Say It

the other day I met up with my childhood friend,
she told me, her boss mentioned that, she’s been too ‘direct’,
my response, “since when you’re not direct?”
followed by, “all my friends are very direct”

well, maybe my friends are direct when dealing with me, or
maybe I only make friend with those who’re direct, or, who’s the wisdom and guts to BE DIRECT!

frankly, as I’ve blogged many time, I really do not like dealing with people who’re not direct, or, who simply do not say what they mean, or mean what they say,
it’s just wasting my precious time doing guess work with these people, and to me, they’re insulting the beauty of words, and beauty of language!
ya, manipulator like to do it, and they’re the biggest liar!
haha, who’re not, almost all world leaders are, or, leaders of some sort, huh?

remember the movie “babel”??
remember the origin of “the tower of babel”??
it’s all about words, words that come out from our mouth…

I’m thinking, if words have spirit (yes, they do, and I’d like to believe, they do)
they’ll sure haunt these people at night, in their dream, for abusing them, for mis-using them…
I once watch this Japanese drama, TRICK (part I, II, III, all good) and one of the stories is the mother of the heroin telling all her students, words have spirit, and thus words have power!!
therefore, do not misuse words, and do not abuse words…

say what you mean, and mean what you say…
but of course, in my dream right??
well… I’ve to say, I’m quite lucky that, most (I’ll say, almost all) of my friends are direct, and they say what they mean… AND mean what they say…
I do not have to act nice in front of them, and vice versa,
also, less misunderstanding and… after going back, I can sleep, without chewing what they say,
without guessing what they actually mean, or without guessing if their feeling will be hurt with our response…
isn’t it nice?

ps: just my little blabbering in the middle of the night.. but, of course, I mean it, cos, I mean what I say, and I say what I mean ^.^

Mr. Frog still...

on Friday, I placed her in the bouncing net as usual, before starting my housework…
it happened that, with the bouncing net where the playgym’s frame’s (where her ‘buddies’ were hang, 1. starry mirror, 2. mr. frog, 3. ship, 4. ball) on top of it, I had the mr. frog being hung the farthest from her…, ie. unreachable with her hands

however, after I kinda had a break from my housework, I noticed that, the frog’s already landed on the bouncing net again (usually she’ll just hit it and it’ll drop next to her)… next to her thigh…
I was kinda amused by the possibility of it ended up there,
I asked her, how it ended up there, of course, no answer…
and I forgot about it… only briefly mentioned to him later at night during dinner…

then.. today… after we finished our grocery shopping…
I placed her on the bouncing net again, so that, we both can finish up with those chores…
I saw her trying to lift both of her legs, to kick the ship that’s hung the furthest from her this time, worse still…
she’s trying to lift her head and chest, ie. to sit up…
ooh!!! O.o
that’s HOW she get the frog down huh!!!
now I know…
kekekekekeke ＜（￣︶￣）＞

Dr Spock

I picked this book one day…
not due to recommendation, simply, I picked it..
well… it’s quite easy to read and easy to understand…
it’s about parenting, about taking care of baby..
I’ve already have a few books as such, but I just want to see more of other suggestions/opinions…

the book’s pretty thick, as it covers a lot of topics…
but in conclusion,
what Dr Spock said, is,
trust your instinct – oh, which I like ^_^
I prefer freestyle way of teaching, keke!!
he mentioned, it’s better to ‘parent’ happily and relaxingly with some mistakes, than to try to be perfect, but stressed!

I just met up with my childhood friend the other day..
I’m impressed/surprised to the fact that, being a working mother, she’s also breastfed(with expressed milk) her babies up to 1 year (oh, another benchmark for me then, seems like I can’t wean too early)
It’s nothing too surprisingly, but to her, I didn’t expect that, cos, she’s the smartest student in school and she’s a scholar..
so, she never strikes me as she can be so motherly…
and ya, she’s very motherly… which I’m glad…
and she’s shared with me of her own experience, and I guess…
even though far apart, but being in the same environment during our childhood time, do bring some similarity in us…
ie. family’s very important to us.., as in, very…
and guess what, her experience tells her, then she told me the other day…
exactly as what Dr Spock has said,
“trust your instinct”
and that’s why, we nurse our babies while sleeping,
and that’s why, we kinda carry our babies very often…
cos, we enjoy and we want to do it…
as what our instinct tells us…
well… I guess, her instinct and my instinct are pretty similar in that sense…
which… luckily, his instinct is similar to mine too ^_^

the accidental curse

just now I was mentioning about certain ‘concern’, when people warn me, or ask me not to do certain things…
what I meant was…
due to human dark nature…
sometimes… or, most of the time, we want to prove ourselves RIGHT?? right?? (haha!)
in order for us to tell the other person,
“SEE! I TOLD YOU SO!!”

for eg. we tell our kids, don’t run too fast, or don’t cycle too fast, else will fall down,
how do we tell them? “don’t cycle like that, else, will fall down!!”
ah… we’ve already anticipated that, they’ll fall down…
and they still don’t listen, and that, they keep cycling in a mad manner,
and that, they fall down, and we go pick them up… showing all our concern and heartache as we can…
but we say, “I told you so, next time dare not to listen to me??”

actually… this has been mentioned by one of the writer, Liu Yong （劉墉）long time ago, I’m just repeating here…
sometimes, our dark nature is “hoping” that, the bad thing may happen to whoever we’re warned, so that we’ll be RIGHT!!
so that, they’re wrong, by not listening to us…
(and therefore, I’ve always told others, please prove me wrong – especially when it comes to certain ‘prediction’ about certain people potential ill-doings, I don’t want to be right, cos, if I’m wrong, things will be easier, I’ll rather I’m wrong… if those who’re close to me are safe n sound n happy)

my younger brother had long taught me about this, before Liu Yong actually pointed it out in his book…
when I was younger, at home, one day, my brother was cooking instant noodle,
I told him, “don’t burn yourself”
he angrily responded, “you said, “don’t burn yourself”, meaning that I’ll burn myself, can’t you just said, “be careful”??”
once, enough…
for eg. when you see somebody climbing the ladder…
most of the time, you tend to scream, “eh!! careful, don’t fall down!” right??
again, my mother taught me, not to scream like this, if you’re so concern, just go near the person, hold the ladder, or keep an eye…
…

so, what shall I do??
I can’t warn others like this like that… how??
the only thing I resolve to, is prayer…
pray hard..
and also, because of that, I tend to be displeased if people ‘warn’ me by telling me all the negative consequences first…
thus, there’re some people who tend to be too ‘detailed’ and nosy… may give me this type of cliché!

another eg. I don’t like to go to fortune teller (I’ve never been to one anyway)
even in some shopping area (for eg. The Curve) they’ve one small lane that’s a few fortune teller stalls during the weekend, I’ll avoid that area
cos, the last thing I want to hear, is, “hey, your aura doesn’t seem too, be careful… “ bla bla bla…
cos, I’ve another theory, I believe in “final destination”, if what he said is ACCURATE, it can’t be changed, if it can be changed, then, how much should you trust this person??
anyway, I believe, life’s in our own hand, not in somebody who’s setting up a stall at the road side…
and what more to say, if you put these many professions together, to ‘fortune-tell’ about a person, the results may come in different variation…

I believe, only God can change the ‘final destination’, and that’s why, the only thing I can do, is to pray…
even if I’m so concerned, or worried about people I loved.. I resolve not do ‘warn’ them…
I can only pray…
why??
cos, sometimes, warning can be posted as cursing…
for eg. “hey, they said, this year’s not good for people with the birthdate bla and bla”…
argh… If I’m the person with such birthdate, I’ll be extremely stressed and alert and easily agitated… and that’s when things go wrong…
that’s the thing about warning, and curse… the way it’s presented may affect the receiver…
sometimes, the curse may not be real, or the warning may not come true, but since it’s been planted into our mind, and our mind kinda make it true… via the energy surround us, or some sort…

therefore, be careful, don’t ‘curse’ unknowingly…

when respect is worthless

all of us know that, we work hard, do good, to earn respect from others,
to earn respect as who we are from what we do,
to earn respect from others that they’re aware of your feeling, your thought, etc….

so, when do we stop?
and when will our ‘desired’ respect become worthless one day??
and just when the ‘respect’ given to us doesn’t carry any weight, or doesn’t have any meaning in there??
i guess, it’s when we don’t work for it…
such work has to be continuous,
till we get old, till we die…

however, sometimes we’re lacking of such awareness
and we tend to get lazy…
that’s when we, as human being, ie. most of the time, ‘corrupted’ human beings…
when we get some titles, or when we’re somebody…
therefore, we expect RESPECT from others, just by not doing anything…

how will my kids respect me as their mother, if I sit there, do nothing… not even a simple task for them??
and how will my siblings respect me, if I do not behave like one of them??
or, how will a supervisor gain respect from their subordinate when what they know is only yelling and pushing responsility??
or, even as a kid, how will you earn respect if you’re not doing what a kid’s supposed to do?? (ie. studying, learning, and maturing..)

but… I guess, sometimes, most of us fall trap to this type of situation,
we simply expect others to give us DAMN BLOODY RESPECT
just by being somebody
while our behaviour, words, and thoughts are full of selfishness, full of hurtful/negative elements to others??
or even better, sometimes, without words, our body language shows out every single evil and corrupted facts in us…
we take it for granted – just because we’re somebody, we say hurtful words, or bad things about others, and that, we’ll be DAMN BLOODY EXCUSED!!??? (huh??)
or, we take it for granted – just because we’re somebody, we simply will ‘earn’ the DAMN BLOODY RESPECT!!

i guess, we just don’t, and we shouldn’t…
however, one day… one fine day… we may just forget
and simply expecting RESPECT from others, by not doing anything…
or worse still, we do bad things, say bad words, and expect the RESPECT.. simply just because we thought we’re somebody, or somebody’s somebody.. right??

SO, JUST TELL ME, WHY SHOULD I RESPECT YOU??

tHE Law of CONFINEMENT

ok, some of my friends know that I ‘suffered’ during my confinement month…
suffered, not physically, but I really damn felt confined, k??

even though, I know the ‘western’ culture also kinda mentions about the fourth trimester (ie. to rest and get back in shape, or at least, in terms of health)
but I guess, it’s just not as ridiculous, and extreme as ours (the eastern – or, rather the Chinese)

ok…
first thing first…
NEVER BATHE WITH TAP WATER
I just couldn’t take it any longer, and therefore, I went to ‘lengthy’ research – to see if it’s really ok, if I were to just SHOWER!!!
(cos, I find it too troublesome, and ‘suffering’ to bathe in those herbal & ginger hot water, and I’ve to bent down to scoop the water to bathe, DAMN!)
apparently, all the so-called Chinese “Law” of confinement, of course, all originated from the oldtime china..

NEVER WASH YOUR HAIR
goodness gracious, I’ll say!
what more to say, I’m breastfeeding…
not bathing, not washing hair, is just intolerable for me as it’s super duper damn unhygienic for my baby!!!
and why not washing your hair??
it’s all because of LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG TIME AGO,
in china, especially china progressed damn slow compared to the west,
their toilet / bathroom was outside the house,
and during winter, especially the poor people, they don’t have hot running water to bathe…

Argh!… I don’t want to mention any further,
nowadays, we’ve this thing called,
HAIR DRYER &
WATER HEATER!!
come on!!

and eating food with ginger and only ginger, give me damn a lot of pimples everywhere all over my body
NOT DRINKING WATER
you must be kidding, how am I going to have enough fluid to produce my breastmilk??

Some of these ‘law’ thing, are simply ridiculous, and beyond my acceptance…
BUT… out of A CONCERN, about human’s ‘dark side’, I do not disobey openly… (I’ll tell you why in my next blog)
as there’re just too many people come and tell me to FOLLOW FOLLOW AND FOLLOW!

after my confinement month, I met my ex ex boss,
she told me horror stories about NOT FOLLOWING the law (see!!! people talk about it, a bit of schadenfreude!!)
she said, her don’t know who who who, shower, then, fainted in the bathroom, nearly die!!!
Ya, I heard.. but I actually kinda think of it the other way,
Is it because she showered in a totally ‘sealed’ environment?? (people said, cannot ‘kena’ wind ma!! So, all windows/doors are closed tight)
Is it because the water too hot??
COME ON! A normal person, locked tight in the sauna room, will faint also, right??

Basically my point is,
There’re some, that make sense, yep… do it
There’re some… just simply nonsense…

One small story that my brother told me long time ago,
There’s this lady, who always chops off the tail of the fish before she fry the fish,
And this ‘practice’ has been passed down to her descendants… that it’s become a ‘law’ in their family…
Fry fish, tail must be chopped off, else will xxxxxxxxx………… (whatever bad stuff you go add yourself)
BUT apparently, it’s because looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong time ago, when lady’s grandmother, or great grandmother (again, old time china), cooked fish that time, the frying pan’s not big enough, and that, she chopped off the tail of the fish, so that, the fish can fit into the pan…

AS SIMPLE AS THAT!!

Multiply doesn't like Opera

Or, opera doesn’t like multiply?

See.. I’m having different type of browsers on my desktop, no complicated reason,
Simply for the sake of my mood, I feel like using which on what day, then I use that,
But overall, I only use opera and firefox…
However, I notice that, opera doesn’t seem to like multiply.com,
There’re some link just won’t be ‘click-opened’, it’s to be opened as another tab…

Though, opera seems to like gmail a lot,
Some of my gmail accounts (account with the ‘s’) seem to be unable to load to standard html style, or they take forever to load,
However, when it’s with opera… zoom! Fast!!

Argh… that’s the problem with modern technology (love it, and hate it)
Why can’t they just standardize and put all the ‘good’ things in one??

Modern women or not?

Ok, help me to understand,
Many time, I saw on movies/tv series of such cases,
Woman with daughter, re-married to another man
Man molests the daughter,
Woman knows, but keep quiet,
Or, woman doesn’t know, daughter tells, woman doesn’t believe, thinking daughter’s lying, and choose to believe the man,
Worse still, man said, it’s the daughter who’s trying to seduce him, and woman believe…

Maybe I’m never the ‘woman’, that’s why, I never understand…
And I keep seeing this type of storyline in movies/series,
Why? Is that a common ‘problem’? and if that’s a common ‘problem’ why?
Some cases, it’s because woman’s not independent, ie. keep quiet,
But most of the cases, the woman’s a job, and most of the cases, woman chooses not to believe the daughter, but the so-called husband (the re-married one)
Why?
Even if woman doesn’t have a job, shouldn’t she be protecting the daughter? Her baby? (of course, baby’s grown up to be a pretty lady)

Last week’s “criminal minds” presented a similar case, except the remarry part,
Woman knew husband’s molesting his niece,
She chose not to expose the husband, BUT she’s trying to hurt the kid,
Why are there actually some women think that, by ‘protecting’ the husband like this, the husband will forever be with her?
I thought, there’re many women calling and yelling for equal right, to show that, they’re great, they’re good, and they can be better than man
Ironically, there’re still some women, so emotionally dependent to their so-called men!
Or, there’re some other reasons that I really really do not understand??

What Shall I do, Who Shall I be!

I was telling him today… (also, I’ve been thinking too..)
I’m good at organizing,
I’m good at researching,
I’m very into entertainment biz (mainly “batgwa” stuff)
I’m very into food,
I can sit in front of my PC whole day (just that, with baby now, a little bit difficult, but baby will grow up to be more independent right?)
I like to write,
I like to talk,
I like to meet new people,
So… just what’s good for me? And suitable for me to do?
I’ve been dreaming to have my own business, or something that keep me occupied, and also keep most of the people happy…
Then what??
Just what shall I do? And who shall I be?

God has given you one face, and you make yourself another. ~William Shakespeare

I’ve mentioned about my 2-face ex-colleague (ya, now become “ex”) a couple of time before this…
This is not going to be about her anymore (it’s enough, and also, until today, as I’m writing, she’s still very 2-face as what I’ve heard and her new team members have also fallen prey to her 2-face/to-be-senior-manager tactic)
…………………………
All of us… may have been hypocrite once in a while…
For eg. When we condemn the others for some wrong-doing…
Or, we call people ‘racist’! (haha!! Think about it… ^_~)
Again, I’m not going to blabber about the deep meaning of hypocrisy…
It’s only… about dealing with them…

Don’t you find that, it’s irritating if you find out somebody to be such a hypocrite??
Chinese saying – “you’d rather deal with a real baddy, than to deal with a hypocrite”
However… I thought, if you know a person to be a hypocrite… sometimes (I won’t say 100%) it’s easier to deal with them… why?
As they’re hypocrites, they need to show you /or others the GOOD face, ie. sometimes, they’ve to eat their own words!
Even though you know very well, hypocrite as being hypocrite, they’re better in saying, than really practicing the righteous stuffs…
Rule of thumb – use their own words for them, repeat what they’ve mentioned in other occasion, apply it back to them…
They’ll just shut up…!!
In a way, I really hate these people, as dealing with them, it’s tiring… cos words don’t have any meaning to them, you know they say one thing, but they mean other thing
They tell you they do not mind bla bla bla , but they may tell others in another time that how bad the experience was… and all sorts of BS!
They like to act like “good people” in front of those beneficial to them… AND guess what… those not so beneficial to them… oh!! They’re not hypocrites anymore!! They finally release their true inner self, and become the real baddies!
They can yell, and scold you at the door~
They can act unreasonable and treat you like trash~ (come on! Cos you’re not beneficial to their “future” at all!!)
THEN, suddenly one fine day, they MAY treat you nice, polite, etc. WHY?? Cos, the beneficial party is around them…
Therefore, another face came out…

Oh~~~ I tell you, I can’t wait for the day, the stupid hypocrite face can be torn down and that the other face been shown…
But well… drama is drama…
True life is true life… I guess, I’ll never live up to that day…
And what next??
Back to the beginning:
I REALLY HATE DEALING WITH HYPOCRITES!

"A Life of Hope" (活下去)

As I mentioned earlier, that I’ve been watching mediacorp drama series on TV – Astro AEC, ntv7, 8TV
I’ve been following this series “a life of hope” on ntv7 at 6PM every weekday (“little nyonya” on AEC at 7PM, and “love blossoms” on AEC at 8PM)
Too bad that there’s no official website about the drama “a life of hope”
But… I’ve to mention it as I thought this is a very good show…
Good show about our health generally…
It’s about people with kidney problem – they’ve to go for dialysis every other day…
It’s about people who’ve just recovered from car accident, coma for 7 years – personality changed, full of hatred (the guy won the best actor of that year because of the role… and I thought he really did well… especially mimicking the way injured-then-recovered/stroke people talk, walk and move)
It’s about well-being and continuous keeping ourselves healthy…

Chinese saying, Health = Wealth…
And I’ll say, Health > Wealth…
Once we’re unhealthy… irregardless how much $$ it’ll be burnt and given to the hospitals, to the pharmaceutical firms… bla bla bla…
I thought this drama series is a good one with good meaning to the public…
That’s why I thought I should mention it a bit here…
Since I’m a housewife!! And I don’t go out and borak with people at anytime anywhere anymore
So, I borak here ^_^, hehe!

Desperate Housewife watching Desperate Housewives

The other day I was watching “Desperate Housewives” on StarWorld…
And he asked me why I was watching such series (as I’m never a fan of DH)
After he’s asked twice, I told him that he should never ask me why I watch whatever shows…
As, I’m a housewife, and half of the time, I’m nursing baby in front of the TV, and thus… I’ll watch whatever’s in front of me…
I told him, IF… one day, there’s nothing else to watch on TV except football matches, I’ll even sit there and watch the football match!!
Haha!!!
I basically watch whatever that’s ‘interesting’ comparatively with other channels, during that particular time frame…
For eg. I’ve been watching almost all mediacorp shows available from 5PM to 9PM at night
Then, move on to either hallmark for “Without a Trace”, or StarWorld for whatever’s available…
As StarWorld schedule and repeat not that good, so, sometimes, I’ll forfeit ‘conflicting’ timing of my mediacorp shows, to watch StarWorld’s “Ghost Whisperer”, “BONES” and etc.
Anyway… what I’m trying to say, I watch almost all dramas that’s under my radar…

Even in the afternoon, when most of the shows are the repeat of the previous night, I picked up “Leverage”, “The Beast” and etc.
Again, some channels, the repeat airtime’s not that perfect for my timing, then, I’ll just forget about it…

So, ask me about mediacorps series lately and the actors actresses… I can update you most of their updates… ^_^
(as I’ve been very good at ‘entertainment’ news since I was very young, keke…)

Anyway… since the title bears the drama DH, maybe I shall talk about it a little bit…
First, I really hate Teri Hatcher’s role, damn pathetic
Second, I also hate Bree (aiya, don’t bother about her real name) one real-time bitch and psycho!
Remaining…
Eva Longoria’s role and Felicity Huffman’s role…
Of all, I think, the ugliest Felicity Huffman’s role’s least XXXXXX (whatever negative description) to me… so, ok lo!
And Eva Longoria… gosh! Since I’ve never been a fans, I was asking
Since when she’s already got 2 kids? – and they’re fat
Since when her husband’s become blind?
And since when she look so ‘maid-like’… I thought in real life, post-natal, she looked great??
And I thought the least problematic family in DH will be Felicity Huffman’s role’s…
Maybe that’s why I kinda don’t mind her in this show!!
Anyway… it’s just another drama for me in my weekday’s life ^_^