direct when dealing with me, or
maybe I only make friend with those who’re direct, or, who’s the wisdom and guts to BE DIRECT!

frankly, as I’ve blogged many time, I really do not like dealing with people who’re not direct, or, who simply do not say what they mean, or mean what they say,
it’s just wasting my precious time doing guess work with these people, and to me, they’re insulting the beauty of words, and beauty of language!
ya, manipulator like to do it, and they’re the biggest liar!
haha, who’re not, almost all world leaders are, or, leaders of some sort, huh?

remember the movie “babel”??
remember the origin of “the tower of babel”??
it’s all about words, words that come out from our mouth…

I’m thinking, if words have spirit (yes, they do, and I’d like to believe, they do)
they’ll sure haunt these people at night, in their dream, for abusing them, for mis-using them…
I once watch this Japanese drama, TRICK (part I, II, III, all good) and one of the stories is the mother of the heroin telling all her students, words have spirit, and thus words have power!!
therefore, do not misuse words, and do not abuse words…

say what you mean, and mean what you say…
but of course, in my dream right??
well… I’ve to say, I’m quite lucky that, most (I’ll say, almost all) of my friends are direct, and they say what they mean… AND mean what they say…
I do not have to act nice in front of them, and vice versa,
also, less misunderstanding and… after going back, I can sleep, without chewing what they say,
without guessing what they actually mean, or without guessing if their feeling will be hurt with our response…
isn’t it nice?

ps: just my little blabbering in the middle of the night.. but, of course, I mean it, cos, I mean what I say, and I say what I mean ^.^

Mr. Frog still...

on Friday, I placed her in the bouncing net as usual, before starting my housework…
it happened that, with the bouncing net where the playgym’s frame’s (where her ‘buddies’ were hang, 1. starry mirror, 2. mr. frog, 3. ship, 4. ball) on top of it, I had the mr. frog being hung the farthest from her…, ie. unreachable with her hands

however, after I kinda had a break from my housework, I noticed that, the frog’s already landed on the bouncing net again (usually she’ll just hit it and it’ll drop next to her)… next to her thigh…
I was kinda amused by the possibility of it ended up there,
I asked her, how it ended up there, of course, no answer…
and I forgot about it… only briefly mentioned to him later at night during dinner…

then.. today… after we finished our grocery shopping…
I placed her on the bouncing net again, so that, we both can finish up with those chores…
I saw her trying to lift both of her legs, to kick the ship that’s hung the furthest from her this time, worse still…
she’s trying to lift her head and chest, ie. to sit up…
ooh!!! O.o
that’s HOW she get the frog down huh!!!
now I know…
kekekekekeke ＜（￣︶￣）＞

Dr Spock

I picked this book one day…
not due to recommendation, simply, I picked it..
well… it’s quite easy to read and easy to understand…
it’s about parenting, about taking care of baby..
I’ve already have a few books as such, but I just want to see more of other suggestions/opinions…

the book’s pretty thick, as it covers a lot of topics…
but in conclusion,
what Dr Spock said, is,
trust your instinct – oh, which I like ^_^
I prefer freestyle way of teaching, keke!!
he mentioned, it’s better to ‘parent’ happily and relaxingly with some mistakes, than to try to be perfect, but stressed!

I just met up with my childhood friend the other day..
I’m impressed/surprised to the fact that, being a working mother, she’s also breastfed(with expressed milk) her babies up to 1 year (oh, another benchmark for me then, seems like I can’t wean too early)
It’s nothing too surprisingly, but to her, I didn’t expect that, cos, she’s the smartest student in school and she’s a scholar..
so, she never strikes me as she can be so motherly…
and ya, she’s very motherly… which I’m glad…
and she’s shared with me of her own experience, and I guess…
even though far apart, but being in the same environment during our childhood time, do bring some similarity in us…
ie. family’s very important to us.., as in, very…
and guess what, her experience tells her, then she told me the other day…
exactly as what Dr Spock has said,
“trust your instinct”
and that’s why, we nurse our babies while sleeping,
and that’s why, we kinda carry our babies very often…
cos, we enjoy and we want to do it…
as what our instinct tells us…
well… I guess, her instinct and my instinct are pretty similar in that sense…
which… luckily, his instinct is similar to mine too ^_^

the accidental curse

just now I was mentioning about certain ‘concern’, when people warn me, or ask me not to do certain things…
what I meant was…
due to human dark nature…
sometimes… or, most of the time, we want to prove ourselves RIGHT?? right?? (haha!)
in order for us to tell the other person,
“SEE! I TOLD YOU SO!!”

for eg. we tell our kids, don’t run too fast, or don’t cycle too fast, else will fall down,
how do we tell them? “don’t cycle like that, else, will fall down!!”
ah… we’ve already anticipated that, they’ll fall down…
and they still don’t listen, and that, they keep cycling in a mad manner,
and that, they fall down, and we go pick them up… showing all our concern and heartache as we can…
but we say, “I told you so, next time dare not to listen to me??”

actually… this has been mentioned by one of the writer, Liu Yong （劉墉）long time ago, I’m just repeating here…
sometimes, our dark nature is “hoping” that, the bad thing may happen to whoever we’re warned, so that we’ll be RIGHT!!
so that, they’re wrong, by not listening to us…
(and therefore, I’ve always told others, please prove me wrong – especially when it comes to certain ‘prediction’ about certain people potential ill-doings, I don’t want to be right, cos, if I’m wrong, things will be easier, I’ll rather I’m wrong… if those who’re close to me are safe n sound n happy)

my younger brother had long taught me about this, before Liu Yong actually pointed it out in his book…
when I was younger, at home, one day, my brother was cooking instant noodle,
I told him, “don’t burn yourself”
he angrily responded, “you said, “don’t burn yourself”, meaning that I’ll burn myself, can’t you just said, “be careful”??”
once, enough…
for eg. when you see somebody climbing the ladder…
most of the time, you tend to scream, “eh!! careful, don’t fall down!” right??
again, my mother taught me, not to scream like this, if you’re so concern, just go near the person, hold the ladder, or keep an eye…
…

so, what shall I do??
I can’t warn others like this like that… how??
the only thing I resolve to, is prayer…
pray hard..
and also, because of that, I tend to be displeased if people ‘warn’ me by telling me all the negative consequences first…
thus, there’re some people who tend to be too ‘detailed’ and nosy… may give me this type of cliché!

another eg. I don’t like to go to fortune teller (I’ve never been to one anyway)
even in some shopping area (for eg. The Curve) they’ve one small lane that’s a few fortune teller stalls during the weekend, I’ll avoid that area
cos, the last thing I want to hear, is, “hey, your aura doesn’t seem too, be careful… “ bla bla bla…
cos, I’ve another theory, I believe in “final destination”, if what he said is ACCURATE, it can’t be changed, if it can be changed, then, how much should you trust this person??
anyway, I believe, life’s in our own hand, not in somebody who’s setting up a stall at the road side…
and what more to say, if you put these many professions together, to ‘fortune-tell’ about a person, the results may come in different variation…

I believe, only God can change the ‘final destination’, and that’s why, the only thing I can do, is to pray…
even if I’m so concerned, or worried about people I loved.. I resolve not do ‘warn’ them…
I can only pray…
why??
cos, sometimes, warning can be posted as cursing…
for eg. “hey, they said, this year’s not good for people with the birthdate bla and bla”…
argh… If I’m the person with such birthdate, I’ll be extremely stressed and alert and easily agitated… and that’s when things go wrong…
that’s the thing about warning, and curse… the way it’s presented may affect the receiver…
sometimes, the curse may not be real, or the warning may not come true, but since it’s been planted into our mind, and our mind kinda make it true… via the energy surround us, or some sort…

therefore, be careful, don’t ‘curse’ unknowingly…

when respect is worthless

all of us know that, we work hard, do good, to earn respect from others,
to earn respect as who we are from what we do,
to earn respect from others that they’re aware of your feeling, your thought, etc….

so, when do we stop?
and when will our ‘desired’ respect become worthless one day??
and just when the ‘respect’ given to us doesn’t carry any weight, or doesn’t have any meaning in there??
i guess, it’s when we don’t work for it…
such work has to be continuous,
till we get old, till we die…

however, sometimes we’re lacking of such awareness
and we tend to get lazy…
that’s when we, as human being, ie. most of the time, ‘corrupted’ human beings…
when we get some titles, or when we’re somebody…
therefore, we expect RESPECT from others, just by not doing anything…

how will my kids respect me as their mother, if I sit there, do nothing… not even a simple task for them??
and how will my siblings respect me, if I do not behave like one of them??
or, how will a supervisor gain respect from their subordinate when what they know is only yelling and pushing responsility??
or, even as a kid, how will you earn respect if you’re not doing what a kid’s supposed to do?? (ie. studying, learning, and maturing..)

but… I guess, sometimes, most of us fall trap to this type of situation,
we simply expect others to give us DAMN BLOODY RESPECT
just by being somebody
while our behaviour, words, and thoughts are full of selfishness, full of hurtful/negative elements to others??
or even better, sometimes, without words, our body language shows out every single evil and corrupted facts in us…
we take it for granted – just because we’re somebody, we say hurtful words, or bad things about others, and that, we’ll be DAMN BLOODY EXCUSED!!??? (huh??)
or, we take it for granted – just because we’re somebody, we simply will ‘earn’ the DAMN BLOODY RESPECT!!

i guess, we just don’t, and we shouldn’t…
however, one day… one fine day… we may just forget
and simply expecting RESPECT from others, by not doing anything…
or worse still, we do bad things, say bad words, and expect the RESPECT.. simply just because we thought we’re somebody, or somebody’s somebody.. right??

SO, JUST TELL ME, WHY SHOULD I RESPECT YOU??

tHE Law of CONFINEMENT

ok, some of my friends know that I ‘suffered’ during my confinement month…
suffered, not physically, but I really damn felt confined, k??

even though, I know the ‘western’ culture also kinda mentions about the fourth trimester (ie. to rest and get back in shape, or at least, in terms of health)
but I guess, it’s just not as ridiculous, and extreme as ours (the eastern – or, rather the Chinese)

ok…
first thing first…
NEVER BATHE WITH TAP WATER
I just couldn’t take it any longer, and therefore, I went to ‘lengthy’ research – to see if it’s really ok, if I were to just SHOWER!!!
(cos, I find it too troublesome, and ‘suffering’ to bathe in those herbal & ginger hot water, and I’ve to bent down to scoop the water to bathe, DAMN!)
apparently, all the so-called Chinese “Law” of confinement, of course, all originated from the oldtime china..

NEVER WASH YOUR HAIR
goodness gracious, I’ll say!
what more to say, I’m breastfeeding…
not bathing, not washing hair, is just intolerable for me as it’s super duper damn unhygienic for my baby!!!
and why not washing your hair??
it’s all because of LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG TIME AGO,
in china, especially china progressed damn slow compared to the west,
their toilet / bathroom was outside the house,
and during winter, especially the poor people, they don’t have hot running water to bathe…

Argh!… I don’t want to mention any further,
nowadays, we’ve this thing called,
HAIR DRYER &
WATER HEATER!!
come on!!

and eating food with ginger and only ginger, give me damn a lot of pimples everywhere all over my body
NOT DRINKING WATER
you must be kidding, how am I going to have enough fluid to produce my breastmilk??

Some of these ‘law’ thing, are simply ridiculous, and beyond my acceptance…
BUT… out of A CONCERN, about human’s ‘dark side’, I do not disobey openly… (I’ll tell you why in my next blog)
as there’re just too many people come and tell me to FOLLOW FOLLOW AND FOLLOW!

after my confinement month, I met my ex ex boss,
she told me horror stories about NOT FOLLOWING the law (see!!! people talk about it, a bit of schadenfreude!!)
she said, her don’t know who who who, shower, then, fainted in the bathroom, nearly die!!!
Ya, I heard.. but I actually kinda think of it the other way,
Is it because she showered in a totally ‘sealed’ environment?? (people said, cannot ‘kena’ wind ma!! So, all windows/doors are closed tight)
Is it because the water too hot??
COME ON! A normal person, locked tight in the sauna room, will faint also, right??

Basically my point is,
There’re some, that make sense, yep… do it
There’re some… just simply nonsense…

One small story that my brother told me long time ago,
There’s this lady, who always chops off the tail of the fish before she fry the fish,
And this ‘practice’ has been passed down to her descendants… that it’s become a ‘law’ in their family…
Fry fish, tail must be chopped off, else will xxxxxxxxx………… (whatever bad stuff you go add yourself)
BUT apparently, it’s because looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong time ago, when lady’s grandmother, or great grandmother (again, old time china), cooked fish that time, the frying pan’s not big enough, and that, she chopped off the tail of the fish, so that, the fish can fit into the pan…

AS SIMPLE AS THAT!!

Multiply doesn't like Opera

Or, opera doesn’t like multiply?

See.. I’m having different type of browsers on my desktop, no complicated reason,
Simply for the sake of my mood, I feel like using which on what day, then I use that,
But overall, I only use opera and firefox…
However, I notice that, opera doesn’t seem to like multiply.com,
There’re some link just won’t be ‘click-opened’, it’s to be opened as another tab…

Though, opera seems to like gmail a lot,
Some of my gmail accounts (account with the ‘s’) seem to be unable to load to standard html style, or they take forever to load,
However, when it’s with opera… zoom! Fast!!

Argh… that’s the problem with modern technology (love it, and hate it)
Why can’t they just standardize and put all the ‘good’ things in one??

Modern women or not?

Ok, help me to understand,
Many time, I saw on movies/tv series of such cases,
Woman with daughter, re-married to another man
Man molests the daughter,
Woman knows, but keep quiet,
Or, woman doesn’t know, daughter tells, woman doesn’t believe, thinking daughter’s lying, and choose to believe the man,
Worse still, man said, it’s the daughter who’s trying to seduce him, and woman believe…

Maybe I’m never the ‘woman’, that’s why, I never understand…
And I keep seeing this type of storyline in movies/series,
Why? Is that a common ‘problem’? and if that’s a common ‘problem’ why?
Some cases, it’s because woman’s not independent, ie. keep quiet,
But most of the cases, the woman’s a job, and most of the cases, woman chooses not to believe the daughter, but the so-called husband (the re-married one)
Why?
Even if woman doesn’t have a job, shouldn’t she be protecting the daughter? Her baby? (of course, baby’s grown up to be a pretty lady)

Last week’s “criminal minds” presented a similar case, except the remarry part,
Woman knew husband’s molesting his niece,
She chose not to expose the husband, BUT she’s trying to hurt the kid,
Why are there actually some women think that, by ‘protecting’ the husband like this, the husband will forever be with her?
I thought, there’re many women calling and yelling for equal right, to show that, they’re great, they’re good, and they can be better than man
Ironically, there’re still some women, so emotionally dependent to their so-called men!
Or, there’re some other reasons that I really really do not understand??

What Shall I do, Who Shall I be!

I was telling him today… (also, I’ve been thinking too..)
I’m good at organizing,
I’m good at researching,
I’m very into entertainment biz (mainly “batgwa” stuff)
I’m very into food,
I can sit in front of my PC whole day (just that, with baby now, a little bit difficult, but baby will grow up to be more independent right?)
I like to write,
I like to talk,
I like to meet new people,
So… just what’s good for me? And suitable for me to do?
I’ve been dreaming to have my own business, or something that keep me occupied, and also keep most of the people happy…
Then what??
Just what shall I do? And who shall I be?

God has given you one face, and you make yourself another. ~William Shakespeare

I’ve mentioned about my 2-face ex-colleague (ya, now become “ex”) a couple of time before this…
This is not going to be about her anymore (it’s enough, and also, until today, as I’m writing, she’s still very 2-face as what I’ve heard and her new team members have also fallen prey to her 2-face/to-be-senior-manager tactic)
…………………………
All of us… may have been hypocrite once in a while…
For eg. When we condemn the others for some wrong-doing…
Or, we call people ‘racist’! (haha!! Think about it… ^_~)
Again, I’m not going to blabber about the deep meaning of hypocrisy…
It’s only… about dealing with them…

Don’t you find that, it’s irritating if you find out somebody to be such a hypocrite??
Chinese saying – “you’d rather deal with a real baddy, than to deal with a hypocrite”
However… I thought, if you know a person to be a hypocrite… sometimes (I won’t say 100%) it’s easier to deal with them… why?
As they’re hypocrites, they need to show you /or others the GOOD face, ie. sometimes, they’ve to eat their own words!
Even though you know very well, hypocrite as being hypocrite, they’re better in saying, than really practicing the righteous stuffs…
Rule of thumb – use their own words for them, repeat what they’ve mentioned in other occasion, apply it back to them…
They’ll just shut up…!!
In a way, I really hate these people, as dealing with them, it’s tiring… cos words don’t have any meaning to them, you know they say one thing, but they mean other thing
They tell you they do not mind bla bla bla , but they may tell others in another time that how bad the experience was… and all sorts of BS!
They like to act like “good people” in front of those beneficial to them… AND guess what… those not so beneficial to them… oh!! They’re not hypocrites anymore!! They finally release their true inner self, and become the real baddies!
They can yell, and scold you at the door~
They can act unreasonable and treat you like trash~ (come on! Cos you’re not beneficial to their “future” at all!!)
THEN, suddenly one fine day, they MAY treat you nice, polite, etc. WHY?? Cos, the beneficial party is around them…
Therefore, another face came out…

Oh~~~ I tell you, I can’t wait for the day, the stupid hypocrite face can be torn down and that the other face been shown…
But well… drama is drama…
True life is true life… I guess, I’ll never live up to that day…
And what next??
Back to the beginning:
I REALLY HATE DEALING WITH HYPOCRITES!

"A Life of Hope" (活下去)

As I mentioned earlier, that I’ve been watching mediacorp drama series on TV – Astro AEC, ntv7, 8TV
I’ve been following this series “a life of hope” on ntv7 at 6PM every weekday (“little nyonya” on AEC at 7PM, and “love blossoms” on AEC at 8PM)
Too bad that there’s no official website about the drama “a life of hope”
But… I’ve to mention it as I thought this is a very good show…
Good show about our health generally…
It’s about people with kidney problem – they’ve to go for dialysis every other day…
It’s about people who’ve just recovered from car accident, coma for 7 years – personality changed, full of hatred (the guy won the best actor of that year because of the role… and I thought he really did well… especially mimicking the way injured-then-recovered/stroke people talk, walk and move)
It’s about well-being and continuous keeping ourselves healthy…

Chinese saying, Health = Wealth…
And I’ll say, Health > Wealth…
Once we’re unhealthy… irregardless how much $$ it’ll be burnt and given to the hospitals, to the pharmaceutical firms… bla bla bla…
I thought this drama series is a good one with good meaning to the public…
That’s why I thought I should mention it a bit here…
Since I’m a housewife!! And I don’t go out and borak with people at anytime anywhere anymore
So, I borak here ^_^, hehe!

Desperate Housewife watching Desperate Housewives

The other day I was watching “Desperate Housewives” on StarWorld…
And he asked me why I was watching such series (as I’m never a fan of DH)
After he’s asked twice, I told him that he should never ask me why I watch whatever shows…
As, I’m a housewife, and half of the time, I’m nursing baby in front of the TV, and thus… I’ll watch whatever’s in front of me…
I told him, IF… one day, there’s nothing else to watch on TV except football matches, I’ll even sit there and watch the football match!!
Haha!!!
I basically watch whatever that’s ‘interesting’ comparatively with other channels, during that particular time frame…
For eg. I’ve been watching almost all mediacorp shows available from 5PM to 9PM at night
Then, move on to either hallmark for “Without a Trace”, or StarWorld for whatever’s available…
As StarWorld schedule and repeat not that good, so, sometimes, I’ll forfeit ‘conflicting’ timing of my mediacorp shows, to watch StarWorld’s “Ghost Whisperer”, “BONES” and etc.
Anyway… what I’m trying to say, I watch almost all dramas that’s under my radar…

Even in the afternoon, when most of the shows are the repeat of the previous night, I picked up “Leverage”, “The Beast” and etc.
Again, some channels, the repeat airtime’s not that perfect for my timing, then, I’ll just forget about it…

So, ask me about mediacorps series lately and the actors actresses… I can update you most of their updates… ^_^
(as I’ve been very good at ‘entertainment’ news since I was very young, keke…)

Anyway… since the title bears the drama DH, maybe I shall talk about it a little bit…
First, I really hate Teri Hatcher’s role, damn pathetic
Second, I also hate Bree (aiya, don’t bother about her real name) one real-time bitch and psycho!
Remaining…
Eva Longoria’s role and Felicity Huffman’s role…
Of all, I think, the ugliest Felicity Huffman’s role’s least XXXXXX (whatever negative description) to me… so, ok lo!
And Eva Longoria… gosh! Since I’ve never been a fans, I was asking
Since when she’s already got 2 kids? – and they’re fat
Since when her husband’s become blind?
And since when she look so ‘maid-like’… I thought in real life, post-natal, she looked great??
And I thought the least problematic family in DH will be Felicity Huffman’s role’s…
Maybe that’s why I kinda don’t mind her in this show!!
Anyway… it’s just another drama for me in my weekday’s life ^_^

Sharing: 5 Things to Say--and 5 NOT to Say--to your Friend with Cancer

http://healthbeat.yourtotalhealth.com/2009/06/5-things-to-say-and-not-say.html

What NOT to say to your friend with cancer

1. "You poor thing, I feel so sorry for you." People with cancer need compassion, not pity. Pity implies hierarchy, while compassion puts you on the same level.
2. "What's your prognosis?" Prognosis is a medical term and it makes most people with cancer think about how long they might survive. Even if they're positive thinkers, they may not want to think about how long doctors indicate they're going to live.
3. "Let me know if there's anything I can do to help." This might seem like a helpful statement. But according to my research, that statement is one of the least helpful. When people have cancer they may feel so overwhelmed that they can't focus on what they need. Offer something specific -- run an errand, give a foot rub, weed their garden.
4. "My aunt [or anyone] died of breast cancer." Tell positive stories, never scary stories, about other people who have had cancer. More than anything, people with cancer need hope, and horror stories dash hope.
5. "At least they caught it early [or "at least" anything]." Your friend needs to know you're acknowledging his pain and taking it seriously. If you say, "At least you don't have to go through chemo..." or something similar, you minimize what he's going through. He may discover what's good about his situation himself, but doesn't want to hear it from you.

NEXT: 5 Things You SHOULD Say to Your Friend with Cancer
What TO say to your friend with cancer

1. "I'm so sorry this is happening. It could happen to any of us. Life is so unfair sometimes." This takes away any possible blame or shame, and puts you on the same level.
2. "I don't know what to say, and I'm sorry if I say something wrong. Just know how much I care about you." This defuses tension for both of you, and enables you to communicate what really matters: that you care. Whatever you do, don't stay away from your friend because you're uncomfortable.
3. "I am here for you, anytime, anywhere." More than anything, people with cancer need to know you're there for them. But beware: don't say this unless you can honor the commitment! People with cancer may be more vulnerable, and what used to irritate like a scratch may sting intensely.
4. "I'm here to listen but if you don't feel like talking, I understand." This statement gives control to your friend, shows your concern, and keeps the door of communication open.
5. Nothing. Nada. Zip. As the Dalai Lama says, "Sometimes silence is the best answer." What's most important is that you listen well, without judging or offering advice.

my dessert is your poison (vice versa)

funny… the other day one of my ex-colleague who’s also a mother… asked me why I don’t express my milk…
asked me if I find it inconvenient to go out since I opt to ‘direct’ breastfeed, my response that time was “I just need to go to mall with nursing room”
she said, “isn’t that inconvenient?”

well.. frankly, this word never comes into my mind, ‘inconvenient’
ya… to most people maybe it’s ‘inconvenient’, however, I find packing up bottles, flask, and all the breast pumps and so on, when going out, is even more inconvenient…
if there’s no nursing room??
Ha… ask my friends, I’ve nursed with the poncho, as simple as that, I’ve nursed in coffee bean, I’ve nursed in tai thong restaurant while having dimsum…
Other people may see me with “colourful spectacles”, however… do I have to care??
(same as my “comparison to construct” piece, I normally do not care less what others think… and to those people, I’ll just have to say “MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS PLEASE!”)
She then advised me that, later when baby teething (sure bite) and baby gets bigger, I’ll sure regret…
Well… I told her, and myself too… then, I’ll see… I can’t be worrying much now…
I know she advised me in good means… however… I really have not found any of these “challenges” that I’ve to go through a problem…
Her poision, my dessert…
Vice versa, her dessert, my poison (arrgh… I find expressing milk too troublesome, you’ve to sterilize the bottles, you’ve to manage the bottles, and what more to say, when you’re outside… say the frozen milk ran out, you still have to go to private place to express the milk… and I do find it funny if I were to express my milk underneath a poncho in the restaurant while having dimsum)

Funnier still… on the same day, another ex-colleague came by my place (ya, that day itself, I’ve 2 visitors, yippie!)
When I describe to her, she also think that, direct breastfeed is ‘convenient’…
Of course, I supposed there’s no right or wrong only if the person who’s doing what is truly enjoying it…
And I do truly enjoy my breastfeeding experience… hehe…
Also, like what I’ve mentioned to my ex-boss…, adults, will bear the consequences of their own choice
I’m sure, later, I’ll cry when baby starts to bite due to the teething process… and I guess, I just have to bear the consequences…