sophie

I saw that she needed some comfort, and all these while she's not been carrying or extensively using her pillows, or bolster, or plush toys..

so, I suggested her to pick one and make it the special one,

as... she sometimes, just wanted me to give her my hand, ie. when I'm asleep or when I'm carrying Gabriel,

yes, she even requested Gabriel's hand...

she just wanted to hold onto something...

some kids suck their thumbs,

some kids carry along a plush toy,

some kids, do don't know what... anyway...

so, I suggested her to pick 1 special toy...

from among all her toys...

she's many plush toys, mainly gifts from my friends, ie. her aunties, (sweet huh?)

among all,

she like that fat blue bear the most,

that's the one, auntie aileen gave her, when Gabriel was born, when I was still lying in the hospital... recovering after the c-sec...

ooh, she likes that, the most...

I then told her,

she needed to take care of the bear, treats her (ya, I asked, if it's a she, or a he, she said, that's a girl) better, ie. don't just throw her with her pile of toys, at the end of the day,

I told her,

she can take the bear on trip, to bed, she can read to the bear, talk to the bear, or hug the bear, whenever mama, or papa are not there immediately to give her a big big hug...

if she needs one... whenever she needs one...

cos, I told her, if she has to wait for people (even us) to hug her, or pay attention to her (as much as we do our best, sometimes, there're time that, we just cannot attend to her immediately, especially I'm taking care of 2, the little 8-month-old...) then, she'll feel disappointed half of the time,

as I've learned, all these while,

from my favourite jap dramas... 自己的幸福，自己的快樂，要靠自己，如果，你的快樂是靠別人給你的，ie. 等着人家弄你笑，給你禮物開心，還是什麼的，那你的快樂的基礎，是非常的脆弱的。。。

that's how I explained to her...

so, as most of the other kids, who know how to comfort, pacify themselves, (like I mentioned, thumb sucking...)

I want her to find a way, a channel too...

after 1 day,

I asked her, what's the name of the blue bear,

since it's going to be more special, right?

she couldn't think of one,

at first, I thought, Madeline, ya... that's the "origin" of her name, ie. my baby's name...

at first, I thought, Madeleine and Madeline, kinda cute, and kinda cool...

but then, after 1 day,

I suddenly recalled...

when I was pregnant with the second baby...

before we know of its gender...

I thought to myself, during those days,

if it's going to be another girl,

I like this name...

sophie (ya, like the one in "sophie's world"),

so, I asked her, if it's ok, to give the bear a name, ie. sophie...

she nodded...

and this morning,

while I was still in bed...

she was spending time with him,

and he told me,

when she opened her eyes, in the morning,

she suddenly said to him,

"papa, finally blue bear has a name, and her name is sophie!"

my baby...

sweet, ain't she?? ^_^