FRIENDS

Boston Legal - Men to Boys

Alan Shore to Denny Craine: Ralph Waldo Emerson said, 'He reckoned a friend to be the masterpiece of nature'.

How many time are we regularly reminded that friends are important, that we'd better treasure them, that we'd better not loose them?
(I mean those real friends, who'll just 'be there', not good friends, or funny friends, or entertaining friends, or best friends, or niceman friends, or humble friends, and definitely not party friends)
Being a third generation in a chinese society outside of mainland China, we're taught more 'important' stuff... and friend, is most of the time, out of the question, cos, you'll neglect your homework, APPARENTLY.
Parents tell you, they are the most important, (ya, thanks for giving me life, cos, I am your investment?)
Siblings tell you, they are important,
Wife/husbands tell you, they're most important NOW (cos, you're married NOW, don't go out with friends anymore!!)
cos, the way we have always heard is,
'Siblings are just like your limbs, whereas spouse is just like your shirts!!' ie. you can throw away anytime...
That is why, there are a lot a lot a lot of things that chinese still hold in belief, (we call it the PRECIOUS TRADITION)IS pathetic.

Pathetic in such a way, it's near to being inhumane,
to people with more money and less money,
to whether you are a gal or a boy,
to whether you are the first born son, or second,
to whether, as a wife, if you can give birth to a son, or a daughter,
to whether, as somebody, if you pretend and act like a gentleman, or be yourself, be honest and be raw!and whatever #$#%$^%&^(%*(&*$&^%^$^%@

Anyway, I am suppose to talk about 'friends' :-D however I am not here to glorify friends,
cos, glorifying something or somebody is only an short-term emotion, it will soon be washed away in the time of memory.
So,
It's a blessing, if our parents have the wisdom to tell us how important friends are in your life,
it's a blessing, if our parents did not tell us,but in our bumpy journey of life, we could figure out how important friends are, in our life.

'Friend' is the only type of close relationship that is no blood-bonded,
Friends, (I mean real friends) are the only type of people who want to be friend with you, as who you are, and not expecting anything in return. (I mean real friends)
They don't ask you to study harder to get NO.1 in class and they'll love you more,
they don't ask you to work harder to earn more dollars, and they'll love you more,
they don't tell you to sweettalk to them, and they'll love you more,
they don't tell you to hold back your emotion and not show your frustration after a weary day of work, and they'll love you more,
they don't tell you not to retaliate, because they do not like it, and they'll love you more,

Friends, don't love you too much, nore do they love you too little.
Friends, are not scared if loosing you as a friend, cos, they are very sure that you are there. (and vice versa)

We are who we are,
we show who we are,
and we accept who they are,
and most importantly we share life, especially growing up together.
As a matter of fact, we cannot 'grow up' together with our parents, (it's a cruel truth)
and sometimes, we cannot 'grow up' together with our brothers and sisters, cos they have their own friends to grow up with, together, if they are blessed with friends in their life.

I remember a friend told me this, when I was in the foreign land long time ago.
She said, "If I am looking for something in return, I wouldn't be trying to make your happy since the beginning!"
(Kiss you, my dear friend!)

The words that Alan Shore told Denny Craine, inspired me.
Yes, we don't really think about 'friend' much,
I mean, where they stand?

So, I like the quotation given by Alan Shore, "Friend IS the masterpiece of nature"
As I said, it's the only type of relationship, that is not blood-bonded, nor expectation expected!!

\(^_^)/
To lighten up,
another quotation from Boston Legal,

Boston Legal - Fat Ass Jungle
Denny: Thank you, Alan, for coming with me [to be tested for Alzheimers].
Alan: I think friends should always encourage friends to get their heads examined.

ps: In fact, it's very easy to 'see' a person, a person with friends (I mean real friends) are cheerful, grateful, thankful, helpful, optimistic, AND they talk about good stuff, beautiful stuff, AND inspire others. While, a person without friends (I mean real friends) are bitter, insecure, ungrateful, selfish, unwilling to lend a helping hand, (cos, everybody is trying to cheat, and take advantage on him/her) AND they talk about negative things, ugly things, etc. (I do not want to elaborate more, otherwise, I will want to jump off the building!!)