Today, I was just thinking… ya, out of sudden, it pops out of my mind…
That, we, probably chinese, if not SEAsian, if not, asian… generally are living in a state of denial…
It's about food!!
About our services, the service industries…
Why?
Seriously speaking, the services in our country sucks, the shop assitants sucks, the waiters, waitresses sucks, with their superly duper servicing habit, that sucks… they rarely smile, they rarely say thank you, and they're most of the time slow, and deaf…
Fine, that’s service!
Food wise? Some of the shops with food that taste bad, or bland, survived,
Yet, there're people who still go there, pay for the service that sucks, and pay for the food that taste bad!
Sometimes, it's out of convenience, sometimes, it's out of no-choice, and MOST OF THE TIME, it's because, everywhere's the same…
Same goes with our BIG BROTHER!
They lie, they've scandals, they use our hard-earned money,
Yet, they're there, still living happily, sucking out the people's money!!
Why? Cos, most of us, live in a state of denial,
We prefer to wait and see, see if there're some heroes who'll do some changes, else, we just sit at the corner, sulk and complain, yet, still live our normal life, believing that, it MAY BE better eventually, or, believing that, by not looking at it, not thinking about it, not talking about it, then, it won't happen, and it doesn't exist…
YA! PRETENDING THAT, IT DIDN'T HAPPEN, PRETENDING THAT IT'S NOT HAPPENING,
PRETENDING THAT, OUR COUNTRY'S STILL SAFE,
PRETENDING THAT, THE SERVICES INDUSTRY IS NOT THAT BAD AFTERALL, COS, EVERYWHERE'S THE SAME…
It's just like…
Knowing or suspecting that you may have a growth in your body, that eventually may take away your life… but you decide to ignore it, delay the checkup, or just pretending that, it will not happen, it won't happen to you, bla bla bla… ya, like it doesn't happen, and it'll not happen…
This type of growth (cancer) of course eventually will eat our life, if not our soul… just like the BIG BROTHERS out there!!!
I suddenly thought of this, it's because, well… I've a problem, either you name it my personal problem, or family problem (ok, I'm not going to talk about it… blueh!)
But then, yes, the problem exists… to me, it exists, cos, sometimes, it haunts my mind… giving me sleepless nights…
Ok, I've many reason to be sleepless, and this is definitely one of them… ^_^
Anyway…
Thinking about THAT problem, and thinking about if I should just sweep it under the carpet, or I should start sharing about it,
Yes, you may think that, sharing doesn't make much help, but at least it does, for me,
I may start thinking about it again, start wanting to write it down, and start "tidying up" the whole emotion in my mind, it does help, a little bit, just a little bit, of course, to really help, I guess, action need to be taken, however, I really do not know what actions are needed in the mean time…
So, I shall just keep thinking about it, and thinking, and thinking…
I once shared it with one of those counseling people, who's a blog, ie. a blogger… this is what she told me,
"seeking for help" is a strength by itself…
I also happened to come across another blog owner who shares article about child, possibly having a delayed speech problem… yes, quickly seek for help, ie. therapy will at least, do something about it, RATHER THAN "WAIT AND SEE"! WHICH IS WHAT WE do most of the time, ie. wait and see!!!!!!!!!!!!
See if miracle will happen, see if those BIG BROTHERS will be struck by lightning and just die overnight like that (ya! Bravo! GOD has eyes!)
If we're sick, we need to go to the doctor,
If we need help emotionally, we need to go for help too… (saying that, I'm not saying I've an emotional problem, at least, not now…)
If our child needs help, ya, though, nowadays parents like to brag about their children, most parents, may choose to continue to live in denial stage, cos, they're rather brag, than talk about their children's problem, especially developmental problem…
Poor kids, and therefore, their help comes much later… till one say, the parents, can't deny anymore…
OK!! IT'S TOO LATE!
TOO LATE LO!
Overall, we just hate to admit that, we have problem, or we may have problem, seeking help, in our society, seems weak,
Admitting that we need help is weak,
Probably if we're sick, we're considered looser, (ya, as if I want to be sick?)
If our children are slow, we're looser,
If I've emotional problem, I'm looser,
Bla bla bla…
But denying, will it help?
Ya, it will!!! Certainly!! In your dream!
