Today… finally I said it…
I said it!! I’m relieved… and pleased with myself… else, my future will be in hell…
This morning, we’d a unit meeting…
When I see my boss’ new structure in our team, the first thing I asked, “is this finalized??”
My boss said, maybe, maybe not, as there’s another person to be hired…
I saw her plan, it’s similar to the beginning (Q1) of last year, when she first planned for our unit…
The following is my word, and my message to her, and to my colleagues… yes, in front of them, I said it… no fear, and I’ve not wronged anybody…
I told my boss, “last year, we’ve the similar structure, and I couldn’t work with her, that’s the reason, I eventually take back everything and worked alone, I’d rather stick to it”…
But my boss is worried about anybody to stand-in, if I’m not around, I told her, that she does not have to worry, as… TO-BE-BOSS always claimed that, she KNOWS EVERYTHING… so, why worry??
I did use the words “she knows everything” (eliminated the “she claimed that herself”)
Followed by that, I said, “I’d rather it to be like the latter structure, ie. I do everything myself, so that I can keep my time and effort focus, rather than spending it, on unforeseeable and uncontrollable circumstances…”
Of course, on the other hand, to-be-boss was saying, “I’m fine with everything in fact!!” (yes, as she said, she’s always fine with everything in front of us, when in front of boss… however, when we turn out back to her, she’ll tell boss that, she doesn’t want to do Microsoft licensing, and she doesn’t want to meet customer… irregardless boss has spent so much time and effort to train her and invested in her… and THAT give me the bullet… if boss allows her “not to” do this and that, then, boss shall not force me to work with somebody I despise that much!!! Of course, I don’t use the word “despise” --- that’s what I called “2-face”)
So, now, my boss officially knows that, I don’t have chemistry with to-be-boss… if you were to trace the time line, since last April, I’ve already stopped working with her, and since last August – September, I’ve already stopped interacting and talking directly to her…
Who wants to talk to 2-face?
Who wants to deal with people who lie?
Who wants to even be with somebody who eavesdrops?
And I feel so sorry for the new joiner who’s decided to leave 1 week after she’s being ‘mentored’ by the to-be-boss, as to-be-boss was very intimidating to her, directly telling her that since she’s no knowledge at all on what she’s going to deal with, why boss wanted to employ her and bla bla bla bla… whatever disgusting sentences and self-praising words that’ll come out from her mouth… and within the 1 week of mentoring, to-be-boss continuously trashed and criticized her work, giving her no guidance on purpose… etc…
Well… I really do not want to spell it out, and that’s the first and foremost reason, I do not want to deal with her, or have anything gotta do with her… cos, I always believe that, if I were to interact with such personality, I’ll one day, deteriorate myself, and downgraded myself to her level (which I already am, by writing this blog, however, I give myself allowance, only in blog-form)
Therefore, I’m pretty pleased with my own ‘performance’ and truthfulness this morning… by speaking out the truth, as I really do feel sad that, while my other colleague and I were pretending to be good with her (or at least, not against her) that, indirectly encouraged this behaviour and that both of us were also quietly condoning her intimidating bully!!! My other colleague was the BIGGEST victim…
Before this meeting, I had a short conversation with my boss… when my boss was asking me, if there’s any ‘politics’, I told her, there is, it’s just that, it doesn’t concern her…
While I seek for consultation from him, he said, he WILL at least make an investigation…
If there’s 1 person, who’s problem with to-be-boss… the 1 person, could be the problem him/herself, if there’s 2 person, maybe the fact is still weak, however, if there’s 4 person, or 5 person, who really cannot work with this to-be-boss, then, something really is very very wrong…
That’s also the reason I’ve decided to speak out…
As while I was so frustrated to hear news about her, and all her sick behaviour in office, including calling my other colleague bad names, which she later denied, while questioned by my boss… and with my frustration, I kind of tell the story to my other friends, every one of them came back to me and tell me that my boss didn’t do a good job…
The thing is, I like her, VERY MUCH, and I think, she’s a very good and different type of boss, sometimes, she’s like my elder sister, and sometimes, she’ll give me good advice, about work… about family, and etc. as she usually have very different insight about problem solving, in a very fresh and kid-like manner however, also with some maturity of thoughts… (which is very different from other possible good bosses who always advised you based on their lengthy experience, where you just think that, they’re just too old) ... in one way, I defended her, while I hear those response, in another way, when you repeated hear the similar comment from different people, you know that, maybe something is wrong, and yes, you’ve gotta do something… so that, it won’t look too bad for a person who I adore (my boss)
At the same time… I know her situation, for eg. When my other colleague told me of her suffering, I couldn’t do a thing, cos, to-be-boss didn’t mess with me, as I have stopped looking at her or hearing her since looooooooooooong time ago…. And since I’m not the first person who suffered under her irritating intimidation, I can only advise my colleague to handle it properly… twice, she brought it up to boss, but both time, it’s been denied… first time, it came with the traditional Chinese way of threatening, ie. 1st, you cry, 2nd, you start to talk and scold nonsense, blame people, 3rd, you wanna hang yourself… (一哭二鬧三上吊)
Who can and who will know how to deal with this type of person????? PLEASE TELL ME THEN!!
On the second occasion, when she called my colleague bad names and poke into her work, told her that, her work was incorrect, without any evidence… when brought to boss, to-be-boss SHAMELESSLY denied it… and case-closed…
Today, after the meeting, I told my colleague, next time, we’ll either ignore, or, we’ll handle it ourselves, there’s no need to bring it up to boss anymore, it’ll soon, be a very petty manner…
We just cannot condone such behaviour anymore…
But at the same time, I also advise her, saying that, we still need her…
2 things, to-be-boss is best at doing and we need it…
1. driver for lunch, not for us (as if we care to sit in her car) but for boss… cos, none of us like to drive, and she’s smart enough to always offer when boss is around, but whenever boss is not around, she gives tones of excuses to make others drive
2. to be the super suckup!!! Yes, only she’ll be the best and number 1 person to say all the suckup words and terms to boss… frequently, directly, shamelessly, and brainlessly too… we can’t…
And this evening, I’m again, pretty pleased… as when I asked one of my other colleague, who knows our unit pretty well, that, if there’s somebody in the unit which I really have problem to work with, who will it be, he guessed it correctly… I asked ‘why’, he said, 1 is so motherly nice… and another one, from the look, you can see that, it’s very cunning, of course, easy guess…!!!!!!
Last but not least, I’m relieved…
I’ll definitely hate myself, if I shut up this morning!!!
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