2010-02-19

2010 CNY Verdict!!




overall??
not bad...
at least, none of us get sick ^_^(touch wood!)
we didn't overeat, in fact, we cut down a lot,
we didn't overdrink, like I mentioned, only 1 softdrink, shared between 2 of us, well, my coffee's as usual, and loads of water,
we didn't gamble till late, not that we're seasonal gamblers, just want to dramatize a little bit,
and for me, I didn't finish that 2 big packs of “bak gua” from Sun-Weng-Hiong, damn good, but I controlled!!
and for me again, I blogged a lot, twit a lot, which I think, I'm pretty pleased about it...
and for baby, she seems to have grown up quite a bit, no more “stranger”-anxiety, and she pretty much does have a schedule, but a very flexible schedule that makes her life, and my life much more easier!!
for us, we didn't do much visit-visit... having baby's a good excuse, the hot weather will definitely does a huge damage to us if we're on the road...,
and for me again, we didn't travel to penang island that much, or for long hours, which is good, for some reason, I don't quite like going to the island, it's just too congested, and crowded... and it's always HOT HOT HOT and nothing more!!
I prefer staying back here in the mainland, good and cheap food, and much more cosier!
for him?? err... well, I guess shall be similar verdict as mine, plus 1 more element, ie. “family gathering”!

Cartoons from Kuching...



somehow, I stumbled upon 2 bloggers who use cartoons in their blog...
not that I use firefox “stumble upon”, but it's one of those “recommendation” from my google reader, ^_^
coincidently, these 2 actually know each other, and these 2 are from Kuching...
well, I think they're coursemates, both from MMU, doing graphic design, I guess...
I still follow their cartoons on my google reader, not that they're damn great, but it's kinda cute to see the cat, ie. MEOW, and also, with pekchekkia, “pekchek”, in cantonese, those who knows cantonese knows what it means, “kia”, is son in english, or, it's in hokkien dialect, or, cantonese - “zai”!!

Meow Wafu Pafu,
overall, I think, his cartoon's cuter, with the meow, and with the wafu pafu but then, his story is not tht funny, or interesting... only that the meow is kinda cute!!
though, I'm not sure if the design of meow and wafu pafu's outlook's original...

Pekchekkia,
he only has one “leading” character, ie. Pekchekkia, which you can see, the same “look” appears in Meow's cartoon too...
that's why I said, I'm not sure of the origin of the design... maybe they both get it from the same template...

but then... pekchekkia has a slight advantage by having the name 'pekchek', which I think is quite funny!! I mean, it's quite amusing to read his blog, cos, he anything also “pekchek”, that says, his blog's funnier than meow's blog, but his cartoon's not as cute!!

and to make it even more amusing,
since I mentioned they both know each other, and both from kuching, and which probably also says both are coursemates from MMU, and both ganged up to start this type of cartoon blogs...
cos, if you happen to “follow” both of them on twitter, you can actually see both of them “talking to each other”, and as of now...
they're both back in kuching... ^_^

(No Subject)




I told him, I was about to blog this, but I won't, however, since I've “scripted” it in my mind already, I must as well just record it,
“I fill up the his water bottle in the middle of the night, but I wake up with my empty bottle next to me!”

(No Subject)

I dislike manipulative bitch, and I dislike habitual liar!!

babyleg...



haha, if you pronounce it fast, sounds like some formulae's brand, babyleg...
anyway... I've mentioned before, she likes to hang her leg onto my thigh, whenever I lie side-by-side, next to her, while nursing...
well... after so many months of fulltime breastfeeding, I kinda gather that, she does it on purpose, and she enjoys it...
as there was one period of time, I was kinda thinking, if she does it on purpose, or she has to hang one of her leg on my thigh, because of the position?? and there was also a period of time, I actually tried to move her leg back onto the bed... but then, she'll hook it up there again...
however... as of today, I more or less can confirm that she does it on purpose, as I can see that, she's indeed, enjoying the whole nursing session by itself... per se ^_^

Let's Get Sick!!




hm... don't know why, CNY (the once a year biggest festive for general chinese) has kinda becomes “let's get sick” season... especially those with kids...
well... not for my family, ie. Not him, not me, and baby's only having very mild cold, very!!!
she's not even terrified of sterrimar anymore, whenever I tried to spray it into her nose... and today, she even giggled a little bit, when I did that for her during bedtime... maybe she understands that, her nose will be “clearer” after being sprayed with the sterrimar... anyway, I'm pretty confident that, when we get back to our lovely condo, she'll recover...
but a lot of people are already down with either sored throat, or flu, or whatever...
and that makes me start thinking... hm... I know, mainly, and 80% is due to the deteriorating weather in this region, but is there anything that we can do to help?? I'll say, “certainly”, weather, we can't help much... I mean, people have been yelling “green green green” for so long, and going green is not just during CNY, it's a lifelong journey for everybody, if you can make it...
so, let's put aside the “green” thing...
I guess, the resolution lies in the food we take during CNY, and the lifestyle...
well... luckily as for us, this year, we didn't gamble... he touched a little bit onto the deck of cards, but only for a sweet 2 hours plus, in the morning...
and we've constantly reminded ourselves not to indulge too much in any of the CNY titbits, I've not laid my hands on any fried titbits yet, and we've only had ½ kickapoo (one type of soft drink) each... (ya, both of us were “staring” at that can of kickapoo, like calling us to take it, then, we decided to share) so far...
and I've been telling him, we're doing just fine...
as for the gathering/reunion dinnerSSS, we've revised to do ala-carte ordering, rather than going for the full lengthy course dinner... at least, we get to choose some dish that we really want to put in our stomach, than, to live on what the restaurant has to offer us...
I seriously am very skeptical about CNY festive season, ever since we've baby, cos, 1 down, whole family down, and it'll probably last to nearly 1 month... also, it's painful (not really heartache, but the whole process is just tedious, and painstaking...) if we were to constantly feed baby different type of medicine!!
and that's why, I really start to think, WE, as in the whole nation chinese in this region (maybe mainly m'sian and s'porean) maybe should sit down, and revise the lifestyle to be “promoted” during this festive season... and ya, of course, if anybody can think of such solution, and even come out with some products, I bet the person will be rich... for eg. The whole “lou sang” idea!!

ok, if I think of one, I'll then post it here, ie. I'm genius, and I shall be an entrepreneur,
if you don't see me posting, you then know that, this blogger's not so a genius!! kakakakaka!!!

Decoy becomes Hers!



I mentioned that, baby played decoy before right?? I was not sure if she did it on purpose there and then, but this time, ie. Day before yesterday, I was very sure, she did it on purpose!!
I was putting on the diaper for her, after her hot bath, as usual...
she was... as usual also, twisting her upper body left and right to look for things to grab and play...
then, she saw this tub of nappy cream sitting there, happily, inviting her for a grab... so, she stretched her arm, trying to reach it...
and I was telling her, “baby, no!! let mama snap the tape on the diaper first, you twist twist like this, make my job impossible!”,
guess what's next?
she actually turned back, straight, looked at me... but that's not the point and not what I'm trying to tell here...
looking at me for less than 1 second,
the next thing she did was, she made this “fake” move... pretended to want to twist her upper body again, to want to reach the tub of cream...
she made the move twice, then stayed straight to see my reaction!!
I was popping out my eyes, @_@,
not knowing whether I should laugh or cry...
of course, deep down, I was laughing and thrilled to see such change, though damn cheeky of her...
hm!!!

2010-02-18

Hello!! Did I just loose my arms and legs? Or Am I brain-dead??



sometimes... (or, in fact, most of the time) I'm pretty much put off when people over-offer their help... EVERYTIME!!! keep asking if you need this help, or that help...
it makes me feel like, either, I'm a brain-dead person – cos, as a near 40-year-old adult, I'm still asked if I know where to get the water, and so on... HELLO!!!! even if I don't, I'll figure it out, my brain's still functioning..
Or, even if it's just probably 50M distance, I'm asked if I need a ride, and the ride is not one of those “convenient” ride, if you get what I mean, it's one of those, “purposely-done” type of ride, and yes, I feel like I don't have my legs with me, probably I'm viewed as a handicapped person, no hands, no legs, and probably no head also!!! ya, probably that's how I'm viewed, so that they feel more superior!!!

I do understand there ARE people who're trying to be helpful, and let me tell you, I CAN differentiate what's being genuine helpful and what's not!! a real helpful person, will keep you in mind, they're helpful... they also understand that, sometimes, it's helpful by not saying anything, by giving you your own space, and pace... THEY HAVE YOU IN MIND!! and THEY DO NOT CONTINUOUSLY ASK, “IF YOU NEED THE !%#$%$ HELP!!!”, cos, they know that, you're the type of person, who hates to owe people any favour, and they know that, you're a person with pride, then just know you, and they just have you in mind, cos, they know that, once you say, “yes, please help”, you're in fact, asking a favour in return!!! they know it well...
all my friends, all my families know it well, but of course, there're people who don't know it... even my friend's parents may know it well... cos, they've you in mind, or, they also do not like others to FEEL THAT THEY'RE GIVEN A FAVOUR!!!
my friend's parents simply just treat me as one of their children, if they make coffee for their kids in the morning, WITHOUT ASKING, there's another cup there, for me!! I seriously, absolutely, and truly appreciate this type of favour/help... and it's just heart-warming...

and obviously, since I was made to ask for favour, there's nothing much I should remember!! cos, you've already asked!!

I seriously seriously seriously am damn put-off, whenever people do it to me, if I really need help, I'll just damn say so!! if I don't, I'll just don't!!! I'm not the shy type, or inconfident type of person, who DARE NOT VOICE ANYTHING OUT!! maybe they are, but that's not my problem... and the problem here is, their own internal problem, by that ASK!!! is made my problem!! and that's why I'm here, ranting!!!!~~~
@^$@^%&^%*^@##%@@#

About Customization



I'm not sure about you, but I love customization, I love anything that can be customize, officially, or unofficially...
Take a superb example, http://ikeahacker.blogspot.com/
Customization to its own height!!!!
Yep, I love things, anything that can be customized...
and anything that cannot be customized, I hate!!! cos, you just have to live it THEIR WAY, don't you just hate it??

Same things go with human!!
There're people, who just can't be customized to adapt to anything, or anybody around them, another eg. Soldiers, Military parents, wa haha... and that spells out... yep, I DISLIKE THEM VERY MUCH TOO!!!
cos, it's only THEIR WAY, and no other people's way, anything that's not THEIR WAY, is considered bad!! though, from time to time, they maybe telling you that, they're flexible, or open-minded, oh ya, that's part of their way too...
To this sort of people,
being a son, this is the ONLY way to behave like a son, 2 sons, same way, either one's different, BAD!!
being a kid, this is the ONLY way to behave as a good kid, 2 kids?? either one's different?? BAD!!
being a wife, this is the ONLY way to be called as a good wife, a different way?? (whisper: like, if you don't cook??) is BAD!!!
being a husband, this is ONLY way to be called a husband, (whisper again: like, making a handsome income??) else? BAD!!!

I hate to say, this type of people, are just not customizable, they're not adaptable to anything or any other thing in the outside world!! only things that they approve of, is considered GOOD, and things that THEY WILL APPROVE OF, are pretty limited in their list, cos, they basically ARE NOT CUSTOMIZABLE!! do you get it?? if they're not customizable, it also means that, they don't really mix with other people very much, though, they may pretend to have interact so well with other people, they simply just do not like INTERACTION WITH OUTSIDE WORLD, AND THEY DO NOT REALLY ENJOY DOING SO, cos, THEY'RE SIMPLY NOT CUSTOMIZABLE, PERIOD!!!

Idle Parenting/Slow Parenting/Free-Range Kids, whatever you call it!!


I came across this one day... (from one of the “PhD” in Attachment Parenting)
THE MANIFESTO OF THE IDLE PARENT

We reject the idea that parenting requires hard work
We pledge to leave our children alone
We reject the rampant consumerism that invades children from the moment they are born
We read them poetry and fantastic stories without morals
We drink alcohol without guilt
We reject the inner Puritan
We don’t waste money on family days out and holidays
An idle parent is a thrifty parent
An idle parent is a creative parent
We lie in bed for as long as possible
We try not to interfere
We play in the fields and forests
We push them into the garden and shut the door so we can clean the house
We both work as little as possible, particularly when the kids are small
Time is more important than money
Happy mess is better than miserable tidiness
Down with school
We fill the house with music and merriment
We reject health and safety guidelines
We embrace responsibility
There are many paths
More play, less work

of course, afterall... it doesn't matter what's right, or what's wrong, in this sense...
and of all, I appreciate one of my childhood friend's saying, (which I can't recall if I've shared this before, oh!! I'm damn old!!)
a few things she said,
there're many schools of parenting, it doesn't matter which one is the most right, you just have to trust your own instinct!”
babies don't need loads of toys, or whatever, she just needs lots of love!”
when we talk about being parents, life changes, and a lot of things that you used to do, (first eg. Going to theatre to watch movies) and you can't do now, after having kids, especially when they're still babies/toddlers... she said,
this is what you should already expect, life will definitely change after becoming parents, so, there's no such thing as sacrifice as per se!”
^_^ my dear friend.....

(No Subject)

I like festive season, I like traveling out of the city, ie. Then, I'll not be at home, and then, I'll have the excuse not to do any housework, or cook, or whatever, not to say I hate them though... but then you know, when you're at home, you just can't sit tight, and not doing anything about your house (that also spells out that, I'm not a “tai tai” material) and since I'm away, I have all my own sweet time, to blog blog blog and blog till I drop and to tweet tweet tweet till the sun rise!! it seriously is fun and thrilling to me, if you ask me... call me weird!!

My Wishlist...


the other day, when his cousin sister came over for CNY visiting, I can't recall how we started this topic about giving present to wives...
his cousin mentioned that, “never tell your man, you don't like flower”, haha!! I told her, he already knows about it, VERY WELL...
and to me... if you wanna give me any present that, you think I'll gallop happily... give me an external HDD... hahaha!! yep, that's me... in this sense, I'm seriously very much different from my mother, she LOVES flowers, any type of flower.... but as for me... ok... let me put it this way, I'll definitely be more joyous, if you give me external HDD, than cash!! ya, I know, I can just use THAT stash of cash to buy the HDD myself, but you know, since you call it a present/gift, it should be blended in with some thoughtful mind right??

Oops, Viva ter-eat mushroom

The other day, I was telling him that, Perodua Alza seems to be a good buy, and his reaction is like, “err, no, it's weird, it's like...”

Oops... Viva ter-eat the mushroom too... hahaha!!!


yep, I kinda like the mushroom, first of all, looking at it brings me back to my childhood time, when I used to watch my brother playing it on nintendo every day, back in our old house @ Brooke Drive...
In addition to that, of course, it's super cute!!

well, that's his verdict, but I still think that, Alza's kinda nice, for local automotives, I still prefer Perodua's products, maybe it's because they're still linked to Daihatsu in Japan..., and I seriously think that, Proton should just close shop before making anymore joke in the industry!!

2010-02-17

Press the RED button, AT YOUR OWN RISK!


See... I guess, everybody's a button in there, the RED button, once it's pressed, kaboom!!!! (or, japanese, “dok-kan”!!)

My RED Button??? ya, press at your own risk!!
1.  sulk over dinner, (or breakfast, or lunch) OR “ah jee ah joh” over dinner, or complain about food, about people, about almost everything, over dinner, get it?? i'll just loose my appetite, and loose my mood, for the day.. of course, if it's over dinner, then, it'll be just a few hours more for me to pass, for the day!! as for me, mealtime's very precious, even if today, I've to eat just a salted egg with plain rice, I'll eat with my cheerful heart... what's there to sulk??? at least, I don't have to go out on the road, to dig the rubbish, or try to find some leftover in the restaurant, and bring home to eat, I've always wanted to have my meal with a cheerful and grateful heart... many people may not know about this side of me, that's why, most of the time, if people asked me, “is the food nice??”, I'll answer, “yes, very nice!!”... and I'm serious!!
2.  if I'm just making a fair comment, (it may be crude sometimes, but it's a fair statement) and you start sulking!! that's THE END OF THE DAY!! for both of us...
3.  if I'm already drop-dead tired, and you actually still have the heart to make joke with me (besides asking me and showing me concern of how I am feeling) which you think is funny, but I SERIOUSLY WILL NOT LAUGH AT IT, that's also THE END OF THE DAY!! for both of us, remember one rule??? joke, is supposed to be funny, or at least, amusing, for both the teller and the “receiver”, if only 1 person's finding it funny, it's not a joke, and I tell you again, it's not funny!! Ha~~~ worse of all, I tell you, this type of people, ONLY THEY CAN MAKE FUN OF YOU, BUT NOT THE OTHER WAY ROUND, and if you decide to retaliate, or show that you're upset, they call you petty!! pueh! What insensitive creatures they are!!
4.  don't put me with a person who never likes to get his hands dirty!! (like my previous post), this type of people, have all the bad plots in their mind, but they just get others to do it for them, and  manipulate it in a way so that, people thought they're good!! pueh!! please!! I know your trick!! just like my ex-2face colleague, full of bad plots in her mind, but she just won't get her hands dirty to do it, instead, she asked you to go do it, (go ask, go question, go answer, go go go, my #%@^#) so that, if anything happens, or when the situation get backfired, they can just wash their hands off, clean!!! and that they can use their clean hand clean finger to start pointing!! bravo!!! my RED button will sure go dok-kan!!!
5.  second last, an ORANGE/RED button, it depends on the extent it'll get into... ie. Non-stop commenting regarding the food OVER THE DINING TABLE!!! I do not know why people tend to be “food commentator” when they're having the precious meal most of the time, as similar as what the midwife at our ante-natal class said, “only after you give birth, then, suddenly everybody's an expert in child/baby-care”... like I said again and again, I think, mealtime's a very sacred time, and commenting, or complaining too much about the food in front of you, what more to say, the food that you're going to, later, stuff into your own mouth and down into the stomach, doesn't do any good to you... if the food's bad, then, just shut up and don't eat, if the restaurant's bad, then, just shut up and leave, why comment and complain, and yet stay and eat?? will it have good image on you? Or, will it do your health extra good?? or will it make you any smarter?? nah, I don't think so!! speaking of this, I truly and seriously appreciate my bunch of friends, who, traveled Suzhou, China together, I remember we went to this eating place where the local tour brought us to, it's something like a cafeteria in a factory in extreme rural place, 3 dish 1 soup in a WET tray!!! I was blessed with having them, not complaining or even making any comment during that time, but we finished the food... like I said, MANY MANY MANY !%$#@^#^^$^ TIME!! food's precious, and we should be grateful of whatever we have for the day... yes, we can comment, but NOT DURING THE DINING TABLE, and if you do comment and EVEN COMPLAIN, make sure you just have some guts and balls, to not go back the same place again!! why bother??

6.  lastly... this is an ORANGE button, which says, choong's particularly put-off, when seeing certain people, who're in fact, NOT FILTHY RICH, but act, talk, and behave like he's a lot of money, in chinese we call this type of people, 肥油暴发户! “肥油是我自己加的。As, I've always regard real rich people will not, from time to time, trying to show that, they're RICH!!! only semi-rich people (in fact, they're just medium income) will like to behave like they're the big “see tao” or “see tao poh”, oh... one good example is this blog, I particularly like the way the blogger pointed that out,http://www.mariahlc.com/chnblog/?p=1640
sigh... some people!!! it's also something like (cantonese saying) “sek siu siu, ban doi biu”, this one is, “travel siu siu, ban doi biu”!! pueh!!
another example, is those, who sikit-sikit, like to complain, or scold the waiters/waitresses in the restaurant..., oh, now, my button turns RED!! well, I know that, service level in our country sucks, but then, I seriously do not like to dine with people who like to scold the waiter/waitress, cos, JUST LIKE WHAT I'VE JUST SAID VERY EARLY, MEALTIME is very sacred to me!!! and the air shall be filled with grateful and cheerful hearts, but not sulky, spiteful, and sour mood!!

That, I've always remember when my vietnamese team leader told me, he used to have just ONE egg, for the whole family for dinner... when it was during those BAD time in vietnam!! when he told me that, I was like, “huh?? just 1 egg??” yep, just 1 egg, and today... we go to kopitiam, by standard, it's 2-half-boiled eggs in a bowl, how lucky we are and how blessed we are!!! (that, being that, it doesn't stop me from complaining and despise our politician, and therefore our government, nor it doesn't stop me from complaining and condemning about the SUPER DUPER SLOW STREAMYX/CELCOM connection!! though I feel like throwing pails of red paints onto the Telekom Tower, but will I scold their employee?? I guess not, simply to save my breath!! cos, it's nothing that they can do about it, it's the PEOPLE UP THERE!!)

so, those who read this, PRESS THE RED BUTTON AT YOUR OWN RISK!!!

chabo vs. chabo...

haha!! if you've watch a tiny little bit of “little nyonya”, you'll know, it's basically about wars between different chabos... (“chabo”, in hokkien, ie. Woman!)and the tricks to outbeat the other chabo, wow!! was just uncountable!!!

and towards the end, the new generation of woman, a girl, can't remember her name, sounded like “email”, I mean her name, was questioning Yue-Niang, “why women must go against other women, women should fight with men!!” (haha, yes, I like this, trash all the MCP to the trash can, and throw them to the sea to feed the fish!!! wa hahaha!!)

anyway, saying so is so, but I doubt chabo will realize it, or, even when chabo realizes it, chabo will not be able to change it... you get what I mean?? I mean, the chabo vs. chabo scenario, cos, it's just US, as in the chabos...

(oh, in fact, “chabo” though hokkien, it came from my chinese-A1 friend, she romanized it, as “chabo”, haha!!)

as norm as “dabo” (man, again, in hokkien) is just not good at all, in any domestic aspect, except the VIOLENCE part, “chabo” is just not good at all, in upkeeping the chabo+chabo bond!!

anyway, I did mention in my earlier blog, (can't be bother to dig out the link)
that, I'm just not patient enough to finish, and follow through “the little nyonya” series, in a way, I simply “beh tahan” all the evil faces and tricks displayed in the show... I'm just not patient anymore, to want to find out, how evil these chabos can be, just not patient anymore... I did mention right??

however... sadly, as I just said, chabo will forever vs. other chabo, it's just in US, for some reason, and for some crap reason, I supposed... haha!!!

though, I do realize that, chabo vs. chabo will be forever, but I also still want to ask those “little nyonya” type of people, why??
is it that,
  •  You've nothing better to do?
  •  You stay too long in the house all day??
  •  You've not met enough people to learn that, the world is so big, and you're not the mighty one, and that everybody else can be better than you??
  •  you've not met enough people that you've to constantly stir up something to create a little whirlpool in your little tiny pathetic teacup?? to keep your life busy??
  •  you've not read enough book, or newspaper or listen to enough news to learn that out there, the whole world is already full of misery and suffering and that we're all considered lucky, safe and happy, to be at where we are today??
  •  you've not prayed enough to God that, you do not know, God's watching us?? for everything we do, and say and think, even when there's nobody around us??

anyway, “little nyonya” type of people being “little nyonya”, seriously, not much of my business... just like I told my colleague when the 2face case started... let it be, if we were to start the “cat fight” with “them”, we'll be just like one of them, and therefore, the ending of “the little nyonya”, which is something that I in fact like is that, when the grand-daughter asked the old Yue-Niang if she hates those people, she said “no”, she said, it's just part of the life...

ooh!!! how “chim”...

Traits of Problem-maker!!



1.  they like to “ah jee ah joh”, about every single thing, and they find no problem with it,
2.  they obviously see faults in others, except themselves,
3.  they normally don't get their hands dirty, but will always make sure that, somebody will do the dirty work for them,
4.  they like to portray themselves as angels!!! and probably they think they're angels,
5.  they constantly tell lies, or constantly live in lies, either one or the other... problem is, they may not realize, and that's why, they constantly do repeat it!!
6.  they don't really look at you straight in the eyes, cos, they know (or subconsciously know) if they look at your straight in the eyes, you may find out that, they're telling lies, and if they're 'forced' to have to look at you straight in the eyes, they'll probably try to act intimidating..., as mentioned, cos, they must hide the fact that, they lie!!
7.  they probably rarely smile, though most liars do like to give you that cliché pretentious smile!
8.  They like to “borrow” other people's name, for eg. mr. A + act, and kinda seek for your advice, and see your reaction, mr. A is just any other name they “borrow”, without asking for mr. A permission of course, “act” is in fact, something that they themselves commit!
9.  They obviously are good “gold finger” too..., ie. Finger-pointer, when there's problem arises!! like I said, they're always there trying to keep their hands CLEAN!!
10.           they also constantly telling different versions of stories to different people! (to cause problem, of course!!)

LAST OF ALL, they think that, everybody else is problematic, besides themselves!!! HOW IRONIC, HUH! And thus, problem-maker will always make problem!!! sabishii ne~~~~~

Personal Space, again... (after reading this post...)


ya, this post by my cousin...
sometimes when I read her blog (though, she's more to the vulgar side) I do feel some similarity between 2 of us, maybe it's because we're both, the eldest in the family, and the eldest girl...
here's her blog...

yep... when I was younger, my parents know well that, I hate to be tickled, patted or touched... I just hate it... that's why, I hate people who're physical... I just don't like to be 'touched'... and please leave me alone!!!
maybe it's because of the weather, ie. Damn hot!!! I just find myself having sticky skin all the time, and I'm struggling with it, and yet, somebody havig their free hands, trying to be friendly to me, or showing me their LOVE, and touch!! yuck!!! people just don't understand... well, I guess, those who don't understand, probably are the type who like to be touched!!! but I seriously have problem living with it... that's why, so far, I've only been to new year countdown once!! only once!! in my life time... cos, I simply hate squeezing through crowd, skin to skin...

I know, and I think the main reason, is REALLY because of the weather here... put me in london, put me in tokyo... during winter, during spring, during autumn... I'll probably run to you, and say, “hug me, hug me, please!!!”
^_^

ps: and I think, my headache on the day before, was partly due to the hot cum crowded enclosed space!!! both baby and I were not very “song” about it!!! (well, I guess!!)

how to wean?? (...me off baby)


I do, and I really do enjoy breastfeeding... I supposed, I'm lucky enough, to be a happy breastfeeding mother...
and I know very well, I'll definitely have big emotional problem, when it's time to wean, yes, call it the “separation anxiety”...
I do and I pray for a baby-led weaning session, and that, it may not be too bad... ^_^

Next question is, how to wean me off baby?? hahahahaha!!! ya... again, blame it on the technical term called “separation anxiety”...
Though... I think, I've been doing just fine!!! Letting her “go” just for a little while, and to keep myself occupied, next in line, is my PC (at the moment, my new “netbook”, hahaha!!)
Why??
Well... as a mother... as a mother, who loves her baby... so much... and I'm one who believes, “if you love somebody, you should let him/her go” type of person... and I want her (even though, she's just a baby, and shower of love, will never be enough for her) to learn that... one day, I may just leave her (who knows?? after my beloved mother's car accident, nothing's permanent) though I wish to be with my baby for as long as God permits... and therefore I pray...
However... and yes, however... I want her to know that, besides me, there're other people who she can rely on, if one day, I'm not there for her, and there're also other people who'll love her (though, I bet, not as much as big mama, right?? ^_^) and help her, when she needs it... and that... the world's still full of hope and love... which is extremely important...
while... of course from time to time, I shall also share with her, the “other” side... of the dark world... hahaha!!!

Training her to receive the whole big world out there, while training myself to accept the whole one-person world in here... sob sob!!!

Memory Lane...


I'm fully astonished by people's memory...
ie. stories from n-th years ago, being repeated for n-th time... AMAZING!!!
Sometimes, I can't help but to think that, I do wish to be like my mother... that, I don't and will not have to live in this sort of “memory lane” when I age... the only thing that makes me hesitate, is I'd want to, and love to, be by baby's side, as forever as I can make... sabishii ne~~~

a modified “visit-visit”!!


Ooh... I'm not sure if fellow chinese who stays in other countries still visit-visit after so many years, I'll be very interested to know and learn about how different chinese in different countries pass their superb festive... blink!

Anyway... I kinda like the modified version what we've developed throughout these few years, coincidently, he and his ex-colleagues, and we, and our college friends...

That's what we do, we'll gather together, either at one of our house, or at a local restaurant... we meet up, we chat, and haha, kids meet kids, kids meet aunties uncles, and kids get the “ang pow”... so far so good... it's never been intended as a courtesy, that's why I said, so far so good, basically, somebody initiated it, and for those who can make it, make it, those who cannot make it, we'll see them next year... that's how we do... pretty convenient, and less “taxing”...