first of all...
I've to thank my husband, he's done a great great job!!
no no!! I'm not done with my confinement yet, haha! just 1 week... arrgh... 3 more weeks to go, though, by the end of next week, I think I can just go out for a big gigantic sashimi buffet... ^_^ (slurp!)
anyway,
yes, most of the people were "stunted", when I told them, I'm going to do without a confinement lady...
based on my past experience, I just hate the existence of one, one extra person at home...
NOW! I CAN HAPPILY BARE MY BOOBS (COS, I'M BREASTFEEDING) AND SLEEP LIKE A STARFISH IN MY LIVING ROOM, OR PRACTICALLY ANYWHERE IN MY HOUSE...
my husband's done a great job in taking over the work, looking after my dear baby daughter, (oops, again, she's a toddler now, but still my forever baby! dearest one!) for eg. Shower her, prepare lunch/dinner for her, read bedstime storybooks for her, make milk for her...
yes, he's done a great job...
and I've my confinement food catered from this SN Confinement Ladies Service, I've to say, so far, the expectation is just about right... they handle it pretty well... and I'm happy... (cos, I'm definitely not too happy with my previous confinement lady... getting her to stay-in, I've to entertain her, listen to her yakking non-stop... see!! I like quiet place, I like quiet environment, and what more to say, during my confinement... when I really need rest... I mean, I don't have to rest ALL DAY, but then, I like the freedom to rest whenever I can, and wherever I want, you get it?? having another person, or another 2 persons in my house, will just take all these luxury away...)
though, I do have to help with some minimal housework, for eg. Launderette, since I've recovered pretty well, can move around... (in a way, to make my wound heal faster, I gotta move more, rather than being bedridden!) I've offered to take over the job, but in order to make me easier (ie. Minimize bending, lifting...) I use a stool, bla bla bla bla bla...
see!! like I told my husband, I'm not pushing myself to the limit... and I'm just working myself within the limit, picking the right tools, to ease my job...
the thing is,
I like doing vacuuming... haha! With my new ergorapido SPECIAL!
And I like doing my launderette... ya, a little bit sick, I know... but then, seriousyly, it's pretty joyful for me... haha!
And I don't want another person, to come and keep reminding me that, I shouldn't do this and that...
see! My last confinment,
I've to kinda beg, or threaten my confinement lady to prepare the herbal bath for me...
and sometimes, I just have to close the door, and take my own shower, without listening to her “opinion”...
now?? haha! I take shower BY DEFAULT!
Especially these few days, weather here sucks...
the thing is...
my husband still hasn't given up...
he's still trying to tell me, not to shower, not to do this and that...
I give him one condition,
“if today, I'm staying in beijing, or I'm staying in somewhere northern china! I'll listen to you!!”
haha!! I should have done this long time ago...
yes! Come on!! todayy, at present day,
our generation's staying down south, near the equator... you know how damn hot it is??
there are time, I just wish I'm not a chinese, or I don't marry a chinese... maybe things will be easier for me...
but then, I'm not saying that, I hate whatever or I dislike whatever I have, or whoever I am now...
yes, there're time like this...
however~ no matter what, I've to say, I enjoy this confinement more than the previous time...
my newborn??
err... I don't know why people keep thinking that, the so-called confinement lady HAS TO look after the newborn,
in actual fact, newborn is very easy to take care of,
what more to say, I'm a nursing mom...
half of the time, I'm carrying him to nurse,
half of the time, he's sleeping...
another bit of the time, he's awake, I change his diaper, or I bathe him,
that's all?
Why do I need a confinement lady there????
and what more to say,
my opinion is...
confinement ladies out there,
they're different practices,
all from their experiences...
some are not too right, some are not too wrong, but there's no such handbook, or guidebook, or “bible” for them to strictly follow...
some can cook, some cook bad food,
some don't use the ingredient fully, some waste the ingredients you provide to them...
like I said, there's no standardization...
and yet, we simply get one, depends on our luck,
and some!!! I mean, some confined mother out there, just listen to them blindly...
as if that's the only bible in the confinment world...
somehow, I think, it's pretty sad...
so, if the confinement lady's wrong, then, it's just wrong...
so, if the confinement lady tell you that, for 30 days strictly you should not get into contact with any cold water...
then, probably, you don't have to wash your hands often...
seriously!!!
after I've stayed in hospital for 5D4N, fully airconditioned hospital ward...
I took my first inaugural shower at home,
I still feel that, the layer of dirt on me's pretty thick...
yes, you may find it gross, but I'm telling you so, cos, it's reality!!!
reality is...
you sleep in your room, with your kid (some don't, then, maybe it's ok) and with your husband, or maybe you're alone,
and you're sleeping with layers of dust and dirt on you... I find it yuck!
Then, the second day, I take my second shower... (in such damn hot weather!)
let me tell you,
I still feel that, the layer of dust/dirt's endless!!!!!!
and you may think that, why should I make my husband help with the confinement period...
why not?
And why would any husband reject that???
when you've your enjoyment in impregnated your wife...
is that it??
you leave everything to your wife,
or your parents, or a so-called confinement lady? Or a maid???????
that's the ONLY thing you guys(men) are capable of doing???
even though my husband's not a domestic god(dess) but then, I'm glad that, he's left home for study before...
and that, he at least, know how to cook, how to do the houseworks and bla bla bla...
let me tell you, I hate those chinese “siu yeh chai”, exactly as what I've described...
LEAVE EVERYTHING TO OTHERS!
And think bloody highly of themselves!
You see!!
I wanted to write this post...
each time, when I'm lazing around, lying like a starfish in the living room, in the couch...
yes, damn syok!
And I don't have to entertain/listen to nonsense... or non-stop noise pollution!
And I can pop-up my boobs anytime I want, when I need to nurse...
isn't that great??
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